Just when you think that you've heard EVERY lame excuse that a man could us to try get to know you better,...they open their mouth and out pops a bunch of crap that you weren't expecting at all. Remember, I've heard it all and nothing generally surprises me, HOWEVER...what if a man told you that he wanted to get to know you, wanted to take you out to play 18 holes to see if you 'clicked' but told you that you had to dress ultra sexy? What if we women have to dress up for work or business day in and day out and prefer dressing down or just being themselves sometimes? Then what? God forbid we don't have all of our makeup on and we don't look like the goddess on his arm at the country club or where ever?!!?? Are they serious or are they just simply testing us to see if we would go the extra distance to look sexy 'just for them?'
I decided to dig more on topics related to men, and what it is that makes them tick. What do they really want from us? First at hand what that I wondered...and most women do; What motivates men? What is it that men want? In particular, what is it they want from women? Did you know that Sigmund Freud tried to sort out men's desires by pointing to three divisions within the mind, the id, the ego, and the superego, all of which may want different things? yes, but Freud seemed to believe that what really motivated men was the libido-- essentially, sexual desire.
What I have learned over the years and after a lot of research is that this is a great mistake. What men want, deep down, is not unlimited promiscuous sex but something rather different. What men really want is to win the love of a princess (or of a girl who deserves to be a princess), to fight against great obstacles, to deliver her from dragons or a wicked witch of a stepmother or some other great danger, to marry her, and to live happily ever after. This is the universal fairy tale...oh but most often they don't want us to know that they feel this way....and here women thought that only we wanted the fairy tale?
Maybe he’s cocky, but he’s still insecure. Guys need to know that they’re respected and appreciated just like we do. When being around you increases a guy’s esteem, both internally and in the eyes of others, he’ll naturally want to be attached to you. What about Love? How do men feel about love and relationships?
I decided to dig more on topics related to men, and what it is that makes them tick. What do they really want from us? First at hand what that I wondered...and most women do; What motivates men? What is it that men want? In particular, what is it they want from women? Did you know that Sigmund Freud tried to sort out men's desires by pointing to three divisions within the mind, the id, the ego, and the superego, all of which may want different things? yes, but Freud seemed to believe that what really motivated men was the libido-- essentially, sexual desire.
What I have learned over the years and after a lot of research is that this is a great mistake. What men want, deep down, is not unlimited promiscuous sex but something rather different. What men really want is to win the love of a princess (or of a girl who deserves to be a princess), to fight against great obstacles, to deliver her from dragons or a wicked witch of a stepmother or some other great danger, to marry her, and to live happily ever after. This is the universal fairy tale...oh but most often they don't want us to know that they feel this way....and here women thought that only we wanted the fairy tale?
Maybe he’s cocky, but he’s still insecure. Guys need to know that they’re respected and appreciated just like we do. When being around you increases a guy’s esteem, both internally and in the eyes of others, he’ll naturally want to be attached to you. What about Love? How do men feel about love and relationships?
What men want in relationships
Men crave unconditional love
When they screw up, boy do they know they screwed up. Sometimes it is hard for guys to admit that they’re wrong, but they are harder on themselves than anyone else would ever be. Unconditional love means that they have someone who will love them and be there for them in the best and the worst of times. When you have someone that loves you unconditionally, it is the greatest feeling in the world.What men want in relationships
Complete trust
Men want a woman they can trust no matter what, and they just want to be trusted in return. Nothing is more of a turn off than being accused of cheating or being questioned unreasonably about what took so long to get home. On the other hand, if a guy is unable to trust his girlfriend, he will quickly be looking to move on; worrying about whether their girlfriend can be trusted or not is time-consuming and stressful.men want 'man time' in relationships
Adequate time & space to do what they want to do.
Guys need some time to be alone, as well as time to spend with his friends or hobbies. Keeping a man from doing the things that he loves is the best way to push him away. Of course, there needs to be some balance between the girlfriend and other friends; too much of anything is never a good thing. Simply put, men want to be able to have time with you and still be able to see their friends without feeling bad about it. |
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