12 Tips to Keep Your Relationship Uncomplicated

From across the room, you notice him noticing you…then there is the eye contact that leads to a smile. You have a brief moment to retaliate because you've already caught his eye. Saying hello could be the beginning of something really good so open your mouth and say it. This could be the threshold of a fantastic relationship that will grown over time, but you have to work hard at it to keep it. So here comes the anticipation… this leads to you wanting to see him/her more which leads to more dates and more excitement. The intrigue is there for you and you'll be wanting to see this person more and more as the time passes. Your sweet dates at the coffee shop or a nice dinner out move to dinner at his/her place and then next thing you know your drinking wine in his jacuzzi tub while he smokes his cigar starring into your eyes telling you how pretty you look.

Some people jump into relationships hoping that something will become of it and often that just doesn't happen, nonetheless, there are those people that are so fortunate enough to have met that one person that makes them smile and who leaves them longing for so much more. You can't fake this, so don't try. You either have it or you don't. Couples need affection and love. Massages, holding hands or hugging your partner shows him/her that you care. Affection is a necessity. It may not seem all that essential for the man but a women needs this sense of security and to feel wanted.

Relationships take weeks, months or even years to form and to grow and can take only minutes to shatter so do everything that you can to keep the energy moving in a positive effort. It takes two to make a great relationship. I've said it so many times and I continue to say that communication is key and if you can't communicate with your partner you are failing my friend. Find ways to show them that you genuinely care. Whether you choose a romantic evening with your bed covered in rose petals or a sexy piece of lingerie to wear while serving him dessert, crank up the heat, it's up to you to set the mood and the tone.

Relationships on the other hand can be quite vulnerable. You see, life is really simple, we just insist on making it complicated. We all make mistakes in relationships that we criticize ourselves for. Relationships are not meant to be complicated.


12 TIPS to keep your relationship uncomplicated… so that you can focus on the two of you and more romance:

1) Accept and embrace your flaws. We all have them, so accept that no one is perfect.

2) Stop comparing. Do not never ever compare your mate to any one else.

3) Let your partner be who they are. No need to camouflage your mate, don't try to change them. It won't work!

4) Don't be insensitive for heaven sakes…show them that you are listening and that you care.

5) Start showing your love this person. Show them affection, and that doesn't just mean sex when you go to bed. Touching is something that we all need and it is so easy to do. Rub their neck, kiss their cheek, hold their hand on the couch while watching a movie, or put your arm around them.

6) Say the words "I love you" to him/her. You ponder, are these words powerful? YES so why is it that a lot of men/women get them stuck in their throat trying to say them? If you love her, then tell her.

7) Don't judge your mate. They aren't your ex husband, or ex-wife, or your ex partner…they are themselves and you should adore them for their own quarks and qualities.

8) Stop examining the outer beauty and concentrate on their inner beauty. No woman likes to see her man starring at her tummy as if he is embarrassed of it, accept her beauty for what it is or find someone perfect…oh and good luck with that!

9) Let mistakes slide. What do I mean by this? Couples make mistakes, so learn to forgive the other person. Let the little things slide, we all make mistakes. We all get aggravated, but at the end of the day this is the person that will always have your back…and that is a good person to have in your corner.

10) STOP letting your high expectations of what you want out of a relationship get in the way of what you need. Every one deserves good things in life…so if you are with someone that is a Debbie Downer, this is dead weight and it very well could be a time to consider leaving this relationship. We need to be built up by positive people not brought down all the time by negative people. Surround yourself with positive people!

11) Stop saying YES when you want to say NO. You aren't always going to agree with one another on everything so voice your opinion even if it means not being the answer that they wanted to hear. This all happens with good communication. You have to tell your mate how you feel, or don't feel.

12) STOP making it ALL ABOUT YOU! You aren't the only person on this each that is having a bad day, or a bad life. Work might suck, life might suck, but suck it up. Your life isn't going to fall to pieces, and if it does, chances are you caused it, so don't drag your mate into your life of drama. You are in a relationship with someone so make it about the both of you.

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Relationships…Why They Fizzle

Unlike 50+ years ago when my parents wed, relationships are not as easy as one might think and taking vows are in my opinion these days more or less are seriously being taken for granted. Anyone that says relationships are easy is probably the 2% static rate that actually does have a pretty fabulous gig. The other 98% however need to work on theirs each and everyday in order to make it work. Tina Turner once sang "What's love got to do with it?" The answer to that questions is EVERYTHING!

