Sometimes all women want is to feel loved... Sometimes all we really need is knowing that the man that our world revolves around cares, really genuinely cares. Whether it be showing affection, love or romance, we yearn for it. Some men just don't get it, and others have no problem showing affection a million ways. Why is that?
A mans character they say is determined by who he is and how he acts. Compassion, integrity, loyalty, love, trust...these are all attributes that your man should hold with the highest regards. I don't mean in the boardroom...I also mean in the bedroom. What makes her truly happy? What does she like? Why does she care so much for you? Women I tend to believe are much more emotional than men and our feelings can get picked apart. Our guy may not even know that we are feeling like this.
I am not saying that a woman should be placed on a pedestal nonetheless, he should realize that if he continues to simply appease you just to make you happy, this may not be what you had hoped for in a long term relationship. We should not have to tell our fella what to do, or when to call, or how to 'wine and dine' us. We don't need a 5 Star Restaurant to win our heart. A burnt hot dog on the grill would be sufficient with me if he took the time to cook it for me. How difficult is it though for men to open up and let that wall down? Believe it or not is gets pretty difficult.
We act as if women are the only ones that could have been hurt in a past relationship, nevertheless, when it happens to men, the react a bit differently so to speak. Relationships are not built overnight and in most cases it's not love at first sight. In fact, sometimes the couple didn't even like one another when they first met. Then there are those who meet and get that feeling,...that 'vibe' if you will that there is a definite amount of chemistry and that my friend is all that one needs. Without chemistry you have no chance. With it, you have the world at your feet and the tools to make take this relationship to the next level. Relationships are 50/50. If you are in one that is a 70/30 or an 80/20 you need to look ahead at the BIG picture sista! You two need to communicate.
Sex (my grandmother used to always say) is the easy part...but relationships should not just be built on sex alone. That is truly not enough. Communication and trust are what bond a relationship like glue. Take time to talk to your partner/mate/lover/boyfriend/or your husband. Work on goals where you set a few nights a week aside just for the two of you and then designate other days or evenings to do things with friends, or to work responsibilities. For the gals, select a piece of sexy lingerie so that when you do have that one or two special nights during the week you give him something to remember. Men long for more when they don't have it...so with that in mind, as Madonna would say get sensual and "Express Yourself!"
A mans character they say is determined by who he is and how he acts. Compassion, integrity, loyalty, love, trust...these are all attributes that your man should hold with the highest regards. I don't mean in the boardroom...I also mean in the bedroom. What makes her truly happy? What does she like? Why does she care so much for you? Women I tend to believe are much more emotional than men and our feelings can get picked apart. Our guy may not even know that we are feeling like this.
I am not saying that a woman should be placed on a pedestal nonetheless, he should realize that if he continues to simply appease you just to make you happy, this may not be what you had hoped for in a long term relationship. We should not have to tell our fella what to do, or when to call, or how to 'wine and dine' us. We don't need a 5 Star Restaurant to win our heart. A burnt hot dog on the grill would be sufficient with me if he took the time to cook it for me. How difficult is it though for men to open up and let that wall down? Believe it or not is gets pretty difficult.
We act as if women are the only ones that could have been hurt in a past relationship, nevertheless, when it happens to men, the react a bit differently so to speak. Relationships are not built overnight and in most cases it's not love at first sight. In fact, sometimes the couple didn't even like one another when they first met. Then there are those who meet and get that feeling,...that 'vibe' if you will that there is a definite amount of chemistry and that my friend is all that one needs. Without chemistry you have no chance. With it, you have the world at your feet and the tools to make take this relationship to the next level. Relationships are 50/50. If you are in one that is a 70/30 or an 80/20 you need to look ahead at the BIG picture sista! You two need to communicate.
Sex (my grandmother used to always say) is the easy part...but relationships should not just be built on sex alone. That is truly not enough. Communication and trust are what bond a relationship like glue. Take time to talk to your partner/mate/lover/boyfriend/or your husband. Work on goals where you set a few nights a week aside just for the two of you and then designate other days or evenings to do things with friends, or to work responsibilities. For the gals, select a piece of sexy lingerie so that when you do have that one or two special nights during the week you give him something to remember. Men long for more when they don't have it...so with that in mind, as Madonna would say get sensual and "Express Yourself!"
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