Want a Healthy Relationship?

        7 Daily Doses to Practice Healthy Relationship Habits;

•   Respect and being Respected. Life and relationships are about meeting in the middle. I've always said that it takes two to make a relationship work and two to make it fail. Trust me, I know this first hand. Relationships can endure a lot of bumps in the road if you respect one another. Relationships are about finding your own inner happiness and then spreading the love with your partner or mate. Before you can love you have to love and respect yourself. The two go hand in hand. Respect is not something that one should have to think about in a relationship, you just DO IT! How so? Little ways…call her and say hello out of the blue, text her in the middle of the day and tell her that you’re thinking about her. Pick up her dry-cleaning. Surprise her by cooking dinner because you know darn well that she had a rough day at work. Listen to her when she speaks, and really pay attention to her thoughts, wants and needs.

•   Trusting and being Trusted. I’m a shoot from the hip kinda gal and that’s how you should be too! If you are not, you need to be a straight shooter. Trust is the great equalizer in a good relationship; without it there is no good! A good foundation in a healthy love relationship is built on trust and trust must be earned. 

Holding back on the truth about how you feel, only telling part of the story, fudging on what your wants and needs are to your partner slowly erodes the trust in your relationship. Total honesty brings about awesome trust. Do all that you can to achieve it and have a relationship that can endure it all.

•   Always go that extra mile. Don’t wait for her to do it- you do it…and by it, I mean anything to make her smile. Motivate each other to be the best you can be. Be inventive in coming up with ways to inspire your love life. Never stop. NEVER! Push the romance envelope with a getaway in the mountains for a long weekend or if you are anything like be, be a toes in the sand kinda gal. Have fun, be creative and enjoy life. Life is a precious gift, don’t waste it pondering negative thoughts, do what makes you happy and your partner happy. Remember, you may not be perfect, but you are perfect in her eyes, and in retrospect that's really all that matters now isn't it?

•   Agree to Agree. It is important to understand that relationships seldom feel easy; however, a relationship is less of a struggle when two people agree to do whatever it takes to make it workable. Building a solid foundation is key folks. Without it, like quicksand you will sink and your relationship will not survive. This does not mean giving it your best shot and if it doesn't work, you move on. Don't be a quitter. This means doing whatever it takes!

•   Want your romance life to last a lifetime? Ok…2 Words;

Make Memories; How about creating a scrapbook of love? Don’t call me cheesy here…it’s a great way to remember all the wonderful things that you did together and a way to go back and look at your relationship whenever you need a reminder of good times. Stash your memories of special greeting cards, matchbook covers that remind you of great visits, snapshots, a pressed flower, ticket stubs, a handwritten love poem, a funny, thoughtful valentine. 

Celebrate spending time together. Do things that make the two of you happy. Memories tell stories and stories are passed down from generation to generation, so give everyone something to talk about.

•   Spread a little sunshine. That's right, sunshine. What does this mean? Don’t hover over one another. Make them happy! Give each other permission to their own space. You should have your friends as a couple but you should also have a few close friends that you like to hang out with one night a week, or month. These could be life long friends or even coworkers. It is healthy to give one another space. No one wants to be smothered. Relationships need to grow, so feed them. Give her a daily dose of love. Nothing grows well in the shade! If you are forever in your loved one’s pocket, you can stifle the love so freely given. Even love partners need time alone. You need space. I know I need mine. Too much togetherness is not good. Go out shopping with your friends, or to a ball game or concert. This shows that you can and speaks volumes of trust.

•   Are you pushing your partner’s hot buttons? If not…TRY IT! …But push them spontaneously. I'm not talking about the ones you shouldn’t push. Push the turn-on buttons. No better way than to every now and again crank up the heat in the bedroom or any room for that matter. Know what delights and pleases your partner and push those buttons, and do it most often. Does he like thigh highs and garters under a trench coat? Does he like your sensual perfume on his pillow case? Find what makes your partner, lover, mate tick and load him up with your ammunition. Knowing what makes him or her tick and turning them on at the right times is KEY to a fun, happy and most desired and sexual relationship. Remember, you’ve made it this far, so remind her that she is everything in your eye. Something tells me that you got a groovy kind of love...

7 Do's and Don'ts for a Healthier Relationship

 Do you know how to build a healthy relationship? Each of us enters into romantic relationships with ideas about what we want based on family relationships, what we've seen in the media, and our own past relationship experiences. Holding on to unrealistic expectations can cause a relationship to be unsatisfying and to eventually fail. Don't confuse sex with love. Don't confuse lust with love. Especially in the beginning of a relationship, attraction and pleasure in sex are often mistaken for love. Respect, respect, respect. Inside and outside the relationship, act in ways so that your partner always maintains respect for you. Mutual respect is essential to a good relationship.

• Build. Build a foundation of appreciation and respect. I cannot stress this enough. My grandmother used to say "Any one can have a relationship built on sex, but a great relationship should be established and built with a solid foundation to grow and strengthen." Focus on all the considerate things your partner says and does. Happy couples make a point of noticing even small opportunities to say "thank you" to their partner, rather than focusing on mistakes their partner has made.
• Explore. Explore each other's interests so that you have a long list of things to enjoy together. Try new things together to expand mutual interests.
• Establish. Establish a pattern of apologizing if you make a mistake or hurt your partner's feelings. Saying "I'm sorry" may be hard in the moment, but it goes a long way towards healing a rift in a relationship. Your partner will trust you more if he or she knows that you will take responsibility for your words and actions.
• TRUST…this is the primary part of the relationship. Without it you have nothing and if she doesn't trust you, you've got nothing. No sexting, no texting and no meeting other women, not even for coffee. If you are in a committed relationship, honor it. End of discussion. Period.

