Relationships = Communication + Trust

Sometimes all women want is to feel loved... Sometimes all we really need is knowing that the man that our world revolves around cares, really genuinely cares. Whether it be showing affection, love or romance, we yearn for it. Some men just don't get it, and others have no problem showing affection a million ways. Why is that?

A mans character they say is determined by who he is and how he acts. Compassion, integrity, loyalty, love, trust...these are all attributes that your man should hold with the highest regards. I don't mean in the boardroom...I also mean in the bedroom. What makes her truly happy? What does she like? Why does she care so much for you? Women I tend to believe are much more emotional than men and our feelings can get picked apart. Our guy may not even know that we are feeling like this.

I am not saying that a woman should be placed on a pedestal nonetheless, he should realize that if he continues to simply appease you just to make you happy, this may not be what you had hoped for in a long term relationship. We should not have to tell our fella what to do, or when to call, or how to 'wine and dine' us. We don't need a 5 Star Restaurant to win our heart. A burnt hot dog on the grill would be sufficient with me if he took the time to cook it for me. How difficult is it though for men to open up and let that wall down? Believe it or not is gets pretty difficult.

We act as if women are the only ones that could have been hurt in a past relationship, nevertheless, when it happens to men, the react a bit differently so to speak. Relationships are not built overnight and in most cases it's not love at first sight. In fact, sometimes the couple didn't even like one another when they first met. Then there are those who meet and get that feeling,...that 'vibe' if you will that there is a definite amount of chemistry and that my friend is all that one needs. Without chemistry you have no chance. With it, you have the world at your feet and the tools to make take this relationship to the next level. Relationships are 50/50. If you are in one that is a 70/30 or an 80/20 you need to look ahead at the BIG picture sista! You two need to communicate.

Sex (my grandmother used to always say) is the easy part...but relationships should not just be built on sex alone. That is truly not enough. Communication and trust are what bond a relationship like glue. Take time to talk to your partner/mate/lover/boyfriend/or your husband. Work on goals where you set a few nights a week aside just for the two of you and then designate other days or evenings to do things with friends, or to work responsibilities. For the gals, select a piece of sexy lingerie so that when you do have that one or two special nights during the week you give him something to remember. Men long for more when they don't have it...so with that in mind, as Madonna would say get sensual and "Express Yourself!"

Relationships...Do Women Need a Man's Approval?

Are you contemplating a new relationship with someone that likes you but wants to change your ways because he thinks you would then be the 'icing on the cake' so to speak? We all like it sweet, but as an old friend once said "Sugar, You don’t need a man’s approval, you are in a league all of your own!" Somewhere along the line, a rumor was started that women became known as let’s just say; “the weaker sex”…said no one ever. Ok I’ll bite…

So why don’t you tell that to Annie Oakley, Betsy Ross, Beyonce, Cleopatra,  Ellen DeGeneres, Joan of Arc, Madonna, Rosa Parks or Susan B. Anthony? These women, and so many others that I have not made mention of, all strong willed have endured their own fair share of life, nonetheless, they are symbols of strength amongst women today. Obviously those women, an army of warriors and my guess is ALL of your friends would fiercely disagree right? We are not the weaker sex, and I am sure that I could get women around the globe to back me on this one. We don't need someones approval. You should seek out a man who can and will, or does accept you for the woman that you are. Some of us do, and many of us don't. 

So why are you surrendering yourself to get the approval of some guy? Women have radar and we generally use it all the time…I do, and it’s usually always right and has never let me down before…well, maybe once. The thing is gals that if you meet a good man and want to be with him, you should not need his approval for anything. He should like/love you for who you are with all of your pro’s, con’s, faults, and no faults highs and lows. You’re falling for an idea that psychologists call the “approval trap.” If you seek his approval, there is no turning back my friend. Before you start to defend yourself, yes, it’s great when you get affirmation from friends and co-workers for what you do. What do your friends think about this? Your true friends will try to make you understand why you should not compromise your happiness to appease him. Wake up girlfriend...can you not see the forest through the trees?

The problem is when you depend on their approval for who you are you lose touch with your independence and what makes you so special. Am I making any sense here? Do you see the difference? Handing over your self-esteem to anyone is a dangerous and usually a really damaging choice that should not be taken lightly. The person whose approval you believe that you must have can respond honestly or dishonestly. Are you willing to risk all of who you are for someone that easily? As another friend once said "Did you fall off the turnip truck and smack that nugget too hard on the pavement?" Since when do you need someone’s approval?

