Relationships are Like Jello

Meeting that right person is not the easiest thing to do. This really isn't as easy as people seem to think it is. Most people will tell you what you need and don't need. Take my unprofessional advice,... listen to your heart and your gut. You know best! Chemistry is a great thing to have with a new love interest, but you may not see it on the first or second date...at least some people don't. Why? We are to scared or nervous to let our guards down to show the 'true you' as I would call it. Now....there is a BIG difference between acting like someone you are not to impress him and just flat out having anxiety and nerves right before the first date or two...and yes, it does happen. Attraction is simply a positive feeling that one person has for another. It's a feeling that we get when we are excited to get to know someone better, and we're hoping that they just might feel the same. It can be in the form of admiration, love, friendship or lust. You have to be honest and be yourself. 

No time for the watered down version of what you want him to think you are all about,...it's all or nothing here my friend. That would be like trying to make Jello and adding too much water. It just doesn't turn out right. A man doesn't want a watered down version of YOU! Often we struggle and wonder why this happens... I ask myself that each time I make jello and it flops. Unless you have 5-7 days to wait for it, you're screwed my friend. I can do a lot of things but the simplest thing, such as making jello I fail at. Listen, I can make a five course meal, and it turns out perfect, but good old fashion add a cup of hot water and a cup of ice cubes...forget it! Some people are like jello, just as easy with the right combinations. Some people make perfect jello. Comparing a relationship to jello is not what it is all about, but the similarities are not all that far off. Finding a good man with most of the qualities that you desire except for the most important one that you seek is like making something as easy as jello and serving it without the Reddi Whip. You can't leave out the key ingredients.

 The factors that influence one person to be attracted to another are pretty simple actually. They are; similarity, physical attractiveness, proximity and reciprocity. 

Similarity

This means having things in common. You can boost this by picking up on things she says and forming connections. For example, if she says she likes a certain baseball team and you do too, she loves animals and you do too, or she loves to travel and guess what? So do you...The cold hard facts are that similarity that will increase your attractiveness. Don’t make the mistake of telling lies here because she will subconsciously pick them up and they will have the opposite effect. If you didn’t like the film, choose something else to form your similarity. Maybe you like one of the actors who was in it. With practice you can become very skilled at picking out and focusing on these similarities. I want a man that likes a lot of the same things that I do. You should want the same.

Physical attractiveness

Although you cannot control what type of guy a particular woman finds attractive, you can make the most of yourself. Be clean, spend some time and money on your haircut, wear the kind of clothes that girls find attractive.If you don't know what they are, please ask me. Being in good health is attractive but don’t worry too much if you are a little overweight, too thin,  if you are short, too tall, etc. Some girls like these things, and many others will not care if you make the most of what you have. It's not all about the looks like I say over and over again. Some people like hairy backs and tattoos. I'll pass. However that's just not at all a physical attraction that I want in a man. What I do what is someone genuine that will be there to catch me when I fall years and tears from now,...someone who will still tell me that I'm beautiful when gravity sets in and someone that will still brush my bangs away from my face to see the freckles on my cheeks and the sunlight on my face. Someone recently told me that looks are gone in 20 years and that they would rather have something solid and a woman with personality, compassion, rather than a woman with fake qualities that only has her  looks to go on. Sure beauty is great and all, but sincerity and integrity are quite classy.

Proximity

Within reason, a girl will be attracted to someone who is close by, or someone that she sees often. True? Not really. Some might say so, BUT I say that distance is merely a measurement between Point A and Point B and miles cannot or should not separate two people from making something good happen just because of the distance between you. If you see the same girl on your way to work each day and you notice her looking at you, you have a great chance with her so say...maybe, maybe not. In a club, moving around the room will help you get closer to more girls than if you stay in one place. I say branch out, and get  off  the well beaten path. Try other avenues. You might just fund the woman of your dreams or your soul mate where you least expect to find her. So when someone says that they'd love to get to know you but you are too far away...they are not the one for you!

Reciprocity

This simply means that we tend to like the people who like us. This is also true of attraction. Don’t be afraid to show that you are attracted to someone, because it will increase their interest in you. Do not overdo it though. You need to be somewhat of a challenge, so don't make it all that easy. Of course, don’t pursue someone who has shown that she is definitely not interested either. To have a chance with a particular person you need to put your best foot forward and go for it, if you don't you can truly bet that someone else will! Take the time to get to know someone and give it your all...it takes two to make a good solid relationship work. Isn't it about time that you find your match? It is a two way street. You can't expect them to do all of the work. It's a 50/50 effort.

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