When is Enough, Enough?.....
The beginning stages of a relationship can be exciting, nerve-racking, confusing, and overwhelming. It all begins with trying to decode the "signs" he's giving you and planning your strategy of when to call, when not to answer, and when to ignore him., and when I say ignore him I mean act as though he is invisible! Why do guys play games? Why can't they just say what they mean and do what they feel? Hell no...that would be wayyyyyyyy to easy, and men like to mess with us whenever possible.
This is "the game" we try to play, to make sure our every move will win over our crush.
However, by playing the game of love, girls tend to drive themselves crazy by over analyzing, over thinking, and agonizing over every move played.
So, why do we play games? Here are a few reasons, and ways that you can avoid losing both the game and your mind over a guy. Ladies, never lose you mind over a man....not worth it and nothing good ever comes of it! You'll drive yourself nuts!
1) What's the.....Level of Affection
It can be frustrating when you feel yourself falling for someone harder than you think they've fallen for you; gauging their level of affection can be irritating. When there is an unequal balance of feelings, we often resort to asking for advice from friends, magazines, and books on how we can "make" a guy fall for us. We are afraid of being vulnerable and have been told that the guy should chase the girl, not the other way around. Women should never chase the man. My mom wouldn't let me call boys when I was growing up...in fact, I got grounded for a long time if she found out I made the call. She always used to say "Let them Chase YOU! Michele!"
2) Control ....Do You Have It?Guys can seem detached from their feelings, especially in the beginning stages of a relationship. Is it because they are too macho to act like they like feelings, or is it all of their playing hard to get? Try being really supportive of your partner. It shows that you do care without saying how you really feel. It says that have feelings too but are keeping them safe for the moment.
3) Protection....
It is all about not getting hurt, right? It's easier to think of witty comments and flirty gestures for the next time you see or talk to him than to say bluntly, "I like you," and risk rejection. It;s human nature to want to put that wall up to protect ourselves, and our feelings. Our emotions are nothing to play with.The flirting game is almost a prolonged version of the question "Do you like me too?" Are we in fifth grade here.....NO, so why not just say what you feel? Why beat around the bush? You don't admit to your feelings, but rather give indications, hoping he'll reciprocate. What if he doesn't? What if he remains the same? Well, you just blew it! Lesson learned.
4) Don't be the Prisoner.......
If you and another person were suspects in a crime and questioned separately, you could blame him or stay quiet. If you blamed him and he stayed quiet, he'd get a long sentence and you'd go free. If you blamed each other or both stayed quiet, you'd both be sentenced, but for a shorter time. This scenario is an analogy to playing the game of love, because it's all about taking the risk of being the only one who is straightforward and trying to predict what the other person will say. Games, games, games....
How about...trusting your instincts? If you told one another that you liked each other, you could be secure and happy in knowing that he cares. However, it is understandable to hesitate. No one wants to be the one to admit she likes someone and be left with her feelings on the line if the other person doesn't reciprocate. Hence the reason we remain quiet: Most of the time, like prisoners with a dilemma, we'd rather have shorter and equal misery than be faced with the risk of being the only one hurting.Just remember: When it's all said and done, most people appreciate straightforwardness rather than games So then, why do we do it?......who knows, but we do...stop playing with my heart......
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The beginning stages of a relationship can be exciting, nerve-racking, confusing, and overwhelming. It all begins with trying to decode the "signs" he's giving you and planning your strategy of when to call, when not to answer, and when to ignore him., and when I say ignore him I mean act as though he is invisible! Why do guys play games? Why can't they just say what they mean and do what they feel? Hell no...that would be wayyyyyyyy to easy, and men like to mess with us whenever possible.
This is "the game" we try to play, to make sure our every move will win over our crush.
However, by playing the game of love, girls tend to drive themselves crazy by over analyzing, over thinking, and agonizing over every move played.
So, why do we play games? Here are a few reasons, and ways that you can avoid losing both the game and your mind over a guy. Ladies, never lose you mind over a man....not worth it and nothing good ever comes of it! You'll drive yourself nuts!
1) What's the.....Level of Affection
It can be frustrating when you feel yourself falling for someone harder than you think they've fallen for you; gauging their level of affection can be irritating. When there is an unequal balance of feelings, we often resort to asking for advice from friends, magazines, and books on how we can "make" a guy fall for us. We are afraid of being vulnerable and have been told that the guy should chase the girl, not the other way around. Women should never chase the man. My mom wouldn't let me call boys when I was growing up...in fact, I got grounded for a long time if she found out I made the call. She always used to say "Let them Chase YOU! Michele!"
2) Control ....Do You Have It?Guys can seem detached from their feelings, especially in the beginning stages of a relationship. Is it because they are too macho to act like they like feelings, or is it all of their playing hard to get? Try being really supportive of your partner. It shows that you do care without saying how you really feel. It says that have feelings too but are keeping them safe for the moment.
3) Protection....
It is all about not getting hurt, right? It's easier to think of witty comments and flirty gestures for the next time you see or talk to him than to say bluntly, "I like you," and risk rejection. It;s human nature to want to put that wall up to protect ourselves, and our feelings. Our emotions are nothing to play with.The flirting game is almost a prolonged version of the question "Do you like me too?" Are we in fifth grade here.....NO, so why not just say what you feel? Why beat around the bush? You don't admit to your feelings, but rather give indications, hoping he'll reciprocate. What if he doesn't? What if he remains the same? Well, you just blew it! Lesson learned.
4) Don't be the Prisoner.......
If you and another person were suspects in a crime and questioned separately, you could blame him or stay quiet. If you blamed him and he stayed quiet, he'd get a long sentence and you'd go free. If you blamed each other or both stayed quiet, you'd both be sentenced, but for a shorter time. This scenario is an analogy to playing the game of love, because it's all about taking the risk of being the only one who is straightforward and trying to predict what the other person will say. Games, games, games....
How about...trusting your instincts? If you told one another that you liked each other, you could be secure and happy in knowing that he cares. However, it is understandable to hesitate. No one wants to be the one to admit she likes someone and be left with her feelings on the line if the other person doesn't reciprocate. Hence the reason we remain quiet: Most of the time, like prisoners with a dilemma, we'd rather have shorter and equal misery than be faced with the risk of being the only one hurting.Just remember: When it's all said and done, most people appreciate straightforwardness rather than games So then, why do we do it?......who knows, but we do...stop playing with my heart......
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