It’s the age-old sticky situation: You are basking in the afterglow of a hot sexual encounter and your lover asks you the dreaded question, out of the blue: “Have you ever done that before?” What do you say? Should you spill your true dirty stories to your lover? How do you know when is the right time to spill the beans, your guts and everything in between......and what does it mean for your sexual future with that person? Ladies....think long and hard before you open your yap....partners tend to hold grudges, even if it were for things that we did years and years ago,...I can share things with a man I care about, in fact, we can share anything, and want to always keep the lines of communication open and always be honest with one another. Keep in mind not all people are the same....I feel like I have made enough mistakes in my past, and learned a lot from them to share, then again, I've never been ashamed of anything I may have done with a man, so I can be open about this matter. Regardless of whether you have or haven't done things that are a bit risky to talk about, think it through before you make a decision.
Deciding whether or not to spill your true dirty story has a great deal to do with the confidence of the person you are with. Though it might not seem fair, it’s true: Their confidence should determine how open you are with them. If you are dating someone who has a jealous streak or already has problems with feeling confident about their sexual prowess, they probably don’t need to hear about that wild time at your ex-boyfriend’s frat party.
On the other hand, some people like the feeling of jealousy, and the thought of seeing their lover with someone else. If this is a fantasy of your lover, you can tell all the dirty stories you want, and if they don’t like what they hear, you can always backtrack with a white lie and tell them certain things were embellished…even if they were not. It’s one of those few little lies that won’t hurt them at all, and you will avoid a serious problem by clearing the air in such a way.So ask yourself…how confident is your lover, only you know this...? Can you share such things with that person, or should you keep them to yourself?
Another thing to consider is whether or not your lover will know any of the people involved in your former sexual escapades. If you once dated your lover’s best friend, for instance, you might assume that he or she already knows how wild you were back then. In fact, they might be looking for confirmation — or denials — of stories they have already heard. In this case it’s best to keep silent about your sexual life before they came along, and don’t be pulled into the “he said/she said” conversation. That could cause a few issues, and one or two big problems!
Finally, it’s probably best not to talk about sexual encounters that were packed with emotion. If you deeply loved someone and your lovemaking was simply astounding, it’s not necessary to tell your partner this. They might then start to question just how strong your sexual and emotional connection is, and that can lead to relationship questions that serve no purpose. Trust me, in some cases, things are truly better left, unsaid.
After thinking through your options, are need to ask yourself...."Am I really ready to share true dirty stories with my partner?" If you still are not sure.....and before you feel like you are up against a wall.....remember, silence is golden.
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Deciding whether or not to spill your true dirty story has a great deal to do with the confidence of the person you are with. Though it might not seem fair, it’s true: Their confidence should determine how open you are with them. If you are dating someone who has a jealous streak or already has problems with feeling confident about their sexual prowess, they probably don’t need to hear about that wild time at your ex-boyfriend’s frat party.
On the other hand, some people like the feeling of jealousy, and the thought of seeing their lover with someone else. If this is a fantasy of your lover, you can tell all the dirty stories you want, and if they don’t like what they hear, you can always backtrack with a white lie and tell them certain things were embellished…even if they were not. It’s one of those few little lies that won’t hurt them at all, and you will avoid a serious problem by clearing the air in such a way.So ask yourself…how confident is your lover, only you know this...? Can you share such things with that person, or should you keep them to yourself?
Another thing to consider is whether or not your lover will know any of the people involved in your former sexual escapades. If you once dated your lover’s best friend, for instance, you might assume that he or she already knows how wild you were back then. In fact, they might be looking for confirmation — or denials — of stories they have already heard. In this case it’s best to keep silent about your sexual life before they came along, and don’t be pulled into the “he said/she said” conversation. That could cause a few issues, and one or two big problems!
Finally, it’s probably best not to talk about sexual encounters that were packed with emotion. If you deeply loved someone and your lovemaking was simply astounding, it’s not necessary to tell your partner this. They might then start to question just how strong your sexual and emotional connection is, and that can lead to relationship questions that serve no purpose. Trust me, in some cases, things are truly better left, unsaid.
After thinking through your options, are need to ask yourself...."Am I really ready to share true dirty stories with my partner?" If you still are not sure.....and before you feel like you are up against a wall.....remember, silence is golden.
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