Customer Service = Self Confidence

Let's face it, dealing with the public every day can be at times down right difficult, and nobody knows it better than those who work in the customer service industry. Hi! Welcome to my world. Not only do I own a few online businesses where I have to deal with people over the phone and via email regarding orders placed, but I also work a retail job a few days a week for a company that I love, love love! I took this job because I am a people person and as much as I loved working from home with my two lingerie businesses, I surely did miss the interaction with customers. I am a people person for those of you who don't know me, and I am the happiest when I am surrounded by my team at work doing something that I enjoy doing...selling!

With angry customers, and even demanding bosses that show little respect, it can really drag down your self-confidence. No one wants or needs that, and it's very unhealthy. Sometimes the job itself can cause a lack of confidence if the worker feels like he or she should have a better job. Don't feel bad about yourself because you're working in customer service. In tight economic times, many people turn to jobs in the food service and retail industries. I can honestly say that working again after so many years in the business most customers are very cordial, however, there have been stories that I have heard from others about how rude and ruthless customers can be. To these people I ask...have you no conscious? Do you not have any respect for normal honest people living their daily life trying to support themselves and their families? Do you actually think that you are superior to these retail employees and businesses? If so, boy do I feel sorry for you. Come down off your high horse and get a grip before someone smacks you into tomorrow. My advice to those of you who fit this description; have a little respect, it goes a long way!

 If you start to believe that you're "better than" the job, you're only setting yourself up to feel down about yourself. Look at your work experience as an adventure, a chance to observe humanity. The saying may be that "the customer is always right," but don't believe in this at the expense of your own pride and self-worth. Customers aren't in the right when they are belligerent and belittling towards customer service representatives. Don't allow them to let you think less of yourself. 

While many customer service jobs involve working face to face with customers, others involve taking phone calls. If you're working at a call center, the potential for abuse from customers can be even greater since they're most likely calling you because they have a problem. Don't I know it...I worked for a call center once in a mortgage department and people were down right nasty. If I heard the term "YOU PEOPLE" one more time I was going to throw the headset and the damn phone right out the window. Don't let a caller's attitude towards you affect your own feelings of confidence in yourself in and your abilities. If a customer gets angry, you should also avoid responding in kind. If a customer is upset, you'll only make things worse by becoming mean yourself and you'll only feel bad about the situation later. If you are going to talk negative about a customer, for goodness sakes, make sure that the headset is muted. Take it from me, it's not pretty if what you think you're saying is private turns out to be 'not so private' when you suddenly hear a pause and a scream on the other end followed by the sound of the phone being hung up and silence!

On a similar note, don't take anything too personally. If you're the cashier at grocery store, you're likely to hear complaints about the slow workers at the deli counter, the high price of milk and the number of sale items that weren't on the shelves. If you work for a gas station, you're going to hear people yap about the high cost of gas  when the barrel has now dropped below $85.00

 If this happens, you should certainly be sympathetic of their plight and refer them to management if necessary, but realize that they're complaining about things that are completely unrelated to your individual job. You can only control how positive the customer's experience is when they're right in front of you. You shouldn't feel bad just because their discontent is being directed at you. Now, if a customer does lodge a complaint against you, then you should listen carefully to the issue. Make the necessary corrections, using the problem to your advantage to improve your work, but don't dwell on it. Everyone makes mistakes and one complaint doesn't mean you're a horrible person.

Treat everyone with respect, and you will get respect in return. If you're in a management position, assert your authority in a way that doesn't demean your workers. If you're the underling, listen to those in management positions, and if you have a problem with them, take it up through appropriate channels. Picking a fight with those in authority only leads to bad feelings and an unpleasant work environment. 

Come to work with a positive attitude. Your fellow workers may be negative, but you don't have to let them color your view of the situation. Don't let someone else rain on your parade! If you have a good attitude about the entire work experience, you're less likely to let small things get you down and will feel better about yourself overall. 

Do the best job you can, even if you're doing the most menial task possible. Cleaning bathrooms certainly isn't glamorous, but it's vital to creating a positive experience for customers. If you take pride in your work, you'll have pride in yourself. When you do quality work, you're also more likely to get praise, raises and promotions, which are always confidence boosters. 

