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Everyone loves to get erotic and turn up the heat in the bedroom. Sooo, who gets excited quicker? Men or women? Estrogen is far more powerful within the female sexual desire than testosterone could ever hope to be, or so it's been said. With that being said they also say that men also have two to 20 times more testosterone than women, but this does not mean men have 20 times more sex drive. Does this mean that they get more turned on/aroused? Someone recently said don’t make sex a routine, try new things and take turns initiating—your sex life will improve drastically. Share the romance and get sensual together. Suggestion? We sell the 'Whip Smart Pleasure Swing' and that's all you need to have a new level of intimacy. Men, Women, and Swingers...everyone is buying them!

What can men and women do to stir up a little foreplay? Well fellas, there are a few things;

It's been said that; Women Responding to Praise Actually Stimulates Them....
True, true, true! It’s believed that men are so consumed by our libido (imagine that?) that we have no self-consciousness surrounding sex. But men are no different from women when it comes to compliments as catalysts for sexual confidence. This praise can be delivered longgggg before reaching the bedroom. Women fall victim to praise and it turns us on like crazy. It's no longer the boys that need their egos stroked, us gals tend to like it a little bit too!

We Appreciate, Desire, and L-O-V-E  SEX!
Having said that about intimacy, sometimes a little “throw-me-down sex” is the right medicine. Who doesn't enjoy some rug burn from time to time? Hey, you have to keep it real and colorful! They say that men want their partners/lovers/wives to enjoy raw sex, not just endure it or take it personally. For men, it’s not about dominating a woman, but ravishing her. On occasion, try letting him ravish you ladies...you'll turn your man on and he will be putty in your hands. Let them be in charge...two words; Reddi Whip. Every woman should ALWAYS have a can in the fridge. It's instant turn on and who doesn't enjoy a 'body sundae' to arouse him in a game of foreplay?

I SAY: Encourage Fantasies
We sell fantasy costumes that will bring him to his knees, and we sell men's bedroom costumes that will have her intoxicated in lust. I read recently that; Men want to share their fantasies but worry their wives will shame or judge them...You see, men wish women would reveal their imaginings. Want to open yourself to these possibilities? Try making a game of it. First, and most important, promise not to judge the other; then, privately write out scenarios that have tantalized you and place them in a box. When you are next intimate, pull one out. If you’re both comfortable, give it a shot. If not, ask this question: What about this fantasy do you like? Sometimes, its themes can be addressed in different, more comfortable scenarios.

We Always Need It, But Not for the Reason You Think...Get over your bad-self!
Men are accused of being sexually insatiable, but women should rethink this.  It has also been said that men see sex as a celebration. They wish women would take more of a ‘carpe diem’ approach to it. We move through life at the speed of sound, with multiplying challenges and pressures. If that doesn’t make you want to hop to it, then consider the health benefits why don't you? Orgasms release oxytocin, which has been called the “bonding hormone, bringing couples closer together while it alleviates anxiety and stress, reduces blood pressure and promotes healing. Isn't it time you bought the sex swing and enjoyed fantasy and foreplay in hours of mind bending passionate fun?


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Finding a Man That Shares Your Values

How strong are your values in finding a lover, mate or spouse? I don't know about you all, but ethics, morals, and ones values of how they perceive things are quite important to me and it very well should be to you...especially if you are in a relationship or getting serious about someone. Society today tends to look at all the small stuff but they are forgetting about looking down the path of the 'long road' of being with someone. Ask a couple who has been married for 25 or 50 years what keeps their relationship alive and they usually tell you that they have important things in common. It may be animal magnetism that draws your attention to a man, but it’s not going to be enough to keep you together over the decades! You have to find a way to keep the love alive!

 His sexy curls and dark locks turns gray and soon fall out. He becomes bald perhaps? (I don't know about you but I love bald men so for me this one isn't quite as important as it may be to some of you) His six pack abs fall into his six pack drinking beer belly. This is every gals nightmare...football and beer...day in and day out. One, it can lead to alcohol issues and problems and that is not what we signed up for. Follow my lead and never do this ladies...NEVER buy your man a comfy recliner chair for his man cave...it will be ALL OVER! This will become his new home and you will become backseat to anything other than sports. The time he spent gazing into your eyes and undressing you with dirty thoughts is now spent in a trance before the television set watching NASCAR, football, baseball, golf, hockey or basically anything else that includes 'balls' of some sort. It's ok for the guy to watch sports or to go to games, but you need to make it clear that you come before anything else. 

It truly would not hurt at all if you enjoyed sports too, but not all women share the same common grounds. You should though ladies...you're man will enjoy sharing time with you more so, and if you expect him to go shopping with you, you need to meet in the middle somewhere here. Sexy lingerie from www.SimplyDeliciousLingerie.com is great but there has to be something more than sex or fascination that keeps a couple together. Couples who share the same values have a bond that goes beyond physical attraction. It’s a foundation for their relationship. My suggestion; wear something sexy while watching sports with your man. Allow him to focus on his needs and meet yours just the same. Half time is the right time to find your common ground and to fool around a little bit. Believe me, his eyes will be glued to you and he won't remember the game let alone the sport he is watching.

