How to ENHANCE Your SEX LIFE!

If you are a 'Rated G' or even a 'Rated PG' kind of person, this article won't suit you...why? It's RATED R! It's going to get naughty and down right dirty. Why? I get comments and personal notes to my direct email account through my websites each and everyday from both men and women asking me to write about specific things and specific topics. Generally I don't offend people, but there are days when topics such as these arise when and where people do often dislike the terminology that I use while explaining certain things. For instance, today the topic is how to enhance ones sexual experiences and sex drive! If this bothers you, it might be a great time to leave the page and read another article. If it sparks interest as I am assuming it will, read on. The media often depicts sexual behaviors as very intense and serious. In addition, many people focus more on performance than on pleasure when it comes to sex. People can forget, therefore, how fun sex is. It is important, however, for couples to remember the fun aspects of sex. What annoys me the most are that many of these people that are doing the complaining about how wrong all this sex talk and expressive submission is...they are the ones that lack it the most and should be doing it.For those of you who have read, or are currently reading the 50 Shades of Grey, you'll understand the importance or role playing, games and toys!

Some couples will tell you that they simply don't have time to have sex any more. Busy lives, over worked, bla,bla bla. You are the ones that are in desperate need to read this article most! It is perfectly acceptable to explore fantasies, relationship-enhancing toys, or anything else for that matter, if everyone in the relationship is comfortable doing so. At the very least, couples should be able to express openly the joy that comes from having a pleasurable sexual experience. Every person in a relationship needs to determine for them what is and is not “fun” when it comes to sex. Never push a partner to try something that they don't want to try. You'll only make them not want to be with you at all.

Would looking for ways to have better sex after years of good sex with your partner be sinfully greedy? NO! From the averted gazes, blushes, and giggles that so many people produce when sex toys are mentioned, you would think increasing sexual joy past some legal limit truly would break a law or two. No way by nature, human beings are game players and tool users. We enjoy inventing recreational activities that enhance our abilities to do required tasks: accurate javelin throwing and bringing down dinner-on-the-hoof have something important in common. So, too, game-like sexual fantasies, whether all in the mind or role-played with costumes and props, "tools" if you will, are natural extensions of a healthy desire to heighten pleasure and enrich sexual relationships.

1) Vibrators have a place among the tools that people use to improve their sexual skills, increase their own and their partners' pleasure, and add joy to their sex lives. They are the leading #1 seller of all sex toys next to the Whip Smart Pleasure Swing (which I carry and offer super low costs in comparison to all other websites.) Most female orgasms depend on clitoral stimulation, and vibrators provide the most intense clitoral stimulation possible. In lovemaking with a partner, vibrators work best as a complement to other sexual stimuli. Using a vibrator does not reduce the sensual pleasure of direct body contact, of skin on skin, of mouths and tongues, of hands or genitals. Know how that saying goes, "When Mamas happy, every ones happy!?" So so true. Throughout the day(s) we carry heavy burdens, have to shuffle kids from one ball field to another, dance class, ballet, track and field, golf, lacrosse, etc. We are mentally and physically exhausted. Does this mean that you have no time for sexual and sensual fun with your spouse, lover, mate, partner, etc? NO. Now is the time that you need to relieve some of that stress and pressure, so get to it!

2) Aim for the G-Spot - G-spot vibrators are now available and designed to stimulate what has been described as the G-spot located on the upper wall of many women's vagina's. The surface of the G-spot tends to feel rough to the touch and, like erectile tissue in the penis; it may become firm and swell when stimulated. Once the G-spot is found any stimulation will help, a vibrator, finger or penis works great.

3) Dildos have been around since the dawn of humanity and probably will be for a while longer. Every woman loves them and most own more than one. Made of pliant silicone these days, they can be used for vaginal or anal penetration and come in every configuration you might think of and many you probably would not. For safety, dildos intended for anal use should have a flared base. Prosthetic penile aides are hollow dildos, usually made of latex, and can be worn by either males or females. They are held on with adjustable elastic straps. A "universal harness" designed for any dildo or penile aide with a flared base, are also made. Dildos can be fun with oral sex. As the man pleasures the woman, he can stimulate her clitoris with his tongue and use the dildo in her vagina to reach the G-spot. For women during oral sex on a man a dildo can be used anally, if so desired.

