When I hear the word 'plague' I cringe...When I think about fixer-uppers I think about a car, a house or a cottage up north that needs a little TLC. But when it comes to women, you do not want a fixer-upper! Female fixer-uppers come with problems that can’t be fixed with your tender loving care and money, so if you sense you’re dating a woman like this, you might want to break it off before you have any regrets and make a B-Line for the door in a hurry!
Yes, this sounds sort of callus, but you’re looking for a nice girl, right? Fixer-uppers might have the makings of a nice girl, but do you truly want to spend a lot of time chancing it? Fixer-uppers are a walking disaster area. A train wreck so to speak, and honestly, I'm putting it mildly. There is a reason they have had many boyfriends before you and yet she is still very single.
You might be better off looking for a woman who’s already got herself together...or at the very least partially together. It’s true that nobody is perfect and we all have our issues and baggage to carry around. The question is, how much baggage, and how many issues make a woman a fixer-upper? Only you can determine that.
In the world of love, fixer-uppers are bad girls who helpful souls like yourself think they can change for the better, or they’re people with a bunch of issues, even if they aren’t necessarily bad. Certainly, there’s a place in this world for compassion and kindness, and this isn’t to suggest that you let people who legitimately need and want help to fall by the wayside. This is saying that you have an obligation to yourself to not get caught up in a situation that you may really seriously regret in the future. That’s why when you spot a fixer-upper, you need to avoid dating her or becoming romantically involved with her until she’s emotionally healthy.
It has been said that most females with self-confidence issues are attracted to bad boys, but how true is that really? I was drawn to bad boys but I wasn't lacking confidence or self-esteem.
This typical woman will want to try to help this man and change for the better to make themselves feel good, often with disastrous results. So how true is it that female fixer-uppers and bad girls often have low self-esteem, low self-confidence and are generally insecure? I need more information to go on for my deciding vote. Bad boys like women like this because they can easily be manipulated.
Are you a man that , on the other hand, is looking for a woman who doesn’t need fixing? Are you looking for a girl who has her self-esteem and self-confidence firmly in place and is secure and happy with who she is.Ir have you already found here?
If a good woman finds herself facing certain issues, she’ll be the type who will deal with them positively and productively. Again, no one is without baggage, in theory, and my non-professional advice, it all depends on how you carry this baggage that determines how secure you truly are...but an emotionally healthy woman will tackle her own issues rather than looking to you as her rescue and support system.She is used to dealing with things solo (like myself) and she probably loves the challenge.Granted, if you develop a relationship, she may need your help or support occasionally, but this goes both ways and it’s part of a healthy relationship. This doesn’t make her a fixer-upper.
Here are signs of a fixer-upper (in other words, women to avoid LIKE THE PLAGUE):
- She is very clingy and needy
- You feel the need to rescue her because she seems so helpless
- She has self-destructive habits that she is unwilling to get help for
- She seems very insecure
- She lacks basic self-esteem
- She lacks self-confidence
- She is verbally combative & angers easily
- She shows signs of physical or emotional abuse by previous bad-boys
- She blames you for everything despite the obvious
- She makes poor decisions and shows poor judgement
- She gets close to you, then runs away. Gets close again, then runs away. Repeat.
Again, I strongly feel that it’s important to stress that fixer-uppers are not necessarily bad people. But remember, you are searching for a good girl to date and hopefully develop a lasting relationship with. Do you really want to spend the extra time, and work on a woman with so many issues? Is he worth the added energy and is there enough money to try to fix someone who really might not want fixed at all? Don't take a wrong turn relationship and stay in it because sit seems easier to stay than to leave. If this happens it probably means that she has rubbed off on you and now you are a bit lacking in the confidence department. Don't take a wrong turn fellas, it's time to change the course,...leave the highway and EXIT now! Find yourself with enough confidence to supply a small army. Find a woman who will always have your back, and a woman who will be true to you in every way.
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