Keep the Communication Open!

Don’t let life separate you too long. With technology today, you can stay in touch with cell phones and email. No need to overdo it and be obsessive and controlling, but do stay in touch off and on throughout the day with quick “Hellos” and “How are things going?”

Lemonade

Make lemonade out of those relationship lemons. And “yes” there will be some, since life is not perfect! For example, when your partner is late and you miss a movie date or restaurant reservation, don’t make it a night of terror and destroy what’s left when you finally do get together. Do something else instead, like relax at home with a video and scented candles, and order subs (and lemonade!)

Make her HAPPY!

Remember how your felt when you first got together? Do those little things that you did at the beginning and make the 'honey list!' Bring home fresh flowers, send her a text that you miss her or love her, relax together and watch what she likes to watch on television not just golf! Dance with your mate, compliment your mate, make dates to go to places you used to frequent (the old neighborhood pizza parlor, a local drive in and share the stories with her as to why these places have meaning to you.)

Nuts and Bolts

Don’t focus so much on the “nuts and bolts” of who said what, when, how often and why they were wrong…. In other words, sometimes during an argument, try losing your memory of who did what, when and how many times in the past. Instead, humble yourself, apologize for having messed up and hug your mate! No time for fighting, enjoy and savor the moment.

Open

Open windows when doors close. If you feel you’ve been pushed to the limit and don’t want to try one more time, close the door on that angle of the issue. Take a walk, get some ice cream and cool off (literally). Think before you speak. My grandmother taught me this one and it works! Once you say something you regret, its far too late to take it back with that dreaded.."I'm sorry bullshit" Return relaxed and refreshed, and open a window to air differences.

Parental Issues

Even the best of relationships deal with someone’s past parental issues from time to time. Seeking advice from a professional can help, yes, but something out of the blue can still trigger a parental issue that someone struggles to deal with regardless of age, it seems. In these cases, just realizing and stating that it’s normal, may never get resolved and is okay to move on, can work wonders – for both parties. 

Quality vs Quantity

With hectic schedules, quality time is vitally important. I've always said 'quality supersedes quantity.' If you can only see him twice a week and not 5 days...so what? Enjoy the moments that you do have and appreciate the value. Its not how often you see the other person that really matters its the events that led up to that special time that you did have together that should count! So even if you can only meet a few times, make and keep that date. You’ll probably be especially glad you did when times get tough and have the wonderful memories to help get you by.

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10 Ways to Tell You Are a Lousy Lover...

Ladies, most of us at one time or another have all questioned  how good we are in bed, well, maybe not all of us, so women think they are the bomb-diggity...but are they really or is their ego as big as some of the men they date and they just think that they are sexual dynamos under the sheets? Do you ask yourself if you are a good lover? Sure, you say you are, but if you were to ask a few of your ex's, what would they say? What if their they may have a different opinion? Many women think that they were really incredible only to find out later that what the man thought was that they were a real dud...that's right, not fizzle to sizzle! 

If you'd like to be just as good (bad) as these women, here are your tips for you to follow: DO NOT do these things...,did you hear me DO NOT! (otherwise you'll earn the lousy lover award)

1) Taking ex-lover's opinions

Any guy that wants to play sheet-hockey with you is going to tell you how great you are. I'm sorry, but the guy lies to you not to hurt you, but to prevent you from being an even worse - or scarce - lover. Men have enough to worry about with just getting good sex to add to it.

Here's a bottom line you should adopt: don't use the salesman's opinion to judge the quality of the product. Of course men are going to tell you that you're awesome! Sweetheart, they just got laid...they are just glad to have sex!

2) Now...assuming you're good in bed

Every woman I know thinks she's a great kisser and at least decent in bed. In fact in my experience, less than 10% are either. You don't have to take my word for this however, according to my own research; most other men put the number at around the same place!

Assuming that you're already skilled can actually prevent you from gaining the skills you really should have. Being "confident, but curious" will take you to that glorious 10% very quickly. Moral of the story...never assume anything!

3) Not knowing your own sexuality

Many, many women don't focus on their own sexuality and assume that a man will come along to teach them everything they should know. Don't believe it. It is YOUR job to learn about your own sexuality so that you bring this to the table in a relationship. After all, if you don't understand your own sexuality - what works for you, what doesn't and what else you want to explore - how are you ever going to communicate this to your lover? Some men may stay in a relationship with a lousy lover, but they are forever constantly think about how it'd be with someone else. If you think that takes the pressure off of you fine, but don't be surprised when your lover decides he want to taste a little of that other fruit.

Now is the time to take a little time for yourself and evaluate.  The key to really understanding your own needs - and getting comfortable with them! This can be a powerful source growth if you use it that way.

4) A lack of experience

If you're saving yourself for marriage or for some knight in shining armor, just consider what you're going to have to give when it or he finally arrives. I can't tell you how many women just assume that everything will be incredible - and how many relationships break up because it's not.

Not many men these days want virgins (but some do). For those of us with some experience, we realize that this is just too much work! Men don't want to have to spend the next 5 years helping a woman just get in touch with her own sexual side - she should bring this to the relationship in the first place!