4) Lubricants add a sensual slickness to sexual stimulation. Many are odorless, tasteless, and non-staining, and some are edible. Buy yours at our store where they are tasy treats in a variety of scents and flavors. www.SimplyDeliciousLingerie.com. I carry massage oils and body lotions that are heat induced by touch. Others warm up when you blow on them. Is that not a tasteful way to create a hot, sizzling sexy environment? this is important though; Use only water-based lubes; oil-based lubricants destroy the latex used in condoms, dams, and diaphragms. Many lubricants are designed for multiple tasks, massage, eatable, vaginal lubrication, and more.

5) Sex toys include products such as positioning pillows, sex kits, guides, books, erotic videos, feathers, games, leather accessories and so much more. There are many toys available for bondage aficionados. We offer blindfolds, satin restraints, slappers and handcuffs. Everyone needs handcuffs and Redi Whip in their supply closet. These are great for creating some fantasy play that will leave a vision in his or her mind for a long time!

6) Dress-up clothes are a great way to add spice to one’s sex life. Our lingerie is forever changing and we will continue to update our line to keep our clientele happy. Check out our fantasy costumes. If that is too much for you we have regular costumes that you can wear in the bedroom or out to a Halloween Party. They come in size from S-4X. These products are fun and sassy and definitely add a thrill to the romance.

 Want my suggestions? Set a goal. Whether it's to have more morning sex, extend foreplay, try a minimum of two new sex positions a month, or simply pleasure yourself more often, having a goal can rev up your sexual appetite and reignite waning passion between you and your partner.

 Wear something erotic and cute to bed. Falling into a routine of wearing flannel pajamas or a baggy T-shirt and sweats to bed rather than something sexy can be all too easy. And let's face it: How sexy can you feel wearing something that's been through the wash so many times it's literally coming apart at the seams? Ensure you go to bed feeling sexy by wearing something cute, silky and sensual. The sexier you feel, the more likely you'll be to actually want to have sex.

 As Marvin Gaye once sang "Let's Get It On"...doesn't mean at a particular time...I say get it on in the A.M. :If you haven't been able to stay awake long enough to get through a 30-minute evening sitcom, let alone have sex, try getting it on in the morning instead of nighttime -- or maybe you'd prefer some afternoon delight. The point is that sex is an anytime affair, rather than an after-dark-only activity.

 Try decluttering the bedroom. This is your sex palace, not the garage. Sex just seems less passionate in a messy bedroom that is filled with dirty clothes and other items that never seem to get put away. Give your space a sexy makeover by investing in high-quality sheets, getting rid of clutter (anything you don't use or need) and making an effort to put things away. A clean, serene space is much more conducive to sex than a room that looks like a tornado came whipping through.

 Hey...Who says sex needs to be relegated to the bedroom? I say live life to the fullest. There is nothing wrong with the kitchen table, the stairs, the patio furniture, the hood of the car or the pool table, bath tub, shower. Elevate your sex life by charting new territory and seeing what the other rooms in your house have to offer. Nothing is off limits. Chairs, couches, tables... test them all. You'll feel a bit naughty, which is great for arousal. Plus, you may end up finding a new space for sex that puts the boring old bed to shame. Isn't it time that you turned up the heat?

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Is Your Bedroom Rockin?

Tell me something....Is your appetite for sex as strong as it was a month ago, or a year ago? If not why is that? Are you getting what you want or does it feel like something is missing? Sure, you and your partner make love regularly but are you really satisfied with what you do together? If your answer is "Yes, I am perfectly content with my sex life," then that's awesome! But if your answer is closer to "Umm... well..." then perhaps it's time for a change. Here are some tips for getting what you want in your sex life.You don't have to pull teeth to get these things, but you do have to communicate and as Madonna once sang "Express Yourself!" 

Know what you want

This sounds painfully obvious, but it's not as simple as you may think. There are numerous reasons why it can be hard to answer the question, What do I want? Some people shut down their desires because they feel funny about them. Others have a very limited knowledge of the countless ways that humans can express themselves sexually. Many individuals don't understand their bodies very well.

Understanding what you want requires being open to your most personal thoughts and feelings. There is no need to be judgmental about desire. What do you fantasize about, either during lovemaking or when you're alone? Fantasies are often crazy and unrealistic, but there may be elements that could easily be acted out in the bedroom. If you believe that you are lacking in sexual knowledge, then give yourself permission to learn more through reading books, watching movies, or surfing the web. Maybe you should role play?

