Saturday, March 24, 2012

Why Women Lose Their Sex Drive....

There are several reasons that may or may not cause a woman to lose her sex drive. For most women, there is pretty good reasoning for why this happens and answers as to what causes it. Can it be prevented? Maybe, or maybe not. Many woman ask me; What causes our sex drive to decrease? I've done research and found this article that may help you to understand. Living with libido loco? For a growing number of women, declining hormones, job stress, relationship issues, and other problems are taking their toll in the bedroom. Loss of sexual desire, known in medical terms as hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD), is the most common form of sexual dysfunction among women of all ages. A recent study showed that nearly one-third of women aged 18 to 59 suffer from a lost interest in sex, and it's not all in their heads.
Unlike men's main sexual complaint, erectile dysfunction, women's biggest sexual problem is caused by a combination of both mental and physical factors, which aren't likely to be cured by merely popping a pill.

 This article will review what can bring your sex drive to a halt, along with what methods you can use to rev up your passion.


1. Is oral sex for you? Hey many love this and yet a lot of people don't like this at all. Orgasms when received via oral sex will flood your senses beyond your wildest dreams. The quickest way to make sure you never again experience this pleasure is to give your lover a look of disgust when they mention oral sex to you. If it is something you are not ready for, be honest and explain why you are not ready before you begin. Offer other creative sexual outlets instead. Never engage in sexual behavior that makes either partner uncomfortable.


2. Worried about smell: To take care of this concern, grab your man directly after the shower or for that matter in the shower. Before you perform oral sex, you should make it clear how far you are willing to go when it comes to oral sex. Also, many women worry about their own smell during oral sex. Freshen up before and you will not have a need for worry. Most men will not notice anyway.


3. Fear of Experimenting: When it comes to intimacy between you and your partner/spouse/mate, sex play can be fun and forces you to step out of our preconceived ideas of what sex should be. There are many ways to experiment. You can try different positions, go to a sex shop together and find something that you both are interested in, play with food during foreplay, or even use costumes. The bottom line is that sex should be fun and respectful of all participants.


4. Do you know your own body? Knowing your body is important to your sexual pleasure. If he is doing something to you and you are not responding and you do not know why, it can hamper your sex life. You need to find out what works for you.


5. You can be the aggressor: Listen, sometimes you need to step it up a notch and take charge....Your partner will enjoy you coming up to him and initiating sex. Be creative and unexpected and he will delight in your advances. It is quite a turn on for you to be the one walking up to him and unzipping his pants.


6. Are you easily embarrassed? Bodily noises escaping can be a turn off for both partners. Sex is very intimate and there is no way you can get that close with someone and not have your body under your control completely. Your partner should already be aware of the way the body responds during sex and most likely will not be bothered by it and neither should you. If you think for one second you can engage in sex without something embarrassing happening, you need to stop right now. It does not work that way. Have a good laugh and continue pleasuring each other.

If you or your partner is not interested in sex there may be several reasons for this. It is important to find out why so that the partner who does not receive sex is not left wondering what they have done that has turned you off to them. The cure for such a lack of desire depends on the cause.

7. Depression: A woman experiencing depression has sex completely off the radar and this is quite understandable. When a woman gets help for her depression, there is a good chance that her sex drive will return. If the woman has had a hysterectomy this could affect her sex drive also because she equates the uterus with being a woman and without she feels as if she is not complete. She also feels as if she is not as beautiful as those who can still give birth. If the hysterectomy included the removal of her ovaries, she will also experience early menopause. Menopause can cause all sorts of complications, especially those related to sex drive. It is very important that she speaks to her doctor about hormone therapy and above all realizes that her uterus is not what defines her being a woman.


8. Childbirth: One must first understand that childbirth is not a walk in the park, and our hormones are on an emotional roller coaster. As women, we just cant turn this off. A new mom sometimes get so emotionally tied up with her baby, not to mention so tired from lack of sleep, that she loses interest in sex. The dad, who may have stopped having sex with her during the last month or two of pregnancy, and who gave her the time she needed to recover from the effects of giving birth, may begin to get testy after several months have gone by.

In closing;
So guys, BE PATIENT....and please, pay attention to this article and know that as frustrating as this can be, there is no 'little blue pill' for us to take for a quick fix.





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