He could choose to be an encourager to you or he might verbally take you down to his level. Changing who you are to gain his approval is so wrong on so many levels. The price is simply too high.To attract a man who is secure in himself and ready to be an equal partner in a relationship, you have to be that kind of person. Are you that kind of woman? Are you emotionally stable, secure with who you are and happy with yourself? If the answer is no, girlfriend you need to take a good lookie deep within and ask yourself why? Once you determine what is causing you these issue you can address them and work on fixing them. You'll be on the highway to becoming a better you. You truly can become a better YOU! My grandmother used to always tell me that if you don’t like something …change it! Like minds attract you know? If you’re an insecure and a clingy woman (which oh geez I hope you are not) who has no idea who she is, or what her goals or aspirations are in life, then why do you think you’ll attract a man who is the opposite?

The type of man that you don’t want is counting on you to play the old role of doing whatever it takes to snag him. There are a lot of fish in the sea, so do not think for a minute that you have to latch onto the first one that comes along and grabs your bait. 

Are you making changes with yourself because it is what ‘you desire’ or what you know he likes? Do you change your wardrobe from business classic to low cut and glamorous because that’s what he likes? You begin doing things his way and for him, and you lose sight slowly of you. In no time, you make excuses to ditch your friends because he wants to “be alone” or “expand your circle.” Do you seriously think that the only way to snatch this guy is to give up your life and your identity to be his personal toy. Bad deal for you, great deal for him. Want my personal NON-PROFESSIONAL advise? DON’T DO IT! Don’t lose who you are. Don’t lose your ethics and values for some schmuck that thinks he can change you. Be happy with the way you are and you will find a man who will love you for all of those qualities that make you so unique.

History does have a way of repeating itself. It also shows men as pursing the hidden treasure. When motivated that the prize is worth the effort, men go to any lengths to win and get what they want. What if that treasure is you? Are you willing to make sacrifices to better suite his needs? Are you willing to lose your identity for him? Are you crazy? Any man that tries to change so many things about you that make you YOU is not the man you want to be with,…not now, not ever. Think long and hard before jumping into this frying pan ladies, the fire may be too hot and you will surely get burned!

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Dress Sexy, Talk Sexy,...Be SEXY!

For those of you ladies that did not know how important it is to be multitaskers with men, please allow me to share what you need to do to capture his attention. First I should ask; did you know that more than 50 percent of all communication is done via body language and gestures? Yes, this is very true, so when it comes to meeting MR Right or Mr Dreamy, it doesn't take long at all for him to to size you up subconsciously. Did you also know that a man will decide within 7 seconds of looking at you if he wants to talk to you?

 A Few Pointers;

Wear red

Women who dress in red are seen as sexier by men than those who wear white, green, gray, or blue, according to a study at the University of Rochester. This does not mean that you have to show up in all red, nor do I want you to look like a hooker. Sometimes red means sometime as simple as the lipstick you wear. Men love a woman's lips, so why not show them off! There's your red, simple and sexy! When you wear red, they're even 56 percent more likely to get asked out on a date than women in blue.

What else can you do to get noticed? As Madonna sang; Express Yourself! Men are much more attracted to women who are animated in their face, voice and body. Use your hands and head movements for emphasis, and for goodness sakes, smile!

So is the pressure on for you? YES, the pressure may be on, but projecting an alluring image in that tiny window of time is actually pretty easy. Just use these wordless pickup tricks and any guy who is lucky enough to look your way will feel the sudden urge to come say hi. When a woman touches a man's forearm during conversation, it shows that she's fully engaged. Briefly touching your own neck or collarbone says you'd like to do more than just talk.Body language is KEY, so is the fact that men love when a woman talks sexy. I wrote a blog about this a while back and it has taken such an overwhelming response and the comments sent directly to me were so nice, that I thought I would write to you again and share more about why it is that dressing sexy and body language go hand in hand, and why each compliments one another so well. So straighten up, sexy is all about posture. Don't slouch! That shows a man that you are lazy and not so interested. Head up, chest out, back straight.

When going out;

1) Remember to be who you are and act yourself. Try to be original and unique in your sexiness, not just a bimbo emulating or trying to be somebody else.

2)  Remember, confidence is the key. Sex appeal involves a belief in yourself that you can and will appear sexy. Most public icons or even film stars carry their sexiness in their confidence. Even a simple smile shows confidence and appeal. In fact the starting point to sexiness starts with confidence.