If you’re from a family with strong ethnic or cultural heritage, then you need to find a man who shares that background. Otherwise, your relationship will be strained each time his family values and yours collide. In some families, marrying outside of the ethnicity or faith creates serious divisions between you and your family. You may say that you’ll give up family for love, but how will you feel about this after you have children? It gets tough. Even the issue of whose values or faith will be practiced by the children is enough to tear apart relationships. My thoughts have always been this...follow your heart, and if you truly love someone and are meant to be, you'll find that happy medium.

Let's talk facts here shall we? What if you are a conservative and he’s liberal - now this can and will make for some lively conversations. Nonetheless, if your political beliefs are radically different, this is going to impact how well your friends mix and how you live out your beliefs. 

A materialistic woman who falls for a dedicated environmentalist starts a relationship with so many opposite values. She wants all of the latest appliances and finds recycling to be too much trouble. He sorts her trash to make certain that plastics and paper are in recycle bins. Talk about a giant mis-match in a relationship. In time, they will resent each other for those differences. You don’t have to look for a guy who is your philosophical, spiritual and emotional clone to be happy. Your values should be somewhat the same. I like nice things,all the way down to my perfume I wear, I also love to travel to far away places and someday, when I find the right man, I want him to share some of these simple qualities. He will have a passion for me, as well as a great passion for life.

No relationship is perfect. You won't always get along, or be on the same side and there may be arguments or disagreements...my favorite part of this is kissing and making up. Differences of opinion can be healthy and even exciting. There are those differences however that tear at the essence of the beliefs about who you are and your place in the universe become divisive and quarrelsome in any relationship. Perhaps the best way to find a mate who shares your most treasured values is to go where like-minded people can be found. 

If you are politically inclined, join that party’s local group and work on campaigns. Environmentalists have many different expressions of saving our world, so find one that you can care deeply about and meet others who feel the same way. 

Why go to a bar where you never know who’s being their 'true' self? Unless you are there to watch a game or meet a group of friends for happy hour after work, most people end up in bars for one night stands or quick fixes as I would like to call them...but if you are looking for the man of your dreams, sometimes you have to let fate take it's own actions. I truly am a 'paths crossing for a reason' kinda gal. My grandmother used to say that love will find you when you are least expecting it to. It might be days or it may be years, but it will happen when the timing is right for you, so be patient. My advise is don't look for Ms Right or Mr Right in a bar or pool hall. I love the phrase 'you get what you pay for' this applies to pick up joints and quick fixer meeting places. Don't do it if you are a serious looker. You’ll find a better dating pool from people who share your values, beliefs, ethnicity or culture, and in the meantime, you’ll enjoy doing things that are meaningful to you. Hang in there...you'll find him, and when you do, you'll know it!

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Simply Delicious Lingerie is an online boutique specializing in sexy lingerie from designers such as Carrie Amber Intimates LLC ‘SeventilMidnight’, Be Wicked and WMS Clothing. Our lingerie is the aphrodisiac of taste, and represents beauty and luxury at an affordable price. At Simply Delicious Lingerie we've personally selected a variety of sexy lingerie just for you and all of your sensuous rendezvous. We sell accessories, Bordello shoes, Pleaser shoes, garter sets, bridal lingerie, bridal undergarments, honeymoon lingerie, wedding day lingerie, wedding garter sets, wedding petticoats, affordable plus size lingerie, Halloween costumes, sexy plus size costumes,  fantasy lingerie, matching lingerie sets, sexy thigh high stockings, satin pajamas, plus size sleepwear, adult novelty items and sex swings including the Whip Smart Pleasure Swing. Have a lingerie party with us and experience fun!  Our mission is to take your sexy lingerie needs to the next level of comfort, intrigue, romance and sophistication. For more information or to place an order today please visit http://simplydeliciouslingerie.com/  Say YES (your everyday sexy) to Simply Delicious Lingerie!® 

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Is it LOVE? How Will I know...

If you're wondering if he really loves you, your next question should be: Why are you asking? Is there a nagging feeling inside that makes you doubt his true feelings? Don't be too quick to want love...let it flow natural and come to you. Sometimes we women are in too big of a hurry to hear those magical words "I Love You"...but why? The answer is important because no matter how many times a man says those words, you have to take the time to reflect on whether you're feeling the emotion behind them. Listen, I know men and saying that they love someone doesn't come easy...so when they do say it to you ladies, don't be a schmuck and ruin the moment!

