Saturday, March 24, 2012

The Truth About What Women Want...

From the time we are little girls, we dream of our wedding day and what it is that will make us happy in a lifetime partner. Some might say that we are impossible to figure out. So what is it about women that makes them so hard to grasp? Most of the time, men are frazzled by this question? Some men think that women are only attracted to jerks and to the bad boy type. Theoretically, this is true more often than not unfortunately. Some men are convinced that women want money and security. Listen fellas, there are, on the contrary to what ya'll may think good gals out there. We aren't all devilish and gold diggers. Others are sure that women only want men just like their fathers, and some have decided that not even the women themselves know what they want. I find this statement to be true,...in fact, most men will tell you that we don't know what we want at all. Many a man have questioned "what exactly do women want?" We're not playing coy here, we know we're complex creatures nevertheless we operate on a different wave-length than men.

News Flash Boys; None of those ideas are accurate.

The truth about what women want is quite simple... And here it is: Each woman is different. In order to know exactly what she wants, you need to ask her. If that doesn’t match up with what you already have to offer, then you need to move on. Some desire a sensitive man, a GQ fashionable guy, others seek a wealthy fella, they may even ask what does he drive? With that said, there are several qualities that most women desire in a man, and it doesn’t hurt to see which ones you have or are willing to develop. In fact, it can help you a lot in your personal life. There are 3 things that almost every woman wants that should NOT have to be explained, but for those of you on the short bus, here goes;

Respect.... Show us through your actions that you respect our opinions, careers, interests, friends, bodies and minds. You don't have to agree with all that we say or do, but try to honor our opinions as valuable contributions. Follow the golden rule and treat us as you would like to be treated: Be honest, fair, kind, and considerate.

Romance... It's another night on the couch with take-out and TiVo? Just because we're staying in doesn't mean the evening can't be romantic. Light a few candles and see where the night leads. Treat us like your girlfriend, even after we become your wife.

Consistency... This doesn't mean be boring and predictable. It means that we know you will (usually, no one is perfect!) give us the love and support we need. Knowing that you're coming at this with the same desires and energy as we are goes a long way to making us feel secure.


The bottom line is this;

Most women not only admire, rather want a secure, confident, financially and emotionally steady man. The details may be different, but the effect is the same: a man who has a stable life isn’t likely to ruin theirs. Some women who’ve been brought up in an unstable home are going to be a little confused about the meaning of a stable life, but for the most part, women like relationships that are a safe bet to improve their lives. Your attitude, above all, is going to determine how attractive you are. If you take care of yourself physically, emotionally, financially, and mentally, you are already more attractive than any man out there who thinks women only like jerks and bad boys. 

If your financial affairs are in order, you are free to see the difference between women who only want money and the ones who are truly interested in you. If you carry yourself in a confident manner, you are already more attractive than men who think women only want younger versions of their fathers or that they don’t have any idea what they want.

What women want is simple, easy to learn, and follows common sense. You don’t have to do crazy things to get noticed or make yourself attractive. You need to do just the opposite – be practical in your everyday life and it will pay off later. So now, your homework is to look at your life and see the areas that need to be taken care of. If you have problems, don’t expect that a girlfriend is going to fix them, and if you think this will happen I ask you "What the hell type of bubble are you living in?" You’re an adult and you can handle it. Besides, you’re not going to get a girlfriend so she can come in and straighten your life out. You might clean up nice, but how would she ever know? You need to have your problems worked out for yourself before you invite a woman into your life. If you want to find a great woman, make sure that your affairs are in order as that alone will be quite impressive in her eyes.

If you still aren't understanding how women function, and think, you need to understand the communication process. 



3 comments:

  1. Michele, You hit the nail on the head with this one and sent the subject out of the ball park! BRAVO GIRLFRIEND! Women everywhere are giving you thanks as they read this article. You are so right, most of us women really only want to be loved and what the simple things. Men need to learn to be able to read women better so that they do not fall into the deceitful gold digging type that really knows how to ruin it for those of us just looking for that great guy.

    Thanks for the great publish!

    Jill R
    Denver CO

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  2. Hello Ms Michele, I always find your article enjoying, entertaining, and sometimes amusing. This morning, I woke up in a rather sad mood, and you quickly brought a smile to my face. Indeed I must say thank you for turning my outlook around. You really have a way with words! Good reading material, you nailed it all right!

    Emilia Fledigz
    British Columbia

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  3. What kind of bubble are they living in? That is hilarious but so so true. I know that you are really trying to help the guys out here and I think that they should take what you said personally. If this sounds like them, they do need to take a good hard look in the mirror. Michele, thank you for making this guy take a second look. I didn't like the reflection that I was seeing, and you just saved me from a very big mistake. Deeply appreciated. I owe you!

    Kenneth H.
    Jasper TX

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