Just imagine for a moment that you and your spouse have split up after a really long marriage. You didn't envision this change. (Do we ever really?) You're shocked with the intensity and weight of your own emotions – a painful combination of grief, anger, fear, humiliation, disbelief, sadness, failure, disappointment and others. We spend hundreds of hours, reading about how to win your spouse back, getting counseling to help with your grief, journaling, making lists of what you did wrong and trying to talk with your spouse about “fixing” things. Maybe things just aren't meant to be fixed? If anyone would have told me all those years ago that I'd be this happy now, I would have never believed them!
Does your spouse treats you like someone with a highly contagious fatal disease and look at you as if you smell like cow manure? If so, don't let him/her do this to you! 1) It shows much lack of respect., and 2) Don't waste any more of your time/energy on him/her....soon you'll realize it just isn't worth it.......Little by little you wake up to the fact that your life has changed. It’s a done deal. There’s no going back. You begin to see that by resisting change, you haven’t noticed the opportunities opening up before you. Manfred Mann sang it best in "Blinded by the Light" .......With a boulder on my shoulder, feelin' kinda older, I tripped the merry-go-round...With this very unpleasin', sneezin' and wheezin, the calliope crashed to the ground. Here's a quckie summary....So, no marriage, you are miserable, and no sex.....hmmmmm......
Guess what...the ride is over, time to get off and straighten your nugget out!
This awakening soon flows over you like warm sunshine. The heavy feelings of fear and loss are replaced by the lightness of freedom, optimism and confidence. Suddenly, the future looks brighter and the present feels sweet. You feel like Rocky Balboa did when he won his first fight!!! With new perspective, you change your behavior.You focus on those things in your life that are special to you – your children, family, friends, job, hobbies and interests long forgotten, and why? Because your partner had the "no-all to end'all" "Honey Do" List .......leaving not tme for you to see the forrest through the trees.
You read about finding new love and making successful relationships.Your lists and journal entries change to what you did not receive from your previous relationship, what you want from your next relationship, what qualities you want in your next partner, what you have to offer a new partner, etc…
You begin to take an interest in YOU. You are excited about the process of creating your future. The past no longer holds you hostage. The past is no longer who you are or who you want to be, although,..... the thoughts of talking a walk on the naughty side with chans and whips, and a can of Redd Whip doesn't sound so bad! It's ok to have these thoughts, if you didn't you wouldn't be human. At Simply Delicious Lingerie, we're here to help! We have all the novelties,bondage and romantic items you'll need to discover your new bad boy/bad girl side.
Are you ready for the D-word…Dating!.....Dating…uh, how to begin? It’s been a long time since your last date. Oh boy, you are nervous, and you should be, dating isn't the same as it was 20+ years ago...I didn't have the Internet...singles are so lucky today! From dating and relationship reading, you already know that seeking lasting love is a numbers game. It takes time. The early dating experiences allow you to “get your feet wet” – help you learn about what you do and don’t want. You already made up your mind: NO NO NO compromise in building the relationship you want just to avoid being alone. You will not “settle” for the first available and willing person that comes along. No way!
One day, you after much deliberation....you put your profile and picture on an Internet dating site. Oh, what fun it turns out to be!You begin connecting with people all over the world and making even more friends. You are surprised at the quality people that you meet along the way. After all, you had heard how only desperate people use the Internet for dating. Those days are longgggg gone, and those stories that you heard? ....Just forget them....Our parents/siblings made them up to keep us from finding Mr or Mrs Right/Wrong again, to prevent us from making the same mess with our lives, or to try to prevent us from getting hurt again,...either way, take their advice and throw it out the window!!! It's your life and at the end of the day, you have to be happy with your choices.
Your mail box begins to fill up and you are getting responses. Always make sure that you attach a recent photo., and by recent I mean within a few weeks/ months. No one want to meet the guy/woman that you were 10 or 20 years ago! Does this sound familiar? Do you know someone who has done this? It's cruel punishment for new daters....It's not bad enough to be confused and nervous but to meet a man or woman that you've chatted with and began to develop such admiration for only to find them with 100 more wrinkles and boobs down to her stomach from old age sagging. Who says their 40 when they're 60? And WHY????
Soon, you're meeting Internet acquaintances for coffee or dinner. You feel fantastic about the whole thing. Over and over you meet high quality, successful and confident people using the Internet dating site. You feel that, for you, the Internet is a much better place to meet potentials than by going out clubbing. Life is for the living....get out and do it. If this way of dating isn't for you, or if you did try it and it just didn't work,.....take a trip down memory lane and revisit your past....Mr/Ms. Right could be and old classmate or even someone from your old neighborhood that you haven't seen for years....you owe it to yourself to take a chance.....the worst thing that can happen is that you end up back at square one wondering if it's even worth it? OK listen Negative Nancy, stop that.....or the best thing that can happen is that you get your feet wet "your way," at your own pace... find happiness, and begin enjoying a new life with someone that means the world to you!