Lets face the facts, men and women are programmed a little different. This means that you should look at your relationship at a different angle. Men and women have a different language.
Men will show affection by doing things for you. Women are more of the verbal creatures. When there is not enough conversation going on in a relationship, it often makes the woman feel like she is not loved.Women are always wondering if their man really loves them. Women strive to find out by asking friends and making constant judgments about how their man feels.

Then the question of the day as Whitney Houston not so long ago sang is "How Will I know If He Really Loves Me?" Quite honestly, much energy and time is spent wondering that many of these women have trouble enjoying their relationship. I have come up with some tips on how you can identify the signs that a man really loves you. He has eyes only for you. You can tell if your man really loves you when many beautiful and sexy women surround you but he doesn't take a second to even stare at any of them. He gives you his full attention by showing eye contact and facing his body towards you. He calls you frequently. Hello? What else do you need? Ok, you want more...here you go...

 He wants to go places and do things. The relationship is not all about sex. He wants to explore the world with you and do fun activities. He spends money on you. He invests not only emotionally but also financially. You are a special and serious person in his life. Money means no object when it comes to you. His mission is not only for a role in the hay but to make you feel happy.He shows good manners. He wants to impress you and win your heart just as you have won his heart.He wants to date only you. Now, that may not mean that he is totally head over heels for you...BUT it says that he cares enough to get to know you much more and doesn't want to see other women!(take this as a sign ladies.) Do you still need more? 

Here are 3 ways to help you know if he truly does love you:

1. He makes you feel special. This is one of the most important ingredients in any love relationship. There are hundreds of things that the man you're with can do to show you you're the special woman in his life. It may be how he pays attention to your feelings and shows concern for your well being; or his willingness to go out of his way to do something that will make you happy. It's a sense that he has chosen you to be the most important person in his life. Feeling special to a man is just that, a feeling. You either feel it with him or you don't.
2. He doesn't try to change you. This is KEY! So pay attention closely...no man should ever try to change a woman, and vica versa. This doesn't always show up in the early honeymoon phase of a relationship. A man, when he's unsure about his feelings for you, will begin to find things he wants to change about you. But love and judgment can't occupy the same space. Trying to get someone to behave the way you want them to leaves little room for love. If you're not "living up" to his expectations of you then you're not the person he's looking for. He can't change you into the woman he wants and you don't need to be fixed. If a man appreciates the totality of who you are and enjoys finding out more and more about you as time goes by, that's really honest to good true love!
3. He trusts you with his feelings. Without intimacy there is no love. Intimacy is the ability to let someone see that part of you that you don't share with the world. It's one of the primary needs that a strong love relationship fulfills. We all crave having a special someone with whom we can safely share some of our most secret thoughts and feelings. Women are more practiced at this then men and it comes easier to us. But men need a woman they can open up to -- and not be judged as weak or wrong. A man needs to open up to you and share that part of himself that no one else sees, that gives love depth and meaning.

Happy couples are not at all hard to spot...why? Just look at them, it shows in the smiles, their touche, their embrace, and they're body language!

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How Not to Fall Hard for a Guy...

Women tend to do this so often, and most of the time, it tends to backfire on us. This is a little story about how "not" to fall hard for a guy! History says that often us gals find ourselves falling for guys quickly only to get our hearts stomped on like broken glass. When it comes to love, most of us fall into two categories 1) those who don't think they deserve a lot and 2) those who are looking for the "perfect" person who does not exist. In this article, I'd like to talk about those of us who don't think we deserve a lot - and don't feel bad or get discouraged many people really don't feel they deserve a lot when it comes to love. Never, ever, ever allow someone to contribute to a relationship that isn't into you as much as you are into him. If you do it will be a huge mistake!

Women who feel that they don't deserve a lot have a tendency to quickly "fall in love" and as a result are more likely to get their hearts broken over and over. I don't need to tell you that it is because you are being so needy, clingy or pushy, etc. you probably already know that from reading self-help books and Internet articles, but how do you stop yourself  and more importantly how do you avoid men who are incapable of the kind of relationship you really want....My unprofessional advice? Be very careful what you wish for.Yes we deserve a lot. Yes we are entitled to love but NO we shouldn't expect the world to be served to us on a silver platter. It's not going to happen, and that man that comes with it...he's in your la-la land head.

Now, the downside of being a hopeless romantic is that you always fall for guys you barely even know. Your romantic mind builds up a character that is often times so different from the real person. Your romantic mind also thinks that you know exactly how to "spoil" the person so much that he loves you eternally, but most times the more you give, the more he pulls away. And when he tells you "he is not feeling it" you get really confused "Isn't this what men want from a woman?" To those of you who are looking for MR Right with too many needs and wants...chances are gals, he doesn't exist, and if he does you better hang the hell onto him. As much as a hopeless romantic that I am, I still hesitate to throw too much of myself into a relationship of any kind. Yes I believe in taking chances and a risk every now and again, but if he does not meet me in the middle he can kiss this gal goodbye. No more days of 80/20 relationships, I want 50/50 or nothing at all. I always said that if I wanted to go backwards, I could do it real well on my own. I don't need any man to drag me down. So then Mr Romance, where ever you may be,..be good to me and be patient. I am fragile.

