The Key to a Great Sex Life

 As George Michael once sang..."Let's Talk About Sex"...and what a hot topic that is! Those three letters 'S-E-X' are the most erotic, intoxicating, sensual words on the planet...BUT if you don't know how to use them correctly (and I don't mean directly under the sheets) you won't have a snowballs chance in hell to land the man or woman of your dreams. If you want a great sex life, there is one thing that is absolutely essential. It's not having a super-toned body or being naturally blonde. It's not having big boobs, a hot ass, a six figure salary or owning a fancy imported car. No, the essential element is conversation. 

So you might ask, "who needs all this chit-chat when you're making love with an attractive guy or gal?" Ummm...this is essential folks, so PAY ATTENTION! Well, let me rephrase that for a minute...If you're just having a short fling, you may be able to get away with little or no conversation, that's a given, why talk, he/she means nothing to you really... But if you want to keep your love life passionate and exciting making it long term, you're going to have to start talking more and getting to the core of what each of you truly wants. I wrote about this topic before, but some of you must have fallen off the turnip truck and hit your nugget too hard on the pavement because you're still not getting it? Not to worry my friends...you'll be fine.

Here are three ways to use conversation to improve and sustain your sex life as well as your love life;

Communicate about what you want from your partner...In better terms; "Speak Up and Spit It Out!"

Hey listen, don't be shy...now's not the time. He has seen you from head to toe and everywhere in between, so please, spare me the 'I"m old fashion' story. You can talk, talk talk, but that doesn't always necessarily mean that you are communicating. You can talk until you are blue in the face...Now, body language on the other hand is fair play and it gets the point across much faster. Your lover can't read your mind any more than you can read hers (or his). Giving non-verbal communication in the bedroom is helpful, eye catching and alluring. If that still isn't getting you what you want, it's time to try putting your desires into words and as Madonna sang "Express Yourself!" 

This is where you put phase 2 into action. Always bring along a can of Reddi Whip. Turn a nervous night into a positive spin...who doesn't like a 'body sundae?' No need to talk, just use your lips and tongue. Now they know what you want, but finding out what your partner wants is equally important. If you're a guy who's a little confused about how to please your lady, the answer is simple. The best way to find out what a woman wants is to ask her. Crazy huh? It works really it does. Many women (and quite a few men) are just dying to talk about their fantasies and desires. All they need is a sincere invitation to open up, and you can offer that. If you are still having a difficult time, and the words just don't seem to be flowing, use what God gave you, your natural instincts and talk with your body.

Spice up lovemaking with some hot topic conversation

No, this isn't a suggestion to discuss the latest stock drops on Wall Street, ESPN News, or which famous celebrity was spotted on the strip. However, a little naughty and explicit sex talk while you are making love can add a new dimension of excitement. Not sure how to start? Begin by describing how gorgeous your partner's body is and how aroused you are getting. Talk about what you're doing, what you're about to do, and how it's going to make your partner feel. Even if you don't normally use explicit language, this may be the time to get a bit naughty. Relax and shed those inhibitions.It would certainly help if you were wearing our lingerie from Simply Delicious Lingerie, or Simply Luscious Lingerie, all affordable, sexy lingerie, bridal lingerie, honeymoon lingerie, sexy matching sets, bra & thong sets, babydolls, teddies, chemises, stockings and garters...we sell it all from $9.99 - $29.99, check out our online boutiques.

Give your partner some positive feedback

If there's one thing we all love, it's a sincere compliment. It attributes to our attitude and our self-esteem. No one, and I mean no one wants to hear what they did wrong in bed, or how disappointing they were...so have a heart and be nice. Remember, if it was disappointing...that means that it wasn't just one of you, it was both of you that made it as such. Communication is key and without how will you know what the other wants in bed? Many people are a little insecure about their sexual abilities and they secretly wonder if they are good enough in bed? Make a point of telling your partner how exciting and skillful he or she was last night. Telling them that they were a 'hot piece of ass' is not romantic and intriguing to a woman, so lose that and try also to mention something specific they did and how great it made you feel. Remember, you need not make a big deal about it. Even a few whispered words just before you leave for work will keep your partner glowing with pleasure all day long. 

If you're already doing some of these things, great! But if it's never occurred to you that conversation is essential for a great sex life, you may be surprised at how much of a difference just a few words can make. When you communicate about what you want, talk naughty at appropriate moments, and praise your partner's skill and desirability, you'll find that the payoff is much more than you could have imagined. If you really want to turn up the heat, check out our Delicious Deals where we sell a variety of adult sex swings that will give you and your partner hours of pleasure. http://www.simplydeliciouslingerie.com/sex-swing-whip-smart-pleasure-swing 

Isn't it time that you took your love life as well as your sex life to the next level? Always remember that “We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love.” Communication...it is the key to a great sex life!

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Express Yourself...