You've no doubt heard that sex "isn't the most important part of a relationship" and while that may be true, it's in the top 3! Why would you spend so much of your time working on becoming the woman of your man's dreams, only to fail where it's most important to him?I'm not saying that you should go out and screw every guy you meet, but you should see every sexual relationship you are in as a chance to grow your own skills for that guy that finally does sweep you off your feet. Doesn't he deserve this from you? (Answer: yes, he does!)

5) Reading books and articles written by women about what men want in bed

If I want to learn about car maintenance, I don't usually go to a guy that sells books and ask. I'll go right to the mechanic. Women spend countless hours reading articles and books written by other women about how to satisfy men sexually. The trouble with this is that many of these women are just as inexperienced! Many men look at these articles too and most of them honestly  just roll their eyes.

6) Not communicating

If man asks you what you like in bed, NEVER give the answer, "Oh, I like just about everything!" It's a cop-out and we all know it.  Being with someone sexually is an opportunity to get your needs met - and to explore new ones. You can only do this by communicating honestly, openly and without embarrassment.

7) Not asking

Wouldn't you love to hear your partner ask you, "Honey, is there anything you really want that you haven't told me?" Very few of the men are the insecure jackasses that women make them out to be. If you know you want something, most men will almost always find a way to give it to you.

8) Complaining

When you ask for something and get it - even if it's not exactly right - don't complain. There are far better ways to improve things! That especially means right in the middle of sex. NEVER, EVER EVER do that.

Recommendations are taken far better than simply complaining about something. If you tell men what you want, they may still not exactly understand it from your perspective, but they'll try most of the time. Women are much more complicated than men in this department. As If men know that we want something, they will  almost always try to give it to you. If it's not exactly what or how you like it, then you need to help them to understand it. trust me on this one, you'll be the benefactor!

On the other hand, if you simply complain, get used to the idea that you're not going to get what you want - and it'll be your own fault.

9) Lack of enthusiasm

If you think holding back is the way to get us to be more interested in you, let me set you straight on this: it won't work. We'll simply find someone that won't hold back and leave you wondering what happened.

Your sexual enthusiasm also communicates your interest in us. That doesn't mean you have to bounce off the walls, but at least be interested in sex and want to grow with us. We'll return the favor in ways you can't imagine.

 

10) Being self-conscious

I know, I know, you're worried about the lighting, mood and every other little issue:

"Does my hair look good?"

"Am I making enough noise?"

"Am I making too much noise?"

"Does this pillow make my ass look big?"

Listen, if you make it a habit of doing any of these in #10....you've got some shaping up to do. No man wants to hear women whine and pout. Suck it up sister and get your confidence game going.



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Are Your Emotional Insecurities Holding You Back from Love?

Someone recently asked me....How do you find love when you have emotional insecurities? Can you get past these fragments that are holding you back from what could be a wonderful life? I've found that the very qualities we're most ashamed of, the ones we keep trying to reshape or hide, are in fact the key to finding real love, true happiness, and success in a relationship. Love my friend is a gift.

We all fear love to a certain degree because we know that it's so easy to get lost in the quest for self-improvement. News Flash....We're NOT PERFECT! It often seems quite impossible for the average Jane when every billboard we pass seduces us with the vision of a happier, more successful life.

 I realized that the characteristics were the ones which frequently caused them the most suffering. That's what it's like when we try to understand our deepest struggles without honoring the gifts that fuel them. When we understand our lives through the lens of our gifts it's as if we step out from behind the tapestry and really see it for the first time. All of a sudden, things make sense. We see the real picture, the moving, human story of what matters most to us. We begin to understand that our biggest mistakes, our most self-sabotaging behaviors were simply convulsive, unskilled attempts to express the deepest parts of ourselves. We want to be loved yet we fear love. Love is not a game or something to be entered into lightly.
Whoever came up with the idea that love is a game was nuts. Too many people mess with our hearts because they are insecure, and find love to be like a game....listen sweet cheeks, love is not a game. There is no designated winner or loser.

The idea that romance is a game - one where the player who best keeps his or her cool "wins" - is perpetuated by a self-help industry that makes billions from telling women that to be loved, they need to change the way they look, act, and feel. This industry preys on women's insecurities about being desirable by implying that they're not good enough as they are. And it tells women that when romance doesn't work out, it's because they did something wrong. Did they come on too strong? Did they reveal too much of themselves? Did they seem too needy or desperate? Did they step on the fragile male ego? Did they return his call too quickly? So what do we do ladies? we put on our "brave face." Guess what? Love couldn't care less about your brave face. It goes after what is incomparable and irreplaceable about you. It wants to penetrate the deepest recesses of your being. It wants to know what makes you tick and why.

My grandmother once made a statement that really stuck in my head; She said "If you never let yourself fall freely, you won't get anywhere near authentic love." The more you bury your singular spirit under some self-help game, the more difficult you make it for love to find you. And, if a woman needs to play games to hold a man's interest, chances are he's not the right man for her. The trouble with the games of romance is that eventually the mask will have to come off. The moral of this story is; Don't hide behind self doubt and insecurities. Learn how to overcome them.

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Relationships and Baggage

If I've said it once I've said it a million times...Communication in any relationship is KEY so make sure when you enter into a new relationship you build your foundation on trust, something some men and women know nothing about. Life is not a game, although there are learning curves for those of you riding the short bus...Pay attention, it's not that difficult. First things first...listen to your mate, pay attention to what he or she is saying, and think before you respond. Whatever you do, now is not the time to put your foot in your mouth. Remember that you are not perfect so you can't possibly expect your mate to be.