Overall, the best advice for workers is to have a positive attitude and maintain a sense of perspective. Will the customer that just yelled at you really matter tomorrow? Don't take it to heart...just brush it off. Don't let it eat away at you because if you do, it will! Then don't let it drag you down today. If you keep this in mind, you'll be able to emerge from the world of customer service with your confidence intact!

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The Language of LOVE....

The 3 words that everyone longs to hear "I LOVE YOU" is the language of love around the globe. Love is love, no 'If's and's or but's about it!' It’s been said that couples can finish each other’s sentences after they’ve been in love for a long time, but maybe it was their similar way of speaking that brought them together from the start. In the latest  research, it  shows that we are attracted to people who use language comparable to our own. Makes sense right?

Examining speech and style of writing, experts noticed that people are not only more attracted to, but are also more likely to stay in a relationship with someone who talks like them.Since communication  is a pivotal part of any relationship, it makes sense that people want a companion who speaks in a similar manner. Forget French and Italian, the real romance language is whatever the object of your affections speaks. I've listed 5 languages of love. You determine if you and your lover fall into any or all of these categories.

1. Verbal Lovers. Like the example above, some people just like to hear gestures of love such as "I love you" and "I appreciate everything that you do." For this type of person, you'll want to provide constant encouragement, never letting things go unsaid.

• Try verbalizing your appreciations in some way each day.
• Don't assume your partner knows what you're thinking and feeling - speak up!

2. Time Well Spent. One of the love languages has to do with spending quality time with your partner. This doesn't mean just casual conversation; it means the times where your partner is your main focus. If your partner enjoys quality time, here are some things to consider:

• Choose a certain time each day or week where you're completely dedicated to your partner. This means that you need to shut off the TV, put down the paper, and take some away from the kids.
• Think of activities you can do together to really connect.
• Make sure you have a good relationship with yourself; it's the only way you can truly connect with your partner.

3. The Gift Giver. Another love language is one where your partner may enjoy giving and receiving gifts. This isn't because they're greedy; it means they're visual people who enjoy seeing proof of your deepening relationship. If you're with this type of partner, try these tips:

• Even if you're a big saver, make the effort to spend at least a little money or make some homemade or handmade gifts.
• Leave loving cards and notes for them.
• Don't give gifts everyday, but give gifts that are meaningful.

4. The Chores. We can't forget the chores when it comes to a language of communication between partners. Since there are many things that need to get done around the house, it often causes problems when you try to figure out who's doing what. Keep these tips in mind:

• Everyone has different chores that they deem important.
• Figure out which ones your partner doesn't enjoy and do them.
• Chores involve thinking ahead, which your partner will certainly appreciate.

5. Physical Affection. The physical affection love language can get complicated. Expressing your love physically doesn't only mean lovemaking. It involves simple touches too. Each partner will usually have some kind of opinion when it comes to this language:

• Figure out which kinds of touches your partner enjoys, it may be a gentle rub of their shoulders or some cuddling while watching television.
• This is equally important, figure out which touches irritate your partner.
• Get to know your partner's moods so you know when to express physical affection.

The Combination

Your partner will most likely speak a certain combination of these love languages. As your relationship deepens, you'll get to know your partner better and better. It may even help to outright discuss the topic of love languages with your partner to better understand each other. This will strengthen the bond you have and open up other windows of possibilities where your relationship is concerned. Be open and honest with one another, love conquers all and if you haven't found this yet, be patient, one day when you least expect it, he/she will walk into your life unexpectedly and change your life as you know it.

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Online Dating Profiles...Be Truthful and Keep it Simple!

When you think of going to an online dating site, what comes to mind first? You want to meet the man or woman of your dreams and possibly build a relationship together, right? You hear so much about being careful, and discrete but you want to impress a certain someone and you really want your profile to stand ot amongst all the others. One word of advice, and I am no professional, but I have experience...

While you might take some care to conceal your identity, and hey, that's all right....however, it's best not to lie. Do not try to bluff your way through a relationship because at some point the whole thing might come out and as we all know, one lie leads to another and then before you know it the whole relationship crashes down and then you ask "What did I do?" If you have to ask that at that point and time, you need to take a good hard look at "YOU!" Be as honest as you can, taking care to conceal your identity. Someone close to me once said that a friend is someone who knows all about you and loves you just the same. So there is no need to hide things about you.