Making it work isn't as difficult as one might think, on the other hand, for many people it is quite challenging to say the least. Communication and trust are two key factors in any and all relationships. You have to have a solid foundation to build on or like quicksand you'll sink and the relationship will go under. Love takes days, weeks, months and even several years to make it right but the rewards are so great for those of us in relationships that struggle and learn from one another day in and day out.

Relationships are not based on sex alone, however, the sex appeal that we possess in a relationship and the teasing that we can do adds a little playful zest. I believe that things can get boring and fizzle if we allow them to and this happens when you get too busy in your own life and wrapped up in your own issues to make time for the one that you are with. Sometimes a woman feels like her boyfriend or husbands assistant talks to him more than she does. Often he has no clue to this as he just thinks that this is work and in all men's minds, work is work. Guess what fellas, it's not always about the mighty buck, and it's not always about you. It's not always about what you have or how quickly you rise to the top that makes you successful…more times than not it is was the voice of your loved one telling you to hang in there and take it one day at a time that is the key to your own financial freedom and success. Like your relationship, this too is built from solid ground. This goes the same way for women who are business savvy and succeed. More often than not, your partner was the drive behind your success and he/she was the one that got very little of your attention along the way.

Relationships need to be nurtured and worked on daily so that the love can continue to grow. How can we keep it real and have that playful fun that I speak about? Passion for someone grows over time and love doesn't happen over night. My grandmother used to say that if you were lucky enough to find that one man that made your heart skip a beat…that one man that could know what you were thinking before it was said and that one man who could ready your body language like a book that he would not only be your best friend rather your life long partner through good, bad and the ugly. I was at the beach once a few years ago and saw an elderly couple holding hands. I said hello and we began to talk. They shared with me that they were enjoying their 65th wedding anniversary where they met, there on the beach. I asked if everyday was easy for them? They laughed and said no way. They stayed strong by staying in tune with one another. They communicated and they looked at every day as if it was the first day that they met and fell in love. I walked away from that 5 minute conversation with a new outlook on life and relationships.

If you have a relationship that is brand new or if it is 20 years old find ways to keep the spark alive! If you lack lust then dig deep and find it again. Not sure where to begin? Relate back to what made your partner smile when you first met. Bring her flowers for no reason at all. Leave her a card next to her pillow that says she is special…How about a glass of wine and some jazz music when he comes home from work to relax and unwind? How about a nice dinner served by you in something sexy? Foreplay is quite erotic you know? Perhaps you need to escape for a weekend or a nice week long vacation. When was the last time that you and your partner went somewhere over night and had fun and really enjoyed one an others company? When was the last time you thought about planning and adult vacation?

Plan a surprise weekend or a trip and make it all about you! Love doesn't disappear over night…sometimes it just lies idle for a while waiting for that spark to come back. What are you waiting for my friend? Ignite it! Make it happen and put your partner ahead of everything else today. Wake up the relationship before it is too late. For those of you who don't have any issues and everything is peachy, now is your time to plan an adult travel and getaway for some R&R. Everyone needs to get away from the everyday reality that they live in day in and day out. Get spontaneous! Get adventurous! Find some sexy lingerie and entice your partner. Whether you do it on a boat, on a beach, in a beautiful hotel room or in the privacy of your own home make it like an oasis paradise and one to be remembered.

You're asking yourself "what the hell does she know about relationships…she sells lingerie for a living?" Folks, I could write a book on relationships. I've learned from plenty of my own mistakes. You get out of a relationship exactly what you put into it. Relationships are a lot like lingerie. Its all about finding what looks best on you, what you are comfortable with and how to make it fit and flow well. You wouldn't want a partner that was overbearing or controlling and you wouldn't want a piece of lingerie that you felt like you were suffocating in because it didn't fit properly because you chose the wrong size. Finding what meshes well together is have the battle. Connecting with that certain someone is like finding the missing piece of ones puzzle. Every relationship needs some tweaking from time to time. Grow together. Do things together as a couple for heaven sakes. Make time for your relationship. Go relax on a beach, go have a couples massage at the spa, take a horse back ride, watch the sunset sharing a glass of wine…together. Isn't your relationship worth it? Don't lose the fizzle. All you need is love…

One Sided Relationships...

