Jumping Back Into the Dating Pool at 50

If you are 50 or older and just jumping back into the dating pool I say kudos to you! Congratulations for taking the leap! Yes, we know while dating in your 20s or even 30s may have been difficult, it's a vastly different landscape now. Times are changing and we need to keep up with the trends of the dating world. You've entered a new chapter of your life, so enjoy yourself. W e really do mean that in a GREAT way. Think about it: You bring so much more to the table now as a mature adult, and trust me, that is pretty significant. You've learned from past experiences and  mistakes. The fact of the matter is now, you've got wisdom, experience under your belt, and street smarts to help you identify exactly what you're looking for in a relationship. With those thoughts in mind, here are just a few simple tips for creating a profile which will help ensure your online dating success:

First, sit down and make some notes about what it is that you seek, and desire most? Be prepared  (I guess is what I am trying to say) What does that mean? Make a List of the pro's and con's. Your expectations of what you desire in a relationship and a future mate should be accurately reflected in your online profile. Write down what type of person you are looking for, your expectation (i.e., companionship or marriage), your values and personal interests.

Dating can be an unnerving experience at any age. Nonetheless, dating after age 50+ presents a unique set of challenges. You have a 50-year-old body with a 30-year-old headset, and you need to figure out what to do to get back in the groove! Did you know that Americans age 50 and older are the fastest growing demographic on the dating website? Does that surprise you? It shouldn't! The bottom line is simple; We don't have the time or patience to go bar or club hopping. We want someone real that is not going to be the player or play us. At this age you are past the 'playing games' era.

Here's my suggestion, totally unprofessionally, but nevertheless, my honest opinion; Seek out the help from a good friend. Post a flattering picture of yourself online, but don't use a photo 10 years younger than you are. Get your friend to look at the picture before you put it online and find the best picture that really represents who you are...you don't want to be deceiving in any way. You should also avoid exaggerating or downright lying in your profile. My theory is this; the more descriptive and honest that you are, the better match you are actually going to make. People would rather have honesty even if it means you aren't the perfect fit of what they desire verse handing them a line of shit a mile long that you'think' they want to hear.

 Whatever you do, please don't turn a first date into a job interview. Let loose, and have some fun for heaven sake! Go into the meeting with the intention of having a good time. Let go of the goal-oriented dating of finding a soul mate, and just RELAX! You want to lower your expectation of finding someone to spend the rest of your life with. Find someone to date that seems intriguing to you. Be open to experiencing each date and each person for what they have to offer. Prepare conversation starters. (think of what you want to ask in advance so that your words don't get all fumbled and you end up putting your foot in your mouth.) There's nothing worse than awkward pauses on a first date that stretch into eternity. Let's eliminate that one by coming up with a few questions that will break the ice;

You need to have a list of a few conversation starters such as what's your favorite dish, do you like to travel, what sporting events do you follow, and do ask about their family.Start off simple, this is your first meeting and your opportunity to make a great first impression. You don't want to sound nosey. Never ask if they own their home, how much they make, what their 401K looks like in terms of retirement, or what they drive. That is tacky and materialistic and if you want to make a person run like the wind, that'll do it. These things you'll learn  in time if you see them again AND if they desire to continue seeing you. Relationships start as friendships and it is upon this that you build your solid foundation. Remember, communication is always KEY!

A few key notes; No matter how old you are when you jump into the world of dating, keep your integrity in mind. You really don’t have to play by anyone else’s rules. If you respect yourself, you inadvertently demand that the world around you do the same. Just keep in mind that things have changed and there may be some unexpected twists and turns for you to navigate. Be sure to realize it’s alright to be alone. If you’ve spent your life with someone taking care of you or were expected to wait on someone hand and foot, dating might take you by surprise. Know that going on a date with someone doesn’t obligate you to be in a relationship with a person. It just means you had a nice evening together. Just enjoy yourself and have a good time. It's OK to get your feet wet!

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Online Dating Tips for Newbies...