Let's get right to the point here shall we? Let's talk about "baggage. All of us carry baggage with us from past relationships. It's a fact of life. Once we accept this fact then we can start doing something about letting go of the baggage and moving on. I don't think that it is possible to completely eliminate the baggage from past relationships, and to be honest I don't think it's necessarily a good idea to try to completely eliminate it. We learn from our past, including our mistakes, some would even argue that we learn more from our mistakes than from our successes. Admit it and like it or not, we all do make mistakes.

Every experience in life, whether good or bad, has a lesson for us to learn. If we approach life with this philosophy then it makes the hard times a little easier to bare and the good times even sweeter. When we experience negativity in a relationship, then we need to acknowledge what has happened. Even though we may have overcome an obstacle in a relationship, we will often continue to carry the scars. All we can do is to learn from the experience and then try to let it go, and if you can't you need to make some changes.

We need to make an effort not to let past negative experiences influence or affect our current relationships,..if you do it's pointless, nevertheless, can be damaging to say the least. It's just not fair to put that baggage on our new friends or partners. We all have it, so deal with it. There will often be a similarity in people's personalities, but it doesn't necessarily mean that they are going to treat you as your previous partner treated you. It is unfair to you and your new partner to assume that they will be like your old relationship.

Signs of emotional baggage:

1. Projection : This happens when people have self-doubt.  These feelings can  snowball into an assumption that someone is prejudging you and then you will become defensive. Being defensive all of the time especially when starting a relationship, can be buzz kill.
2. Paranoia : One of the most important rules to sustain a relationship is that you got to have trust. Without trust you will make your partner feel as if he or she is up to something.  Paranoia can also make you appear to be clingy and needy. There is nothing wrong about being a little cautious especially after being hurt, just make sure that your suspicions are legitimate and control your emotional fears. STOP! Don't let this take control. My grandmother always said before you can learn to love again one first must open their heart and allow it to feel.
3. Emotional walls : Holding back on your true feelings and recreating past negative feelings in yourself can make a relationship become stagnant. If you have trust than you will feel comfortable exposing your true self,  that way there is no misunderstanding about who you are what you are about.
4. Lack of commitment : If you are not ready to be in a monogamist relationship than so be it. But, if you are in the habit of sabotaging relationships out of fear and you never allow it to blossom, then you are letting your past dictate your future. Trust me on this one, I was the 'queen of sabotage.' You will always be wondering around in the land of "single people"  if you do not learn how to lay all of you cards on the table and start to trust. Deal with the baggage. Life is too short to spend it alone, so help one another unpack!



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Dating...It's all about Honesty and Integrity

Let’s talk a bit about dating, honesty and integrity today. Integrity is really related to honesty, and I think that integrity is really the benchmark of what determines whether you are a good or bad person. Now lets talk about lies and dating. They've always gone together like birds of a feather.  As sad a it is, lying has gotten even easier with the anonymity of online dating. So who's really lying on dating sites and what lies are they telling?

When I searched for the real facts I was crushed to think that you could not find a good person on a dating site, so I tried it myself. Truth is, most men walk the walk but surely do not talk the talk. When it comes to online dating, there is one cardinal truth that you must keep in mind - almost everyone out there is lying. This is not done purposely to misrepresent facts, but to build a profile that would impress the opposite sex and hence lead to success in the dating world.

My problem is this, what happens to the woman who is busy and business savvy that goes on one of these sites searching for a "needle in a haystack man" who is trying to be herself? She is sincere and open and when she asks questions or sees a possible red flag is shot down and demeaned by a man who knows very little about her, in fact he knows only what he assumes? Sure they fire away at you all the while they have just totally blown their one shot to possibly meet a really great woman who would in fact take and make the time for the right guy if and when he came along. What happens when you'd like to meet someone but your schedule is merely too busy, especially during holidays? What do we have to do to prove ourselves and even more so, WHY should we have to prove anything?

People lie on dating sites and it make my job and all of your whom are reading this even more difficult to explain yourself. Scammers and hypocrites are out there and they are taking away the one last chance some of us
work-a-holics have at possibly meeting someone without all that 'red tape' as I tend to call it. What happened to truth and honesty?
Most women are nothing less than a nice women with integrity. I guess some men want more. What must be considered as lying as far as online dating is concerned? It happens when you present yourself differently than who you really are. This includes your marital status, the kind of work you do, your physical appearance, your hobbies and interests, your relationship history, and other information that you put up on these sites. If we have nothing else at least we remain integral in our own lives, and if we keep the integrity alive within us all then we will eventually be shown into it. Because integrity's promise states that we will get what we deserve when it comes down to it, and we will manage to get whatever we want out of life if we can manage to keep our integrity intact. With integrity and belief we manage to keep out of trouble and keep our heads above water. If we manage to do this then we will get everything we deserve out of the game we crave so badly.

 Guys, this is for all of you who speak before you think....when it comes to life and love there are only two things that rally matter; integrity and honesty. Believe it or not they are what women look for without even realising that they do. If they learn what they need to about you then they will find out that you are exactly what they are looking for in a man, including the fact that you are the one and only ideal man for them. So don't be nervous to remain hospitable and keep your integrity as well as making off with what you want from them. This means, don't jump the gun and make assumptions. Make the best of what you have and ponder it for answers and results. It is pivotal that you remain guarded with your integrity intact. Want some FREE Advice? Be YOU..., yes that's right...BE 100% YOU! If someone doesn't like it, they certainly are not the one intended to share your time nonetheless your oxygen with.