 On a blank piece of paper, make a list of 10 PERSONALITY TRAITS that the RIGHT person must absolutely have for you to consider him or her. If a person doesn't have these qualities he will not be right for you. These "qualities" must come from a heartfelt place of inner knowing or intuition. Look at the enduring personality traits you find very attractive in the people closest to you, those who inspire you to want to be a better person: parents, friends, co-workers etc. Look at your list and ask yourself "Would I want to spend the rest of my life with this person?" Can I completely be myself around him? Can I feel completely safe and secure in his arms? Can I argue with him and voice my opinions openly and honestly and still be respected and appreciated?" Hey this is no time to settle. It's all or nothing and you want a relationship where your partner is going to give as much as you do or it will NEVER work!

• Never come on too strong. That will only make your feelings stronger, and the guy's feelings about you weaker.
• Flirting too much with every guy you know is not a good idea. It will just make people think you're a player and don't know how to stick with just one person.
• If he's not interested, just move on. The sooner, the better. Trying to get him to like you back or changing yourself for him will never work.
• Don't ever be too shy around him. Speak up, be yourself. 

Avoid forgetting that guys have their flaws too. Yup, they have flaws and their human too! As amazing as they seem compared to you, everyone has something wrong. Some people just have a much better way of hiding it. They make mistakes, sure they do, but pay close attention to what they are not telling you for it is that which we must worry about. Do not ever let a man control you!

 Find out who he really is. Looks aren't everything. First, befriend him, or at least talk to him and see if he's worth falling for. Good  Lord, get to know him! Does he have many friends? What kind of friends are they? Has he had a girlfriend before? Why/why not? Why didn't it work out? Or does he still have a girlfriend? Is he married? Men, not all, but some, can be ruthless and will find ways of lying through their teeth when they want something. Wake up and smell the coffee. Don't have your tunnel vision on, otherwise you may smack into a brick way. If they are taken, or worse, married...You should definitely back off. This could lead to a horrible situation, there is no winning for you and you deserve so much more!

 Keep your eyes open...I believe in fair game. Hey he is not your boyfriend! You're still allowed to look at other guys too. Soooo please do make sure you have plenty of back-ups. This way, your heart won't be too occupied with just one guy. Unless he wants to agree on you both only seeing one an other, you are fair game sister! As my grandmother always used to say, "never put all of your eggs in one basket"...I thought that this meant investments, and in a sense...isn't love and your heart a BIG investment? Just don't do what many men do and string a variety of them along. One at a time.

 Take it slow ladies.... There's no fire...What's the rush? Don't simply blurt out your feelings for him. Men love the chase...if you lay your cards on the table too quickly, he'll be off looking for a new gal sooner than you can say 'wait where'd you go?' Slowly send out signals that you're interested. Coming on too strong will just freak him out and no one wants a psycho girlfriend. When you meet the right one for you it will be all about fun and laughter. Enjoy life, and take your time...when you do find the right one, he will be well worth the wait.

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Dating Over 40...Just BE YOU!

 When you meet someone for the first time, JUST BE YOU! Dating in today's day and age is not at all what it used to be and quite frankly, it scares me! The 40s and 50s crowd, our generation, is a tough one to figure out. There may be times when you are tempted to be someone you're not, such as "putting on your best face"...but don't.  No, there's nothing wrong with wanting to make a good impression, who wouldn't? However,....my advice (not as a professional but just me) is don't risk it. You do realize that by doing so it is possible to take this too far and in turn repel men?I don't know about you but if it were a good man that I liked, I would not want to risk it. The same applies with myths about dressing sexy or being excessively flirtatious. If you do not respect your body, you will only attract men who have a similar lack of respect for you and your body, and a good man will find it more difficult to take you seriously. Be yourself, and a real man will respect you for who you are and what you desire.

 Release the nerves and get comfy around him! Relax ladies, they want to see our true side not something phony that we some put on to make a grand entrance. This is life, every day with this special man is going to be a grand entrance so make it a show stopper! Men love women with a sense of humor, a great smile and a personality. Gone are the days where they say men look at the size of the breasts and asses...anyone can have those...however, character is something that you cannot buy, you either have it or you don't!

Most guys hate it when girls are possessive, bitchy, clingy, controlling, etc. Learn to relax, and have fun. We all have too much going on in our lives; don't be the high maintenance "drama queen" otherwise his feel will hit the floor and he'll be running like it were a race. Having a woman around who makes life more difficult than enjoyable will make a man lose interest.

