Romance and Why We Fall Out of Love?

Just about every day on a daily basis, I encounter those embodied in a kind of extramarital affair I describe as "I Fell Out of Love...and just love being in love." Can one fall out of love? You be they can. Does it hurt, oh hell yes it does...so what causes this, and what can you do so that it never happens to you? Well, first of all, never say never. I made this mistake... it's when you think that it cannot happen to you that it does. It's when you think it will happy to Sally or Claire, and then it happens to YOU! What happened? You lost communication somewhere in your relationship and love slipped away as quickly as it crept into your life. Lost the romance, the thrill is gone, the flame went out...The cheating or "offending" spouse has encountered someone where there are "sparks!"

Here are common phrases: (to the spouse) "I love you but am not 'in love' with you. The romance in our marriage is gone. I found someone who really loves me." (self thoughts) "I don't want to settle. I have a lot of love to give. He/she treats me like no one else. I feel special with the other person."

The "offended spouse" often responds with increased or new romantic gestures. They fall flat.

At the core of this kind of affair is a deeply engrained belief that "romance" is the savior and benchmark of a great marriage or intimate relationship.

Here are some reflections on romance:

1. "Romance" is advertised in our culture as the ultimate experience in an intimate relationship. Romance is idealized in movies and books as the ecstasy of being "in love." We can't get enough (hugely profitable grocery counter tabloids) of which "stars" are currently "in love" with whom. And, it often does not matter (really) if the are married. Oh gosh, to be like that, to experience that. Wouldn't that be wonderful?

2. Romantic movies are often called "romantic comedies" for a reason." Ever wonder why they are so funny or why they should be? Or, at the other end, romantic movies are tragedies (Romeo and Juliet). Julia Roberts and Richard Gere in Pretty Woman. When Harry Met Sally, The Notebook, and even Cinderella... Ever see a "real" romantic movie? People see romance in a variety of ways.

3. The search for romance whether through an affair or within our marriage often taint powerful personal needs. It has little to do with love and more to do with getting our personal needs met. Most of us have strong needs such as to be acknowledged, adored, cared for or perhaps cherished. Another powerful need is to feel "special. Romance becomes the vehicle through which these needs are supposedly met without needing to name those needs or talk about them. Don't get me wrong. Personal needs are all right. We all have them. Personal needs drive, often powerfully, what we go after. But, and this is a huge but, if we do not consciously name them and get them met once and for all they continue to drive us and we live perpetually in frustration, always wanting more.Once we move beyond the merry-go-round of personal need meeting we discover our personal passion, our purpose and reach down and touch the essence of real joy and peace. Are you getting the picture here? Life isn't perfect, and like a yoyo, we all have or ups and our downs. We just need to learn how to balance our romance and talk about things when they bother you.

4. Romance is it a teaser for  mating? True....Sometimes sex is the bottom line. The "chemistry" described in "romantic love" we are finding, is truly that - raw chemistry. Studies now show that those "in love" have a high concentration of specific dorphins (chemicals) in their bodies. These are the same chemicals found when animals are in "heat."I also believe that we run into a few people in our life-time where we experience this "chemistry." I have no idea why this happens. There appears to be some attraction, based on a huge number of factors that stir our juices - literally. Interesting. But, doesn't mean that I must jump into bed with this person. Maybe some animals do, however.

5. A person seeking romance is often someone looking romantic rush. Some call it a romance high, I call it a romantic rush. Why? They want to feel good. They expect they should feel good. They believe they should jump on something that feels good. They want the pill, the drug, the experience that will take away their pain, their emptiness, their loneliness and make them feel good. They what the  obsession. Obsessions are good and bad...they are healthy, and yet so very unhealthy. Romance your partner whether it be in bed or on the dining room table. Keep the spark alive, thats how to build romance...it's the erotic love that keep us from falling out of love...

