Why We're Afraid of Men

Although not many would tell you this nonetheless, one of the biggest issues that a guy has to deal with when trying to date or seduce women is getting around the fact that most women are afraid of men. Instead of waiting for a quality date with someone they want to go out with, many women opt for these easy fixes of ‘flower potting’ themselves into dates. What does this mean? They settle when they shouldn't and then they kick themselves later. Did you know that 5 times out of 10 a women say yes to the first man that really pays attention to them and get lost in the lust and excitement of a new relationship without really knowing what they want. That's more than half...but the other half says a flat out NO WAY! Men hate it when women reject them. There’s nothing worse than having your ego smashed to little pieces when the woman of your dreams turns you down for a date. You really thought she was interested, but somehow you must have misread her signals.

 Women who’ve been single for awhile may come down on themselves, thinking their standards are too high. Our standards should be very high and if yours aren't you need to make some changes gals!  A woman rejects you when she stops by to abuse you or say something that makes you feel that she did not like you approaching her. Most women choose not to stop and usually end it by saying ‘No Thanks.’ Sometimes women are not in the right mood.

Women tend to be sensitive, compassionate people. They care about emotions, so they empathize with the pain of rejection and don’t want to cause a guy pain. It is not the kind of fear that will cause her to run screaming from the room, but it is no less of a hindrance for that. It is a lack of trust or general wariness that will make her hesitate when you ask for her number, or pay her a compliment. It leads her to read all kinds of things into the simplest statement. 

Of course this is partly because of the small number of men who could be rapists or killers, but women know that this is only a tiny minority of men and they will not suspect most men they meet of this. The worst thing you can do is say, 'I'm not a rapist', as this will immediately bring the possibility into her mind and make it harder for her to argue with the parental voice in her head that is telling her not to trust men.

Most times however the difficulty is getting past her belief that most men will take advantage of girls, abandon them after sex and hurt them emotionally. A lot of mothers tell their daughters that all men are like this at heart. So not true. However, with the number of divorces that are around, society often confirms this belief for the growing girl. So while they do want to be seduced, most women are wary of a seducer who doesn't want a relationship. This can be a problem if your aim is to seduce and move quickly on to the next, especially if you are known for that.

What you must appeal to in this situation is a woman's love of a challenge. Even if she knows you are the worst guy in town, it is always possible that she is the one woman in the world who will be able to tame you, and after all, men do want to be tamed on the contrary to what they will lead us to believe. You can use this to your advantage. Consider how many women are attracted to gay men and try to seduce them in the hope that they will 'turn straight'. It's the same kind of challenge: she wants to prove that she is so special, she can change a man's very nature.

Another advantage that you have ladies is that most men do not understand why women should be afraid of them and so they have no strategy against it. If they become aware that a woman does not trust them, they will either make the mistake of trying to tackle it head on by saying something like 'I'm not a rapist', or they will think there is something wrong with the woman and try to make her feel bad about herself. This is another big mistake that will make the situation much worse. My non-professional advice is this; the better you understand women, the better you will be able to work around their defenses.

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