OK....Please, tell me....Have you ever been excited to tell someone about something that you have an interest in, or just wanted to share something with someone but discovered halfway through the conversation you have become the listener instead of the speaker? I have and it is one of the most annoying things in my own personal opinion, not to mention quite rude. People feel the need to always cut you off half way through, or they don't even allow you to finish a full sentence or two before cutting you off. It's as if they can't wait for 5 minutes, and no way do they want you to seem overjoyed or happy! These people DRIVE ME NUTS!!!!!!!!!! I do what anyone would do, I just stop dead in my tracks and don't say another word. Sometimes the other person will apologize and if it's like most of the men that I have dated in the past that felt the need to dominate (which I am totally against and turned off by) I'd let them finish because little did they know that conversation with me where they took over my few minutes to shine was about to be history. Vamoose, adios, see ya later!
Ever been in this particular situation? Imagine yourself wanting to tell someone a story about anything. You are really excited about it and can’t wait to tell that person, but while telling your story you end up being the one listening to the other person’s story and experience with a similar experience; or even worse, it ends up in a ‘difference of opinion’ debate.To use a very broad term, this is usually done by people who has a slightly unhealthy appetite for attention and being in the limelight. I wouldn’t be shocked if most of these people did it without being aware of that they are rudely interrupting conversations.
If you are the introvert who are constantly being pushed aside when telling your story, this is why you shouldn’t feel bad and how to maybe deal with it.
- Raise your voice by showing who is talking!
For some it might seem rude to raise your voice when you talk about something neutral, but it is also rude to interrupt someone who is talking. This will show that you have more to say and are not willing to let someone talk until you are actually finished talking.
The more confidence you show, the less you have to raise your voice.
- Tell them you are not finished!
Simply tell them that you are not finished talking and that because you are constantly interrupted you are losing your train of thought. This is more like a guilt-trip approach, and can work if executed confidently and assertive.
Also try to explain to them that you would appreciate if you could finish your story once in a while without any interruptions, without having to debate your story and just sometimes have your talk treated as a monologue.
You are the one that wanted to tell something, not them!
- Stop talking to them!
This is a last resort tactic, but if you have tried to reason with them that you would appreciate if you could be the one telling the story once in a while too, it might be time to stop wasting energy on this person. Talk with people who actually want to listen to you and what you have to say.
Why should you pay attention to someone who doesn’t pay attention to you?
As you are dealing with a person who might obviously lack some social skills, there isn’t really much you can do. The first two are more or less attempts to change the behaviour of a person who too often never lets you have your say, and the last one is truly a last resort that I sadly think most people resort to.
Most people who think they need to add their two cents to everything tend to have far too many cents to spare, so they see you are the one not willing to let them have a go at talking. Makes me want to scream....remember the game hangman? Are you picking up what I'm laying down here?
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