3)  Style your Hair; That's right, make a trip to the hair salon. A new cut or style will make you feel sexy and confident. Having a change of hair color is nice, too. Go for something natural and not too dramatic. Deep condition your hair at least once a month. In the mornings, flat iron your hair or put it in a messy bun, depending on your style. Adding extensions or a wig can radically change an everyday look from "ho-hum" to "wow" to turn a few heads.

4)  Work that Body!
 FYI: Choose the right attire to wear!
This is not at all going to make you spend a fortune on clothes, and they don't need to be designer. Most men, unless you are my son, don't know the difference between Marc Jacobs and Target...there is a big difference, yes, but not everyone can afford high end merchandise, so do what fits your budget and your life style and rock it sister! Whether you dress up in a LBD (little black dress) or you sport attire for a concert or ball game, feel good about YOU! Remember, confidence is so important.

• Invest in a good pair of curve-hugging jeans. Dark denim looks good on all body types.
• Pick some clothes that flatter your figure and that you feel comfortable in. There's no point picking the latest fashions if you don't feel comfortable in them. Pick clothes that make you feel like you.
• Wear lace-up flats or sneakers. Flats are cute and comfortable, two characteristics that you rarely ever find together in the shoe department.
• Wear jewelery that excites you. Find colorful, fun, bright chunky necklaces and bracelets, but if you wear lots of pearls and beads, don't wear a shirt that has a pattern or a picture on it. Wear a monochromatic top with lots of multicolored jewelery.
• Black is ohhh soooo sexy. It's my all time favorite color to wear. It hides fat, creates curves and makes you feel like a goddess...and what woman alive doesn't want to look like a goddess?
• Sexy undergarments. But don't flash them. Be classy about it otherwise you look trashy. Try to maintain class as much as possible, while still being sexy.

5)  Wear make-up. Just make sure not to go overboard. Subtle is very sexy in the same way that less is more. Accent one feature at a time.Remember that you date wants to see your natural side, not a woman that wears enough make-up to cover a clown. He wants to see the beauty in a simple way.
He wants to see you look as beautiful when he takes you on a date as he might see you when he shows up at your door early in the morning with coffee and muffins.

6) Get in SHAPE! What do I mean by this? Need to lose a few pounds, or firm it up? Create a workout plan. Just as you make your to-do list, or your grocery list, make a work out list; Crunches and lunges equal flat, hard ab muscles, lunges equal toned legs, and squats equal a toned backside. Running or jogging works all muscles of the body and increases your stamina. Plus, the hormones your body releases while exercising carry on through your evening activities to contribute to your new sexy attitude.

• Remember that if your workout goal is to lose weight, you're going to need to sweat, and for an extended period of time. Lifting weights will help you drop pounds, since muscle mass burns calories increasing your metabolism. If weight loss is your goal, a good starting point is to do something that gets your heart rate up, like walking briskly, swimming, dancing, or biking, for 30 minutes, 3 times per week. Most importantly, make sure you are burning more calories in a day than you consume. This is the only way you will ever lose weight. Choose a work-out regimen that you enjoy, not one that is going to suck the energy right out of you. I do yoga booty ballet and I love it! 

7)  Wear a perfume that is going to smell super sexy! The closer someone has to get to smell your fragrance, the more seductive it becomes!

In the Bedroom, ...Put On Those Bedroom Eyes and Work It!

Feel sexy. Sexiness is all about attitude. Your man is much more likely to notice low self-esteem and self-consciousness in the bedroom more than a little belly bulge or cellulite thighs. Stop worrying that you're not perfect enough and feel sexy. You will elude sexiness all around.
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Always buy the the right size. This is no time to try to squeeze into a Small when you need a Large. Men don't understand our sizes, they understand sexy looks, and sexy is not busting a gut out of your teddy just to say that you wear a size small. Many women make the mistake of buying lingerie in the wrong size or style for their body type. When they put it on, it's doesn't look good or feel good and they do not feel as sexy. Choose something in the right size for you and something that fits your body type. It will make a huge difference in how sexy you feel.

Dress sexy when no one is around. Wearing your sexy clothes around the bedroom or even around your apartment when you are alone is a great way to make you feel more comfortable in them when you are with your man. Watch yourself in the mirror while wearing your favorite sexy outfit. Practice walking and dancing and moving.

