en·vy (en-ve)
definition n. pl. en·vies
1.
a. A feeling of discontent and resentment aroused by and in conjunction with desire for the possessions or qualities of another.
b. The object of such feeling:
2. Obsolete Malevolence.
tr.v. en·vied, en·vy·ing, en·vies
1. To feel envy toward.
2. To regard with envy.
DEFINING ENVY
Envy is the desire for another’s traits, status, abilities, station, or worldly goods. It need not be associated with an object; its salient characteristic is the unfavorable comparison of one’s own status with that of another.
We envy people of all categories....some of us want to be a prince or a princess. Some an actor or actress. It's knowing that we are, or that we have something so extraordinary that enlightens us and makes us feel more special. It's like that phrase; "Keeping up with the Jones." People want what others have, and for some it will continue to eat away at them until they find a way to get it. Why, why, why do you even care? Perhaps it ranks us higher in the "status quo" Don't get caught up in this trap!
People can be envious of many things; we can be envious because your coworker got a raise/promotion and we were passed by. Imagine that your best friend is in a healthy relationship and you couldn't find a good man let alone love if your life depended on it.... Think about why all of this is? It's not competition with your siblings, friends, coworkers etc., It's not a rivalry, and you're certainly not going to win the grand prize for beating them to the finish line....
Does this mean in all fairness that you wouldn't be happy if your best friend bought a new boat, a luxury car or decided to build a new dream house? Being envious isn't the answer, it's immature and it certainly will show a lack of pride and confidence within yourself! If you aren't happy with your own life, change it. I say this over and over throughout my articles,...and there is no easier way to say it. It will only make you feel miserable! I know this feeling all too well. I wasn't an envious woman but I had friends, neighbors, coworkers and even family members who were. I always thought to myself ...."If they put as much time into trying to establish a solid relationship with someone, or worked harder to get that promotion, or clean up their credit to build that dream house, their life would be peachy too!" In the end, and when it's all said and done, "envy" isn't the factor that's going to matter......be that as it may, the Rolling Stones said it best.....
"You Can't Always Get What You What."....but if you try sometime you just might find....
you get what you need....
We envy people of all categories....some of us want to be a prince or a princess. Some an actor or actress. It's knowing that we are, or that we have something so extraordinary that enlightens us and makes us feel more special. It's like that phrase; "Keeping up with the Jones." People want what others have, and for some it will continue to eat away at them until they find a way to get it. Why, why, why do you even care? Perhaps it ranks us higher in the "status quo" Don't get caught up in this trap!
People can be envious of many things; we can be envious because your coworker got a raise/promotion and we were passed by. Imagine that your best friend is in a healthy relationship and you couldn't find a good man let alone love if your life depended on it.... Think about why all of this is? It's not competition with your siblings, friends, coworkers etc., It's not a rivalry, and you're certainly not going to win the grand prize for beating them to the finish line....
Does this mean in all fairness that you wouldn't be happy if your best friend bought a new boat, a luxury car or decided to build a new dream house? Being envious isn't the answer, it's immature and it certainly will show a lack of pride and confidence within yourself! If you aren't happy with your own life, change it. I say this over and over throughout my articles,...and there is no easier way to say it. It will only make you feel miserable! I know this feeling all too well. I wasn't an envious woman but I had friends, neighbors, coworkers and even family members who were. I always thought to myself ...."If they put as much time into trying to establish a solid relationship with someone, or worked harder to get that promotion, or clean up their credit to build that dream house, their life would be peachy too!" In the end, and when it's all said and done, "envy" isn't the factor that's going to matter......be that as it may, the Rolling Stones said it best.....
"You Can't Always Get What You What."....but if you try sometime you just might find....
you get what you need....
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