"You deserve the best in life...So if the time isn't right then move on. Second best is never enough
You'll do much better baby on your own." I heard this Madonna song tonight as my son (in NYC) and I were sending text messages to one another and I put this part of the lyrics on my Facebook wall. Think about it...don't you deserve the best in life? If the answer is yes, you need to Express yourself!


Have you ever felt like no matter how hard to tried to make things better, or to make a relationship work you just kept taking three steps forward to go two steps back? That was my life 13 years ago and looking back is wasn't as easy as so many people would think. Being the black sheep of my family already I was the one who didn't get through college. I was the one who got married too young and became a mother too fast, and I was the one who would never succeed like her siblings did. Imagine trying to live your life competing with that? Welcome to what was once known as my world. 
Do you know how old and meaningless it gets to be the one hounded by your mother for things that she would NEVER in a million years hound your brother and sister for? Have you ever been made to feel so bad that your self esteem became so low that you didn't think you were capable of doing anything at all, much less being a mother? I ask you...where is the love?


After my divorce I was the "pity" child. I was the one that was in need of something/everything. I was the single daughter with no man to care for me...but guess what? I didn't need a man to take care of me. I could take care of myself. I took on retail management jobs, and worked for custom builders. I tried working for nursing homes, chiropractors, I was an office manager a few times, I ran a payroll and account department,  property management, mortgage work, more sales, and even real estate. The problem was....I wasn't the vice president of a bank, the doctor or the molecular biologist. I was none of that....but I was still the same girl that held her head high when she walked into a room because I was proud of who I was. I paid the bills, kept the room over 3 heads, put food on the table, put two kids through private high school and then onto college. I was 'Super Mom' and to me, that job title was held with more honor, praise and respect than all of the above jobs put together.


I was just me...a woman on a mission to succeed somehow doing something that I love. No one ever guessed that would be selling panties and sexy lingerie for a living but that you see was my calling. Building two lingerie businesses from scratch was exactly what I did. If you think owning your own business is easy, think again my friend...It is endless hours, tons of computer work, new products, blogs, affiliate programs, taking business classes to keep up on laws and rules, and traveling to convention centers for trade shows. Even doing all of those things as important as they all are making other women feel  special and giving them the confidence to believe in themselves was where my destiny was. You may not think much of it but I was determined to make a difference. Does my family approve of what I do? I am not sure really. Sometimes I think that they think I'm nuts. Do I care? No....because you see like Madonna, I deserved the best in life, and it was/is my time...so I'm moving on, with or without the support of others. Sometimes I do much better on my own, and since I love what I am doing, and I am confident in 'me' nothing else really seems to matter for it is this that makes me who I am, and I am a happy gal!


The moral of the story is don't let someone else try to run your life. No one decides what's best for you except for you. Never let anyone tell you that you are not good enough. No one needs a dictator, and no one needs to treat you like anything you do is inadequate. Others, including your family may think that they know what is best for you,...but guess what? Only you know what is best for you. I did it at age 19 and I can make the right decisions at 48. 


Never allow yourself as a person to feel like you are second best, or not good enough. You owe it to you to be true to who you are, regardless of what you do. If you are happy with your life, you owe no one any explanations. If you are lost and looking for your way...fear not, you'll find it. Have faith in yourself. If you are afraid of making mistakes....honey, I wrote the book on them, and I am still making mistakes but if you don't mess up once in a while you won't grow from it. If people keep bailing you out or trying to 'fix' your problems, you'll never learn. 


Take life one day at a time. Life is NOT about having regrets. Life is far too short to ask 'what if?' Life is too short to wonder 'why' didn't I try this, or that? If you don't like what you do for a living, make a change. If you don't like where you live, move. If you love big cities and live in a small rural town, pack your bags and venture out. If you don't you'll never know what could have been, and trust me, you don't want to look back on your life 20 years from now and wonder 'what if!' Life is full of risks, so take one. Don't be afraid to grab the bull by the horns. Live for today! As for me, I have two terrific kids now both living in NYC that love life, and they are finding their way. They are succeeding and doing well, and they should be...I didn't meddle and I gave them the tools to use in life to grow and learn. They are happy and they love me for me, good, bad and ugly...faults, bad habits and all. That is unconditional love my friends and that is what life is all about.  


Unconditional love is known as affection without any limitations.Who really loves you? Those who allow you to be who you are without judging you know the true meaning. They are the ones who will sit back, watch you grow and mature, and they will be the ones that see the fullest potential in all that you are and all that you do. Those who want to control you or run your life,..they have a real problem. Love is not smothering someone,...it's giving you the space to learn and to grow.