Practice technique. Strut your stuff girlfriend! Walk around your house in your heels and lingerie. Buy a dancer pole and work it! Don't be afraid to rent an exotic dancing tutorial video or read up on your striptease skills. If you want your man to pick his jaw up off the floor, buy a stripper pole and work your body for him with a private show! http://www.simplydeliciouslingerie.com/sex-swing-whip-smart-pleasure-swing/fetish-fantasy-fantasy-dance-pole We carry a pole that everyone buys! When you practice your technique, it will help you perform it with confidence in the presence of your man. If you are feeling sexy and want to get really playful in the bedroom, you don't needs 50 Shades of Grey, you need a sex swing! Try ours; We can't keep them in stock long enough so many couples are trying them! We have 3 fabulous swings to choose from at Simply Delicious Lingerie under our Delicious Deals. http://www.simplydeliciouslingerie.com/sex-swing-whip-smart-pleasure-swing/whip-smart-pleasure-swing-sex-swing

  Roxette sang; She's Got the Look...ladies, if you don't have it, you need to dig deep and find it! Dress sexy, talk sexy, and BE SEXY!

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Simply Delicious Lingerie is an online boutique specializing in sexy lingerie from designers such as Carrie Amber Intimates LLC ‘SeventilMidnight’, Be Wicked, Elegant Moments, Fantasy Lingerie, Raveware, and WMS Clothing. Our lingerie is the aphrodisiac of taste, and represents beauty and luxury at an affordable price. At Simply Delicious Lingerie we've personally selected a variety of sexy lingerie just for you and all of your sensuous rendezvous. We sell accessories, Bordello shoes, Pleaser shoes, garter sets, bridal lingerie, bridal undergarments, honeymoon lingerie, wedding day lingerie, wedding garter sets, wedding petticoats, affordable plus size lingerie, Halloween costumes, sexy plus size costumes,  fantasy lingerie, matching lingerie sets, Men’s underwear, men’s Lingerie, sexy thigh high stockings, satin pajamas, plus size sleepwear, adult novelty items and sex swings including the Whip Smart Pleasure Swing. Have a lingerie party with us and experience fun!  Our mission is to take your sexy lingerie needs to the next level of comfort, intrigue, romance and sophistication. For more information or to place an order today please visit http://simplydeliciouslingerie.com/  Say YES (your everyday sexy) to Simply Delicious Lingerie!® 

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Single Mothers & Leadership?

When you think of great leadership you think of powerful, and the most influencing people that in one way, shape or form had a major impact on life, or your life. Leadership is an art and a science. It is an art because it continually evolves, changes form, and requires creativity. It is a science because there are certain essential principles and techniques required. A good leader knows when it is time to change shape because they are highly attentive to those around them. Coming from a position of strength, a great leader takes risks by freeing up the creative genius in their followers to build their capability and multiply the talents. When I think of leadership, I think of several things.

When I sat down to write this article, I pondered what to talk about and how to show you what others see a great leader as? I was looking on my computer through my research from other previous blogs when I came across an essay paper that my son wrote in 2010 titled "Leadership Essay." I thought to myself, "Was I supposed to stumble upon this?" And then it happened...  my motherly instincts kicked in and I thought to myself "humm, let's see what he has written and maybe, just maybe, I can use some of his literature." You should know that I respect my children's privacy, but this was technically 'out in the open' so I felt it was all right to embark upon. What I read was amazing and the more I read, the harder I cried. You see, this was an essay for college written by my son about me. Needless to say, I was curious but what I learned about how my son perceived me was mind blowing to me. It was titled "My Mother" and this is what he wrote;

         "When I was given the assignment to write about someone who possesses leadership qualities, my mind was made up in an instant. A leader to me is someone who has the best interest at heart and who fights for what they want. They are willing to sacrifice their own comfort and time for others. A leader has the vision and the ability to achieve success and inspire those around them to strive for perfection as well. I have chosen to write about my mother.

I cannot even begin to imagine how difficult it was for her to be a single mother. I watched her through good times and the occasional setbacks, and even through illness.. It continues to amaze me how calm she was about having cancer. I was scared in the beginning that it would keep"coming back.” She was so strong. She went on to describe that her fear was the fear of the unknown. I have so much respect for her and everything that she has endured.  

