Sunday, May 27, 2012

Double Standards in Dating...Stud or Slut?

What you really need to know about alcohol is this..it is lethal. It can wreak havoc and screw up your life if you are not careful, so please pay close attention to this article. I've been experiencing this with friends for most of my life and I have 'yet' to figure out why the tables turn on this subject time and time again? Both men and women have a tendency to use alcohol to avoid taking responsibility for their actions, including sex, however, there is the old-fashioned double standard where a guy is a stud for willingly having and enjoying sex while a woman is a slut for enjoying the same pleasures. This is at the root of the problem, and from there, it all becomes a blame game, full of slut-shaming and other name-calling.

Often guys ‘know what they’re doing’ when they’re drunk, but by legal standards, this wouldn’t necessarily matter if the roles were reversed. You see, there’s a double standard here, but it’s generally accepted.Many substances have been said to induce sexual desire and to enhance intercourse. The use of alcoholic beverages is one of the oldest libido stimulator's and it is still one of the most widely used aphrodisiacs worldwide.

  In a variety of ways, the drunken hookup double standard does work in a gal’s favor, but that doesn’t mean we should take advantage of the situation...(or should we?...just kidding) Some underlying issues don’t reflect too kindly on gals who take advantage of guys when they’re drunk,...and while gals might not have to worry about the legal system like guys do, the labeling system reserved for women won’t let anything slip by. I found after reading a number of books and articles that there are 4 things that you really need to know about sex and drinking;

Sex drive

First of all, a moderate quantity of alcohol will reduce anxiety and let people release their inhibitions. Therefore, having a drink or two during social events will help men get over their shyness and facilitate approaching women. This is especially true with strongly inhibited men who are scared of rejection or for those who experience performance anxiety. While you don't advocate using alcohol as a crutch to get through social situations, you certainly don't see the problem with using a little bit of the stuff to loosen up.

Shyness in bed

A light change in mood from the alcohol will also relieve nervousness and leave room for freedom of sexual expression. Whether you are in a relationship or at a club looking for a sleazy one-night stand, if you are looking to spice things up, try loosening up with a drink or two. Hey, trust me it works. It will simply bring down barriers that one would normally not cross, but my advice (and this is my personal advice not that of a professional) don't drop that wall barrier too much or you really may end up putting your foot in your mouth causing her to put hers up 'your ass!',...and not in a good way! See, a responsible amount of alcohol makes drinking and sex a lot of fun, there are big limitations though, so be responsible and "think before you drink!" This then leads me to the next topic...

Limit your drinking

However, watch out how much alcohol is consumed. In general, half a gram of pure alcohol per 2.2 pounds of body weight is the maximum recommended dose because everything above that could reduce one's amorous capabilities. For example, someone weighing 165 pounds could drink half a bottle of wine before a sexual encounter without being at risk of delivering a poor performance. The amount of alcohol affecting some one's sex drive is specific to each individual. Therefore, it is important to know your limits and if you don't find your limits. 

Don't abuse alcohol intake

Consuming too much alcohol can lead to serious consequences and health risks. Aside from impotence and poor performance, alcohol can lead many guys to be overly aggressive toward members of the opposite sex and force them into unfavorable situations. The focus of this article isn't about these extreme situations, but we have to mention that by abusing alcohol, some men can be overly aggressive and things might get out of hand. One too many drinks and one crazy wild moment of passion can lead to more and there are time when both parties really don't agree on this, so be very careful, for if you cross that line and she doesn't want to, or she didn't feel the same way and you weren't seeing that because of your misjudgement of alcohol intake or truthfully acknowledging its because you've had one too many, it can cause you your life, and no want wants to call home the slammer! No means NO! When someone says it, listen! Read this book! It's a book that every woman show read and list everything you need to know!

 

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3 comments:

  1. Michele, The people of Manchester in the UK loves reading your BLOG! Keep up the good work!

    Cheers,
    Davis T
    Manchester, England

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  2. MssDelicious, Everyday you touch on a subject that raises awareness. Thanks for the education as well as making so many others smile and grins. You must be a real pistol!

    Eddie D
    Union, PA

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  3. Michele, thank you for the articles everyday and the smiles that you bring to so many others. Your passion shows in your writing and your blog is quite informative. I work in the ER at a hospital and you are the subject of conversation many days! We love reading your articles. Ever consider putting them all together and writing a book? You have a support team in Middlebury Vermont.

    Much thanks!

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