Of course, you do not have to tell the person every ghastly, gory detail about yourself, but at the same time you do not have to conjure up stuff about you that simply is not true.If at all you do paint a very rosy picture about yourself, including things that just are not true, or are such far fetched exaggerations, and the other person does flip for you, in reality you will be basking in another person’s glory. The picture you have painted is just not you. Eventually this will catch up with you.

Your Alter Ego

When you choose a handle to identify yourself by, you have to be sharp. You don't want to draw a lot of attention to the degree where you are taken in by this profile, you want to be dignified and diligent in finding your special someone. You are not trying to attract as many partners as possible. You are looking for, quality not quantity! Try to attract only the kind of people you are interested in and who would find you interesting. Might I suggest you use a style that better defines the kind of person you are. Do not try to sound like a sex god or a sex goddess. If you are, let the other person decide for himself or herself. Instead of that you could try something that gives someone an immediate idea about the kind of person you are. The point is to win over people who are interested in the same things that you are. That, of course, increases your chances of meshing well with the person.

Keep it Simple....

Another crucial thing about writing your profile is that you should keep it as brief as possible. No one wants to real a novel. Who has time for that? Nobody, and that means nobody, wants to read through lines and lines of another person’s profile where it goes on, and on and on. If you make it so long winded the person who is reading it will get the idea that you are the kind of person who would love to keep on talking about yourself and instead of go on a date with you, the reader would rather go to the next profile...

But that doesn’t mean that you have to limit the whole thing to just a few words. A very brief profile will sound as if you do not have time for all this, but you are just doing it for the heck of it. Make mention of the strengths you can bring to a relationship. Positive things are what we all love to hear. Do not be negative.

The best style that you could use would be to be 100% natural. Write your profile as you would describe yourself to a person directly, no BS, no lies, just be you. Honesty and integrity are what most people seek. The conversation style has the widest appeal. Make it simple and stay away from big words and hackneyed expressions., unless you can back them with true meaning!



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Working Womans Guide to Beauty...

Let's face it ladies, we take on a variety of rolls trying to juggle a husband, kids, a home and a job can be a real struggle. More often than not, there isn’t enough time to strike off every item on your to-do list yet you feel like you can't catch up, and there is no slowing down. You’re tired, worn out, run down and it shows, but who has hours to spend getting all dolled up in front of a mirror? Not you. However, I feel that every woman needs to take the time to feel good about herself on a daily basis. Perhaps you aren't feeling so pretty on the outside...too many activities, not enough hours in the day, and no time for you right? Wrong...we need to make the time! Confidence is a blessing, and we all want to look and feel the part.With a few simple tricks, you can go from feeling like blah to babe in one hour or less. 

Might I suggest  treating yourself to your full beauty potential with the following easy steps; Lets call it your Quick Step Beauty Guide!

Start with an instant makeover...take a good look at your skin. A clean, smooth complexion is the base of a glowing face, so assess the condition of your skin. Is it oily, dry or normal? Are there any eruptions or blackheads that should be treated and removed? Use a gentle cleanser and exfoliation pad to remove excess oil and dead skin, and then rinse your skin with cool water. Blot gently and apply your favourite moisturizer, preferably one with built-in sun protection. Be sure not to rub your face as you are applying the moisturizer – particularly around the super-sensitive skin near your eyes, and to smooth body lotion from neck to toes. Many women apply facial moisturizer every day but neglect to care for the rest of their skin, even though it, too, is subject to wear and tear from dryness and environmental pollutants.

Experts will agree that a new hair cut is a great way to change your look and boost your mood. But if you’re only looking for a temporary change, consider styling your hair differently. You don’t need a salon to do this! You just need to be adventurous. Is your hair short and unfussy? Add a little gel for a sleek and sophisticated look. Get out your curlers if you normally wear your hair straight, or your straightening iron if your regular hair style is curly. The demands of everyday living often drive women to simply tying back their hair with little regard to how it works. Take a few minutes to wash, condition, and style your hair to see a dramatic improvement in your appearance and sense of confidence. You have to make this time for yourself, no one else can do it for you!