 My mother is currently working on being an independent business woman. I find stacks of books near the computer every night I get home from school. They are books dedicated to starting your own business. This impressed me and inspired me. My mother is a forty six year old woman who will not give up. She wants to be successful, and she is committed to teaching herself the business skills that are necessary for success. My mother shared with me that she is tired of working like crazy and receiving minimal credit for the outstanding work that she does.

 She worked hard to provide a happy life my sister and I. My mother went out of her way and did everything she could to guarantee our happiness. I have been an avid Madonna fan my entire life. Like Madonna, my mother embodies many of the same qualities. I admire these women for their courage, confidence, determination, and the will not to back down and take no for an answer. 

When people have respect for a leader, they will follow them. My mother has been a great example to me. She is kind, and people are kind in return. Ever since I was a child, she taught me to be kind and respectful to others. My mother and I both respect one another. I have never seen her give up. She possesses all of the leadership qualities that I like most in a person. I am truly inspired by her perseverance. People follow and look up to those who are stronger than them. I am not as strong as my mother. I often feel like giving up, but it is her determination that inspires me not to quit. My mother once said 'No and Quit' are not in my vocabulary. My mother is a terrific leader, and I am her biggest fan.

 Quite honestly....There is no way humanly possible for me to even try to top what I see a leaders role as with the essay that my son wrote, nonetheless, I am humbled by it, and he compared me to Madonna. Leadership does not always just involve one person. In our family, it took 3 of us; myself, my son and my daughter. Like peanut butter and jelly, we always stick together! We learned to be the best that we can be. We learned that great leadership comes from within. You have to want something so badly, and never be afraid to act on it. My grandmother used to always say; "Life is what you make it, and if you're going to dream, DREAM BIG!"

It's never too late to try something new. As a single mother, being a positive role model for my children was my only priority as I do believe that your children and how you raise them are a genuine reflection of 'you!' I pulled specific topics and characteristics that it take to be a great leader to share with you. Summing up true leadership you need these qualities to succeed:

1. Self-respect and respect for others. If you don’t have a healthy self-respect, you won’t respect others. If you don’t respect others, they will not respect you. You can’t lead people who don’t respect you.

2. The ability to communicate effectively. Leaders say what they mean and mean exactly what they say. Effective communicators. are far more persuasive than those who don’t communicate well.

 Integrity and character. Leaders are not swayed by unsubstantiated opinions or unfounded rumors. Fame, power, or material gain don’t motivate them. Leaders have integrity, that strength of character that resists assault. 

3.Having a vision, a mission (or a purpose), a sense of direction, a clear set of goals and get motivated! Moreover, they know that their job isn’t done when one set of goals is reached. Leaders know that life is a journey. Leaders have a vision of what the world around them ought to be, but they are also pragmatic. Things will not always go smoothly, but leaders understand that and have the presence of mind to deal with that.

4. Courage. Fear is a powerful motivator; it causes many of us to turn away from our goals when our belief in ourselves and our cause isn’t strong. Leaders aren’t fearless — leaders make a conscious choice to act in spite of their fear. Persistence, commitment, and dedication.

5. A sense of responsibility Leaders are willing to bear the ultimate responsibility for their undertakings. They don’t point the finger of blame when things go awry. Decisiveness. When action is called for, real leaders don’t waffle.

The Key to a Great Sex Life

 As George Michael once sang..."Let's Talk About Sex"...and what a hot topic that is! Those three letters 'S-E-X' are the most erotic, intoxicating, sensual words on the planet...BUT if you don't know how to use them correctly (and I don't mean directly under the sheets) you won't have a snowballs chance in hell to land the man or woman of your dreams. If you want a great sex life, there is one thing that is absolutely essential. It's not having a super-toned body or being naturally blonde. It's not having big boobs, a hot ass, a six figure salary or owning a fancy imported car. No, the essential element is conversation. 

So you might ask, "who needs all this chit-chat when you're making love with an attractive guy or gal?" Ummm...this is essential folks, so PAY ATTENTION! Well, let me rephrase that for a minute...If you're just having a short fling, you may be able to get away with little or no conversation, that's a given, why talk, he/she means nothing to you really... But if you want to keep your love life passionate and exciting making it long term, you're going to have to start talking more and getting to the core of what each of you truly wants. I wrote about this topic before, but some of you must have fallen off the turnip truck and hit your nugget too hard on the pavement because you're still not getting it? Not to worry my friends...you'll be fine.

Here are three ways to use conversation to improve and sustain your sex life as well as your love life;

Communicate about what you want from your partner...In better terms; "Speak Up and Spit It Out!"