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The Language of Love

Everyday people ask me what is love, really...and how do I know if I am 'in love?' Well, it's different for everyone. It's when the idea of doing nothing sounds like something! In the early stages of dating, there is a hunger to discover who the other person is, but this time also feels scary because he or she may not be what you thought or — even worse — you may not be what they're looking for. Even though the stakes aren't very high at the beginning, we feel that they are, so we play at dating, and one of the easiest ways to play is to do something at all times — either publicly or privately. The dating ritual is about finding places to go and things to do. Being yourself is wanting the entire enchilada. Everything else on the How-You-Know-You're-in-Love list hints at being yourself, but when you truly love someone, you want them to know who you are and love you for all that you are, not just for who you pretend to be. When you're in a truly loving relationship, you can be honest and direct, so do take chances. Don't be afraid, but DO be honest!

The language of love is spoken in many different languages, nonetheless, it all has the same meaning. There is a basic breakdown of five different love languages that makes it just a little easier for us to understand our mates traits. Once you've figured out what your partner's love language is you'll be able to show them how you feel in a way that is fulfilling to them, and good for you!

For example, let's say that your partner likes to hear the words "I love you" often. Even though they know that you love them, just hearing the phrase can brighten their day. But perhaps you thought that you should express your love by buying little gifts. Your loved one likely appreciates the gesture whenever you show your love, but at the same time it's not their personal preference of how they like to receive love. 

The Love Languages Explained;

1. Be Verbal Lovers.... As the Material Girl once sang; Express Yourself! Like the example above, some people just like to hear gestures of love such as "I love you" and "I appreciate everything that you do." For this type of person, you'll want to provide constant encouragement, never letting things go unsaid.They tend to need this for reassurance as well as to just hear you say it!

• Try verbalizing your appreciations in some way each day.
• Don't assume your partner knows what you're thinking and feeling - speak up!

2. Time Well Spent. One of the love languages has to do with spending quality time with your partner. This doesn't mean just casual conversation; it means the times where your partner is your main focus. If your partner enjoys quality time, here are some things to consider:

• Choose a certain time each day or week where you're completely dedicated to your partner and his/her needs. This means that you need to shut off the TV, put down the paper, and listen!
• Think of activities you can do together to really connect and enjoy your free time together.
• Make sure you have a good relationship with yourself; it's the only way you can truly connect with your partner. Make sure that your communication skills are are savvy! It is the only way that a real relationship will survive. Have faith in your partner, and enjoy your every moment with them.
• You're willing to go somewhere you hate. Yes, you heard me;  The willingness to go someplace you actually hate with someone you actually love — and not be a pain in the neck about it — is one of the hallmarks of love. When you first start to date, you're tempted to do whatever it takes to get the date off the ground because you're blinded by the possibilities. During the next phase of dating, you stand up for yourself and don't do the activity you hate. This is a necessary evolution because if there is to be true love, it has to be based on who you are, not who you think your beginning-to-be-significant other will like. But once you actually get to love, your need to constantly assert yourself is softened by your beloveds influence and the sense that you can give because your love will reciprocate your generosity.

3. Be the GererousGift Giver. Another love language is one where your partner may enjoy giving and receiving gifts. This isn't because they're greedy; it means they're visual people who enjoy seeing proof of your deepening relationship. If you're with this type of partner, try these tips:

• Even if you're a big saver, make the effort to spend at least a little money or make some homemade or handmade gifts...something that says "I'm thinking of you!"
• Leave loving cards and notes for them, they LOVE this! Something so small can be the most meaningful.
• Don't give gifts everyday, but give the gift that they will certainly remember!

4. The Chores. We can't forget the chores when it comes to a language of communication between partners. Since there are many things that need to get done around the house, it often causes problems when you try to figure out who's doing what. Keep these tips in mind:

• Everyone has different chores that they deem important, some of them are more important to him than her and vica versa.
• Figure out which ones your partner doesn't enjoy and you do them instead.
• Chores involve thinking ahead, which your partner will certainly appreciate.

5. Physical Affection. The physical affection love language can get complicated. Expressing your love physically doesn't only mean in lovemaking. It involves simple touches too. Soft strokes of your hand against his/her face. Gently pushing her hair aside from her eyes so that you can see her true beauty, and kissing his nose or forehead and smiling at him.  Each partner will usually have some kind of opinion when it comes to this language:

• Figure out which kinds of touches your partner enjoys, it may be a gentle rub of their shoulders or some cuddling while watching television, or while spooning in bed.
• This is equally important, figure out which touches irritate your partner as in the future you will want to stay away from that.
• Get to know your partner's moods so you know when to express physical affection.

The Combination

Your partner will likely speak a certain combination of these love languages. As your relationship deepens, you'll get to know your partner better and better. It may even help to outright discuss the topic of love languages with your partner to better understand each other.Sometimes what one does isn't exactly what the other may or may not think to do. Often we overlook the little things that are so simple that they would have made his/her day! Use your listening skills to determine what you can do to get closer to your partner and enjoy every day with him.

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