 

Relationships and Baggage

If I've said it once I've said it a million times...Communication in any relationship is KEY so make sure when you enter into a new relationship you build your foundation on trust, something some men and women know nothing about. Life is not a game, although there are learning curves for those of you riding the short bus...Pay attention, it's not that difficult. First things first...listen to your mate, pay attention to what he or she is saying, and think before you respond. Whatever you do, now is not the time to put your foot in your mouth. Remember that you are not perfect so you can't possibly expect your mate to be.

Let's get right to the point here shall we? Let's talk about "baggage. All of us carry baggage with us from past relationships. It's a fact of life. Once we accept this fact then we can start doing something about letting go of the baggage and moving on. I don't think that it is possible to completely eliminate the baggage from past relationships, and to be honest I don't think it's necessarily a good idea to try to completely eliminate it. We learn from our past, including our mistakes, some would even argue that we learn more from our mistakes than from our successes. Admit it and like it or not, we all do make mistakes.

Every experience in life, whether good or bad, has a lesson for us to learn. If we approach life with this philosophy then it makes the hard times a little easier to bare and the good times even sweeter. When we experience negativity in a relationship, then we need to acknowledge what has happened. Even though we may have overcome an obstacle in a relationship, we will often continue to carry the scars. All we can do is to learn from the experience and then try to let it go, and if you can't you need to make some changes.

We need to make an effort not to let past negative experiences influence or affect our current relationships,..if you do it's pointless, nevertheless, can be damaging to say the least. It's just not fair to put that baggage on our new friends or partners. We all have it, so deal with it. There will often be a similarity in people's personalities, but it doesn't necessarily mean that they are going to treat you as your previous partner treated you. It is unfair to you and your new partner to assume that they will be like your old relationship.

Signs of emotional baggage:

1. Projection : This happens when people have self-doubt.  These feelings can  snowball into an assumption that someone is prejudging you and then you will become defensive. Being defensive all of the time especially when starting a relationship, can be buzz kill.
2. Paranoia : One of the most important rules to sustain a relationship is that you got to have trust. Without trust you will make your partner feel as if he or she is up to something.  Paranoia can also make you appear to be clingy and needy. There is nothing wrong about being a little cautious especially after being hurt, just make sure that your suspicions are legitimate and control your emotional fears. STOP! Don't let this take control. My grandmother always said before you can learn to love again one first must open their heart and allow it to feel.
3. Emotional walls : Holding back on your true feelings and recreating past negative feelings in yourself can make a relationship become stagnant. If you have trust than you will feel comfortable exposing your true self,  that way there is no misunderstanding about who you are what you are about.
4. Lack of commitment : If you are not ready to be in a monogamist relationship than so be it. But, if you are in the habit of sabotaging relationships out of fear and you never allow it to blossom, then you are letting your past dictate your future. Trust me on this one, I was the 'queen of sabotage.' You will always be wondering around in the land of "single people"  if you do not learn how to lay all of you cards on the table and start to trust. Deal with the baggage. Life is too short to spend it alone, so help one another unpack!



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How to Flirt Properly

 If you want to flirt and succeed in getting the person you want, then follow these secrets:
Smiling Sexy is one of the most irresistible things about a person is their sexy smile! Make a habit of smiling a lot when you are out. You do not have to smile for no reason 24 hours a day of course, but do smile when you make eye contact with people. It will draw them to you, because people find smiling very confident and desirable.

Eye Power. If you spot a person who you are interested in attracting, then make sure to make distinct eye contact with him or her. Once the two of you make that contact, give them a smile that lets them know that you are very happy to see them and that you find them very attractive. You know the smile we are talking about! The smile that tells people just how confident and sexy you can be! Give them that fixed, luring eye that they just will not be able to resist!

If you want to be a successful flirt and attract your date, then Take Charge! Never wait for them to take the lead in a date. In fact, you will be making it easier on them by taking over as host and that will really impress them and draw them even closer to you. Make sure you know a few good and interesting topics to bring up before your date, so that you do not run out of ideas and get stuck! However, you do not want to over talk either, otherwise you will come as a chatterbox and turn him or her off.