Hey listen, don't be shy...now's not the time. He has seen you from head to toe and everywhere in between, so please, spare me the 'I"m old fashion' story. You can talk, talk talk, but that doesn't always necessarily mean that you are communicating. You can talk until you are blue in the face...Now, body language on the other hand is fair play and it gets the point across much faster. Your lover can't read your mind any more than you can read hers (or his). Giving non-verbal communication in the bedroom is helpful, eye catching and alluring. If that still isn't getting you what you want, it's time to try putting your desires into words and as Madonna sang "Express Yourself!" 

This is where you put phase 2 into action. Always bring along a can of Reddi Whip. Turn a nervous night into a positive spin...who doesn't like a 'body sundae?' No need to talk, just use your lips and tongue. Now they know what you want, but finding out what your partner wants is equally important. If you're a guy who's a little confused about how to please your lady, the answer is simple. The best way to find out what a woman wants is to ask her. Crazy huh? It works really it does. Many women (and quite a few men) are just dying to talk about their fantasies and desires. All they need is a sincere invitation to open up, and you can offer that. If you are still having a difficult time, and the words just don't seem to be flowing, use what God gave you, your natural instincts and talk with your body.

Spice up lovemaking with some hot topic conversation

No, this isn't a suggestion to discuss the latest stock drops on Wall Street, ESPN News, or which famous celebrity was spotted on the strip. However, a little naughty and explicit sex talk while you are making love can add a new dimension of excitement. Not sure how to start? Begin by describing how gorgeous your partner's body is and how aroused you are getting. Talk about what you're doing, what you're about to do, and how it's going to make your partner feel. Even if you don't normally use explicit language, this may be the time to get a bit naughty. Relax and shed those inhibitions.It would certainly help if you were wearing our lingerie from Simply Delicious Lingerie, or Simply Luscious Lingerie, all affordable, sexy lingerie, bridal lingerie, honeymoon lingerie, sexy matching sets, bra & thong sets, babydolls, teddies, chemises, stockings and garters...we sell it all from $9.99 - $29.99, check out our online boutiques.

Give your partner some positive feedback

If there's one thing we all love, it's a sincere compliment. It attributes to our attitude and our self-esteem. No one, and I mean no one wants to hear what they did wrong in bed, or how disappointing they were...so have a heart and be nice. Remember, if it was disappointing...that means that it wasn't just one of you, it was both of you that made it as such. Communication is key and without how will you know what the other wants in bed? Many people are a little insecure about their sexual abilities and they secretly wonder if they are good enough in bed? Make a point of telling your partner how exciting and skillful he or she was last night. Telling them that they were a 'hot piece of ass' is not romantic and intriguing to a woman, so lose that and try also to mention something specific they did and how great it made you feel. Remember, you need not make a big deal about it. Even a few whispered words just before you leave for work will keep your partner glowing with pleasure all day long. 

If you're already doing some of these things, great! But if it's never occurred to you that conversation is essential for a great sex life, you may be surprised at how much of a difference just a few words can make. When you communicate about what you want, talk naughty at appropriate moments, and praise your partner's skill and desirability, you'll find that the payoff is much more than you could have imagined. If you really want to turn up the heat, check out our Delicious Deals where we sell a variety of adult sex swings that will give you and your partner hours of pleasure. http://www.simplydeliciouslingerie.com/sex-swing-whip-smart-pleasure-swing 

Isn't it time that you took your love life as well as your sex life to the next level? Always remember that “We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love.” Communication...it is the key to a great sex life!

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Express Yourself...

"You deserve the best in life...So if the time isn't right then move on. Second best is never enough
You'll do much better baby on your own." I heard this Madonna song tonight as my son (in NYC) and I were sending text messages to one another and I put this part of the lyrics on my Facebook wall. Think about it...don't you deserve the best in life? If the answer is yes, you need to Express yourself!


Have you ever felt like no matter how hard to tried to make things better, or to make a relationship work you just kept taking three steps forward to go two steps back? That was my life 13 years ago and looking back is wasn't as easy as so many people would think. Being the black sheep of my family already I was the one who didn't get through college. I was the one who got married too young and became a mother too fast, and I was the one who would never succeed like her siblings did. Imagine trying to live your life competing with that? Welcome to what was once known as my world. 
Do you know how old and meaningless it gets to be the one hounded by your mother for things that she would NEVER in a million years hound your brother and sister for? Have you ever been made to feel so bad that your self esteem became so low that you didn't think you were capable of doing anything at all, much less being a mother? I ask you...where is the love?