Are you a newbie to the dating world? Are you looking for love in all the wrong places? If appears that we all do more often than not. As women, to be in your 20's, 30's, 40's 50's and even in your 60's women are going with a brand new trend where popularity is growing something fierce! We all hate the whole dating game and quite frankly it gets a bit old trying to plan for an evening out when we have no idea what-so-ever how it's going to go down. So many things can go wrong and we're just tired of all the drama that tends to go along with it. It's not easy being single, then throw in the ole' "Oh hey, did I mention that I am a single mom" line and they scatter quickly. We get tired of trying things the old fashion way...church, grocery store, gas station, night clubs (even though I totally disagree with women trying to hook up with anything serious from this- just not a good idea)...so what's a gal to do? Try online dating! Hell, why not? Everyone else and their sister is doing it? So how does one get started? What can you expect?

 When you are starting out you are aiming toward a relationship where dating is the reality of it all. There are some things that you absolutely must not do. Please ladies pay attention...I wrote the book on "No'No's!"

 Some of these things will kill his interest before you begin getting to know him so be careful not to fall into these traps. If they don't catch up to you right away, there's still time and trust me, they will backfire on you further down the line, and put an end to everything you have built up so far. So avoid these mistakes at all costs, and just be YOU!

1. Do not lie

We all know that a few white lies seem so harmless..but are they, really? It is so tempting to tell a few, especially online where nobody can see you and you may not get caught out. But remember you are not going to get anywhere if this relationship never makes it off your computer into real life. You are hoping to meet this guy pretty soon, and most of your lies will catch up with you.

Many people lie about their age, and especially their marital status, their weight, height, job, and even what movies or foods they like, trying to make them seem more attractive to their ideal mate. The sad thing is that the more interested the guy is, and the more he likes you, the more disappointed and turned off he will be when he finds out you lied to him..and he will find out!

He may not care that you are a couple of years older than him,in fact, that might intrigue him but he WILL care that you lied. He will feel betrayed and that he cannot trust you, and he will wonder what other lies you told.

So if there is a question you don't want to answer, either ignore it or say you'll tell him when you know him better. You do not have to reveal all your secrets but there is no need to lie.

2. Do not use an old photo

Do not have a photo that is ten years old on your profile. It may attract the guy to your profile in the first place, but he will be disappointed when he meets you and finds you looking more wrinkly than he expected. It is almost as bad as finding out you lied. He may not say anything but he will feel that he has been deceived.

Instead, try to find a recent picture that still makes you look good. This may mean having one taken professionally. Do not worry about the cost - it is worth it. Think of it as an investment in your future.

3. Do not tell all too soon

There is nothing worse than boring a guy with your whole life story the moment he gets in touch with you. Learn the art of telling just a little - enough to arouse interest but not enough to satisfy it, and certainly not so much that you send him to sleep. Always leave him wanting more! A good rule of thumb here is to look at how much he wrote you and write back a little less. Answer any questions that he asked you, unless you do not want to for some reason, but answer them briefly. For example if he asks you what you do, just tell him. Do not give him your full resume or describe your whole day at work.

Most people like to talk at least as much as they like to listen. Concentrate on listening, being interested in him and asking him the same types of questions that he is asking you. 

4. Do not be too eager

Generally, it is better not to contact guys first on an online dating site. Let them do most of the hunting and conquering. This will keep them interested. It also makes sure that you do not waste your time on guys who only answered your email to be polite. Oh and if they have the audacity to send you an email that says you look hot, have a nice ass, call your boobs 'tit's or anything else in that nature, drop them like a hot potato and find someone who shows you some respect!

If you see a guy's profile that you really like and you decide to contact him first, simply write him one line asking him to take a look at your profile. Then leave it to him to do that and get in touch with you if he wants to.

When a guy does contact you, do not write back too fast. Wait at least 24 hours from the time that he sent the message. Then if he writes again after a week, leave it longer the next time. Show him that if he wants to hear from you quickly, he must not keep you waiting too long. If he sounds too good to be true....guess what? He probably is...this is a RED FLAG!