Relationships are truly a give and take. It takes two to make it work, nonetheless only one to ruin it. Nothing in the world is as disheartening than when a man treats you poorly especially in a relationship that you thought was a relationship. Nothing is more inconsiderate than when he flirts, speaks of other women being 'hot' in front of you, or if he just ignores you.There are many ways of doing this so listen up. Before I start into this I must first state that given those of you who do treat your lady with respect and like a princess, you are truly the exception and perhaps the jackasses that think life is all about 'me, me, me' should read this and make some serious changes in their lives becoming more like all of you good guys.

When a women begins dating a man she has reservations. We all do. As days, weeks, or even months go by there is a certain limitation that one hits before she has to ask herself "Why do I even care about this man?" Have you made your relationship exclusive yet or is he beating around the bush? Is he seeing only you or are there others? Men love what they cannot have and men love the chase, ohhh but when they catch you the thrill is gone most often and we women end up with the short end of the stick clinging to promises and getting very little in return.

When a man that you have been seeing for some time hides his cell phone, puts it face down, or erases/deletes text messages that you asked to see, he is hiding something. Is he cheating? He may not think so, but he might as well be cheating. Flirting and sweet talking another woman while he is spending time with you is wrong, inconsiderate and uncalled for. When you are with someone and it has been long term (more than 6 months) and he has not changed his ways..ladies, it is time to seriously rethink your options regarding this one. He is not worthy of you or your love for that matter and I would say that you deserve so much better than the cards that you were dealt.

Relationships whether they have been deemed exclusive or not require honesty and most importantly communication. What happens though when the one you care for the most can't see the forest through the trees and can't make the connection that he is doing anything wrong? Does he have blinders on you ask, or is he riding today on the short bus? Some women, like myself stay single for a variety of reasons, but mostly because they fear getting hurt. How can we open our heart to love if we don't allow our heart to feel? Its a tough call, but when you meet that one man that makes everything else in your life seem minimal because he is all that you think about, breathe and dream about, you won't want to imagine your life with anyone else.Taking risks is what we do when we develop feelings for someone. They don't happen over night...but they happen if there is chemistry. Going out on a limb to make them happy before your own well being is a sign of compassion.

I believe that paths cross for a reason and I believe that we make our own destiny. I think that two people find their way and when they meet if it is real, the spark will never die. I believe that actions speak louder than words. Call me crazy but I want the fairy tale. I don't need the castle or the white picket fence. All you need is love. I want a groovy kind of love, with one man who wants me as much as I want him. Every woman longs to get complimented by a man and every woman desires to be loved. Wake up and smell the coffee guys...So, if you care for her, show her....if you love her, tell her...if you don't let her go, so that someone will love her the way that she deserves to be loved, don't you think she at least deserves that much?

A Real Life Cinderella Story....

Some might say that a new pair of shoes is all that you need to feel like a true Cinderella...some say that  there is no such thing as love at first sight, or paths crossing at the right time. I beg to differ. I believe that fate is something that no one can predict. I believe that things happen for a reason, and that two people meet because they are supposed to. We read fairy tales and hear stories about true love such as Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, Snow White, and others... but how often do you hear of stories in real life that make the hair on the back of your neck stand up because it is such a magical story?

Today I was working my part time gig at a well known candle company. It was our Halloween Preview Party and I got to play the role of the Fairy Godmother. Each year the stores choose what they are going to dress up as and after last year when we were all superheroes we decided on Disney Princesses! They young ladies that I work with make my job exciting and fun! I love people and I love the chit-chat. I make more new friends and people would tell you that I am a social butterfly.

To those who do not know me, they will generally ask me what I do and what it is that I love?
Besides running my two online lingerie businesses, this job at the candle store allows me to mingle with guests, share product knowledge, sell, sell, sell, and learn about my customers on a personal level. Every now and again I hear a story that I absolutely must share.

Today a woman walked in chuckling because I was dressed up in costume. She looked at me and said "Ok, I'll bite, whats the deal with the costumes?" I explained that today was our Halloween Preview Party and that we were all Disney Princesses as I pointed out Snow White, Cinderella, Princess Jasmine, and Ariel (The Little Mermaid.)  I told her that I was the Fairy Godmother and asked if I could Bibbity-Bobbity-Boo her a fairy tale come true such as sending her a prince charming? She looked at me and laughed and said 'Boy do I have a story for you, and you bet you can work your magic on me!'