After my divorce I was the "pity" child. I was the one that was in need of something/everything. I was the single daughter with no man to care for me...but guess what? I didn't need a man to take care of me. I could take care of myself. I took on retail management jobs, and worked for custom builders. I tried working for nursing homes, chiropractors, I was an office manager a few times, I ran a payroll and account department,  property management, mortgage work, more sales, and even real estate. The problem was....I wasn't the vice president of a bank, the doctor or the molecular biologist. I was none of that....but I was still the same girl that held her head high when she walked into a room because I was proud of who I was. I paid the bills, kept the room over 3 heads, put food on the table, put two kids through private high school and then onto college. I was 'Super Mom' and to me, that job title was held with more honor, praise and respect than all of the above jobs put together.


I was just me...a woman on a mission to succeed somehow doing something that I love. No one ever guessed that would be selling panties and sexy lingerie for a living but that you see was my calling. Building two lingerie businesses from scratch was exactly what I did. If you think owning your own business is easy, think again my friend...It is endless hours, tons of computer work, new products, blogs, affiliate programs, taking business classes to keep up on laws and rules, and traveling to convention centers for trade shows. Even doing all of those things as important as they all are making other women feel  special and giving them the confidence to believe in themselves was where my destiny was. You may not think much of it but I was determined to make a difference. Does my family approve of what I do? I am not sure really. Sometimes I think that they think I'm nuts. Do I care? No....because you see like Madonna, I deserved the best in life, and it was/is my time...so I'm moving on, with or without the support of others. Sometimes I do much better on my own, and since I love what I am doing, and I am confident in 'me' nothing else really seems to matter for it is this that makes me who I am, and I am a happy gal!


The moral of the story is don't let someone else try to run your life. No one decides what's best for you except for you. Never let anyone tell you that you are not good enough. No one needs a dictator, and no one needs to treat you like anything you do is inadequate. Others, including your family may think that they know what is best for you,...but guess what? Only you know what is best for you. I did it at age 19 and I can make the right decisions at 48. 


Never allow yourself as a person to feel like you are second best, or not good enough. You owe it to you to be true to who you are, regardless of what you do. If you are happy with your life, you owe no one any explanations. If you are lost and looking for your way...fear not, you'll find it. Have faith in yourself. If you are afraid of making mistakes....honey, I wrote the book on them, and I am still making mistakes but if you don't mess up once in a while you won't grow from it. If people keep bailing you out or trying to 'fix' your problems, you'll never learn. 


Take life one day at a time. Life is NOT about having regrets. Life is far too short to ask 'what if?' Life is too short to wonder 'why' didn't I try this, or that? If you don't like what you do for a living, make a change. If you don't like where you live, move. If you love big cities and live in a small rural town, pack your bags and venture out. If you don't you'll never know what could have been, and trust me, you don't want to look back on your life 20 years from now and wonder 'what if!' Life is full of risks, so take one. Don't be afraid to grab the bull by the horns. Live for today! As for me, I have two terrific kids now both living in NYC that love life, and they are finding their way. They are succeeding and doing well, and they should be...I didn't meddle and I gave them the tools to use in life to grow and learn. They are happy and they love me for me, good, bad and ugly...faults, bad habits and all. That is unconditional love my friends and that is what life is all about.  


Unconditional love is known as affection without any limitations.Who really loves you? Those who allow you to be who you are without judging you know the true meaning. They are the ones who will sit back, watch you grow and mature, and they will be the ones that see the fullest potential in all that you are and all that you do. Those who want to control you or run your life,..they have a real problem. Love is not smothering someone,...it's giving you the space to learn and to grow.

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The Language of Love

Everyday people ask me what is love, really...and how do I know if I am 'in love?' Well, it's different for everyone. It's when the idea of doing nothing sounds like something! In the early stages of dating, there is a hunger to discover who the other person is, but this time also feels scary because he or she may not be what you thought or — even worse — you may not be what they're looking for. Even though the stakes aren't very high at the beginning, we feel that they are, so we play at dating, and one of the easiest ways to play is to do something at all times — either publicly or privately. The dating ritual is about finding places to go and things to do. Being yourself is wanting the entire enchilada. Everything else on the How-You-Know-You're-in-Love list hints at being yourself, but when you truly love someone, you want them to know who you are and love you for all that you are, not just for who you pretend to be. When you're in a truly loving relationship, you can be honest and direct, so do take chances. Don't be afraid, but DO be honest!