Do not be the one to suggest a face to face meeting first. This is very likely to scare him away. Guys are usually very keen to meet women they are interested in so that they can get things onto a real life, physical basis. So if he doesn't suggest it, there will be a reason. He may be too busy right now, he may have lied about something, he may even be married. Forget it. Stay in touch casually by email if you want to, but keep looking for someone who does want to meet you so that you can move onto relationship dating for real...enough games, get with the program boys!

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Dating Over 40...Just BE YOU!

 When you meet someone for the first time, JUST BE YOU! Dating in today's day and age is not at all what it used to be and quite frankly, it scares me! The 40s and 50s crowd, our generation, is a tough one to figure out. There may be times when you are tempted to be someone you're not, such as "putting on your best face"...but don't.  No, there's nothing wrong with wanting to make a good impression, who wouldn't? However,....my advice (not as a professional but just me) is don't risk it. You do realize that by doing so it is possible to take this too far and in turn repel men?I don't know about you but if it were a good man that I liked, I would not want to risk it. The same applies with myths about dressing sexy or being excessively flirtatious. If you do not respect your body, you will only attract men who have a similar lack of respect for you and your body, and a good man will find it more difficult to take you seriously. Be yourself, and a real man will respect you for who you are and what you desire.

 Release the nerves and get comfy around him! Relax ladies, they want to see our true side not something phony that we some put on to make a grand entrance. This is life, every day with this special man is going to be a grand entrance so make it a show stopper! Men love women with a sense of humor, a great smile and a personality. Gone are the days where they say men look at the size of the breasts and asses...anyone can have those...however, character is something that you cannot buy, you either have it or you don't!

Most guys hate it when girls are possessive, bitchy, clingy, controlling, etc. Learn to relax, and have fun. We all have too much going on in our lives; don't be the high maintenance "drama queen" otherwise his feel will hit the floor and he'll be running like it were a race. Having a woman around who makes life more difficult than enjoyable will make a man lose interest.

Let's face it, with dating in our 40s and 50s we aren't as young as we used to be and we just want to find someone that knocks our socks off. Yes, that can be difficult to find, but get optimistic! he or she is out there waiting for you...so step up your game plan. If you do things like show genuine concern when the man has had a rough day, it will earn his respect and go toward winning him over and a good man will reciprocate. Remember that most men, especially the really good ones, are looking for someone with whom they can be comfortable, compassionate and loving...and not someone who is always intense, the drama mama and down right ruthless.

 Drop the games! Nobody likes a partner who plays "head games". You aren't in your 20s and this is reality. Being shallow and so immature is very recognizable, and it makes you look tacky, not to mention bad....so knock it off. Playing head games are deceptive, and will hurt anybody who trusts you. Be real, don't play! Good men will respect you and may even pursue you. Playing head games will only make good men run away. Remember the communication thing? That is especially true here. If you like a guy, don't push him away and act like you don't like him. Tell him. Yes, there are some men who do like the thrill of the chase, but all good men genuinely want to respect you and your wishes, and will leave you alone if you insist on it. Remember, men communicate directly, if you act like you don't want him, he'll think you don't want him. Oh...and for goodness sakes, I just stated it in the last paragraph, but I'll repeat myself...don't be clingy! (This goes for both sexes, mon and women, no one wants a clinger!)  This means, don't show that you love this person by being near them all the time. We love being with you but we also like our own space as well. There is no need to follow them everywhere they go. Most of all, they need to know that you have your own life!

 Treat him with respect. This is the most important thing of all. Men hate being around a woman who emasculates them, and a good man won't take long to leave such a woman. Don't be afraid to help your man feel good about himself. A little known secret is that men are just as insecure as women. If he's with his friends or family be open to opportunities to let your man look like "the man". It will win his love and respect. 

Respect yourself...When it comes to being intimate, there are many definitions of this but they all come back around to earning the same degree of value.  If you say no, he should stop. If he doesn't stop, you leave. Don't ever be uncomfortable saying no. Don't go against your morals to try to keep a guy. If you feel this is necessary, then either he's not a good man, or he is a good one but simply isn't a good match for you specifically (e. g. he is currently "playing the field" and is up front and honest about it, but you're looking for an exclusive relationship). Don't be uncomfortable saying yes, either. If you feel the time is right, believe in your worth and don't worry that you're "giving yourself away." You respect yourself and you're confident that he'll come back for more! Sad as this is to say, but a man who doesn't respect you in the morning never properly respected you to begin with, and a man who doesn't respect your wishes to wait is too impatient to make a good partner. Either way, find someone else. he is bad news!