When this woman was 18 she took a trip to Mexico. Her flight was delayed and she ended up missing this flight and having to find another one. On this particular flight she found her seat and as she was putting her things in the overhead when a very handsome man behind her smiled at her. She was intrigued by him immediately. They ended up talking on the plane and spending time together in Mexico. After that they kept in touch and dated long distance for over 2 years. He proposed! She said YES! Then a few weeks before the wedding she got cold feet and backed out leaving him heart broken and alone. She was afraid to move so far away as he was from Mexico.

A few weeks ago this woman was on Facebook and happened to find this gentleman's sister, was it a fluke? She immediately sent a friend request and the woman accepted it. She then asked how this man was after 30+ years? It turns out that he had married and then divorced. This woman was married and now divorced too! They both lived separate lives and had families of their own. This man though after all these years still thought about this woman. His sister invited this woman to Mexico to a family wedding where she is going to fly to see her prince after 30 years to see if they can reconnect. She asked me if I believed in second chances? I say YES! I believe in destiny and fate. She was in tears talking about this and I stood there with my mouth wide open in an intense conversation with her. I begged her to come back into the store in October and share with me how the trip goes?

The moral of the story is this; dreams do come true. Fairy tales are our own realities, and life is short so if you are lucky enough to find love, chase it, follow it and grab hold of it! We all have a little Cinderella inside of us and there is a fairy godmother called 'fate' watching over us! My grandmother used to say that patience is a virtue and that you'll find true love when you are least expecting it. It's all about believing....and finding someone, like a pair of shoes that is the perfect fit!

Connections, Fate, and Romance...

Many times I am asked if I believe in fate? On occasion people ask me if I believed in paths crossing for a reason? The answer to both is YES, I do!  My question is "Are you a hopeless romantic?" Do you believe in paths crossing? It happens and this is called fate, my friend. You see, every now and again fate steps in and gives you a piece of happiness that you didn’t think you deserved, and then as fast as it enters your life, it exits. Sound familiar?   Have you ever gone somewhere and met someone who you just ‘clicked’ with and wondered if he/she could be the one?

Have you ever felt something immediately when you made a connection with someone who stayed in your mind, and in your heart for as long as you can remember? A place stands out in your mind, a special song, or the smell in the salty air? It might have been something as little as their smile…nonetheless, that person changed your way of thinking and at that moment put an extra skip in your step all of a sudden.

My advice (non-professionally that is) is that when you meet someone, when fate steps in, take a chance. There is no time like the present. Say hello to that person and make conversation. Laugh with them. Go out of your way to get his/hers attention and when you do, find a way to captivate them so that you stay in their head for a long time. Speaking of time, timing is essentially everything. There are times that people come into our lives when the connection just won’t work for a variety of reasons or because one or the other of you is not ready.

There are times where years go by, or even a decade and then one day you wake up after thinking of this person who has been tucked away in the back of your mind, and you ask yourself why you met him/her all those years ago? What was the purpose? Why did it not last, and is there a chance that you can rekindle the flame?  I am a firm believer in second chances. I am a true connoisseur of romance… I had a situation in my life-like this a decade ago when I met someone who stood out and stuck in my head. Regardless whether anything would now or could ever again happen, he will always be called my friend.

He was a vision of the perfect man who was funny and kind and when he smiled he lit up the room. We met at a bar on the beach while I was out with a friend. He approached our table and we immediately made a connection and clicked. For 4 days he spent time getting to know me and then when it was time for me to leave. I was given the most beautiful goodbye. A man who barely knew me standing on his pick up truck waving to me as my plane took off on the runway. He crossed over onto private property just so that I could see him. He took a risk for me. He hauled ass to the airport to see me before I boarded my plane, but he was too late. We boarded early. Was that a sign?

 Everyday people do things that surprise us. People,who were complete strangers to me on my plane could not get over the affection that one person could display, and this man did something that will stay with me and in my memory until the end of time. Even though this man has not seen me in several years, he made me a better person. I can still see his smile, and I can still hear his laughter if I close my eyes and listen in my mind. He taught me not afraid to follow my dreams, and he gave me the inspiration to go after what I truly believed in, just like he followed me to the airport.  It’s been nearly 10 years since I met this man, and once in passing about 7 years ago I saw him again while visiting the beach with my friends. At a glance our vehicles passed at a supermarket and our eyes met. I knew it was him.

