No one seems to have time to meet a man the old fashion way anymore. In fact, it has been so long since I've seriously dated that I don't know where to meet good men, so like a lot of you I turn to online dating. Being an affiliate to several dating sites through my businesses does have it's perks, nonetheless, you must always be prepared and be safe. With so many people meeting online or in bars, dating can take a dangerous turn before you realize what’s happening. Being alone with a stranger isn’t the best idea for your safety.
If you’re alone at his place, then you’re completely vulnerable and he is in charge. That’s not a very smart move ladies, unless you feel that you are a pretty good judge of character and even then you really need to be careful. Every year women of all ages do this and some end up dead or missing without a trace. I'm certainly not trying to scare you in any way,...what I am trying to state is to listen to your gut. Don’t become a dating nightmare statistic.
Dating safety means making decisions using common sense instead of hormones. For a first date or blind date, arrange to meet in a public place - not a parking lot, a park, or a bar in his neighborhood,..and ALWAYS make him come to you! If he wants to meet you bad enough let him step on 'your turf!' Meet at a multi-screen movie complex, the mall, or a busy restaurant on a major street. Invite some friends to join you so that when you meet the new guy, you spend time in the group. That lets you and your friends size him up before you leave the group. If you have any hesitation about how he acts or talks, then don’t leave the safety of your group. Even after he leaves, he might be angry at the rejection so don’t walk to your car alone. Ask someone in the group to walk with you or ride with them to your car.
If you do decide to go out alone with him, let your best friend know where you are and the name of the guy you’re dating. You can also write that information on a note and tape it to your bathroom mirror.
It’s sad to think that you could be harmed by your date, but if that did happen, the note could help lead authorities to him. You also need to have an agreement with a friend that you will call at least within 6 hours of leaving on the date or your friend needs to start looking for you. IF you are reading this and NOT taking me serious, don't bother reading any further, of course you are far too smart and clever and you must know it all. If you are concerned on what to do or how to date, carry on. It's not professional advise, it is the same advice I would give my daughter.
It’s normal to share information about your lives as part of getting to know each other. Talking about your work, your hobbies and your favorite places needs to be a broad discussion until you get to know him. However...you don’t need to give out your address or exact information about your office. If he keeps slanting the conversation toward money and how much you make or spend, then you need to walk away...FAST! He has no need to know your financial status. That’s a red flag that he could be a con man who is trying to get to know you better so he can get money from you. The more he presses you for personal information early in the relationship, the more he sounds like he’s ready to take over your life.
Test him throughout the date...see how he responds to questions and if he is quick to reply or if it takes him time to ponder what he is going to say. He may be insecure and want to be in every part of your world or he may be gathering information so that he knows how to isolate you from your friends later. That’s the way abusive men act - they charm you then they isolate you from friends and family so you feel that you must depend only on them. An important way to stay safe on a first date is to avoid drinking alcohol or taking any drink that’s open and poured out of your sight. It’s not just among the college crowd that the date rape drug is used.
Some might suggest sticking with bottled water or soda. They might also advise to make sure you open the container. Don’t put your drink down to dance - keep it in your hands or get another drink. Never think you’re safe because he’s with you every minute. While he has your attention, his friend could be slipping a drug into your drink. If you are dining in a public restaurant, and it is just the two of you...yes, you can have a glass of wine, but not 5. Limit yourself and stay focused. Be safe. This is your life we're talking about. It sounds outrageous, yes, of course it does....but it happens to too many women of all ages in all types of dating situations and being aware is the best defense you have. Don't allow something terrible to happen to you.
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