You need to be a good Listening Skills as well! Everyone likes to be heard and paid attention to, so be a good date by giving your date that attention they crave so dearly for. By being a good listener, you will prove to your date that you are indeed very interested in them and it will make them open up to you even more!


If you see someone you find attractive, a good way to succeed getting to know them is by staring at them and Getting Busted for it! You have to get caught; otherwise they will never know you had your eye on them. Do not stare at him or her in a sense that could scare them off, but do it mysteriously, and when he or she catches you doing so, just give them a friendly and bright smile.


If they smile back, you can go up to them and say hello. Giving a sweet Wink is another successful and obvious way of flirting! Just do it once after making eye contact with that certain person and see how they react. If they react positively and you wish to pursue further with the flirting, then you can say hello and ask him or her how they are doing today, and ask them for a name. Last but not least, it is also essential to Compliment the person you have a particular interest in attracting. By complimenting them, you will make them feel special and attractive and this is exactly what you must do if you wish to be a successful flirt and expert. Examples of compliments would be making a nice comment on their hair, clothing, perfume or cologne, eyes, smile and so on. Avoid making comments on their body parts, especially with women because you will most likely offend them and come off as a pervert, which is not what you are aiming for! By following these secrets, you can hardly go wrong in getting to know the people you lust to meet!

Remember....smile sexy!

What Makes a Strong Relationship Even Stronger?

We know that relationships aren't always easy, and we all know that they require work. We know that there are risks of break-ups and heartaches.A strong, healthy relationship can be one of the best supports in your life. Good relationships improve your life in all aspects, strengthening your health, your mind and your connections with others as well. However, it can also be one of the greatest drains if the relationship is not working. Relationships are an investment. The more you put in, the more you get back. Love and relationships take work, commitment, and a willingness to adapt and change through life as a team. Learn about ways to keep a healthy relationship strong, or work on repairing trust and love for a relationship on the rocks.

What makes a healthy love relationship?

• Staying involved with each other. Some relationships get stuck in peaceful coexistence, but without truly relating to each other and working together. While it may seem stable on the surface, lack of involvement and communication increases distance. When you need to talk about something important, the connection and understanding may no longer be there.
• Getting through conflict. Some couples talk things out quietly, while others may raise their voices and passionately disagree. The key in a strong relationship, though, is not to be fearful of conflict. You need to be safe to express things that bother you without fear of retaliation, and be able to resolve conflict without humiliation, degradation or insisting on being right. 
• Keeping outside relationships and interests alive. No one person can meet all of our needs, and expecting too much from someone can put a lot of unhealthy pressure on a relationship. Having friends and outside interests not only strengthens your social network, but brings new insights and stimulation to the relationship, too.
• Communicating. Honest, direct communication is a key part of any relationship. When both people feel comfortable expressing their needs, fears and desires, trust and bonds are strengthened. Critical to communication are nonverbal cues—body language like eye contact, leaning forward or away, or touching someone’s arm.

What makes the Great great. They are willing to be different from those around them. Friends and family may tell you to give up or that you are trying too hard. Take their advice and thank them, but follow your heart. They may suggest games that incite a sense of jealousy. Whatever the case may be, you must decide whose calling the shots. You have to live with the decisions and the actions that you make. Make sure that this is done to the best of your ability. Greatness as a partner demands that you expand your ability to love. Growing a better relationship will be in direct proportion to your ability to love. Strive to consistently love in all that you do. Be consistent in love with the words that you speak and especially in the words that you do not speak. Love requires sacrifice. It means doing things that you do not feel like doing and listening to the same complaint over and over again. Partner focused relationships are synonymous with love. Only through these sacrifices of love will you ever achieve greatness. When you are in his arms, you feel at ease. When you are in his bed, you are his and he is yours both physically as well as emotionally. Be sure that you have your sexy lingerie for this beautiful moment. Shop our store and save $10 on a purchase of $50 or more. Use code: 10-OFF at checkout. http://www.simplydeliciouslingerie.com/ 