Second chances? I had always hope and believed in them...I had hoped that this was my second chance and I felt that if he truly wanted to see me he would make an attempt to contact me. 4 days went by and I heard nothing…so I figured that was it…he must have moved on and married or met someone and was happy, and I was not going to be the women to rock the boat. His happiness was important to me because that's the kind of gal I am always putting others needs before my own. It just baffled me that we connected again for a split second and that was it? 

It was the end of our long 4 day Memorial Day Weekend at the beach. It wasn’t until we were picking up last-minute souvenirs at a local beach store when a friend and I were sitting in the car and noticed something under my windshield wiper. When I got out of the car and pulled the card from underneath the wiper blade, it was wet and the writing was smeared, but it said “I’m sorry, I wasn’t ready then…” on the reverse side was his phone number on the business card. I didn't know whether to laugh or cry? We communicated after I made it back home again for a short while and then just like the first time he disappeared into thin air. 

Every year around this time I think of him as we met on Memorial Day Weekend on a hot sticky muggy night at a little bar on the beach called Harold’s on the ocean. Every year around this time I ponder “what if?” Every time I go back to the beach I walk into Harold's on the ocean hoping for that connection again to rekindle the friendship that started all those years ago.  Every visit I hope to open the door and just see him standing there with a smile.  Life is full of surprises and we are blessed with those around us and who grace us with their presence. I am and always have been a live for the moment kind of gal and although this man left my life as quickly as he entered it, he will forever remain in my head. Sometimes, something like this only comes around once in a lifetime; so if this is happening to you, seize the moment. Take the chance...you may never have another one. Your heart will guide you to make the right decisions. You must have fate my friends...for special circumstances often only come around once.  Don't let your dreams get washed away...  

 

Are You Crazy... or Just Falling in L-O-V-E?

L-O-V-E... is probably one of the most powerful words in the English language. These four letters are a whole lot more than just telling someone you love them. What about showing them? Often, it can be a constant struggle resulting in endless efforts to show your mate that you truly mean it by your actions. My grandmother used to always say that actions speak louder than words, and I believe that to be true, nonetheless, those three powerful words are the words that every man/woman longs to hear. When you start dating someone, you never really know where it is heading? It could go well, or it could turn out as a big disaster. 

Chemistry is key, but communication is imperative. Before you find love there is friendship. The two after time go hand in hand. Some might ask themselves..."Am I crazy or just falling in love?" You my friend are the only one that truly has the answer to that question. Please do not misconstrue what I say from what I mean as my intentions are not to make anyone angry. You can be quite happy with someone in a relationship and just date them. You do not have to ever feel pressured to say the words "I love you." If there is pressure, there is possession, (your first red flag) and you my friend better run for your life now before it's too late. 

Word of Advice; Don't tell someone that you love them one minute then do something hurtful and selfish the next like sleeping with their friend, revisiting a dating site ‘just because’ someone may have shown some interest in you, or ignore their calls. The list of “no-nos” is forever endless. Women take things so personal where as most men don’t even think that they are doing anything wrong. Really? Guys you better shape up or that woman that you’re telling you love will hit the road and by the time you figure out what it was that you did wrong she’ll be long gone and you my friend will be like the song goes “Dust in The Wind!”

You don't tell someone you love him or her and never make an effort to show them. There are countless ways that these simple words can express your feelings such as cuddling with them or holding their hand and reassuring them you will always be there for them no matter what. Drawing them a hot bath at night with a glass of wine to end the day, tucking them into bed and ‘not’ expecting to have sex because you know that they’ve had a rough day, cooking them dinner, planning a weekend getaway, or just smiling at them with that look in your eye that you get when you are with her/him that makes you go absolutely crazy!

Love is something rare. Love is something that if you are lucky enough to experience once in your lifetime you should be most grateful. Twice, or more is simply like seeing a shooting star. So many people say that they love their partner but do they really know the true meaning and how much emphasis goes along with it? No, saying that you love someone doesn’t mean its followed by a marriage proposal, it simply means that you’ve met your match and he/she is all that you can think about, want, or need. It means wanting to spend your time getting to know them more. It means opening your heart to new things and letting your guard down. 

