Hey guys, let's say you meet this super fabulous woman and you want to get to know her better, in fact, you really want her to like you. What do you do? How do you get her attention without making a total idiot of yourself? Don't go over the top. That only spooks a woman out. Take it real slow. Knowing how to approach her is the first step, and the second step is know what to say or not to say!
One thing leads to another. Listen up...if you think you're going to get in her britches that quickly you need to forget it. Not so fast hot shot. What you want to do is you think about getting to know her first at her pace and then possibly down the road perhaps getting intimate with her. If you start it off all wrong then the walls come crashing down on you because you put your big fat foot in your mouth. Don't be afraid to speak, just know what to say and how to say it. Here are the don't topics that I suggest paying close attention to:
1. Do not consider yourself as unattractive.
If you feel that you are not attractive then there is no way in which you can make the woman find you attractive. This type of thinking will influence your body language and the way you think. You want to shine and make her think you're all that and a bag of chips so giddy up! Take some care over your appearance so that you feel at your best, and start telling yourself that you are attractive.
2. For goodness sakes, try not to bore her!
There are times when men tend to bore women without even realizing that they are doing that. Never talk about your work, sports or weather when you are with a lady, unless you know that she is truly interested in the subject.Oh and NEVER EVER EVER talk about other women you like or that you've dated in the past. Woman gets pissed, red flag, game over!
3. Do not YAP too much.
If you talk constantly, you can make the lady turn her back on you. Trust me, I am the ice princess of this and I earn the nickname by friends for doing just that. If you yap too much she will either think that you are babbling because of nervousness, or if not, she will find you quite boring. Try to get her talking too. Even when the woman is shy you can do this. By doing so, it helps her to feel relaxed and in return you'll find out what she is really interested in.
4. Never ask too many questions.
I know it is weird when you are with a woman and have nothing to talk about. However, this does not mean that you have to keep asking her questions after questions. Asking a few questions can make a conversation interesting but asking too many questions will make the lady want to run away from you. Instead of interrogating her, pick up on hints in what she says, that show you when she has some real feeling about something.
A good way to do this is to repeat something she has said back to her in a questioning tone of voice. This will encourage her to say more but it comes across as interest rather than another question. You are building trust by creating connections and letting her see similarities, things that the two of you share.
With this technique you must only repeat actual words that she said. If you say “What kind of comedies?” then that is another question and she may feel she is being interrogated.
5. Avoid Yes / No Questions.
Avoid questions that can have Yes or No as the answer, e.g. “Do you like travel?” This can kill the conversation. Ask open ended questions that will grab her attention and make her want to really elaborate on her response.
6. Do not treat a woman as a prize.
A woman does not like the idea of being a prize or a possession. She will not be attracted to you if she thinks you are showing off that you are with her, or if she suspects that you will boast about your conquest of her to your friends.She is no trophy or arm candy. She wants to be treated with respect...got it?
7. Try to interpret her body language.
Many men do not think that it is necessary to read the body language of the women that they are interested in. As Julia Roberts quoted in Pretty Woman "Big Mistake, HUGE!" Body language us what you need to learn how to read. A woman often speaks through her body movements. By reading her body language you will have some idea about whether she is interested in you. If she is then you can carry out your seduction plan and if she isn’t then there are a lot of other fishes in the sea.
8. Flirting...Could this be the answer?
Well yeah! How will a woman know that you are interested in her if you do not give her a sign? Give her a sign already!! When you flirt with her, you indirectly let her know about your intention. It's as simple as that! You've just made the first move and taken the first baby step towards getting to know her.
9. Be CONFIDENT!!!
Women simply cannot resist men who are confident. Its a turn on actually...so kick it up a notch fellas! Do not be afraid to approach a woman because of fear of rejection. There are always risks in life and if you do not take the risk then you cannot reap the benefits.
10. Make this woman feel good!
If you want to attract and seduce a lady then it is very important to make her feel good in your presence. If she feels happy when she is with you then it will not take a long time to attract her. Do this with respect though, because if she has the slightest feeling that you are trying to be slick willy and lay the moves on her took quickly, you'll get the boot and to the curb you'll go! Try the "Meet and Greet" approach. It works. Just be yourself!
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