Dating Over 40...Just BE YOU!

 When you meet someone for the first time, JUST BE YOU! Dating in today's day and age is not at all what it used to be and quite frankly, it scares me! The 40s and 50s crowd, our generation, is a tough one to figure out. There may be times when you are tempted to be someone you're not, such as "putting on your best face"...but don't.  No, there's nothing wrong with wanting to make a good impression, who wouldn't? However,....my advice (not as a professional but just me) is don't risk it. You do realize that by doing so it is possible to take this too far and in turn repel men?I don't know about you but if it were a good man that I liked, I would not want to risk it. The same applies with myths about dressing sexy or being excessively flirtatious. If you do not respect your body, you will only attract men who have a similar lack of respect for you and your body, and a good man will find it more difficult to take you seriously. Be yourself, and a real man will respect you for who you are and what you desire.

 Release the nerves and get comfy around him! Relax ladies, they want to see our true side not something phony that we some put on to make a grand entrance. This is life, every day with this special man is going to be a grand entrance so make it a show stopper! Men love women with a sense of humor, a great smile and a personality. Gone are the days where they say men look at the size of the breasts and asses...anyone can have those...however, character is something that you cannot buy, you either have it or you don't!

Most guys hate it when girls are possessive, bitchy, clingy, controlling, etc. Learn to relax, and have fun. We all have too much going on in our lives; don't be the high maintenance "drama queen" otherwise his feel will hit the floor and he'll be running like it were a race. Having a woman around who makes life more difficult than enjoyable will make a man lose interest.

Let's face it, with dating in our 40s and 50s we aren't as young as we used to be and we just want to find someone that knocks our socks off. Yes, that can be difficult to find, but get optimistic! he or she is out there waiting for you...so step up your game plan. If you do things like show genuine concern when the man has had a rough day, it will earn his respect and go toward winning him over and a good man will reciprocate. Remember that most men, especially the really good ones, are looking for someone with whom they can be comfortable, compassionate and loving...and not someone who is always intense, the drama mama and down right ruthless.

 Drop the games! Nobody likes a partner who plays "head games". You aren't in your 20s and this is reality. Being shallow and so immature is very recognizable, and it makes you look tacky, not to mention bad....so knock it off. Playing head games are deceptive, and will hurt anybody who trusts you. Be real, don't play! Good men will respect you and may even pursue you. Playing head games will only make good men run away. Remember the communication thing? That is especially true here. If you like a guy, don't push him away and act like you don't like him. Tell him. Yes, there are some men who do like the thrill of the chase, but all good men genuinely want to respect you and your wishes, and will leave you alone if you insist on it. Remember, men communicate directly, if you act like you don't want him, he'll think you don't want him. Oh...and for goodness sakes, I just stated it in the last paragraph, but I'll repeat myself...don't be clingy! (This goes for both sexes, mon and women, no one wants a clinger!)  This means, don't show that you love this person by being near them all the time. We love being with you but we also like our own space as well. There is no need to follow them everywhere they go. Most of all, they need to know that you have your own life!

 Treat him with respect. This is the most important thing of all. Men hate being around a woman who emasculates them, and a good man won't take long to leave such a woman. Don't be afraid to help your man feel good about himself. A little known secret is that men are just as insecure as women. If he's with his friends or family be open to opportunities to let your man look like "the man". It will win his love and respect. 

Respect yourself...When it comes to being intimate, there are many definitions of this but they all come back around to earning the same degree of value.  If you say no, he should stop. If he doesn't stop, you leave. Don't ever be uncomfortable saying no. Don't go against your morals to try to keep a guy. If you feel this is necessary, then either he's not a good man, or he is a good one but simply isn't a good match for you specifically (e. g. he is currently "playing the field" and is up front and honest about it, but you're looking for an exclusive relationship). Don't be uncomfortable saying yes, either. If you feel the time is right, believe in your worth and don't worry that you're "giving yourself away." You respect yourself and you're confident that he'll come back for more! Sad as this is to say, but a man who doesn't respect you in the morning never properly respected you to begin with, and a man who doesn't respect your wishes to wait is too impatient to make a good partner. Either way, find someone else. he is bad news!

You deserve the best that life has to offer,  and a man who is willing to wait so leave no stone unturned while searching for your prince. Happiness...isn't that all the only thing that matters?

www.simplydeliciouslingerie.com