One of the reasons we often feel so overwhelmed and disorganized is because we are trying desperately to do everything ourselves. I did it for years. No I didn't have to...but there are times when we all feel that we need to do it ourselves. Remember that saying "If you want something done right, do it yourself?" That was me. Never happy with anything, always has to do it my way. I learned something from that. It burned me out and I should have asked for help, but nooo I needed to do it solo. What I have learned over the years is this; if someone offers to help you unclutter or get your place organized, for goodness sakes, take it! Our lives are much busier than they have ever been, and we keep trying to cram more and more activities and obligations into our schedule. We feel like Yo-Yo's. We do it all, but hey, don't!
Help is there right around the corner. Just ask, and if that doesn't work make demands. If you are a wife and your husband finds something to do whenever cleaning or housework needs to be done, find a way to create a diversion so that he has to help you. No man like the old 'honey do list!' Need an example? Here is mine; a few years back we ordered 15 yards of bark mulch for our house. The landscaping was beautiful and every year we laid down new bark. 3 other neighbors in our cul-de-sac went in on this so that we all didn't have to pay the same delivery fee. Every year it got dumped in our driveway and it would sit for days. Then I decided to have it dumped right under the fiberglass basketball hoop in our driveway where all the husbands plays b-ball and drank beers afterward. Let me tell you this...I've never seen 4 grown men move so fast in my life to get this bark in it's new home! Rome wasn't built over night, so don't expect everything to get done ASAP. Prepare ahead, ask for a little assistance and make a plan.
Don't take on the world of organization alone. As a result, we either end up feeling so stressed that our bodies begin to suffer the consequences with stress-induced illnesses, or we end up forgetting things and losing control of everything we’re supposed to be doing. Whether it's your closet, garage, basement or your office, delegate responsibility!
In order to better organize your life, you may have to admit that you cannot do everything yourself. I know that this may be difficult, but admit it. Why do all the work yourself? No matter how competent you may be, if you are struggling to keep up with your daily demands, you are trying to take on too much!
We all have a common desire to feel in control of our lives. The problem arises when we take that need for control to an extreme. No longer are we satisfied to feel in control of the general direction of our lives, we also want to feel in control of every tiny aspect of our lives, from household chores to errands to work duties and family connections – and beyond! We operate under the belief that if we want something to be done right we have to do it ourselves. We don’t trust that anyone else is capable enough or knowledgeable enough to do what we do.
Have you ever uttered a statement like this? “It would take me more time to teach someone else how to do this; I may as well do it myself, it’s quicker that way.”
As a result, you end up carrying 95% of the workload, both at home and at work. While it’s true that you may have to invest a certain amount of time in training an assistant or teaching your family how to do specific household chores, you will SAVE a lot of time later by investing the time up front.
What it comes down to is your willingness to release control of these chores and activities. If you REALLY want to free up some time and better organize your life, you will see the benefit in allowing others to help.
If you are ready to let go of the need to do everything yourself, try these 3 quick tips on delegation to get you started:
First, make a list of all the things you do on a daily, weekly and monthly basis. Include everything from work duties to household chores to errands and family commitments. As the list grows, you will likely feel appalled by the magnitude of everything you have taken onto your shoulders. Acknowledge that you do NOT have to do all that yourself, and identify the things that others could do just as easily.
Second, ask yourself who can take over some of these tasks. Who would be the most logical choice? You can involve family members, friends, or even hire an errand service, housekeeper, personal shopper, or assistant for your business.
Finally – and most important, LET GO! If you struggle with a sense of perfectionism, it will be difficult for you to allow others to do something you feel you can do better or quicker or more efficiently. You will need to remind yourself that not everything has to be perfect. If you focus on the benefits you are gaining from turning over some responsibilities to others, you will make the process much more comfortable.
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