Let's face it, with dating in our 40s and 50s we aren't as young as we used to be and we just want to find someone that knocks our socks off. Yes, that can be difficult to find, but get optimistic! he or she is out there waiting for you...so step up your game plan. If you do things like show genuine concern when the man has had a rough day, it will earn his respect and go toward winning him over and a good man will reciprocate. Remember that most men, especially the really good ones, are looking for someone with whom they can be comfortable, compassionate and loving...and not someone who is always intense, the drama mama and down right ruthless.

 Drop the games! Nobody likes a partner who plays "head games". You aren't in your 20s and this is reality. Being shallow and so immature is very recognizable, and it makes you look tacky, not to mention bad....so knock it off. Playing head games are deceptive, and will hurt anybody who trusts you. Be real, don't play! Good men will respect you and may even pursue you. Playing head games will only make good men run away. Remember the communication thing? That is especially true here. If you like a guy, don't push him away and act like you don't like him. Tell him. Yes, there are some men who do like the thrill of the chase, but all good men genuinely want to respect you and your wishes, and will leave you alone if you insist on it. Remember, men communicate directly, if you act like you don't want him, he'll think you don't want him. Oh...and for goodness sakes, I just stated it in the last paragraph, but I'll repeat myself...don't be clingy! (This goes for both sexes, mon and women, no one wants a clinger!)  This means, don't show that you love this person by being near them all the time. We love being with you but we also like our own space as well. There is no need to follow them everywhere they go. Most of all, they need to know that you have your own life!

 Treat him with respect. This is the most important thing of all. Men hate being around a woman who emasculates them, and a good man won't take long to leave such a woman. Don't be afraid to help your man feel good about himself. A little known secret is that men are just as insecure as women. If he's with his friends or family be open to opportunities to let your man look like "the man". It will win his love and respect. 

Respect yourself...When it comes to being intimate, there are many definitions of this but they all come back around to earning the same degree of value.  If you say no, he should stop. If he doesn't stop, you leave. Don't ever be uncomfortable saying no. Don't go against your morals to try to keep a guy. If you feel this is necessary, then either he's not a good man, or he is a good one but simply isn't a good match for you specifically (e. g. he is currently "playing the field" and is up front and honest about it, but you're looking for an exclusive relationship). Don't be uncomfortable saying yes, either. If you feel the time is right, believe in your worth and don't worry that you're "giving yourself away." You respect yourself and you're confident that he'll come back for more! Sad as this is to say, but a man who doesn't respect you in the morning never properly respected you to begin with, and a man who doesn't respect your wishes to wait is too impatient to make a good partner. Either way, find someone else. he is bad news!

You deserve the best that life has to offer,  and a man who is willing to wait so leave no stone unturned while searching for your prince. Happiness...isn't that all the only thing that matters?

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4 Musts that a Man "MUST HAVE!"

Waylon Jennings sang once a long time ago..."Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places"... That song, and those words certainly spiked some pretty intense conversations and made me do some personal and serious thinking. Is finding the right partner a key ingredient in your recipe for a happy life? Good God, you bet it is, but you won't find him in a bar hovering over a jukebox machine playing some mush music about drunken nights and barmaids. You'll find him when and where you least expect it, and when you aren't looking for love. There are a lot of things that we look for in a man, BUT there are 4 must haves to make him the man for me, and probably for a lot of you...

 My grandmother who was also my best friend used to say to me; "Michele, find a good man and having a wonderful true relationship is like making the perfect casserole dish. You need all the right ingredients!" She was certainly a very smart woman indeed. No I am not comparing casseroles to relationships but in a sense, you do get what I am saying don't you? Building a solid relationship starts at the ground level, casseroles start at the bottom of the baking dish with all the finest ingredients and from there you build it...but if that isn't level, and you don't have a solid foundation, like a casserole, your relationship will crumble.

While the search can seem elusive, it gets much easier if you learn to focus on the qualities that are fundamental to forging healthy and positive relationships: character, background, personality, and chemistry. These are all things that are clearly important to me, and they should be important to you as well.

 

Character- this is a MUST HAVE or do not pass go and do not collect your $200! Your character defines WHO YOU ARE!

1. Assess their availability. For a loving relationship, both parties must be available for love. If one of you is already involved with another person, you're already off to a difficult start! Circumstances may change with time or you may need to look elsewhere.

2. Establish trust. Trust is basic to any stable relationship. You deserve a relationship that enhances your peace of mind, rather than creating new anxieties.

3. Look at how they manage conflicts. It's okay to disagree as long as you respect each other's positions. Arguments can even bring you closer together when you both aim for solutions that satisfy both parties rather than seeking victory.

Background- Pay close attention here folks, you can learn much about ones past by viewing them and how they act in the present with friends, family and coworkers. Watch out for the 'Slick Willies' that try to feed you a line of shit a mile long and then thing that you're buying it. Wake up boys, do we look like we were born yesterday? I want the whole scoop, not just the bits and pieces.

1. Resolve past issues. Regardless of what hardships a person has faced, focus on what they did to overcome adversity and challenges.