3 Rules To Follow When Hand Selecting Your Womans Lingerie

The #1 rule of thumb in the men’s guide to buying lingerie for women is to calm yourself down!Why? Because I have no doubt that you have fantasized about a hundred and fifty times different sexy outfits you wish your significant other would wear for you. Did you know that the most common mistake that men make is to purchase lingerie that they love without thinking about what the woman would want? True...so you think it's erotic and hot to trot...ask yourself this boys...would you be comfy wearing it? My guess is that your answer will be a big fat NO,..so then, think about your gal while shopping for a sexy seductive little number. Not sure what your woman actually would want? You can generally get a rather good sense by looking at what she already has. Keep in mind though that it is OK to go and be a little risky, just don't go overboard. You want her to feel confident wearing it, not self conscious in it.

Sexy Lingerie

Women who typically wear sweat pants and a tee shirt to bed will be happy with something comfortable. A complicated getup with garter belts and stockings may not be the best choice. A cute, soft babydoll in a soft fabric such as silk will offer her comfort and be sexy. If you are hoping for something racy, you may need to begin simple and slowly work more fancy lingerie into the bedroom. See if she loves the babydoll and then progress from there.

If a woman already has a fairly good sized collection of lingerie, this lets you know that she loves to dress up and will appreciate something spontaneous. There are many exotic, fantasy lingerie sets that this type of woman probably will love, but may want her man to buy for her. In this case, that cute sexy matching set  just might do the trick.

Rule #2 in the men’s guide to buying lingerie for women is to consider the woman’s size and the self confidence level of the woman. Not every female looks like a super model and a woman with a fuller figure may not be overly enthusiastic to slip into a tiny, silky g-string. If a woman generally wears shorts but covers up her top half, she may be self conscious about her arms or stomach. In this case you will want to choose a piece of lingerie that offers that same. If a woman is comfortable in jeans and a tank top, she may be a bit self conscious about her legs or rear. In this case, a beautiful lingerie set with a matching robe can be the perfect choice. In this way, the woman has control over how much is exposed.

Rule #3 in the men’s etiquette to buying lingerie for woman is to know your woman’s size is. Take a peek in that laundry hamper or her lingerie drawer; tags on bras are generally near the clasp, panties and garters on the back rear area. Lingerie that actually fits will be much more appreciated than any that needs a lot of wiggling to fit into. Select for her something at Simply Delicious Lingerie that makes her smile and feel romantic and full of sexual energy! Visit us today; Simply Delicious Lingerie

6 Suggests for Keeping the Spark in your Marriage....

1. Have really good sex.

That's right...that is exactly what I said. One marriage counselor and therapist after another will tell you that sex is a vital part of successful marriages. If you're having problems in the bedroom, talk it out with your spouse and maybe even consider seeing a medical doctor or sex therapist if the issue requires professional help to get resolved. Even if things are hot and heavy in the bedroom, you can always make improvements.

2. Woo your spouse with lots of hugs and kisses.

Kissing and touching your spouse is a great way to keep the heat between you burning. Increase the romance factor by surprising your spouse with an extraordinarily passionate kiss every so often. It doesn't always have to lead to sex, but it plants the seed for future encounters and makes the day a little more exciting.

3. Don't take your spouse for granted.

Too many couples fall into a rut because they start to just expect their partner to always be there and they quit courting one another. But marriage -- at least in part -- is an agreement to court each other forever. Continue to go out on dates and getting silly with each other. My parents just celebrated their 49th anniversary and they still have date night. Take the position that the fun does not have to end just because you said, "I do."

4. Resolve issues that get in the way of romance.

The biggest obstacle  to romance is tension and stress that arises between couples who are having problems -- from an overly intrusive mother-in-law to unpaid bills. Discuss problems as they arise and try to find solutions that will satisfy both of you. If the problems are too big for the two of you to handle on your own, seek help.

5. Create a love nest.

Make your home conducive to romance, a sanctuary where the two of you have privacy and tranquillity. Setting the mood for romance in the dining room the bathroom, most definitely the bedroom, and certainly anywhere else in between is not difficult, nor does it have to cost a lot of money.

6. Try being more adventurous.

Regardless of your ages, or how long you've been married....after a couple has been together a while, they may at times tend to get a little bored. Sure it happens, but it doesn't end here. When this happens you're going to need to spice it up...yes you heard me, kick it up a notch sister by foregoing your usual routine. Take a weekend getaway, try a new move in the bedroom, get dressed up for a night on the two with each other. The unexpected always makes life a little more exciting.

Sexual Tension

Sexual tension. What is the true definition for this? Sexual tension is the energy, or charge of the interaction between people. Its application is subtle, but powerful. It’s like a mystery to a lot of guys. Why? Well, they know they need to create sexual tension with a woman, but the thing is, they don’t really know how, yes you heard me, they are clueless most often. Ladies, does this 'really' surprise you?It’s okay to be a little unsure of what to do right now, but you do need to be able to figure this stuff out if you really want to make a woman feel sexually attracted to you. So, what can you do to make a woman feel sexual tension when she is with you? Buy her sexy lingerie. http://www.simplydeliciouslingerie.com/ We have sales all the time and soon will be offering free shipping.

Here are 3 keys to building intense sexual tension with a woman:
Pay attention boys, this is NO time to fall asleep!

