Romance is probably the most important part of a relationship when it first starts but after marriage, kids, work, bills and other daily-stresses it's one of the first things to suffer. Gone are the romantic weekends away, flowers at work and breakfasts in bed and instead you're lucky if he'll give your feet a rub in the evening or even remember to buy a card for your anniversary.....you're even luckier if he remembers your anniversary!
Where has the romance gone?
Why do men lose their romantic side in long term relationships? What can we do about it? My guess....they get too used to the way things are...so ladies you need to keep him guessing.....keeping a man on his toes is fun and rewarding. When a man finds his "comfort zone" it goes into lazy mode...and I don't mean lazy as in he won't cut the grass, or fix the dishwasher...I mean his brain shuts the romancing off because he thinks he's done it all for you "to win you" so now he doesn't have to try so hard. I got new for you boys.....in a relationship, romance should come naturally...and if you have to "try" you surely don't deserve her. a woman likes to get romanced. It's over 60% of what we look for in a man.....If you have romantic thoughts, ways, and desires, anything is possible, as long as you keep the lines of communication open. Once they begin to shut down......you might as well forget it.
What I have discovered over the years is that except for the rare man, most men simply look at relationships in terms of the comfort factor, so if it's a comfortable situation happening and they feel good, then that's the goal. Often it's not a reflection of a bad relationship when there's a lack of romance, often it reflects that the man is very satisfied and he's in his comfort zone. Yet women still want that extra element, the comfort and the romantic factor. We're always thinking ‘How can we make this better, how can we make it the best possible relationship?' Well, our expectations, when it comes to romance are definitely bigger than most men's expectations. Why? We're women, and romantically we are more in tune. I can't speak for all women, but most are. My question is; "Are we being too demanding by wanting a little more romance in our lives?" Not always......I don't think its about women demanding too much, I think our expectations are high and we don't quite know how to get the compromise between our high expectations and our man's quite basic expectations for romance. If we can realise that most men don't mean badly by their lack of romance, that there is compromise to be had and they're not mind readers, then hopefully things will get better.
It's easy to get wrapped up in the lack of romance in your relationship but it's important to remain positive rather than critical and remember that sometimes men need a little helping hand being romantic.
It's easy to get carried away with the thought that the man has to do all the work, but when was the last time you did something romantic for him? Sometimes it takes you to start leading with a bit of romantic behaviour for him to then repay the favour in his own time. Come on ladies.....you can do this.
Sometimes men need a little more than subtle hints, (most of the time he needs to get hit in the head with a brick!) I'm joking....Why don't they get it? Well for starters..... and they aren't built with the mechanisms we are.....so you need to be direct and obvious with your romantic gestures. Start making a point of surprising him every few weeks. It's those small things will get him more in tune with being romantic and thinking that way towards you.
![]()
Where has the romance gone?
Why do men lose their romantic side in long term relationships? What can we do about it? My guess....they get too used to the way things are...so ladies you need to keep him guessing.....keeping a man on his toes is fun and rewarding. When a man finds his "comfort zone" it goes into lazy mode...and I don't mean lazy as in he won't cut the grass, or fix the dishwasher...I mean his brain shuts the romancing off because he thinks he's done it all for you "to win you" so now he doesn't have to try so hard. I got new for you boys.....in a relationship, romance should come naturally...and if you have to "try" you surely don't deserve her. a woman likes to get romanced. It's over 60% of what we look for in a man.....If you have romantic thoughts, ways, and desires, anything is possible, as long as you keep the lines of communication open. Once they begin to shut down......you might as well forget it.
What I have discovered over the years is that except for the rare man, most men simply look at relationships in terms of the comfort factor, so if it's a comfortable situation happening and they feel good, then that's the goal. Often it's not a reflection of a bad relationship when there's a lack of romance, often it reflects that the man is very satisfied and he's in his comfort zone. Yet women still want that extra element, the comfort and the romantic factor. We're always thinking ‘How can we make this better, how can we make it the best possible relationship?' Well, our expectations, when it comes to romance are definitely bigger than most men's expectations. Why? We're women, and romantically we are more in tune. I can't speak for all women, but most are. My question is; "Are we being too demanding by wanting a little more romance in our lives?" Not always......I don't think its about women demanding too much, I think our expectations are high and we don't quite know how to get the compromise between our high expectations and our man's quite basic expectations for romance. If we can realise that most men don't mean badly by their lack of romance, that there is compromise to be had and they're not mind readers, then hopefully things will get better.
It's easy to get wrapped up in the lack of romance in your relationship but it's important to remain positive rather than critical and remember that sometimes men need a little helping hand being romantic.
It's easy to get carried away with the thought that the man has to do all the work, but when was the last time you did something romantic for him? Sometimes it takes you to start leading with a bit of romantic behaviour for him to then repay the favour in his own time. Come on ladies.....you can do this.
Sometimes men need a little more than subtle hints, (most of the time he needs to get hit in the head with a brick!) I'm joking....Why don't they get it? Well for starters..... and they aren't built with the mechanisms we are.....so you need to be direct and obvious with your romantic gestures. Start making a point of surprising him every few weeks. It's those small things will get him more in tune with being romantic and thinking that way towards you.
© This is a copyright of Simply Delicious Lingerie
No comments:
Post a Comment