There is a certain sense of reassurance that also goes along with love. To love one must first trust. Without trust, there is no love nor should there even be a relationship for that matter. No woman or man wants to go around second guessing what their partner/mate/lover is or is not doing and with whom. Love is about maturity and communication. My grandmother used to say that  to love is like making the perfect casserole. You need all of the right ingredients. Without even just one of them the dish won’t be the same and it certainly won’t have the appeal, desire or taste. Love and communication go hand in hand. One must build a relationship on a solid foundation. If the foundation is not solid, and if you or your mate lies, cheats, and or is deceptive in the relationship in any way, you’ll sink like quick sand. It’s not to late to rebuild that foundation if you’re beginning to sink now…Love is about fault, and mistakes and learning to accept that person for the good and bad. Love is about understanding why one does the things that he or she does. When two people love one another, there is nothing that can or will get in their way.

If you are middle aged like myself and you keep trying to meet the right man and time after time you are let down, then he is not the one for you. Many men and women have commitment phobias. My non-professional advice? Shit or get off the pot my friend. It’s real simple. Don’t say that you love someone if you cannot back that ass up. Words such as ‘I love you’  are so easy to say but so difficult to take back, so if you aren’t sure, don’t be a schmuck and say that you do. You never want to give someone false hope. That’s mean and so wrong on so many levels. 

Flirting and Body Language...What's is a Woman Telling You?

There are times when we meet a man or see him from a distance and feel attracted or connected....We tend to wear our emotions at times on our sleeve as one might say nonetheless, we find it upsetting when we can not figure out what a man is trying to say with his body or gestures. The indirectness of a man's affection may mislead a woman into thinking he has no attraction for her. That couldn't be more true according to the latest statistics. Men are not as sharp on their feet when it comes to emotions, reading their thoughts and testing the waters...we women on the other hand have this one noted 'hands down!' You see, men, unlike women don't have the flirting skills critiqued. We can flirt with hand gestures or by simply using our eyes. Takes notes here guys; these are some very important tips to learn and remember about women.

There are many ways that we flirt; We do so by playing or twirling with our hair...it's a sign of being nervous or some call it playful arousal. How about 'the closer look' signal? Don't know what that is? It's the look you get when she tugs on her sunglasses and gives you the 'come hither' look....This is commonly known as the 'you took my breath away' glance. Then there's the shoe dangling...it's the shoe is half off it means that she likes you and is comfortable being around you, well enough to begin letting her guard that is, and as we all know, most women do have a protected guard of some sort. 

It's all in the hand movement fellas, so pay close attention please! How about when a women does the glamour pose? It's when she arches her back pushing her breasts forward and wither playing with her hair or issuing some pretty sensual body gestures. Lick the lips...OH BROTHER...are you in trouble now. This means that if a woman places her tongue at the side of her lip gently moving it across the lips in a soft sensual position you are being sought out! 

 Look at her eyes; my grandmother used to tell me that the 'eyes' tell it all and 'Ay Caramba' was she right on the money! Did you know that if a woman's pupils are dilated that it means she is sexually aroused by you.

 The hair toss, the lip nibble, the 'tilt and smile' and the stroking of her skin or touching body parts, and the famous 'knee pointing.' If a woman likes you she will cross her legs and face them toward you. This means she likes you and is comfy with you, if they are faced away from you or outwards, it may not be a good sign guys. Plus the more leg exposed, the more sexual feeling. 

 Many wonder what is the number one suggestion of flirting? Her smile...When a woman has an interest in you, her smile can hold your attention from across a crowded room and it is definitely one of the major signs she's flirting. It can take a little effort on her part to do so, you see, we gals never jump the gun too quickly when it comes time to a little 'romance' ...so if she’s exerting this kind of effort, engage in her flirting by returning the smile. So what's a fella to do? Pay attention, sharpen your own flirting skills and learn to read her body language! 

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Shopping for the 'Right' Man?

 Shopping for clothes isn't easy so why on earth would we think that shopping for a man would be? Have you ever tried really hard to meet the 'right man' and all you ended up with was the wrong one? A little over 13 years ago I walked away from a marriage with two kids, a pocketful of memories and my dignity. That was enough for me. I wanted my kids to know that love was not about drinking, or fighting, rather passion, romance, love and kindness. Forgiveness and learning from one another to grow and create a better bond regardless of the length of time committed in a relationship was what I discovered to be the success of staying together. Unfortunately, I learned a little too late.