Ask for what you want

Now that you have a good idea of what you want, share it with your partner. Try to frame your request in a positive way. Don't complain about how dissatisfied you are with the status quo. Instead, talk about how much you love your private time together and how it exciting it would be if he or she did a certain thing. If he or she seems unwilling to consider your request, then you need to find out why. Once you understand your partner's hesitation, you may be able to come up with a compromise that would be rewarding for both of you.

Give your partner what he or she wants

If you're getting what you want, it's only fair that your partner gets what he or she wants, right? Ummm YES! A sexual relationship should be mutually satisfying or it will hit the rocks pretty quickly. Give your partner an opportunity to talk about his or her own desires and do your best to fulfill them. Ladies, don't withhold sex as a punishment. This is not a game, and the poor guy doesn't want to experience blue balls night after night because you are angry or hormonal. If something is bugging you, fix the real problem instead of letting your resentment spill over into the bedroom. And gentlemen, you need to understand that pleasing and fully satisfying your partner is the most effective way of getting more sex. 

It's that simple. You really can get what you want, sexually speaking - or at least a big portion of it. Use these tips as a guide to curing dissatisfaction in the bedroom. When you understand your own desires, are able to verbalize them, and are willing to cater to your partner's desires, the end result can only be a more spectacular love life. Spice it up and keep the fire burning in the bedroom! Your bedroom should be rockin',...or has the sizzle died?

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10 Ways to Tell You Are a Lousy Lover...

Ladies, most of us at one time or another have all questioned  how good we are in bed, well, maybe not all of us, so women think they are the bomb-diggity...but are they really or is their ego as big as some of the men they date and they just think that they are sexual dynamos under the sheets? Do you ask yourself if you are a good lover? Sure, you say you are, but if you were to ask a few of your ex's, what would they say? What if their they may have a different opinion? Many women think that they were really incredible only to find out later that what the man thought was that they were a real dud...that's right, not fizzle to sizzle! 

If you'd like to be just as good (bad) as these women, here are your tips for you to follow: DO NOT do these things...,did you hear me DO NOT! (otherwise you'll earn the lousy lover award)

1) Taking ex-lover's opinions

Any guy that wants to play sheet-hockey with you is going to tell you how great you are. I'm sorry, but the guy lies to you not to hurt you, but to prevent you from being an even worse - or scarce - lover. Men have enough to worry about with just getting good sex to add to it.

Here's a bottom line you should adopt: don't use the salesman's opinion to judge the quality of the product. Of course men are going to tell you that you're awesome! Sweetheart, they just got laid...they are just glad to have sex!

2) Now...assuming you're good in bed

Every woman I know thinks she's a great kisser and at least decent in bed. In fact in my experience, less than 10% are either. You don't have to take my word for this however, according to my own research; most other men put the number at around the same place!

Assuming that you're already skilled can actually prevent you from gaining the skills you really should have. Being "confident, but curious" will take you to that glorious 10% very quickly. Moral of the story...never assume anything!

3) Not knowing your own sexuality

Many, many women don't focus on their own sexuality and assume that a man will come along to teach them everything they should know. Don't believe it. It is YOUR job to learn about your own sexuality so that you bring this to the table in a relationship. After all, if you don't understand your own sexuality - what works for you, what doesn't and what else you want to explore - how are you ever going to communicate this to your lover? Some men may stay in a relationship with a lousy lover, but they are forever constantly think about how it'd be with someone else. If you think that takes the pressure off of you fine, but don't be surprised when your lover decides he want to taste a little of that other fruit.

Now is the time to take a little time for yourself and evaluate.  The key to really understanding your own needs - and getting comfortable with them! This can be a powerful source growth if you use it that way.

4) A lack of experience

If you're saving yourself for marriage or for some knight in shining armor, just consider what you're going to have to give when it or he finally arrives. I can't tell you how many women just assume that everything will be incredible - and how many relationships break up because it's not.

Not many men these days want virgins (but some do). For those of us with some experience, we realize that this is just too much work! Men don't want to have to spend the next 5 years helping a woman just get in touch with her own sexual side - she should bring this to the relationship in the first place!

You've no doubt heard that sex "isn't the most important part of a relationship" and while that may be true, it's in the top 3! Why would you spend so much of your time working on becoming the woman of your man's dreams, only to fail where it's most important to him?I'm not saying that you should go out and screw every guy you meet, but you should see every sexual relationship you are in as a chance to grow your own skills for that guy that finally does sweep you off your feet. Doesn't he deserve this from you? (Answer: yes, he does!)

