Life, Love and Longevity...

I preach to the choir day in and day out about life, love, and longevity. Life is simple, you get out of it what you put into it. Love is meeting that one person that turns your heart inside out and upside down, that one person that you've waited for knowing that when they walked into your life, full view, their smile, twinkle in their eye or laughter was all you would ever need and then what I consider to be most important...Longevity. This is crucial for me because I don't want to just meet a man who wants to date casually, at this stage of my life it would be my request to meet someone who is looking long term, someone to share a future with. With these three there is one more ingredient that needs to be added to this casserole of life and that is compatibility. I think that this is a bigger issue than the chemistry.

Yes my friends, compatibility is the foundation of a good relationship. If you don’t have things in common and if your ideas about what the future  don’t really seem to match, you’re going to have problems keeping a relationship going and long term is about to fizzle fast. I find that it is so important to date someone that you’re compatible with. No, they  don’t have to love everything that you love or vice versa, but the two of you do need to have common interests and goals. Is this what I really think? You bet your britches it is. At my age, pushing my later 40s I want the whole enchalada!

Remember, You have to know yourself before you can embark on any serious dating, so please, think long and hard before jumping into something quickly! Think about what’s important to you first and foremost. There isn't just one set of feelings at risk here, there are two.

 Do those things have to be important to her/him? Which ones? Think about what you want for your future. Kids? A farm in the country? A busy social life that includes parties every weekend?A beach house? Mountain climbing, parachuting, marathons? Do you want someone who’s a neat freak or a relaxed housekeeper (so that they won’t gripe at you about the socks you left on the bedroom floor or the milk carton that you left with only drops in it in the fridge)? Are you a coach potato? A thrill-seeker? What if your job requires you to travel a lot – you need someone who will be okay with that, right?Or someone who loves to travel just as much as you do!

All of these questions and others that are similar are important when you’re looking for a man/woman. No you don't need to find your clone, but it’s best if you agree on the fundamentals, and you definitely have to agree on the deal-breakers. Here's a hot subject; Thinking that he or she will change their mind after you’re together for awhile is a really big bad risk, so if she/he isn’t on the same wavelength as you when it comes to the things you consider to be high on your list of life’s priorities, you need to think really LONG and HARD...and I mean really ponder this one!

For example; If a woman is smart (and you’re dating nice, smart women) she'll also have her own priorities in order and will be upfront with you when the time comes. If you fall in love with someone who doesn’t share your wants and must-haves, ask yourself if there will be a way to compromise so that you’re both happy? My guess is probably not. Sooo, if not, you’re better off just letting the relationship go and finding someone who’s a much better fit. We raise our children not to settle, and this is your life – so why should you settle?

With the thousands of available partners/mates that live within your geographical area, and millions outside of it, you’re sure to find several who want the same things in life that you want - whether it’s kids, a horse farm, or to sail around the world, live on a boat or just grow old with holding hands on the beach and eating peanut butter and jelly sandwiches together, enjoy that as you have a precious gift called love, and respect. As you date and get to know your mate, you’ll find out more about them and your potential for long-term compatibility. Now is not the time to be vulnerable. Stand firm and search for that one man/woman that sets your heart on fire. That one person that makes you feel like you were 16 again and that one person that will become your friend, lover and life time partner for many years to come....when you find that, your happiness (this person)will then be your true destiny.

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