All of us know that we say things that we really don't mean sometimes and that we do stupid things that we really shouldn't have done at one time or another to upset our partner. What are the big mistakes that we make and how can we fix them without causing a lot of damage to a relationship? Well, it's quite easy to find advice columns and how-to guides that will give you a few hints about getting back together with an ex boyfriend/lover. This time, though, I think we'll approach the subject from a different angle. Instead of telling you what to do, we’re going to look at three things you should avoid at all costs! Any I do mean ALL COSTS!
These common errors leave countless relationships for dead on the rocky shores of a break up. These are the kind of mistakes that ruin the opportunity to revive and maintain relationships that might have flowered into something amazing. In other words, they’re huge errors and you should bed over backwards to avoid committing them...so can I get a drum roll please?
Mistake Number One.
Waiting for him to make the first move. While you’re waiting for him, he might be waiting for you. Until someone blinks, the relationship doesn’t get out of break up territory. Besides, every day wasted on waiting is another day of unnecessary suffering. Swallow your fears and make a move as soon as possible.That's right, be the bigger person and do the right thing. It's OK to say "I'm Sorry" first. There are no set rules as to who says what first. Your odds improve with fast action and delays risk intervening developments that can greatly complicate any effort at getting back together.
Mistake Number Two.
Don’t listen to the bad advice. Hey, we all know someone who knows someone who tells a story and says you should do what "they did..." BUT, you aren't them and your relationship might be a totally different kind of relationship than someone else's. Everywhere you turn, people are offering you advice on how to handle your break up. Guess what? Most of the advice you/re getting is nonsense. It may be well-intended, but the attitudes of your friends and family members bear very little similarity to the ideas and recommendations of a true relationship expert. Following bad advice can nearly crush an effort at making up. Be wary of friendly guidance. Listen politely, but take your action cues from someone who has spent a considerable amount of time and research on the subject. My advice, and it's not professional...it's me telling you not to be a schmuck....follow your heart.
Mistake Number Three.
Don’t get on the high wire without a net. It's a long fall and a drop that you certainly do not want to take. In other words, you need to enter the making up process with a clear plan in mind. If you’re going in blind, basing your actions on hunches and your opinions, you probably aren’t going to get very far.
Now, on the other hand, getting your ex boyfriend back can be surprisingly easy if you’re armed with the right information and knowledge before making a move. It only makes sense. If you have a problem with your keys, you look to a locksmith for help. If you’re car won’t run right you call a mechanic. If you are having a problem with your relationship, you should call on the advice of a relationship guru who can give you good advice about getting your man back. Friends and family mean well, however often they are way to close to the situation and you want to keep them out of it.
If you can eliminate these common errors, you stand a good chance of getting your boyfriend back. If, on the other hand, you stumble into one of these pitfalls your efforts to rebuild the relationship will be significantly compromised. Act now, act smart and put your fears on the back burner. Having those fundamentals in place may take you from breaking up to making up in quick order...and we all love the making up part....don't we?
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