You deserve the best that life has to offer,  and a man who is willing to wait so leave no stone unturned while searching for your prince. Happiness...isn't that all the only thing that matters?

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Dating over 50

A few years ago when I divorced and found myself starting over, I thought I was too old to date. I was 34 when my divorce was final and I had two young teenagers. They didn't approve of any man that I went out with, because he wasn't their father. No one would take his place. In their young minds, I ruined our family. Although they had no idea how my marriage went from "Point A to Point B." I filed for the Big "D" and I was the cause of this mess. Pay backs were hell. They made my dating life miserable, and oh they sabotaged so many dates. Those kids....lucky for me, saved me from  a lot of disasters. Today, I am grateful that they stepped in, for had they not, I might not be where I am today. Business savvy, more independent, and a woman on a mission to find my destiny. I've learned that age is just a number. It's not how old you are, rather, how you've grown gracefully in life that determines your future.

Who in their right mind would want a woman with baggage? My thoughts were, my kids are not baggage. I laid down the law and stated that if a man loved me, he would also have to accept my children for whom ever they are. I felt like we went from a happy family with life by the balls, to a woman lost with two kids that needed her more than ever. Oh I tried to date, it just didn't work out. Most of the men were divorced, some with no kids,... they had NO concept of what it was like to be a parent, and they didn't understand that plans change at the blink of an eye when your kids need you. For years, I thought that I was too old to do the online dating thing...boy was I wrong.

I tried it, and since have learned a lot a about it. You can say I've done my homework. My advice: Don't give all your energy to one person in online dating. If the person does not turn out to be what you want, so what? You met a new person, practiced your conversation skills, and learned more about what you want in a partner. Whether you are 18 or 70, the best way to enjoy a first date is to keep an open mind, focus on the things you have in common, and make your primary goal to simply have a good time.

Then I thought that anyone over 50 couldn't find a date. (Please, if you will, and before you get mad if you are 50+ as you're reading this) understand,....I had no idea that one could find true love at a later stage of their life. In January, I'll turn 50. Dating older women is one of the best aspects of dating at any age. If you are 50+, or 60+ and just starting to date again after a few years or a few decades, however, the uncertainty about where to go, what to wear, and what to talk about can seem almost insurmountable. Don't sweat the small stuff. Take baby steps.

Before the first date, you wonder whether your date will like you, (personally this is a questions we ask at any age) whether you’ll like single older women and how much dating etiquette has changed since the last time you were out there. While there are no absolutes when it comes to senior dating, there are a few tried and true strategies that may help calm your nerves and increase your chances for a successful first date. If you plan to have activities on your first date, make it lunch and combine it with some fun activity so you have more things to talk about while you eat. Dinner sometimes implies more intimacy than you may be ready for on a first date, and having the whole date depend on senior women sitting across from each other and making conversation can create a lot of pressure. If the whole idea of senior dating makes you nervous, consider making your first date a group date with women over 50, or participating in a group activity such as senior travel.

Be smart, and by all means, please be safe, and have an exit strategy. Make certain that you always tell a close friend where you are going, and with whom. Do a background check if it makes you feel better...On most singles sites,  you are going out with people you really don't know well, so stick to public places and tell someone you trust who you are meeting and where you will be. If you start to feel uneasy about the person you are with, then leave. If your gut tells you something doesn't seem right, "Good Lord, listen to your gut!"

 Romance is still alive in our hearts....so enjoy your life. It's a very precious thing, and there is no age limit set for falling in love. If you are fortunate like I am, you'll find 'the' man when the time is right. He may not be perfect, or a perfect '10' but if you are lucky enough to have a groovy kind of love, that's all that really matters....

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