1. You cannot start off gun ho and in a rush like a tornado.
You have to think of building up sexual tension as being a marathon and not a sprint. Foreplay is essential in the game. Most guys when they really try to make a woman feel sexually attracted to them, they are gun ho and come out and lose steam in a matter of minutes and sometimes seconds. Not a good thing. It’s much better to build it up, then it is to start out at the top and work your way down. Basically, be patient and don’t try to make it happen in 60 seconds., if you do, well then we all know what happens...it's over before you know what hit you. Ease into it and make it last. You'll thank me later for this tip.


2. Tease her in a way that is playful, not harmful.
Teasing is an easy and effective way to create that kind of chemistry and tension with a woman and to be honest, most guys get it completely wrong. Either they don’t do it at all, or when they do it, it actually comes off like they are being harmful or mean. Playful is the way to go. You don’t want to make her feel like you are afraid to tease her, and you also don’t want to make her think of you as just being a jerk. Strike a balance, it’s much better.

3. Use the push and pull theory, and learn to walk away from her.
Crowding a woman is what most guys do when they have an interest in her. You know, they do what they can to get close to her, and once they are there, they NEVER want to leave. The problem with this is, it ends up making you look clingy and desperate. Let me tell you something,...most women hate clingy, needy men. You need to use techniques like push and pull and be able to walk away from her at the right moment. We love to be teased. We can dish it out and take it. You can drive a woman wild if you are the one that walks away from the interaction and she comes chasing after YOU.

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Dating Sites,...Good or Bad?

What is the scoop on dating sites? Are they good or are they bad? Can you trust these sites? Do they screen their members? Who sets the rules? Does everyone follow the rules, or are their rule breakers? All I hear about online and around my friends is "Are you going to the fish event, or you should sign up for POF (plenty of fish), you should get a sugar daddy, or meet the man of your dreams or get 6 months free"....what most people don't know is that I did try a dating site a few years back and met a nice guy who turned out to be married and deceiving and thought he had life by the balls  ...he was a resident in Michigan, but was working in Houston Texas, and... until I did a little digging only to learn that he was married and had two kids. He joined POF in Houston Texas, put up some old photos and said he was single. Why? Not sure, lonely, pathetic, or just wanted to score a piece of ass, unhappy marriage? What did this do to my emotions and well being? Well... I was crushed, mostly because I was so naive, and then I pondered the question...Why do men do this? Because they think that they can get away with it, or they have issues that can only be handled through therapy and counseling. Hey, listen, I'm not saying women don't do the exact same thing on websites such as this and a variety of others because they do. I don't want you to think that I am picking on one particular sex, because I am not. Both are guilty as charged.

Where am I going with this you ask? For years I have written about love and relationships. Recently I decided to check this out again so I rejoined under a new user name. I did this for a few reasons 1)out of mostly curiosity and 2) to see if the site made any changes?  I joined Plenty of Fish otherwise knows as POF to see what kind of men were on the site and what their motives were. Shocking enough, as surprised as I thought I would be, I was angered and disappointed to say the least which now leads me to the question...Who exactly is running the show there and why is it that some people can get away with posting smutty photos while others including the profile that I created posted a terrific bio and photos that were.... lets just say, me, but perhaps a little provocative to some. What happened? I was scolded. I received the ole "You picture was in violation of our site, bla bla bla..."

Listen, they are not provocative to me in the least. I find them alluring sure, but most of them to be appealing in good taste, sensual and sexy. Why? I own a lingerie shop and sexy and sensual is a confidence that women need like we need air. There is nothing wrong with provocative photos. I was there merely to get a look at what was going on with dating sites in general, and I chose them first because of all of the hype they get. Look at some of the women on POF and view their photos and their bios. In all honesty, what I saw...was flat-out and as plain as the nose on my face a stomping ground for whores looking for a quick fix. Ladies? well, actually I shouldn't call you ladies, but what are you thinking?

If you are going to sell yourself for sex, grow a brain and don't do it on a free site where men are not going to take you serious. How do I know this? So many men that befriended me on POF told me about the women and how quickly they wanted to meet up for sex only a few short hours after beginning conversation. Now I have heard everything...pimping yourself out on a FREE dating site. You know...There are sites to go to if you have the "package deal" that you can arrange a NSA kind of relationship where you both win and get allowances to do so. Are those sites discrete? You bet  they are, and they are NOT free. In fact they are quite costly, but well worth the price. Isn't your privacy worth a lot to you?

 When you join a site like POF and other sites for free and display yourself like a cold hearted tramp, you are making good normal women such as myself and so so many others look bad and we are now frowned upon ' no thanks' to you! I used myself as an example to show others, mostly my friends that I was right about many things on dating sites. Everything in my bio was true and 100% of who I am, and what I want from a man..no lies, no bending the truth..my age is my real age, my pictures are my pictures. I display a sincere and honest women...so where does that get you? Not far really. What was ever worse that how they tore my images apart almost on a daily basis were the other women and what they allow on this site. I mean, seriously is this a free dating site or a whore house gone public? Either someone doesn't know how to run the show there or they pick and choose who they want to get the attention to drum them up new business then cut that individual off practically at the knees when others complain that they are not getting noticed.

My photos were deleted of me showing my back in a sundress walking up a sand dune on a beach, but put my photo up in a red hot bikini top and it stayed for hours. In the first 30 minutes I had 87 emails and men trying to IM me for conversation. Were these men really interested in me or are they horn dogs? Who is behind all of this then, and why do my photos keep disappearing? Is it the jealous women who turn you in and click on the (if you don't see an image of the face, report here?) or the outraged men that send you obscene gestures and email notes expecting to get a rise out of you and when you either A) don't respond back, or B) delete them they get all pissy? Both,and or all of the above...is what I am guessing. Do dating sites use particular profiles as tools to better suit themselves? You bet they do.