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3 Rules To Follow When Hand Selecting Your Womans Lingerie

The #1 rule of thumb in the men’s guide to buying lingerie for women is to calm yourself down!Why? Because I have no doubt that you have fantasized about a hundred and fifty times different sexy outfits you wish your significant other would wear for you. Did you know that the most common mistake that men make is to purchase lingerie that they love without thinking about what the woman would want? True...so you think it's erotic and hot to trot...ask yourself this boys...would you be comfy wearing it? My guess is that your answer will be a big fat NO,..so then, think about your gal while shopping for a sexy seductive little number. Not sure what your woman actually would want? You can generally get a rather good sense by looking at what she already has. Keep in mind though that it is OK to go and be a little risky, just don't go overboard. You want her to feel confident wearing it, not self conscious in it.

Sexy Lingerie

Women who typically wear sweat pants and a tee shirt to bed will be happy with something comfortable. A complicated getup with garter belts and stockings may not be the best choice. A cute, soft babydoll in a soft fabric such as silk will offer her comfort and be sexy. If you are hoping for something racy, you may need to begin simple and slowly work more fancy lingerie into the bedroom. See if she loves the babydoll and then progress from there.

If a woman already has a fairly good sized collection of lingerie, this lets you know that she loves to dress up and will appreciate something spontaneous. There are many exotic, fantasy lingerie sets that this type of woman probably will love, but may want her man to buy for her. In this case, that cute sexy matching set  just might do the trick.

Rule #2 in the men’s guide to buying lingerie for women is to consider the woman’s size and the self confidence level of the woman. Not every female looks like a super model and a woman with a fuller figure may not be overly enthusiastic to slip into a tiny, silky g-string. If a woman generally wears shorts but covers up her top half, she may be self conscious about her arms or stomach. In this case you will want to choose a piece of lingerie that offers that same. If a woman is comfortable in jeans and a tank top, she may be a bit self conscious about her legs or rear. In this case, a beautiful lingerie set with a matching robe can be the perfect choice. In this way, the woman has control over how much is exposed.

Rule #3 in the men’s etiquette to buying lingerie for woman is to know your woman’s size is. Take a peek in that laundry hamper or her lingerie drawer; tags on bras are generally near the clasp, panties and garters on the back rear area. Lingerie that actually fits will be much more appreciated than any that needs a lot of wiggling to fit into. Select for her something at Simply Delicious Lingerie that makes her smile and feel romantic and full of sexual energy! Visit us today; Simply Delicious Lingerie

6 Suggests for Keeping the Spark in your Marriage....

1. Have really good sex.

That's right...that is exactly what I said. One marriage counselor and therapist after another will tell you that sex is a vital part of successful marriages. If you're having problems in the bedroom, talk it out with your spouse and maybe even consider seeing a medical doctor or sex therapist if the issue requires professional help to get resolved. Even if things are hot and heavy in the bedroom, you can always make improvements.

2. Woo your spouse with lots of hugs and kisses.

Kissing and touching your spouse is a great way to keep the heat between you burning. Increase the romance factor by surprising your spouse with an extraordinarily passionate kiss every so often. It doesn't always have to lead to sex, but it plants the seed for future encounters and makes the day a little more exciting.

3. Don't take your spouse for granted.

Too many couples fall into a rut because they start to just expect their partner to always be there and they quit courting one another. But marriage -- at least in part -- is an agreement to court each other forever. Continue to go out on dates and getting silly with each other. My parents just celebrated their 49th anniversary and they still have date night. Take the position that the fun does not have to end just because you said, "I do."

