Do you feel sometimes that the relationships you've been in were like sinking ships? Let's talk about why we don't like to admit that we are alone and cannot find love? Let talk about how sometimes we tend to make the same mistakes in relationships over and over and over. I'm sure that you are familiar with that saying; "It's not you, it's me" is all wrong because you know that it is you! Are we sabotaging our hopes of a good strong relationship because we don't want to waste our time getting involved, or because we are being knit-picky and want someone who is without fault? How can we find someone without fault when we have plenty of our own?
When you can dig deep to find these answers, you may then be able to discover why it is that you are not in a solid relationship now. How difficult is it to sit with a group of your friends and hear their stories and experiences that are taking place in their relationships - especially if you’re flying solo? It will make you look at your life and wonder just how it is that you’re still single while all of your friends your age are married or at least in serious relationships. You start to feel down, frustrated and wonder if you’ll ever have what they do?
How do you feel inside when these situations happen? There are actually fears that can keep you single and you may not even know that you have them.You may be afraid that you will be single forever. This is something that many single people fear whether they admit it or not. It usually happens when you’ve had a few, or more than a few, unpleasant or seriously awful relationships, especially in a row. Somewhere in the back of your mind you’re thinking that you may NEVER have that just right relationship. This can really worry you if it’s later in your life. So, you see, holding onto this fear that you’ll never meet the Mr. Right may very well push him away when he DOES show up. I'm not a professional, but try this sometime; "let your guard down!"
Another fear that can keep you single is the fear of losing your man. Most people are on their best behavior when they first meet. However, there are some guys that act creepy right out of the gate by assuming too much about where your relationship is going. They may even start getting possessive and/or controlling. This should big your BIG RED FLAG! Women that exhibit this same type of behavior with men after only a few dates will scare those men away. So when you start worrying about losing the guy before you ever really connect with him, it can make you act in ways that, while totally uncharacteristic of you, can cause the end of this relationship before it even starts. Take it slow and get your feet wet...take baby steps and look for the one that suits you well for all of the right reasons.
One of the top fears that might keep you single forever is that he will turn out to be just like your ex. Oh how true is this? Yet, on the contrary, I would look for a man that was nothing at all like my ex-husband was in fear of replaying life as it was. Do you fear this? If so, it is pretty easy to understand. If your last relationship ended badly, you need to take enough time to get emotionally under control again. When you give it enough time, and you take it slow and discover your true emotions, your next man will get a fair chance without you comparing him to your ex. Breaking the emotional ties to your past, and the fear associated with it, helps you move away from the past without taking any old problems or patterns into the new relationship you’re trying to get off the ground, otherwise, you'll find yourself as Gilbert O'Sullivan once sang..."Alone Again, Naturally!"
Stop nagging, complaining, and second guessing your partner/mate. Are you tired of getting dumped? If you find yourself in one disastrous relationship after another, it could be a pattern. Here's how to identify and break the loop...Get to the root of the true issues!
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