How does a normal person succeed on a dating site when they only want to be themself?  What a sad world it has become when you judge a person by their photo and not their inner beauties. I''' tell you, I have a lot of friends who express their joys and sorrows regarding dating often and my heart aches for them because they'll make the best partner for someone but they don't want all the red tape to deal with either. I believe in fate, and paths crossing for reasons.

What is this doing to normal people like myself who is fully behind the dating scene and suggests to ALL of my friends to try a dating site? It's putting a bad taste in my mouth. Think about it, it's a free site, and my grandmother always did say that when it is free you get what you pay for. She also used to say "Michele, there are plenty of fish in the sea!" I don't know what sea she was referring to but the one sea of fish that I just recently joined for free is not at all what I anticipated, and wow, did I learn more than I ever anticipated.

1) People Lie to you, yes FLAT OUT LIE!
2) They lie about their looks, age, and how 'bout this shocker..their marital status!
3) They post pictures that are 10-20 yrs old. Good Lord,...why?
4) They don't know how to be genuine or honest.

Now, I am not at all saying that all men and women on that site act as such, BUT, we must be careful due to our ethics and especially or business practices, following, clients, vendors, and customer in my case, as well as what gets out via word of mouth. What are my thoughts? Your really don't want to know. I do know that people are going to  be petitioning congress and anyone else that will listen in the future to ask, no insist that companies like "Plenty of Fish" take more responsibility and step up to the plate to elevate these pain in the ass people on dating site who cannot be truthful,who are wronging all of us and tarnishing our good reputations. People go to these sites seeking possibly finding Mr/Ms Right. If you want a quick piece of ass, do yourself a big favor and go to the corner bar and pick someone up for a one night stand, don't ruin it for the good people who deserve true happiness.

I am, at the moment however, standing up for POF because they deserve that much from me, and out of respect for them in what they are trying to do; I say that this POF could be a highly potential phenomenal dating site ranked up in that top 10, but it will never get there if they continue to display the actions that they do and allow things to happen as such. No they are not babysitters, nor can they keep an eye on everyone, but there has to be something that can be enforced here to keep people on the straight and narrow? 1) like most other sites, there should be a 24-48 hour hold so that someone can check out your bio and approve the photos BEFORE they get posted. 2) set stricter policies, 3) ba allowed to delete without notice if you get too many complaints.

Actually for all the hype that I got on POF I wondered why they can complain about anything... when they aren't even ranked amongst the top 10 dating sites. Why? Well, look what happened to me, and you'll get your answers.

Who were the high ranking sites? Glad you asked?

1) Match.com
2) Eharmony
3) ZOOSK
4)Chemisty.com
5) SeniorPeopleMeet.com
6) SingleParentMeet.com
7) JDate.com (for Jewish people)
8) ChristianMingle.com
9) CatholicMatch.com
10)Matchmaker.com


 In closing, in no way whatsoever am I stating NOT to try a dating site, in fact, as I stated earlier, I am all for this form of dating, especially in a society today where we are too busy to meet a man/woman the old fashion way, although as old fashion as I still am, I do believe that my prince is right around the corner....he either took a wrong turn and got lost, or he isn't seeing the bigger picture and has not yet realized how badly he really does need a woman like me in his life. I just suggest that you are well guarded if you join a dating site online. Remember, you may just meet the man/woman of your dreams there! Just beware, there are freaks, and stalkers and worse. These people prey on us when we are weak, so be strong, and never, ever, ever give out personal information to anyone, especially your address. I'd love to hear your experiences with dating sites...so please share with me yours so that we can show so many readers/viewers that love is possible, and dating sites are and do really work! Your site you used may not be on the top 10, however, there are a ton of sites that have excellent reputations and are solid, far too many to list, but don't be afraid to mention your site so others can see it in my comments section. Please share with not only myself but with everyone.

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PoNdEr THis....LeT's TaLK aBoUt SeX!

WhAt is SaFe SeX?

From the time I was a young girl, I heard about it, and knew of it, but quite honestly, my parents never taught us kids what sex was in a true essence so imagine when we discovered it how wonderful it was? Yes, wonderful all right, then 9 months later I was walking the floors with a colicky baby that cried and took my social life away. I was young ...Yes, naive? Very much...My thoughts were, "It won't happen to me..." So I did what most girls do. I gave into temptation.

Let me tell you about temptation. First off if you are a young lady reading this and you think that having a baby is easy... Call me, I've got news for you! Your life is OVER...or at least until that baby is raised and supporting itself. Raising a child is the hardest thing I have ever had to do. You learn to immediately put YOUR NEEDS on the back burner for at least 20 years! Now multiply that, ..I have 2. No, I was not a single mother, I did marry the man who knocked me up as so many people called it. I actually loved him and we were planning to marry, just not yet. At 19 though, do we really know what love is? I look at my kids now, who turned out GREAT and I pat myself on the back for everything that went right when so, so many things could have gone wrong. I guess that's where values came in.

