Every day I turn on the television, or tune into the radio, I hear that celebrities stray, or are divorcing. Someone cheated or was seen on the town with someone else.....I understand the hoopla with the news and celebs but really?.....Does this effect you and me? NOT SO MUCH! Sure I feel bad for them, but it's not my problem. What about everyday ordinary common people like you and I that stray? It happens to the best of us. Most people try to keep it personal so that we can work through it and try to make sense of it all. Why do we do it? That's the million dollar question......Well, it's pretty simple.....we're only human and sometimes boredom or routine sets in and we do go in search of illicit thrills. It might not even be the person that's the attraction as much as the appeal of a distraction.
The real issue here is – what's going on with your marriage? Can it be fixed, or is it too late? I used to think that it was never too late, and then I fell into that trap and guess what? It was too late. There was too much hurt, and too much pain to go back, so for me, going forward was the only option. Sometimes people just grow apart. I learned a lot after my martial breakup and what I realized most was the importance of "communication!" Somewhere we lost it.....and chances are you may too if you don't take a good look at your life and prioritize things. I took my spouse for granted, it's plain and simple. Years later, yes I have regrets......not that we ended the marriage, but that I let other things and distractions take up so much of my time. You need to address what's missing and try to work from within the marriage. It sounds like it's time for a romantic overhaul, and a big part of reinvigorating things is the element of surprise. Think about the things that floated your boat when the two of you first got together; write a list of the best times you ever had, and make a plan to recreate them. It's often the little things that we tend to overlook that brought us so much happiness.
It's never too late to have fun with the tried and true elements that bought you together in the first place. And here's something you might like to try 'couple playing cards' – they're available at most naughty but nice novelty stores and they're designed to help spice up marriages on a daily basis. Most people list being faithful as one of the top essentials in a successful relationship. But the fact is, people cheat. A lot of people cheat!!
It is estimated that about 44-76% of men and 21-50% of women are cheating on their “significant other!" Why get married if you are going to cheat and mess it up? Well, no one has an answer for that. We enter into marriage with commitment. The fact at hand is that we lose site of our commitment's as time passes. We get too comfortable with our spouse and we forget what he/she does to make the marriage complete. Slowly we begin getting involved with other things; kids, sporting events, school functions, business trips, and the more time that goes by the larger the gap grows.
Probably everyone knows that cheating is wrong. Anytime someone has an affair there’s a danger that it will ruin their marriage or relationship. Even long and happy marriages and relationships have bumps in the road....and this doesn’t stop the majority of people from doing it. Do we feel any better when it's all said and done? NO. So why? I'm not a professional, but if you have someone in your life, regardless of the amount of time you've been together....if you care for them, if you feel that you do have things in common and enjoy spending quality time with this person,....find a way to open the lines of communication, it's not too late, however, realize that nothing in life is easy, and if you give up so quickly, you may not find another person like this. Walking away is quite easy, being the bigger person and going back to talk it out or try to fix it isn't always quite as easy, so it's your choice, either fight for what your heart tells you is the right thing because you do have feelings emotionally, ties and connections that you have built,..... it may take work, lots of it....are you prepared?
If you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen!
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