2. Discuss previous relationships. People have different comfort levels when it comes to talking about past lovers. Still, it's important to be aware of any patterns and know how to manage them.

3. Learn from each other's family history. Our family experiences often have a profound influence in shaping our lives and our reactions to new events. For example, knowing how your potential partner felt about their parent's divorce might help you understand them better.

4. Find common ground on money matters. Mingling finances is a big step. Get a sense of how compatible you are when it comes to making decisions about spending and saving.

• Many successful couples have different perspectives on economics, but they make it work by balancing each other's strengths and weaknesses. This is a wonderful key note to speak of. Meeting in the middle makes all the difference, so try it, why don't you. Stubborn? Come down off your high horse.

5. Know each other's expectations about parenting. Parenting is one issue where it's very difficult to make compromises. Before making a commitment, clarify whether you're on the same page with wanting a big family or a family of two.

Personality- If you don't have one there is nothing I can do for you. You've either got it or you don't,...and I do, so some man is going to be lucky as shit to end up with me!I hope to find a man who is loving and has the same traits that I do, including my superpower of sarcasm at times.

1. Communicate. Constructive communication is the lifeline for any alliance. Communication skills can be improved with practice, but it's helpful to know each other's habits.

2. Have fun together. After all, you're looking for someone whose company you'll enjoy. If your girlfriend makes you laugh even during tax season, this is a good sign that you may have a future together.

3. Share common interests. Liking the same things will also help you feel more connected. Whether you love film festivals or camping, you can create meaningful experiences and happy memories that you both will treasure.

Chemistry- This is a must for most people, but I say don't push it right away, sometimes things need to be nurtured a little bit, maybe he's shy and the sparks may come a bit later, don't fret if it isn't there right away. Sometimes we're so nervous that we really can't be our true self! Don't try too hard, just be you!Now then, once you do determine that there is some chemistry...sweetheart...don't sweat the small stuff. Give it a few dates to see...love doesn't strike us all dead at first glance. It evolves like a romance novel into something wonderful where new memories are formed. If you are reading this now and laughing wondering "what did she eat for breakfast because she is on crack!?" I'm perfectly fine, anyone can be taken far far away if they click their heels together 3 times!

1. Let the sparks fly. Physical attraction is one of the greatest joys in life. As long as all the other elements for a healthy relationship are in place, it's wonderful to find a mate who makes your heart race, flutter and skip a beat.

2. Stay healthy. If your partner leads a healthy lifestyle, you may be more likely to preserve that initial attraction. You might even be rewarded with having more years to spend together.

3. Take a balanced view of romance. It's great to keep romance alive so long as it's free from illusions. Passions will fluctuate over time, but your sense of commitment and affection can keep on growing through the years. It it changing. That is what so many couples don't  do and after a while they just become Mr and Mrs Boring.Keep it alive folks! Life is good!

A life partner is a precious gift. We all appreciate feeling validated and having someone to share our happiness. Knowing what to look for pays off when you're looking for love in all the right places, but do we know where those places are? It is still a mystery. Listen, I won't settle for just anyone. He is really going to have to knock my socks off! Does your fella do that for you?

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Is Your Bedroom Rockin?

Tell me something....Is your appetite for sex as strong as it was a month ago, or a year ago? If not why is that? Are you getting what you want or does it feel like something is missing? Sure, you and your partner make love regularly but are you really satisfied with what you do together? If your answer is "Yes, I am perfectly content with my sex life," then that's awesome! But if your answer is closer to "Umm... well..." then perhaps it's time for a change. Here are some tips for getting what you want in your sex life.You don't have to pull teeth to get these things, but you do have to communicate and as Madonna once sang "Express Yourself!" 

Know what you want

This sounds painfully obvious, but it's not as simple as you may think. There are numerous reasons why it can be hard to answer the question, What do I want? Some people shut down their desires because they feel funny about them. Others have a very limited knowledge of the countless ways that humans can express themselves sexually. Many individuals don't understand their bodies very well.

Understanding what you want requires being open to your most personal thoughts and feelings. There is no need to be judgmental about desire. What do you fantasize about, either during lovemaking or when you're alone? Fantasies are often crazy and unrealistic, but there may be elements that could easily be acted out in the bedroom. If you believe that you are lacking in sexual knowledge, then give yourself permission to learn more through reading books, watching movies, or surfing the web. Maybe you should role play?

Ask for what you want

Now that you have a good idea of what you want, share it with your partner. Try to frame your request in a positive way. Don't complain about how dissatisfied you are with the status quo. Instead, talk about how much you love your private time together and how it exciting it would be if he or she did a certain thing. If he or she seems unwilling to consider your request, then you need to find out why. Once you understand your partner's hesitation, you may be able to come up with a compromise that would be rewarding for both of you.