Sex is a beautiful thing, what I suggest is to just think long and hard gals before you do it, because like me, who thought "it won't happen..." it just might. Then what are you going to do? Getting on to why we're really here...it's discovering and learning about sex. For goodness sake, make sure you know your partner. One night stands are fun and all sure, BUT in comparison to my life, that one night might affect the rest of your life, and I don't mean with a pregnancy, I mean if you are too quick to "do" and too stupid to "think" you can end up with a serious STD. These days, they are everywhere. If you have one, don't hide it. Make sure that you tell your partner. After having had this conversation with a very close friend, I learned that although I wouldn't have wanted a man to know my secrets, but IF I had something, the practical and honest thing to do would be to get it out in the open. Why did I think differently than her? For a few reasons, I can count on less than two hands the number of men I have slept with in my lifetime and she...well, she could write a book on the men of her life. My values were different, and again it goes back to the fact that I was quite naive.

Now, lets talk cold hard facts about the attributes of sex, and the misleading topics. To the women who are reading this that think by having a baby at a young age it will solve all of your financial problems I say WTF are you thinking? Here's where I'm coming from on this matter.

If you are a parent and you have kids, teach them all that you can about sex so that they know you did a great job raising them, and add this finishing touch that might change their life and allow them to do things the right way. Save them from what I went through at such a young age. Please do not misconstrue what I am saying, I have NO REGRETS. I followed the path and I am who I am today because of my past. Babies are a joy, but babies shouldn't be having babies! If I knew then what I know now....well, you know how that saying goes?

So let's talk safe sex shall we? What is it? Safe sex is the practice of using precautions when having sex. The reason for this is to avoid getting or passing on a sexually transmitted disease (STD) or other infection. STDs are contagious diseases caused by germs, usually bacteria or viruses. They are usually passed to others through sexual intercourse or other sexual contact. STDs include Chlamydia, genital warts, gonorrhea, syphilis, hepatitis B and C, herpes, and human immunodeficiency virus (HIV). Some STDs in females, if not treated, can make you infertile (not able to have babies). HIV infection can cause acquired immune deficiency syndrome (AIDS), which may be fatal. Body fluids can contain the germs that cause STDs. They include saliva, urine, blood, vaginal fluids, and semen.

• Safe sex precautions decrease or prevent the exchange of body fluids during sexual contact. There are a number of measures you can take to practice safe sex. The safest measure is complete abstinence (not having sex with anyone). Other measures include limiting your number of sexual partners and avoiding vaginal and anal intercourse. The most important measure when having intercourse is to use a condom (rubber). Avoid sexual contact with anyone who has an untreated STD or while they are being treated. Certain safe sex practices may also be used to help prevent pregnancy.

Safe sex means taking precautions during sex that can keep you from getting a sexually transmitted infection (STI), or from giving an STI to your partner.
STIs are also referred to as sexually transmitted diseases, or STDs. (sexually transmitted disease) These diseases include genital herpes, genital warts, HIV, chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis, hepatitis B and C, and others.

Information

A sexually transmitted illness (STI) is a contagious disease that can be transferred to another person through sexual intercourse or other sexual contact. Many of the organisms that cause STIs live on the penis, vagina, anus, mouth, and the skin of surrounding areas.
Most of the diseases are transferred by direct contact with a sore on the genitals or mouth. However, some organisms can be transferred in body fluids without causing a visible sore. They can be transferred to another person during oral, vaginal, or anal intercourse.
Some STIs can also be transferred by nonsexual contact with infected tissues or fluids, such as infected blood. For example, sharing needles when using IV (in the vein) drugs is a major cause of HIV and hepatitis B transmission. An STI can also be transmitted through contaminated blood transfusions and blood products, through the placenta from the mother to the developing baby, and sometimes through breastfeeding.
The following factors increase your risk of getting an STI:

• Not knowing whether a partner has an STI or not
• Having a partner with a history of any STI
• Having sex without a male or female condom
• Using drugs or alcohol in a situation where sex might occur
• If your partner is an IV drug user
• Having anal intercourse

How do I practice safe sex?

Don't do it! Sex isn't all it's cracked up to be. haha, just kidding...If abstaining from sexual activity with a partner is not practical for you, you should do all of these:

• Avoid activities or items that can pass germs: Avoid vaginal or anal hand intercourse, mouth to mouth or french (wet) kissing, or using saliva (spit) as a lubricant. Do not use dildos, vibrators, and other sex toys on both yourself and your sex partner.
• Condoms and barriers:These are usually made from latex. If you are allergic to latex, use a non-latex product such as polyurethane.
  • Condoms: Use a condom every time you will have vaginal or anal sex. Condoms for both men and women are available. Condoms can prevent germs from spreading and help keep a woman from getting pregnant.
  • Barriers: An oral barrier, such as a dry condom or latex square, must be used when doing oral sex.
• Limit sexual partners: Have sex with a single partner or avoid multiple sex partners. Also avoid having sex with strangers or those with unknown sexual history.
• Testing and treatment:
  • Screening tests: If you are sexually active, you should get tested for STDs on a regular basis. This is very important if you have multiple sexual partners. You may have an STD and not know it. If you are pregnant, you will be screened for STDs to prevent passing them to your unborn baby.
  • Suspected infections: Get tested if you think or know you had contact with someone who has STD. See a caregiver if you think you have an STD for early treatment. Tell all your sexual partners if you are diagnosed with STD so that they may also be tested and treated. Do not have sex while you are being treated or with a partner who is being treated. Do not have sex until your caregiver tells you it is safe to do so.

• One last note; Before you sleep with someone, think about how many partners he may or may not have had in the past, because what you don't know, is that now, they are part of you as well.

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