When it comes to dating, for the most part, often women often go
against their better judgment and overlook the quirky stupid things that men do to cut
them some slack, BUT we cannot over look the RED FLAGS that are raised when they open their yaps concerning other significant topics. Although the women you're dating are trying their best
to see your better qualities, their radar goes off when sizing you up. Radar? You know it...all women have it, that sense of something really, really being wrong...enough to make them bolt!
Here are 10 red flags women look for and hold against you, especially on the first date.
1. Constantly talking about your ex
Shame on you...Constantly talking about your ex-girlfriends can make a very bad first impression and run a new woman off in a hurry! Not only is is disrespectful but it's rude as hell. Your first conversation on a date with a new woman should be fun and intriguing, not consumed with emotional baggage and especially not discussions about your ex. Women view men that can't stop talking about their ex non-stop as having unresolved frustrations and pent-up bitterness and or major insecurity issues.
2. Having several kids with multiple women
Most women will run from this type of guy or they will skip over men in this situation all together because it's clear that these guys don't like to wear condoms, are more likely to have STDs and have serious commitment issues nonetheless an uncontrollable desire to she his manhood, unfortunately we women see it as male whores .
3. Being too controlling
Most women want men who will protect them and make them feel safe-but they don't want a dictator who tells them where to go, when to leave, who to talk to or what to wear. Sound familiar? If this does, run...quickly! Dating a guy with a controlling nature can be pretty scary for women and will cause them to stop dead in their tracks and tell you to take a long walk off a short pier.
4. Negativity
Women don’t want to date men who constantly feel sorry for themselves; who needs a pity party...we can do that by ourselves in the privacy of our own home or out with our girlfriends.... therefore, it’s important that you resist the urge to complain about your job, your health, the economy, etc. Most women feel that negative men are afraid to improve themselves and are very juvenile, so if you hate your current circumstances and aren’t doing anything about them but complaining, the women you’re dating will notice and start getting turned off.
5. Being preoccupied with sex
Men who are preoccupied with sex are a huge turnoff because women want to be valued for things other than their bodies and they know solid relationships can’t be based on sex alone. Avoid telling your date about your wild sex life unless she has made it clear that she welcomes these discussions, this is just bad news.
6. Bad-mouthing others
A woman won't be impressed when you dish dirt on coworkers, family or friends, or criticize those close to you. Who does that anyway? Not only that, but she will question your loyalty to her and begin to wonder what you say behind her back and if she can really trust you.
Women like to date men whom they can move forward with and see a bright future. They don't want to be with men who have no ambition or drive, are stagnant and are going nowhere fast. Women want to know that a man can take care of himself, so having an unfavorable lifestyle and showing no signs of maturity can make a woman flee from you in a real hurry.
8. Lack of chivalry
Being a gentleman when you are on a date means showing a woman that you are attentive, respectful and well-mannered. We should all strive to be gentlemen at all times; however, many men today shy away from it, attempting to respect a woman’s space and equality. While just about every woman is enjoying the benefits that come with equality, at the end of the day, she wants to be treated like a lady and if you can’t deliver, there’s a good chance she won’t stick around for long.
9. Still living at home
10. Moving too quickly
.... is usually a sign that you're uncomfortable being by yourself or you are looking for a woman to help solve your problems. Talking about what your children will look like after the first date, asking for intimacy or marriage too quickly or even spilling loads of very personal information too quickly all point to desperation.Yikes, seriously? That's a sure way to send her running in the opposite direction, so keep it up and you will be alone.
Here are 10 red flags women look for and hold against you, especially on the first date.
1. Constantly talking about your ex
Shame on you...Constantly talking about your ex-girlfriends can make a very bad first impression and run a new woman off in a hurry! Not only is is disrespectful but it's rude as hell. Your first conversation on a date with a new woman should be fun and intriguing, not consumed with emotional baggage and especially not discussions about your ex. Women view men that can't stop talking about their ex non-stop as having unresolved frustrations and pent-up bitterness and or major insecurity issues.