The natural look is nice, and I am a firm believe in less is best...but applying makeup is an easy way to glam up your look without expending a lot of effort or time. Take advantage of the season’s trend toward pretty mauve lipsticks and dramatic, multi-tone eye shadow. Eyeliner has also made a comeback, so use it to make a bold statement for an evening out on the town. Mascara is an absolute must and takes literally seconds to apply. Also, if you haven’t already done so, take a few minutes to have a professional cosmetician recommend colors and shades that will complement your hair, eyes and skin.

Choose a dynamite outfit and accessorize it big time! Dressing up isn’t just for special occasions. Chances are, if you look sloppy, you feel sloppy, so put on a great pair of jeans, a soft sweater, heeled boots and a pair of earrings before heading to the grocery store or to your son’s football game. Going out for dinner? Let your dinner companions ooh and aah when you arrive in a fabulous dress or pantsuit. You will sparkle on the outside and feel so rewarded on the inside! Even if you consider the choices in your closet a little on the dull side, you can always mix and match to add excitement to your wardrobe.

Your most powerful beauty tool is a big, genuine smile enhanced by sparkling, lively eyes. Yes, men love eyes. Your eyes can tell a story, so make sure that yours are feeling quite confident. When you’re happy and relaxed, it shows in how you look, feel and behave, so do whatever it takes to allow you to smile. This might mean taking a short nap to catch up on your rest, de-stressing with some time in front of the television with your favorite reality program, pursuing a hobby, exercising, sipping a coffee or hanging out with a friend. My suggestion is this; Make time for a few ‘you’ moments each day. Having and enjoying this time is just as vital as any other appointment, so make it a point to set aside at least 10 worry-free ‘you time’ minutes each day. You’ll feel better, look better, and your smile will be absolutely gorgeous.

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10 Ways to Tell You Are a Lousy Lover...

Ladies, most of us at one time or another have all questioned  how good we are in bed, well, maybe not all of us, so women think they are the bomb-diggity...but are they really or is their ego as big as some of the men they date and they just think that they are sexual dynamos under the sheets? Do you ask yourself if you are a good lover? Sure, you say you are, but if you were to ask a few of your ex's, what would they say? What if their they may have a different opinion? Many women think that they were really incredible only to find out later that what the man thought was that they were a real dud...that's right, not fizzle to sizzle! 

If you'd like to be just as good (bad) as these women, here are your tips for you to follow: DO NOT do these things...,did you hear me DO NOT! (otherwise you'll earn the lousy lover award)

1) Taking ex-lover's opinions

Any guy that wants to play sheet-hockey with you is going to tell you how great you are. I'm sorry, but the guy lies to you not to hurt you, but to prevent you from being an even worse - or scarce - lover. Men have enough to worry about with just getting good sex to add to it.

Here's a bottom line you should adopt: don't use the salesman's opinion to judge the quality of the product. Of course men are going to tell you that you're awesome! Sweetheart, they just got laid...they are just glad to have sex!

2) Now...assuming you're good in bed

Every woman I know thinks she's a great kisser and at least decent in bed. In fact in my experience, less than 10% are either. You don't have to take my word for this however, according to my own research; most other men put the number at around the same place!

Assuming that you're already skilled can actually prevent you from gaining the skills you really should have. Being "confident, but curious" will take you to that glorious 10% very quickly. Moral of the story...never assume anything!

3) Not knowing your own sexuality

Many, many women don't focus on their own sexuality and assume that a man will come along to teach them everything they should know. Don't believe it. It is YOUR job to learn about your own sexuality so that you bring this to the table in a relationship. After all, if you don't understand your own sexuality - what works for you, what doesn't and what else you want to explore - how are you ever going to communicate this to your lover? Some men may stay in a relationship with a lousy lover, but they are forever constantly think about how it'd be with someone else. If you think that takes the pressure off of you fine, but don't be surprised when your lover decides he want to taste a little of that other fruit.

Now is the time to take a little time for yourself and evaluate.  The key to really understanding your own needs - and getting comfortable with them! This can be a powerful source growth if you use it that way.