Give your partner what he or she wants

If you're getting what you want, it's only fair that your partner gets what he or she wants, right? Ummm YES! A sexual relationship should be mutually satisfying or it will hit the rocks pretty quickly. Give your partner an opportunity to talk about his or her own desires and do your best to fulfill them. Ladies, don't withhold sex as a punishment. This is not a game, and the poor guy doesn't want to experience blue balls night after night because you are angry or hormonal. If something is bugging you, fix the real problem instead of letting your resentment spill over into the bedroom. And gentlemen, you need to understand that pleasing and fully satisfying your partner is the most effective way of getting more sex. 

It's that simple. You really can get what you want, sexually speaking - or at least a big portion of it. Use these tips as a guide to curing dissatisfaction in the bedroom. When you understand your own desires, are able to verbalize them, and are willing to cater to your partner's desires, the end result can only be a more spectacular love life. Spice it up and keep the fire burning in the bedroom! Your bedroom should be rockin',...or has the sizzle died?

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3 Ways to Screw Up at Making Up

All of us know that we say things that we  really don't mean sometimes and that we do stupid things that we really shouldn't have done at one time or another to upset our partner. What are the big mistakes that we make and how can we fix them without causing a lot of damage to a relationship? Well, it's quite easy to find advice columns and how-to guides that will give you a few hints about getting back together with an ex boyfriend/lover. This time, though, I think we'll approach the subject from a different angle. Instead of telling you what to do, we’re going to look at three things you should avoid at all costs! Any I do mean ALL COSTS!

These common errors leave countless relationships for dead on the rocky shores of a break up. These are the kind of mistakes that ruin the opportunity to revive and maintain relationships that might have flowered into something amazing. In other words, they’re huge errors and you should bed over backwards to avoid committing them...so can I get a drum roll please?

Mistake Number One.

Waiting for him to make the first move. While you’re waiting for him, he might be waiting for you. Until someone blinks, the relationship doesn’t get out of break up territory. Besides, every day wasted on waiting is another day of unnecessary suffering. Swallow your fears and make a move as soon as possible.That's right, be the bigger person and do the right thing. It's OK to say "I'm Sorry" first. There are no set rules as to who says what first. Your odds improve with fast action and delays risk intervening developments that can greatly complicate any effort at getting back together.

Mistake Number Two.

Don’t listen to the bad advice. Hey, we all know someone who knows someone who tells a story and says you should do what "they did..." BUT, you aren't them and your relationship might be a totally different kind of relationship than someone else's. Everywhere you turn, people are offering you advice on how to handle your break up. Guess what? Most of the advice you/re getting is nonsense. It may be well-intended, but the attitudes of your friends and family members bear very little similarity to the ideas and recommendations of a true relationship expert. Following bad advice can nearly crush an effort at making up. Be wary of friendly guidance. Listen politely, but take your action cues from someone who has spent a considerable amount of time and research on the subject. My advice, and it's not professional...it's me telling you not to be a schmuck....follow your heart. 

Mistake Number Three.

Don’t get on the high wire without a net. It's a long fall and a drop that you certainly do not want to take. In other words, you need to enter the making up process with a clear plan in mind. If you’re going in blind, basing your actions on hunches and your opinions, you probably aren’t going to get very far.

Now, on the other hand, getting your ex boyfriend back can be surprisingly easy if you’re armed with the right information and knowledge before making a move. It only makes sense. If you have a problem with your keys, you look to a locksmith for help. If you’re car won’t run right you call a mechanic. If you are having a problem with your relationship, you should call on the advice of a relationship guru who can give you good advice about getting your man back. Friends and family mean well, however often they are way to close to the situation and you want to keep them out of it. 

If you can eliminate these common errors, you stand a good chance of getting your boyfriend back. If, on the other hand, you stumble into one of these pitfalls your efforts to rebuild the relationship will be significantly compromised. Act now, act smart and put your fears on the back burner. Having those fundamentals in place may take you from breaking up to making up in quick order...and we all love the making up part....don't we?

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Why is Finding A Partner So Difficult?

Why is life so difficult and why is finding the right partner like pulling teeth? Where do we go for  the right answers to so many questions? Sometimes I'm not the easiest person to get along with but I have qualities that any man (or so you would think) would love, honor and appreciate. So many woman like myself feel that time after time they are beating their heads against a wall trying to figure men out. Why is it that it's OK when they do something but not us? Why is it that they should be forgiven yet not us, and why is it that they shouldn't be held accountable for their actions, and by this it also includes things that they say in times in which they might be shall we say,... less coherent or alcoholically challenged/under the influence? Why can men beat up on woman with no remorse? Is it acceptable? Stabbing a woman in the back is just as bad as slapping her in the face. Your actions hurt people. Are you aware of this? My guess is, absolutely not! Why do people overlook situations like these and so many others?

Lets face the facts...dating and marriage is a whole lot different than it was twenty some years ago. In today’s society, more than 50% of all marriages fail for one reason or another. Just thinking about that makes “commitment” seem scary doesn't it? It seems that when relationships are faced with challenges, people quit trying. Why do people give up so easily? Is it because they are looking for perfection, they have bad habits, they like doing things that you don't like to do so you feel it will hurt your relationship in the long run, or because they worry that their family members won't accept them? 