Self-esteem plays a big role in healthy relationships. Sometimes when we walk away from something good that turned sour over a period of time causes us to lose confidence. I have experienced this in my own life. It took time for me understand who I was and what it truly was that I needed when I started over. I had to rebuild my own life before I could try to find a mate to make a good life with.Yes, I have had failed relationships, sure I have...and I have also had so many that never actually got of the ground...and like you, I asked myself why, why why?

My question was quite simple- What is the reason that I seem to end up picking the wrong person so many times? Well, after years of doing this I realized that I was not ready to find the man for me. My grandmother who was also my best friend always told me that it was all about timing, and paths crossing at the right time. My dates never lasted long. They either did not understand what it was like to be a single mother and raise kids, or they didn't have kids themselves or they didn't like kids...and that was the end of the beginning because I always said that if you liked me you had to like and accept my children because we were a package deal. This was the reason that I had to walk away, and I had every right to do so.

I was like the runaway bride. I found fault with each and every man I dated, enough so to walk away from the beginning of an ending relationship that never really had the opportunity to get off the ground. My daughter told me once that I looked for ways to sabotage relationships and you know what? She was right! That was exactly what I had been doing all these years. It wasn't until a short time ago that I realized it was time to stop. It was time to focus on finding that one man that understood me, and accepted me for me. Where on earth would I find him?

 So how do you recognize the right guy? The first step is to articulate what you want and need. That list is different for everyone. But the second list is universal. And that’s a clear understanding of the qualities of a healthy relationship. I look at good men and what they do for a living....NO not because of what they make, rather how they work under pressure and how hard the work for what they want. I love a man who is an overachiever, much like my own personality, so it is not at all uncommon for me to want the same in a man with the goals and love for life that I have. Enjoy your time with a man who is interested in you, the good and the bad...that means the perfections as well as the flaws.

 Don't waste your time on a guy who doesn't make the effort. Yes, I believe in women being able to ask a guy out, flirt with them, etc. You can start it, but if he doesn't seem like he wants to finish the race, give it up and move on to the next contestant. We seem to invest our feelings way too soon, they we get hurt when a guy doesn't respond the way you want them too. If someone asks you out and you have a great time, but they don't make the effort to arrange for a second date within a reasonable period of time, assume that they are not that interested. Find a man who stands out, one who makes the time for you, and allows you to enter into his world. Most men that truly do care will share with you their feelings and chain of events that led up to where they are today and why they are in the dating scene. Look for a happy, clever, positive man with a zest for life, respect for himself and especially one who shows respect for YOU!

 Here's how I look at it; A good businessman knows how to go close the deal. Ask any guy, if they truly want something, is there anything that would prevent them from obtaining it? Would they just give up if it seemed to hard, no because they love a challenge. How about the guy who is really nice, but not your type who is always trying to get your number. He's determined. His goal is to get your number and take you out. And he will keep trying unless you tell him that your just not interested. As long as he thinks he has a chance, he will keep trying. This is what I mean by saying that if they want something, they will do whatever it takes to get it. The same is true with dating and relationships. If a guy is truly interested in you, he will make the effort to get a date with you. Like shopping for clothing, we often have to try on a few new outfits before we find the one that fits just right.

How to tell you are with the right man;

1. You bring out the best in each other, not the worst. You encourage each other to grow personally, professionally and emotionally, recognizing that change is positive and healthy.
2. You trust each other and can count on one another to do the right thing. There’s no jealousy or second-guessing in the relationship.
3. You have fun together. Playfulness adds spice, and laughter is an aphrodisiac.
4. You share common core beliefs and values. Connecting on an emotional and spiritual level can be just as powerful as a physical connection.
5. You communicate with each other out of care and concern instead of judgment and criticism. Think about it this way: What’s your tone of voice like when you’re critical and judgmental? It’s hard to have a harsh tone when you speak out of care and concern? It should be a happy tone, caring and compassionate. You should be able to tell him/her anything. Communication is KEY and without it, your foundation will sink, leaving you with no relationship, only your legs stuck in quick sand.

My non-professional advice? Embrace life. Good things come to those who wait. 

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