4) A lack of experience

If you're saving yourself for marriage or for some knight in shining armor, just consider what you're going to have to give when it or he finally arrives. I can't tell you how many women just assume that everything will be incredible - and how many relationships break up because it's not.

Not many men these days want virgins (but some do). For those of us with some experience, we realize that this is just too much work! Men don't want to have to spend the next 5 years helping a woman just get in touch with her own sexual side - she should bring this to the relationship in the first place!

You've no doubt heard that sex "isn't the most important part of a relationship" and while that may be true, it's in the top 3! Why would you spend so much of your time working on becoming the woman of your man's dreams, only to fail where it's most important to him?I'm not saying that you should go out and screw every guy you meet, but you should see every sexual relationship you are in as a chance to grow your own skills for that guy that finally does sweep you off your feet. Doesn't he deserve this from you? (Answer: yes, he does!)

5) Reading books and articles written by women about what men want in bed

If I want to learn about car maintenance, I don't usually go to a guy that sells books and ask. I'll go right to the mechanic. Women spend countless hours reading articles and books written by other women about how to satisfy men sexually. The trouble with this is that many of these women are just as inexperienced! Many men look at these articles too and most of them honestly  just roll their eyes.

6) Not communicating

If man asks you what you like in bed, NEVER give the answer, "Oh, I like just about everything!" It's a cop-out and we all know it.  Being with someone sexually is an opportunity to get your needs met - and to explore new ones. You can only do this by communicating honestly, openly and without embarrassment.

7) Not asking

Wouldn't you love to hear your partner ask you, "Honey, is there anything you really want that you haven't told me?" Very few of the men are the insecure jackasses that women make them out to be. If you know you want something, most men will almost always find a way to give it to you.

8) Complaining

When you ask for something and get it - even if it's not exactly right - don't complain. There are far better ways to improve things! That especially means right in the middle of sex. NEVER, EVER EVER do that.

Recommendations are taken far better than simply complaining about something. If you tell men what you want, they may still not exactly understand it from your perspective, but they'll try most of the time. Women are much more complicated than men in this department. As If men know that we want something, they will  almost always try to give it to you. If it's not exactly what or how you like it, then you need to help them to understand it. trust me on this one, you'll be the benefactor!

On the other hand, if you simply complain, get used to the idea that you're not going to get what you want - and it'll be your own fault.

9) Lack of enthusiasm

If you think holding back is the way to get us to be more interested in you, let me set you straight on this: it won't work. We'll simply find someone that won't hold back and leave you wondering what happened.

Your sexual enthusiasm also communicates your interest in us. That doesn't mean you have to bounce off the walls, but at least be interested in sex and want to grow with us. We'll return the favor in ways you can't imagine.

 

10) Being self-conscious

I know, I know, you're worried about the lighting, mood and every other little issue:

"Does my hair look good?"

"Am I making enough noise?"

"Am I making too much noise?"

"Does this pillow make my ass look big?"

Listen, if you make it a habit of doing any of these in #10....you've got some shaping up to do. No man wants to hear women whine and pout. Suck it up sister and get your confidence game going.



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Blast Away That Belly Fat!

Some people never have this problem, but so many have tummies that they would love to get rid of. Now you can have the awesome, flat and lean stomach you've always wanted! It's not that difficult, you just need to want to work for it. Make these nutrition, exercise, and posture tips part of your daily life and you'll blast away your belly fat.

Eating for a Flat Stomach:

1. Maintain a healthy body weight. If you're already above your ideal weight, you'll need to burn more calories than you consume to lose those excess pounds. It's great to tone your stomach muscles, but they'll remain hidden until you shed any fat that covers them.

2. Get plenty of fiber. A diet high in fiber will help prevent bloating. Whole wheat and other grains also help you feel fuller faster, and most vegetables are low in calories.

3. Cut down on sodium. Many people eat twice as much sodium as health experts recommend. Too much salt can lead to high blood pressure as well as major bloating. The biggest culprit is processed food, so read those nutrition labels and prepare your own dishes from fresh ingredients. Drinking plenty of water also helps to lower your sodium levels.