4. Resolve issues that get in the way of romance.

The biggest obstacle  to romance is tension and stress that arises between couples who are having problems -- from an overly intrusive mother-in-law to unpaid bills. Discuss problems as they arise and try to find solutions that will satisfy both of you. If the problems are too big for the two of you to handle on your own, seek help.

5. Create a love nest.

Make your home conducive to romance, a sanctuary where the two of you have privacy and tranquillity. Setting the mood for romance in the dining room the bathroom, most definitely the bedroom, and certainly anywhere else in between is not difficult, nor does it have to cost a lot of money.

6. Try being more adventurous.

Regardless of your ages, or how long you've been married....after a couple has been together a while, they may at times tend to get a little bored. Sure it happens, but it doesn't end here. When this happens you're going to need to spice it up...yes you heard me, kick it up a notch sister by foregoing your usual routine. Take a weekend getaway, try a new move in the bedroom, get dressed up for a night on the two with each other. The unexpected always makes life a little more exciting.

Let's Talk About Sex ....

What is involved in the natural art of making love? Please don't say a bottle of wine and candlelight dinner,..but that is a starter, and quite the romantic one. A lot of thought generally goes into this big ordeal because it is a very big deal and quite the perfect preparation I might add. Love making does not only involve sexual pleasure but also a happier mood and a stronger relationship in the long term. You have to naturally test the waters first to see what you both enjoy...never assume anything, especially with a new partner, or it could very well backfire on you! In order to benefit from love making both partners should derive mutual satisfaction from the act which implies both partners should reach ultimate orgasm. You should know how and when to make love in the right way and form. I've listed a few tips, but only you know how to romance your partner and make it a night of passion to remember. First of all, buy your lingerie at http://www.simplydeliciouslingerie.com/ where there are a variety of selections and discounted prices!

First of all; Set the mood. Yes set the mood....make it a night to remember! In order to make love the right way proper mood is very important. You simply can not satisfy your partner is he or she is in a negative or a bad mood. This is the major reason why some couples feel love making was absolutely awesome sometimes whereas other times it's just ordinary. Your and your partner's mood has a big role to play in love making. To keep the heavenly magic intact in love making always do it when you feel the situational moods are right. Timing is everything. Plan this wayyyy in advance. Sure you can do it on the fly if it just happens to happen, but we gals like feeling special.


Romance- Love making is all about romance and emotional attachment towards each other. Romance is extremely important to add that extra spice before you start taking your clothes off. Romance normally leads to an exceptionally better love making and you get more satisfaction each time you make love. Amen to that!


Use words- Words are a very important part of love making and should be used wisely. As is body language! My grandmother used to say that you can speak with your eyes without every having to open your mouth! The pleasure from making love doubles when you tell your partners how much you love need or want him or her. Research has shown that couples which involve more feelings and emotions in love making are known to be happier in the long term...and isn' it long term that we all desire?

Take it further- Continue the above mentioned steps and take the next step into foreplay. This is when you break out the reddi whip and rhinestone handcuffs for play time! This is the final step of proper love making which leads to eventual orgasm. Oral stimulation doubles pleasure and you can make love for several hours.

How good are you in bed? - Are you good? Don't just think that you are, you have to know that you are. Egos can get the best of some of us, but seriously, at that particular time and moment it's not good to think we are rather we have to be. Do you have what it takes to satisfy women in bed? Are they having a real orgasm? Or do they fake it?  Do you know what every woman wants bed? Ever tried to wonder what's in a woman's mind? What is she thinking about? Do you know that women do not always mean what they say? They might say something and mean the exact opposite. But what do women actually want? Good luck trying to figure us out because sometimes we don't even know what we want! Enjoy your partner, practice makes perfect!

Relationships or Rejections?