The language of love is spoken in many different languages, nonetheless, it all has the same meaning. There is a basic breakdown of five different love languages that makes it just a little easier for us to understand our mates traits. Once you've figured out what your partner's love language is you'll be able to show them how you feel in a way that is fulfilling to them, and good for you!

For example, let's say that your partner likes to hear the words "I love you" often. Even though they know that you love them, just hearing the phrase can brighten their day. But perhaps you thought that you should express your love by buying little gifts. Your loved one likely appreciates the gesture whenever you show your love, but at the same time it's not their personal preference of how they like to receive love. 

The Love Languages Explained;

1. Be Verbal Lovers.... As the Material Girl once sang; Express Yourself! Like the example above, some people just like to hear gestures of love such as "I love you" and "I appreciate everything that you do." For this type of person, you'll want to provide constant encouragement, never letting things go unsaid.They tend to need this for reassurance as well as to just hear you say it!

• Try verbalizing your appreciations in some way each day.
• Don't assume your partner knows what you're thinking and feeling - speak up!

2. Time Well Spent. One of the love languages has to do with spending quality time with your partner. This doesn't mean just casual conversation; it means the times where your partner is your main focus. If your partner enjoys quality time, here are some things to consider:

• Choose a certain time each day or week where you're completely dedicated to your partner and his/her needs. This means that you need to shut off the TV, put down the paper, and listen!
• Think of activities you can do together to really connect and enjoy your free time together.
• Make sure you have a good relationship with yourself; it's the only way you can truly connect with your partner. Make sure that your communication skills are are savvy! It is the only way that a real relationship will survive. Have faith in your partner, and enjoy your every moment with them.
• You're willing to go somewhere you hate. Yes, you heard me;  The willingness to go someplace you actually hate with someone you actually love — and not be a pain in the neck about it — is one of the hallmarks of love. When you first start to date, you're tempted to do whatever it takes to get the date off the ground because you're blinded by the possibilities. During the next phase of dating, you stand up for yourself and don't do the activity you hate. This is a necessary evolution because if there is to be true love, it has to be based on who you are, not who you think your beginning-to-be-significant other will like. But once you actually get to love, your need to constantly assert yourself is softened by your beloveds influence and the sense that you can give because your love will reciprocate your generosity.

3. Be the GererousGift Giver. Another love language is one where your partner may enjoy giving and receiving gifts. This isn't because they're greedy; it means they're visual people who enjoy seeing proof of your deepening relationship. If you're with this type of partner, try these tips:

• Even if you're a big saver, make the effort to spend at least a little money or make some homemade or handmade gifts...something that says "I'm thinking of you!"
• Leave loving cards and notes for them, they LOVE this! Something so small can be the most meaningful.
• Don't give gifts everyday, but give the gift that they will certainly remember!

4. The Chores. We can't forget the chores when it comes to a language of communication between partners. Since there are many things that need to get done around the house, it often causes problems when you try to figure out who's doing what. Keep these tips in mind:

• Everyone has different chores that they deem important, some of them are more important to him than her and vica versa.
• Figure out which ones your partner doesn't enjoy and you do them instead.
• Chores involve thinking ahead, which your partner will certainly appreciate.

5. Physical Affection. The physical affection love language can get complicated. Expressing your love physically doesn't only mean in lovemaking. It involves simple touches too. Soft strokes of your hand against his/her face. Gently pushing her hair aside from her eyes so that you can see her true beauty, and kissing his nose or forehead and smiling at him.  Each partner will usually have some kind of opinion when it comes to this language:

• Figure out which kinds of touches your partner enjoys, it may be a gentle rub of their shoulders or some cuddling while watching television, or while spooning in bed.
• This is equally important, figure out which touches irritate your partner as in the future you will want to stay away from that.
• Get to know your partner's moods so you know when to express physical affection.

The Combination

Your partner will likely speak a certain combination of these love languages. As your relationship deepens, you'll get to know your partner better and better. It may even help to outright discuss the topic of love languages with your partner to better understand each other.Sometimes what one does isn't exactly what the other may or may not think to do. Often we overlook the little things that are so simple that they would have made his/her day! Use your listening skills to determine what you can do to get closer to your partner and enjoy every day with him.

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