2. Having several kids with multiple women
Most women will run from this type of guy or they will skip over men in this situation all together because it's clear that these guys don't like to wear condoms, are more likely to have STDs and have serious commitment issues nonetheless an uncontrollable desire to she his manhood, unfortunately we women see it as male whores .
3. Being too controlling
Most women want men who will protect them and make them feel safe-but they don't want a dictator who tells them where to go, when to leave, who to talk to or what to wear. Sound familiar? If this does, run...quickly! Dating a guy with a controlling nature can be pretty scary for women and will cause them to stop dead in their tracks and tell you to take a long walk off a short pier.
4. Negativity
Women don’t want to date men who constantly feel sorry for themselves; who needs a pity party...we can do that by ourselves in the privacy of our own home or out with our girlfriends.... therefore, it’s important that you resist the urge to complain about your job, your health, the economy, etc. Most women feel that negative men are afraid to improve themselves and are very juvenile, so if you hate your current circumstances and aren’t doing anything about them but complaining, the women you’re dating will notice and start getting turned off.
5. Being preoccupied with sex
Men who are preoccupied with sex are a huge turnoff because women want to be valued for things other than their bodies and they know solid relationships can’t be based on sex alone. Avoid telling your date about your wild sex life unless she has made it clear that she welcomes these discussions, this is just bad news.
6. Bad-mouthing others
A woman won't be impressed when you dish dirt on coworkers, family or friends, or criticize those close to you. Who does that anyway? Not only that, but she will question your loyalty to her and begin to wonder what you say behind her back and if she can really trust you.
Women like to date men whom they can move forward with and see a bright future. They don't want to be with men who have no ambition or drive, are stagnant and are going nowhere fast. Women want to know that a man can take care of himself, so having an unfavorable lifestyle and showing no signs of maturity can make a woman flee from you in a real hurry.
8. Lack of chivalry
Being a gentleman when you are on a date means showing a woman that you are attentive, respectful and well-mannered. We should all strive to be gentlemen at all times; however, many men today shy away from it, attempting to respect a woman’s space and equality. While just about every woman is enjoying the benefits that come with equality, at the end of the day, she wants to be treated like a lady and if you can’t deliver, there’s a good chance she won’t stick around for long.
9. Still living at home
Although
it may sound harsh, most women want to date men who have evolved enough
to have made it out of their parents house! Moving back in with them for a short period to save after a divorce or breakup is one things....but men who still live at home
are usually in no hurry to grow up, become independent or financially
responsible. The only time it might be acceptable for a man to still be living at home is if he has temporarily fallen on hard times or is taking care of aging parents.
10. Moving too quickly
.... is usually a sign that you're uncomfortable being by yourself or you are looking for a woman to help solve your problems. Talking about what your children will look like after the first date, asking for intimacy or marriage too quickly or even spilling loads of very personal information too quickly all point to desperation.Yikes, seriously? That's a sure way to send her running in the opposite direction, so keep it up and you will be alone.
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Michele, another great article! My morning tea would not be the same at all without your sense of humor and your posts. You give me reason to smile each day knowing I have such a shitty job to head out the door to. Thank you for your words of encouragement and making an old gal laugh often!Cheers.
ReplyDeleteLizabeth McFallough
Cambridge, England
Ah yes, the famous men and disasters article. I was waiting for this and had hoped in all honesty that you would make a mess out of it but on the contrary, speaking as a lad myself, I found that you were right on key with many of your issues. Good job MssDelicious. Another great blog post.
ReplyDeleteLenny P
Aberporth, Wales
Again, super good article Michele! Way to go. When are you coming back to Myrtle Beach?
ReplyDeleteAndrew
Ocean Isle, NC
Lady you need to spend more time in England. We'd love to have tea with you and chat about your articles and from where you gather your inspiration daily? Please remember that you are loved by many and your blog posts bring us to tears we laugh so hard. It keeps us young.
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Nice write up girlie.
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Akron OH