HE'S ALWAYS BUSY
When you first started going out, he called you what seemed like 100 times a day, show up on your doorstep at weird hours, give up his front-row seat at a Lady gaga concert (well, maybe not..) just to watch you blow-dry your hair. He proved that he didn't take you for granted by asking you out days in advance, and if you ever needed him for anything anything at all ...he'd drop everything and come running.
But when he has a change of heart, you're suddenly bumped from the number one spot on his to-do list. The phone calls become a lot less frequent. He shows up late for dates or forgets about them altogether...and when you ask him what's the deal, he claims that he's been "really busy." Ok, gals, maybe you say all righty to this one but I say "Hit the Road Jack....."
Depends on the woman...Now, you may go along with this excuse for a while. You want to give him the benefit of the doubt. I wouldn't, but you might. Maybe he just feels more secure in the relationship, you tell yourself. But you can't help this gnawing feeling that if he still cared about you, he'd make time for you. After all, you've got a full life and you somehow manage to find places in your busy schedule for him.
The truth is, he wants out and doesn't know how to be honest. He's afraid of hurting you, so he's taking the long, torturous way out by modeling what he wants you to do (and what you ought to do when a guy brushes you off): Get on with your life! Next!! My grandmother used to always tell me that men are like bus stops....there's one on every corner.
HE SAYS NOTHING IS WRONG....YOU KNOW DIFFERENTLY!
Remember the amazing way things clicked between you two when you first started seeing each other? You couldn't get enough of each other. You could look at his face, maybe even spot him in a crowd, and know instantly what he was thinking and how he was feeling. And if for some reason you couldn't read him like a book, you'd find a way to make him feel okay about cluing you in about what was wrong.
Now it seems that he's got secrets, and they're driving a wedge between you. He's is putting a barrier wall up around him....why? He won't let you in on how he's feeling, and when you try to pry, he acts offended. He says..... "There's nothing wrong with me." You're the one who's acting weird." If you're feeling a little shaky about yourself, you just might deny your gut instincts and buy into his little lie. Because that's exactly what he's doing: lying. If a man won't look you in the eyes or can't speak to you and make direct eye contact, he is lying through his teeth! For whatever reason, his feelings for you have changed, and he's feeling bad about it. He can't seem to find the words for what's wrong, so he plays dumb -- and makes you feel dumber. Obviously, something IS wrong. When you figure it out, let me know....as for me, I'd say "Adios!"
HE TURNS INTO A REAL ASSHOLE
In the beginning of your relationship, he opened doors for you and carried your books. He chewed with his mouth closed and weeded four-letter words from his vocabulary. He was as gallant, charming, and polite as a prince in a fairy tale. The kind you always dreamed of where he sweeps you off your feet...only know he'd dropped you on your ass!
Now your fairy tale's over, and the ending is anything but happy. Instead of a prince, your guy is acting like an ogre. Ever hear the quote "I thought I found my prince but he turned out to be a loser in aluminum foil? That sums up my love life. In addition to forgetting his manners and neglecting his personal hygiene, he's picking you up late for dates, flirting with any girl but you, spitting out car windows, and basically turning you off at every turn.
At first, you overlook his brutish behavior. You might even take it as a huge compliment, convincing yourself that he's letting his true colors show because he feels so comfortable around you. Don't allow him or anyone else to play with your heart. No LOVE GAMES!
When you first started going out, he called you what seemed like 100 times a day, show up on your doorstep at weird hours, give up his front-row seat at a Lady gaga concert (well, maybe not..) just to watch you blow-dry your hair. He proved that he didn't take you for granted by asking you out days in advance, and if you ever needed him for anything anything at all ...he'd drop everything and come running.
But when he has a change of heart, you're suddenly bumped from the number one spot on his to-do list. The phone calls become a lot less frequent. He shows up late for dates or forgets about them altogether...and when you ask him what's the deal, he claims that he's been "really busy." Ok, gals, maybe you say all righty to this one but I say "Hit the Road Jack....."
Depends on the woman...Now, you may go along with this excuse for a while. You want to give him the benefit of the doubt. I wouldn't, but you might. Maybe he just feels more secure in the relationship, you tell yourself. But you can't help this gnawing feeling that if he still cared about you, he'd make time for you. After all, you've got a full life and you somehow manage to find places in your busy schedule for him.
The truth is, he wants out and doesn't know how to be honest. He's afraid of hurting you, so he's taking the long, torturous way out by modeling what he wants you to do (and what you ought to do when a guy brushes you off): Get on with your life! Next!! My grandmother used to always tell me that men are like bus stops....there's one on every corner.
HE SAYS NOTHING IS WRONG....YOU KNOW DIFFERENTLY!
Remember the amazing way things clicked between you two when you first started seeing each other? You couldn't get enough of each other. You could look at his face, maybe even spot him in a crowd, and know instantly what he was thinking and how he was feeling. And if for some reason you couldn't read him like a book, you'd find a way to make him feel okay about cluing you in about what was wrong.
Now it seems that he's got secrets, and they're driving a wedge between you. He's is putting a barrier wall up around him....why? He won't let you in on how he's feeling, and when you try to pry, he acts offended. He says..... "There's nothing wrong with me." You're the one who's acting weird." If you're feeling a little shaky about yourself, you just might deny your gut instincts and buy into his little lie. Because that's exactly what he's doing: lying. If a man won't look you in the eyes or can't speak to you and make direct eye contact, he is lying through his teeth! For whatever reason, his feelings for you have changed, and he's feeling bad about it. He can't seem to find the words for what's wrong, so he plays dumb -- and makes you feel dumber. Obviously, something IS wrong. When you figure it out, let me know....as for me, I'd say "Adios!"
HE TURNS INTO A REAL ASSHOLE
In the beginning of your relationship, he opened doors for you and carried your books. He chewed with his mouth closed and weeded four-letter words from his vocabulary. He was as gallant, charming, and polite as a prince in a fairy tale. The kind you always dreamed of where he sweeps you off your feet...only know he'd dropped you on your ass!
Now your fairy tale's over, and the ending is anything but happy. Instead of a prince, your guy is acting like an ogre. Ever hear the quote "I thought I found my prince but he turned out to be a loser in aluminum foil? That sums up my love life. In addition to forgetting his manners and neglecting his personal hygiene, he's picking you up late for dates, flirting with any girl but you, spitting out car windows, and basically turning you off at every turn.
At first, you overlook his brutish behavior. You might even take it as a huge compliment, convincing yourself that he's letting his true colors show because he feels so comfortable around you. Don't allow him or anyone else to play with your heart. No LOVE GAMES!
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