Simply Delicious: 5 Mistakes We Make with Men

Sunday, July 31, 2011

5 Mistakes We Make with Men

Here is some good solid advice; No, I'm not at all an expert by any stretch, but I have walked to road of love and romance before and this is what I discovered: Lets take a look at reality here for a moment, shall we? Many women don't have any luck with guys. They try everything but they're still alone. Are we trying too hard? Sound familiar? Then they start to blame the man, "He's a jerk,".... "He's your typical guy",.... "His ego is too big"....."He's not good enough for me", and the best....and my personal favorite....."He just thinks that he's ALL THAT".... In reality most of the problems with their relationship have been because of the mistakes they make with men. If you are one of those women who don't ever seem to get a guy or, if you do, you can't keep him for very long, you might want to take 10 minutes and read on to discover the mistakes you've been making in the past. Let's try to correct this so that we can move forward with a healty relationship.

STOP Paying So Much Attention - They feed off of this gals...."egos" they have BIG ONES!!! Men love attention and they love getting attention from women. The secret of giving attention to a man though is to give him a lot of attention at first, and then stop. Once the attention is withdrawn, the guy will do anything he can to make sure he gets the attention back (especially because men like a challenge). They love the chase, but let them catch you too soon and say good bye to this guy! Think about it...if you keep giving him all the attention, he has nothing to work for and he'll very soon tire of you and move on to another girl that's not quite so easy.

DO NOT Attempt To Call Him - I was raised to let the boy call you....doesn't matter if your 12 or 50...

I don't care what women say about it being "the modern age" and how calling a guy is fine. It's not...NO WAY, NO HOW! Men don't really like to be called that much, and especially not the number of times most women call. NO TEXT MESSAGES repeatedly either. Don't make it easy on them,....watching them work for it is half the fun! besides, most men like to be the one who does the calling, so let him. If you've got something urgent to tell him - wait. Eventually he'll call you (and if you don't call him, he'll call you sooner rather than later) and you can tell him then. Unless it's a life-threatening situation most things we need to talk to men about are really not that important, even though we tell ourselves they are. So don't call him - just you hang on, and wait. He'll appreciate you more because he has to work for you. Don't make the mistake most women make when he calls and asks "Why don't you call me?" Seriously....ladies we're smarter than that...They take it as an invitation and they call, and then the guy is in control. The best answer to the question "Why don't you call me?". "I'm sorry, I've been really busy" and then continue on with not calling him.

Don't Shower Him With Gifts - I learned a long time ago never to buy a guy things. Little gifts that we think are cute mean very little to a guy. Little gifts, though, do tell him that you like him and that's not something you should ever be telling him (it should always appear that he likes you a lot more than you like him - men like a challenge, remember?). A guy should be buying you things, not you buying him things. Men love buying the women they love little gifts and in most relationships with men it's better being the receiver than the giver. So the next time you see a cute little 'something' that he would just adore, skip over it, and buy yourself something pretty instead. He'll enjoy giving you the attention and you'll have a new addition to your waredrobe!

Keep Your Feelings To Yourself- You should never be the first one in a relationship with a guy to say "I love you". That's his job!!! Yes, you heard me....HIS JOB!!! Most of us have done it and most of us regret it, especially when we don't hear "I love you too" in return. No reason to be stressed out and you can't take it back once you say it! Never ever ever tell a guy you love them first. That gives them so much less to work for and, once you've said it, you can never take it back. Make sure the guy is in love with you before you utter those three little words. You'll be better off for it, believe me.

Don't Dress Too Provocative...be Sexy and Simple - So many women think, if they put on something really provocative it's going to attract a guy and make him want to commit. It's not. In fact, it's making the man question if you are the kind of woman mama would like? If you go full throttle hoochie...kiss this one good-bye! Sure men love sexy and, yes, they'll look but, when they think about dating somebody seriously or even marrying a woman, sexy isn't usually something they're looking for. Think about it this way - it's much better to leave something to the imagination. Make him think about what you might look like underneath all that cute clothing. Don't shove it right in his face so he has nothing to work for. Little back dress? Simply, soft accessories, and nice heels....trust me on this one, if it's a date to the ballgame...wear jeans and a cute top and sneakers....ladies there is no room for stilettos at the ballpark! Take it from me a gal who wore a pair of Ann Taylor heels/sandals to a rodeo....it just doesn't work! Sure I looked classy, but 10 minutes my $200 sandals were covered in cow crap and I was humiliated. No I am not a jeans and cowboy hat kind of gal, although, my ad suggests that you sure can look sexy in the attire.....

I'm a gal...and I guesswhat I am saying is simply this; dress for the event. Don't try to act or be anything other than "you." You want him to fall in love with who you are both inside and out, not an image. Keep it real! Just be YOU!!!