Sex...It Is Worth the Wait

You do know that inside every adult male is their sex-crazed adolescent boyish self still trying to push the limits. In his mind, there is a magic number of dates after which you automatically have sex. Ok, first of all I need to say that I totally disagree that all men are like this, but really? I  am going to need some serious comment feedback, so get to it boys...click on the button below marked 'comment' and type away because I am just dying to hear your responses! Anyway, getting back to the higher percentage of these men who think about this,...my question to you is; How many times do you think about sex and dating? Perhaps two or three dates or maybe two or three hours into the first date? Gals if your man is making the moves this quickly into a new dating type of relationship, tell him to slow down otherwise he's going to visit the moon via your foot up his ass real quickly! 

Let's flip the tables for a moment though and see it from a woman's side so to speak...so meanwhile, you think he’s sexy, but that doesn’t mean you’re ready to slide between the sheets and do the wango tango. So how do you know when the time is right? Well, for generations you have heard people say, “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?” This means something different now than it did 20 some years ago. Seriously, here is my point of view and if it pisses some of you off, those were not my direct intentions. Maybe we don't want to buy the damn cow...owning it may be too costly, and high maintenance...maybe we just want to rent it? Maybe women are too afraid of committed relationships and casual is better? Hey, something to think about...you might not have to buy the cow, but our milk certainly does NOT COME CHEAP!

With the old fashion saying; that tells you that if you give sex too soon, then he has no reason to make a commitment. Maybe...If sex for you demands at least a serious relationship with the potential to become permanent, then hold off until the time is right for you. Good advice if that's what you prefer, just remember that you call all the shots.

On the other hand, you don’t expect him to hang around if all he gets is a polite peck on the cheek at the end of the evening. It’s a difficult line to walk between prude and slut. No one wants to be know as the 'walk of shame gal.' Another great truth is that men are quick to announce declarations of love to get sex and women give in on sex in the hope that it will lead to love.Ladies, make him work for it. No ifs, ands, or buts about this one. 

At any point in the deal if either party is dishonest, then the physical connection becomes profane. As a woman, you crave intimacy with your guy, that's a given for most women. If he’s mature enough to keep himself in check, you can both enjoy some closeness and touching that builds intimacy without pushing things too far too fast.

A smart guy knows that he keeps his zipper shut long enough to build genuine caring and intimacy. Then when the time is right he’s going to have the best sex of his life. It’s all about putting your partner’s needs ahead of your own -some of you should actually try this...it is something that women have done for centuries and men still sometimes don’t comprehend.

If you don’t give him sex, you might lose him. Then let him go. His insistence on sex early in the dating relationship tells you that it’s all about him and you are merely a convenience.

Do you want to be his whore, his toy or his maid? That’s sex not intimacy. If you start out merely meeting his sexual needs and taking leftovers for yourself, don’t expect it to get any better if you do form a long term relationship. 

No matter how he tries to argue the point, sex is not the way to find out whether you are compatible as a couple. Communication is key and we all need it to build that solid ground floor of a relationship. Without it, yours will crumble. Sex is only one aspect of your relationship. My grandmother used to say that sex was the easy part. Learning one an others like/dislikes, up's & down's, etc is the difficult part. There are plenty of couples who have wild, fantastic sex but can’t get along in a normal conversation.Why? Because it's all about sex and that's it. That's sad actually don't you think? 

Oh sure they passed the sex test, but maybe they still went through a messy divorce. How reliable was that test? He may also tell you that the relationship will only progress as long as you continue to have sex.That's hogwash!

With that kind of twisted logic, then as soon as you have sex, you are in a committed relationship. Wrong. The so called “friends with benefits’ may have regular sex and in no way consider themselves in a committed relationship. Many, many people prefer this...as for me, I want the solid foundation. Time is a virtue, don't rush it silly, good things come to those who wait.

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