Let's Talk About Sex Baby...

Most of us find it easy to chat about the latest celebrity scandal or complain about who was crowned winner on last nights on American Idol. It appears that life in general is quite easy to talk about, so why then is SEX like a foreign object or topic of discussion? When it comes to the things that really matter, we often get tongue-tied and shy. Step outside of the box for a minute and let's talk about sex, shall we? Yeah, not so much huh? Many couples rarely or never discuss their sex life with each other. OK, here's a goofy question,why? That's a shame, because open communication about this topic offers a lot of advantages. Here are three reasons why talking about sex is important in a relationship. As George Michael once sang..."Let's Talk About Sex" baby...let's talk about 'you and me!" Wow...so for goodness sakes, let's talk already! Why keep this one under wraps...you can learn so much more about one another if you just express yourself!

It's a good way to get what you want

First of all, be very verbal. Yes clear communication is the most direct route to getting what you want in the bedroom. It's also the best way to learn exactly what your partner would like from you. Some people make the mistake of assuming they already know what their partner likes and needs. No matter how well you believe you know someone, he or she still has an inner life that is hidden from you until it's shared in words.

If you think about it, you'll realize that what individuals desire can - and will - change over time. It's true in all parts of life, and it's true with respect to sexual expression. If you and your lover have a certain lovemaking routine, how will either of you know that you want something a little different unless you speak up? 

It helps to clarify misunderstandings

Conversation is also the best way to clear up any misunderstandings that can crop up whenever two people interact. For example, you may be trying a new technique on your partner and suddenly she gets very quiet. You're a bit confused about what that means. Does she like what you're doing? Does she hate what you're doing? You might forget about it in the passion of the moment, but later you remember and you're still wondering. Now, if you are comfortable talking about sex, you can ask your partner what was going on at that moment.

If you're willing and able to discuss sex with your partner, you can also give effective feedback. For example, you can say to your partner "remember when you were touching me in that certain way - wow, I loved it - you should do that again!" This type of praise and feedback is immensely gratifying for anyone to hear. And mentioning the precise thing you enjoyed is a sure-fire way of making it happen again. 

It's fun

Yes, conversation about sex can really be a lot of fun! Pull out the fantasy costumes while your at it. We sell them at www.SimplyDeliciousLingerie.com  and they are flirty and fun! Once you get past your initial nervousness, you and your partner can have some very interesting and thought-provoking discussions. Merely talking about sex can be a huge turn-on. Why not use this fact to your advantage? Entice your partner by putting into words the new sensual activity you'd like to try. Or describe in vivid detail the pleasurable things you are going to do to him or her when you are finally alone together.

Good communication is essential if a couple wants to have a happy and satisfying love life. Although it may be scary to break the ice, you'll quickly discover the benefits of discussing sex openly and directly with your partner. By sharing your erotic thoughts, ideas, and wishes, the two of you will develop a greater level of intimacy that will have rewards even outside the bedroom. 

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