Oh No You Didn't...

Here are some things that everyone should know and be aware of. They are all about life in general. Your life! I prefer to call them the "NOT TO DO" list that everyone should read and understand. We all make mistakes, we are only human. We learn from our mistakes and we grow from them. I've listed some things that I've learned over the years and that others have brought to my attention. I hope that some of these things are helpful to you. They reflect on us, sometimes good, other times bad. Always remember to be "true to you!" You are the one that matters!

 

1. Have Regrets..

We all do, and often we feel sorry about what happened. Spend time and energy on things that aren’t even there, but you feel are “unsolved yet”. Keep your focus on the past and ignore the present is the worst advice I've ever heard anyone say. Focus on today, the things that you CAN change! Learn to not have regrets. They are top heavy and nothing good ever comes from them. This is what regrets do: they tie you down to things in the past that doesn’t matter anymore. Well, you can’t do anything about them anyway: accept and move on.

2. Expect to Be Lied To

 Expect to be told lies in the name of something “bigger” than you: a family, a career, anything. Eat it up every day while knowing the truth and still accepting that other, twisted reality, hoping at some point things will go better. They won’t. And there is no such thing as something bigger than you. You be the bigger person here. If someone lies to you. Consider the source and realize they aren't all that smart. Lies have a big way of catching up to people and eventually, karma comes knocking at their door!

3. Stay in the Wrong Partnership

Wrong partnerships may be both personal or professional. You may think it’s just temporary or even “it might be good for you” but you’re just deluding yourself. Wrong partnerships are nothing but swamps: they’ll slowly drag you down. If you don’t get out of them the moment you realize they’re wrong for you, you’ll become one with the swamp. Don't stay with someone out of guilt, or for fear of being lonely. Lonely and alone is much better than being with someone who will only make you miserable.

4. Fight your Addictions

Make them “bigger” than you. Call it alcohol or just an addiction to fight. Call it work, as in workaholic, or eating much more than you need. Call it drugs or just an addiction to a person (co-dependence). Giving in to addictions is a conscious act of surrender. You accept to lose a battle. And then another one. Slowly, you’ll going to lose the war. Do not allow them to be your drug...if you let these people walk on you, they will take advantage of your feelings/emotions. No one needs bad habits, get rid of them!

5. Dream Without Taking Action

Daydreaming is good. Dreams mean things...I dream that my teeth are all mushy sometimes...here I thought I was going crazy...my little sister has the same dream...she said that it means you are stressed. Hmmm....single mother, raised 2 kids, trying to run 3 businesses....do you think? No that explains things...I wasn't sure what it meant. Dreams open your heart to new universes and goals. But daydreaming without action is useless. Fun sometimes, yes, but not cost effective for the "big plan" of your future. Sitting on your tush while waiting for all your intentions to manifest, without taking the smallest action for moving things forward, won’t change anything. Oh, sorry, it will change something: your tush will grow in size! My grandmother used to always say, "Life doesn't just happen, you have to go out there and make it happen!"

6. Sleep More Than You Need

Because you’re too tired of doing the same stupid things again while you’re awake. Or because you’re avoiding your real life, searching for a shallow refuge under the pillow. And, of course, lose all the opportunities you could embrace while you’re sleeping. Becoming an early riser, on the other hand, is more than often priceless.

7. Play The Guilt Card

If you did something wrong, instead of a) assessing what was really wrong, b) learn the lesson and c) move on, play the guilt card. Feel guilty for all the bad things you did, until you start feeling guilty for all the things you did. Playing the guilt card is closely related to religion, but it can occur outside religion too. Just get over it. Guilt can’t pay your rent...Grow up!

8. Victimize Yourself

If you lost something, act like you’ve lost everything. Be a victim. Ask for other people’s compassion. Play like every people you meet makes whatever omelet he wants from you. Victimizing yourself in exchange of compassion is far more common than you think. It’s contagious too. Just remember you may lose a battle, but that’s not making you a victim.

9. Reality Check!

As difficult as it seems, every once in a while you should step back and take a good hard look at yourself. Bite the bullet and ask yourself a bunch of tough questions. Better give a wrong answer now to a difficult question, but move on with your life, than ignoring what’s going on with you and remain stuck. Introspection always pays forward.

10. Work Harder, It Pays Off!

And ruin your health while pretending you’re sacrificing for the good of the … (fill in the blanks: family, friends, boss, career, planet). You have physical limits and usually that’s a good thing. Breaking up your physical limits in the name of a dumb cause will screw up your life faster than you think...and for a long time. Work smarter, not harder. Play tough, be aggressive, and stay focused.

11. Don’t Play

Sure we all like to do it...screw around sometimes, play hookie, take a "me" day....and we should. Life is far too short to be walking around all serious like you have a stick up your ass. But sometimes playing is just plain stupid, it wastes your time and energy and it doesn’t give you any measurable results. Don’t play and lose the only divine thing that you get for free. Don’t play and let your inner child become a gray adult with heavy topics to discuss every minute. Don’t play and watch how your life gets seriously screwed up.

12. Stop Learning? Never...Always want to Learn More!

Who said if you already know too much you will learn will not give you any competitive advantage in the narrow niche you’re playing now. That's hogwash! never stop learning! There is so much to discover that you won’t cover it even in a dozen lifetimes. Stop learning because it gets so difficult and it takes you out of your comfort zone. Yeah, why bother? Screw it! Nahhhhhh...bad attitude. The smart one never stops learning. Always stay one step ahead of the game. Never let your competition gain footing.

13. Gossip

Talk bad about other people. That’s a 100% sure way to screw up your relationships, your social credibility, your personal values. The way you talk about people often determines the way you act towards them. Gossip is a heavy weapon and, no matter how skilled you get at using it, it always destroys its owner. Do it often. It will accelerate the decay process.

14.Oh No You Didn't....
Never ever ever let someone tell you that your advice is not necessary. Never, ever ever let someone tell you do back off, shut up, take a seat, take a long walk off a short pier, mind your own "Ps & Q's" ....nothing! Confidence is something that we have within. Some people try to break down our defenses by belittling us so that we think we are not good, or not smart, or educated like others. Never let anyone make you feel this way.




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