5) Reading books and articles written by women about what men want in bed

If I want to learn about car maintenance, I don't usually go to a guy that sells books and ask. I'll go right to the mechanic. Women spend countless hours reading articles and books written by other women about how to satisfy men sexually. The trouble with this is that many of these women are just as inexperienced! Many men look at these articles too and most of them honestly  just roll their eyes.

6) Not communicating

If man asks you what you like in bed, NEVER give the answer, "Oh, I like just about everything!" It's a cop-out and we all know it.  Being with someone sexually is an opportunity to get your needs met - and to explore new ones. You can only do this by communicating honestly, openly and without embarrassment.

7) Not asking

Wouldn't you love to hear your partner ask you, "Honey, is there anything you really want that you haven't told me?" Very few of the men are the insecure jackasses that women make them out to be. If you know you want something, most men will almost always find a way to give it to you.

8) Complaining

When you ask for something and get it - even if it's not exactly right - don't complain. There are far better ways to improve things! That especially means right in the middle of sex. NEVER, EVER EVER do that.

Recommendations are taken far better than simply complaining about something. If you tell men what you want, they may still not exactly understand it from your perspective, but they'll try most of the time. Women are much more complicated than men in this department. As If men know that we want something, they will  almost always try to give it to you. If it's not exactly what or how you like it, then you need to help them to understand it. trust me on this one, you'll be the benefactor!

On the other hand, if you simply complain, get used to the idea that you're not going to get what you want - and it'll be your own fault.

9) Lack of enthusiasm

If you think holding back is the way to get us to be more interested in you, let me set you straight on this: it won't work. We'll simply find someone that won't hold back and leave you wondering what happened.

Your sexual enthusiasm also communicates your interest in us. That doesn't mean you have to bounce off the walls, but at least be interested in sex and want to grow with us. We'll return the favor in ways you can't imagine.

 

10) Being self-conscious

I know, I know, you're worried about the lighting, mood and every other little issue:

"Does my hair look good?"

"Am I making enough noise?"

"Am I making too much noise?"

"Does this pillow make my ass look big?"

Listen, if you make it a habit of doing any of these in #10....you've got some shaping up to do. No man wants to hear women whine and pout. Suck it up sister and get your confidence game going.



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Are You Getting What You Want in BED?

Let me ask you a question? Are you getting what you want, and by that I mean are you getting sex the way you like it? Sure, you and your partner make love regularly but are you really satisfied with what you do together? If your answer is "Yes, I am perfectly content with my sex life," then that's great. But if your answer is closer to "Umm... well...not so much" then perhaps it's time for a change. Here are some tips for getting what you want in your sex life and enjoying it with your partner.

Know what you want

This sounds painfully obvious, but it's not as simple as you may think. There are numerous reasons why it can be hard to answer the question, What do I want? Some people shut down their desires because they feel funny about them. Others have a very limited knowledge of the countless ways that humans can express themselves sexually. Many individuals don't understand their bodies very well so they don't know how to work them properly either. Listen to your body...it will talk to you!

Understanding what you want requires being open to your most personal thoughts and feelings. There is no need to be judgmental about desire. What do you fantasize about, either during lovemaking or when you're alone? Fantasies are often crazy and unrealistic, but there may be elements that could easily be acted out in the bedroom. If you believe that you are lacking in sexual knowledge, then give yourself permission to learn more through reading books, watching movies, or surfing the web.

Ask for what you want

Now that you have a good idea of what you want, share it with your partner. Try to frame your request in a positive way. Don't complain about how dissatisfied you are with the status quo. Instead, talk about how much you love your private time together and how it exciting it would be if he or she did a certain thing. If he or she seems unwilling to consider your request, then you need to find out why. Once you understand your partner's hesitation, you may be able to come up with a compromise that would be rewarding for both of you.

Give your partner what he or she wants

Listen, If you're getting what you want, it's only fair that your partner gets what he or she wants, right? A sexual relationship should be mutually satisfying or it will hit the rocks pretty quickly. Give your partner an opportunity to talk about his or her own desires and do your best to fulfill them. Ladies, don't withhold sex as a punishment. If something is bugging you, fix the real problem instead of letting your resentment spill over into the bedroom. And gentlemen, you need to understand that pleasing and fully satisfying your partner is the most effective way of getting more sex. My advice...let your guard down and get risque!

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