Let me ask you a question...How into someone do you have to be to realize that it is or isn't the right fit? More importantly...How into this person are you to know that they are one of a kind and that no matter how long you look, she/he is what you have not only searched for most of your life but desire all the more? Do you think of them when you aren't with them? Do you go to sleep thinking of this person and wake yup doing the same? What if you are feeling all of these incredible things and you find out that.....they don't feel the same? How can you determine if this is going to be a solid relationship or a bad rejection? You don't...not always. Sometimes life turns out wonderful and you build a relationship with this wonderful person, and other times you are devastated as you meet rejection face to face.


Most people won't get it, or you...in fact your family and friends might even think you're nuts for having these feelings. So what do you do when someone you have your eye on or you love rejects you? Do you feel sad and think that your life is over? Or do you brush off what has happened and just move on in your life? Ponder this question and the answer you come up with could be a major key in how you handle relationship rejection.


Major causes of relationship rejection
• They might not be interested in you
• They might not be interested in a relationship now
• They might be interested in someone else
• Perhaps they don't like your personality and life style
Dealing with relationship rejection is not at all easy, and unfortunately, it can hurt others besides yourself especially if there is a child or children involved in the equation, so what is  the easy way to express feelings and to learn from this?


If your goal is to learn how to deal with relationship rejection and find someone to love, then follow the guide below:


1. Change your focus
I can guarantee if you don't change your focus from the simple point of convergence  on the rejection to something else more uplifting, dealing with rejection will stay difficult for you, and this is NOT something you want following around you forever. Why? Are you serious? Because it is not healthy and it is not the way to make your next possible relationship work. When you meet a man/woman and you begin thinking of them all the time, for no reason or for every reason, you need to dwell on this; If you care for them, make certain that you are over your previous love, 1) it's not fair to them, and 2) it's not fair or healthy at all for you. You both deserve better. I'm not saying that a few weeks from now or a month from now you won't feel the same way about this person, but at least you'll have had time to sit back, gather your thoughts, ponder your options, and plan your move to win his/her heart.


There are many different methods that will help you change your focus like meditation, visualization, remembering a positive experience from your past, smiling, and laughing. At first focusing can be difficult especially if you have been just rejected, but with constant practice on shifting your focus, it will get easier and becomes a positive habit in your life.


2. Create a  positive spin;
Add a new twist to this mixture by assigning a positive purpose to the situation. This is one of the best ways to deal with relationship rejections from the past. Once someone rejects you; simply say to yourself that what has happened is for the best because you are meant to find someone else who is better in all ways, who deserves you and to be loved by you whole heartedly and so completely.
People who deal with relationship rejection skillfully are masters at assigning a positive purpose to situations and events. Their self esteem is high and believe they are worth of the best, nothing less.

Here are some positive purposes you can assign when you get rejected:

• It is her/his loss for rejecting me
• The fact that I got rejected means someone better is on the way, and I will welcome this person.
• This rejection is meant to teach me something so I'm going to look for the lesson and learn from it.
• The list is endless so feel free to add more to the list...believe me, you will.
The key is for the purpose to be positive and uplifting. Don't beat yourself up, focus on this new person and see him.her as a future potential. Don't be afraid to tell them that you care, otherwise, they may move on to someone else and become involved if you don't speak up. You know that old saying listen to your gut, but follow your heart. Emotions are hard to fight, nonetheless, make sure that you are really ready so that no one gets hurt in the future!


3. Take responsibility
Take responsibility for your thoughts and emotions and stop playing the victim. Often when people get rejected in a relationship, they start thinking there is something wrong with them. Statements such as "Why didn't she or he like me? There is something wrong with me, otherwise she/he would've liked me" are very common.

Playing the victim doesn't serve you any good and it makes it very difficult for you to deal with relationship rejection. The sooner you say to yourself that your happiness is what matters and you will not let anyone's rejection upset you, the better it will be for you.