These days, dating is more like a marathon, not simply trying to date as many people as possible in the shortest amount of time. I ask myself, is it really worth it? It's bad enough that we get stabbed int the back by our own family members but now we have to worry about the whole "he said she said mumble jumble crap!" It makes you tired doesn't it? Do you want to be alone for the rest of your life or are you ready to say, "hey, I care about you." Words should be chosen wisely, and quite carefully. Never ever ever say that you love someone whether you are sober or complete opposite, crocked off your rocker because your actions have an adverse affect on people and what you just said (in a drunken moment of passion) can ruin a really good relationship that was for so long built on a childhood friendship. Is it really worth it? No. Do people have regrets? I believe that they do, sure they do. Do we all make mistakes? Sure we do...then have the balls to stand up and admit that you were wrong (if you were) and make things right. It's time to be the bigger person and say "Hey, I'm sorry!"

Take the time to get to know someone at a deeper level. The fact is that relationships, whether dating or married, are hard. Things do not always go perfectly, fighting does occur, and it takes a 100% commitment from both parties to make it a success. Often when people break off a relationship, they feel as though something is missing. The “spark” has gone, leaving one or both people feeling inadequate and unfulfilled, or maybe there is a spark missing. Guess what folks, you'll never find that one true person that has everything you want and if you think that you will find Mr. or Ms Perfection, I'd love to hear about it because it rarely happens. 

Stop picking someone apart that you are 75% compatible with and learn to do the things that he or she likes to do that consume the other 25% of the relationship/friendship. Relationships are after all about compromise. Unless you want to be alone forever, you need to lighten up and enjoy life. You have to learn how to open up, trust this person and share a little piece of your heart with them because only then will you experience true happiness.

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Are You Sabotaging Your Relationship?

Do you feel sometimes that the relationships you've been in were like sinking ships? Let's talk about why we don't like to admit that we are alone and cannot find love? Let talk about how sometimes we tend to make the same mistakes in relationships over and over and over. I'm sure that you are familiar with that saying; "It's not you, it's me" is all wrong because you know that it is you! Are we sabotaging our hopes of a good strong relationship because we don't want to waste our time getting involved, or because we are being knit-picky and want someone who is without fault? How can we find someone without fault when we have plenty of our own?

When you can dig deep to find these answers, you may then be able to discover why it is that you are not in a solid relationship now. How difficult is it to sit with a group of your friends and hear their stories and experiences that are taking place in their relationships - especially if you’re flying solo? It will make you look at your life and wonder just how it is that you’re still single while all of your friends your age are married or at least in serious relationships. You start to feel down, frustrated and wonder if you’ll ever have what they do?

How do you feel inside when these situations happen? There are actually fears that can keep you single and you may not even know that you have them.You may be afraid that you will be single forever. This is something that many single people fear whether they admit it or not. It usually happens when you’ve had a few, or more than a few, unpleasant or seriously awful relationships, especially in a row. Somewhere in the back of your mind you’re thinking that you may NEVER have that just right relationship. This can really worry you if it’s later in your life. So, you see, holding onto this fear that you’ll never meet the Mr. Right may very well push him away when he DOES show up. I'm not a professional, but try this sometime; "let your guard down!"

Another fear that can keep you single is the fear of losing your man. Most people are on their best behavior when they first meet. However, there are some guys that act creepy right out of the gate by assuming too much about where your relationship is going. They may even start getting possessive and/or controlling. This should big your BIG RED FLAG! Women that exhibit this same type of behavior with men after only a few dates will scare those men away. So when you start worrying about losing the guy before you ever really connect with him, it can make you act in ways that, while totally uncharacteristic of you, can cause the end of this relationship before it even starts. Take it slow and get your feet wet...take baby steps and look for the one that suits you well for all of the right reasons.

One of the top fears that might keep you single forever is that he will turn out to be just like your ex. Oh how true is this? Yet, on the contrary, I would look for a man that was nothing at all like my ex-husband was in fear of replaying life as it was. Do you fear this? If so, it is pretty easy to understand. If your last relationship ended badly, you need to take enough time to get emotionally under control again. When you give it enough time, and you take it slow and discover your true emotions, your next man will get a fair chance without you comparing him to your ex. Breaking the emotional ties to your past, and the fear associated with it, helps you move away from the past without taking any old problems or patterns into the new relationship you’re trying to get off the ground, otherwise, you'll find yourself as Gilbert O'Sullivan once sang..."Alone Again, Naturally!"

Stop nagging, complaining, and second guessing your partner/mate. Are you tired of getting dumped? If you find yourself in one disastrous relationship after another, it could be a pattern. Here's how to identify and break the loop...Get to the root of the true issues!



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