Does your spouse treats you like someone with a highly contagious fatal disease and look at you as if you smell like cow manure? If so, don't let him/her do this to you! 1) It shows much lack of respect., and 2) Don't waste any more of your time/energy on him/her....soon you'll realize it just isn't worth it.......Little by little you wake up to the fact that your life has changed. It’s a done deal. There’s no going back. You begin to see that by resisting change, you haven’t noticed the opportunities opening up before you. Manfred Mann sang it best in "Blinded by the Light" .......With a boulder on my shoulder, feelin' kinda older, I tripped the merry-go-round...With this very unpleasin', sneezin' and wheezin, the calliope crashed to the ground. Here's a quckie summary....So, no marriage, you are miserable, and no sex.....hmmmmm......
Guess what...the ride is over, time to get off and straighten your nugget out!
This awakening soon flows over you like warm sunshine. The heavy feelings of fear and loss are replaced by the lightness of freedom, optimism and confidence. Suddenly, the future looks brighter and the present feels sweet. You feel like Rocky Balboa did when he won his first fight!!! With new perspective, you change your behavior.You focus on those things in your life that are special to you – your children, family, friends, job, hobbies and interests long forgotten, and why? Because your partner had the "no-all to end'all" "Honey Do" List .......leaving not tme for you to see the forrest through the trees.
You read about finding new love and making successful relationships.Your lists and journal entries change to what you did not receive from your previous relationship, what you want from your next relationship, what qualities you want in your next partner, what you have to offer a new partner, etc…
You begin to take an interest in YOU. You are excited about the process of creating your future. The past no longer holds you hostage. The past is no longer who you are or who you want to be, although,..... the thoughts of talking a walk on the naughty side with chans and whips, and a can of Redd Whip doesn't sound so bad! It's ok to have these thoughts, if you didn't you wouldn't be human. At Simply Delicious Lingerie, we're here to help! We have all the novelties,bondage and romantic items you'll need to discover your new bad boy/bad girl side.
Are you ready for the D-word…Dating!.....Dating…uh, how to begin? It’s been a long time since your last date. Oh boy, you are nervous, and you should be, dating isn't the same as it was 20+ years ago...I didn't have the Internet...singles are so lucky today! From dating and relationship reading, you already know that seeking lasting love is a numbers game. It takes time. The early dating experiences allow you to “get your feet wet” – help you learn about what you do and don’t want. You already made up your mind: NO NO NO compromise in building the relationship you want just to avoid being alone. You will not “settle” for the first available and willing person that comes along. No way!
One day, you after much deliberation....you put your profile and picture on an Internet dating site. Oh, what fun it turns out to be!You begin connecting with people all over the world and making even more friends. You are surprised at the quality people that you meet along the way. After all, you had heard how only desperate people use the Internet for dating. Those days are longgggg gone, and those stories that you heard? ....Just forget them....Our parents/siblings made them up to keep us from finding Mr or Mrs Right/Wrong again, to prevent us from making the same mess with our lives, or to try to prevent us from getting hurt again,...either way, take their advice and throw it out the window!!! It's your life and at the end of the day, you have to be happy with your choices.
Your mail box begins to fill up and you are getting responses. Always make sure that you attach a recent photo., and by recent I mean within a few weeks/ months. No one want to meet the guy/woman that you were 10 or 20 years ago! Does this sound familiar? Do you know someone who has done this? It's cruel punishment for new daters....It's not bad enough to be confused and nervous but to meet a man or woman that you've chatted with and began to develop such admiration for only to find them with 100 more wrinkles and boobs down to her stomach from old age sagging. Who says their 40 when they're 60? And WHY????
Soon, you're meeting Internet acquaintances for coffee or dinner. You feel fantastic about the whole thing. Over and over you meet high quality, successful and confident people using the Internet dating site. You feel that, for you, the Internet is a much better place to meet potentials than by going out clubbing. Life is for the living....get out and do it. If this way of dating isn't for you, or if you did try it and it just didn't work,.....take a trip down memory lane and revisit your past....Mr/Ms. Right could be and old classmate or even someone from your old neighborhood that you haven't seen for years....you owe it to yourself to take a chance.....the worst thing that can happen is that you end up back at square one wondering if it's even worth it? OK listen Negative Nancy, stop that.....or the best thing that can happen is that you get your feet wet "your way," at your own pace... find happiness, and begin enjoying a new life with someone that means the world to you!
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