4. Stop seeking approval!
Listen, you don't need me, or someone telling you who you should be with,...right? Creating a happier you creates confidence, and a more attractive YOU! Sooo...giddy up. Go find that right person...or if you already have, figure out how to keep her/him and make it work. You don't need anyones approval for your happiness. YOU decide who who want to be with and only you know what kind of person is truly the "one" that will keep you smiling for years and years to come. Make sure that there is a deep connection, and that this person is quite genuine. There are a lot of ways to find this out. Pay attention to what other people say about this person, watch their lifestyle and how they interact with others, observe their family, friends, and do what I do, Google them. You can find things out about a person by what others think via comments on a FB page, a blog or read press relseases or bios on them.


Remember, we are all on a path, and the big guy upstairs has a plan for us. It might not be with the person you originally desired, however, maybe the vision was to be that this particular person was not the intended one for you after all? Maybe you just really need someone that loves you for you, and someone who can and will save you from yourself? I used to wonder why people were taken from me, why I was rejected, and then I realized that it wasn't my turn to love whole heartedly just yet,..and I am now. My grandmother was my best friend and she used to always tell me that I would find love when I least expected it, and not to look for it. I stopped looking a while ago. If it is meant to be, it will be. You should feel this way as well. Love will find you. It is possible, and stranger things have happened. After all, it is about loving one another.

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What do Women Want,...Really?

1. Intimacy, and LOTS of it!
Woman and men are different as far as relationships go. Listen up men we are not that hard to figure out. The main thing women want from men is time. You need to make us a priority in your life. This is number one on the list also intimacy. If you get too busy and forget us we get resent full and argumentative at times. We are simple. It does not take allot of money to spend time with us. We like attention and affection. A kiss goodbye, a phone call just to see how are day is going. We want to feel important in your life. Basically communication. We do love to be adored!!! You don't have to lavish us with expensive gifts but once in a while is nice!

2. Love...this goes clearly without saying.
Most importantly we just want to be loved. We want to feel loved by you, is that so much to ask? The actions and words have to match up. If they don't we will question it. We do not want to guess or play mind games. If you show it we will return it. We want the man to chase us and pursue us. We know its modern times but we want you to be the aggressor. We love it. We want to be swept off our feet. The more romantic the better. If your not the romantic type become the romantic type! It's real simple boys. You can get to our hearts through our emotions. If you want us to know, show it. If not, please, don't waste our time.

3. SEX...Yum!
The next is sex. We like to be loved and feel a certain closeness with our partner. Don't be shy in this area. We really do want to know what you want and feel. Most important we want you to know as well. We do not want a wham bam thank you mam!! A 10 min quickie is not what we want at all. We want foreplay, and lots of it. Well, wait a minute, that depends on which woman you ask, because quite frankly, I can take it or leave it...most women that I know of want a lot of it, personally, I like a little, but don't want to be teased all night. I get bored quite easily. If your a bad lover we won't tell you, we will just fake it. You will know because we will just roll over and pretend to be tired. We definitely want to be pleased and have an orgasm(s). We love to be kissed passionately. Especially on the neck and other places, you get the picture. After love making we love to talk and be held close. This is a must!!! I guess that the bottom line is really quite simple; we want to feel like we matter in your life! We want to be asked for our opinion. We want to be an equal. A compliment goes a long ways.

4. Support...crucial to a relationship!
What do I mean by support? We want a man to hold his own. We want his love and support. If we have something special to tell you, we want you to listen and encourage us. We also want to lean on you when we are down and out. Cheer us up! Tell us something funny so we can laugh, but always know that we are there to listen no matter what. It's a two way street, you can't have it just one certain way...share your issues, problems and communicate. It is key.

5. Truth...how 'bout it?
We just want our man to be honest with us. If your late, tell us why. Oh hey trust me... there is no reason to lie about it. We have women's intuition. I prefer to call it my radar. Lie boys and your ass is grass. Just be straight up with us, we aren't so fragile that we'll break. Besides we'd prefer hearing the truth from your lips directly and not in some round about way at a bar, or club or at the office. So not cool...

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