4. Eat smaller meals. If lavish dinners make your belly bulge, try switching to smaller and more frequent meals. Eat 5 to 6 times a day every 3-4 hours. You'll be less likely to get hungry and overindulge. This is so much better for you too! Keeps your metabolism charged!

5. See your doctor. If you're losing weight but failing to see any change in your waistline, talk with your doctor. There are tests that can detect if you have food allergies. You may need to avoid certain foods or take enzyme drops or tablets for lactose intolerance.

Exercising for a Tighter Tummy:

1. Understand the myth of spot reduction. Your body gains weight all over and loses it the same way. Forget about the miracle gadgets advertised on television that promise instant results. Save your money and devote your energy to more sensible eating and regular exercise.

2. Do aerobics daily. Aerobic exercise is the best way to burn more calories. Take a daily walk or run. Go swimming or skating. Aim for about 30 minutes of activity a day. Supplement that with lifestyle changes like using the stairs instead of the elevator.

3. Strengthen your upper body muscles. Building strong muscles in your shoulders, chest, and back will improve your posture and keep your abdomen from sticking out. Do some weight training or Pilates a few times each week. I happen to love Yoga Booty Ballet myself.

4. Tone your stomach muscles. Spot exercises are effective in combination with aerobics and strength training. Crunches and leg lifts tighten and tone your stomach muscles.

5. Have fun. Make your exercise routine enjoyable so you'll want to stick with it. Design a variety of activities. Reward yourself when you make progress towards a slimmer waistline.

Improving Your Posture:

1. Tuck your tummy in. Imagine that you're pressing your navel back against your spine. Even if it feels a little awkward at first, it will quickly become a habit with regular practice. The results are fast. Your abdomen will look flatter. You'll breathe more deeply and feel more energetic. Even your clothes will look better.

2. Pull your shoulders back. Letting your shoulders drop back and relax helps to raise your chest up. This way, all of your core muscles support your weight instead of making just your abdomen carry the load.

3. Keep your body in alignment. Whether sitting or standing, try to position your ears, shoulders and hips in one vertical line. Balance your weight evenly over the balls and heels of your feet while walking or standing. Switch positions occasionally when sitting or standing for a long time.

A flat stomach can work wonders on your health and appearance. Eat right, exercise, and stand up straight. You'll love your new look.

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Meeting Men at Bars....

There are a lot of men at bars. On “Ladies Night,” when women drink free, men flock to the bars like school boys with lead in their pants. They know that there’ll be women and free flowing booze, which for them is the perfect match. Cheap booze and easy women or easy booze and cheap women, they don’t care. These men are there for one reason and one reason only, to get a quick lay!  They like to prey upon women...they find a woman whose alcohol consumption is up and her defenses down. Hey,...Bars are fine for meeting people and having fun with friends, but that's it! As for finding Mr. Right gals, you’re more likely to find Mr. Right Now. Is that what you really want? To be someones one night stand, sloppy second or just mediocre knowing that a man wants you for only one thing?... Or do you desire so much more? Remember gals, you deserve only the best here, and chances are, you may not find the best at a bar, especially if you are drinking.

 OK, for the sake of saying, yes, I would agree, that men do go to the bars too, but they'll tell you that it is generally to have a beer with the guys and shoot the shit or play pool. Then there are the...other men, who are known to be nice guys at work or around their families, go to a bar and feel that they can turn into a bad boy. They’re just looking for a quick hook up, not a relationship. But in the time tested tradition of men offering love to get sex, they say whatever they have to in order to check out your Simply Delicious style. We all know the dangers of drinking and driving. Not enough women recognize the equal dangers of drinking and dating.

That guy who seemed so fine at the bar last night walks up to your apartment the next night to pick you up and you can’t believe your eyes. This is not the kind of guy that you were looking for - how did he get your number? You gave it to him. Drinking reduces inhibitions, which is a nice way of saying that your good sense floated away after the third round of vodka. The bar scene is also the new training ground for groups of men who aspire to be pickup masters. That helps the man to lure you into bed, which is the ultimate scoring objective of the pickup game. The guy who has sex with the most women wins. He may have some extensive medical treatments on the horizon, but he wins as a pickup master!

Notice that the pickups happen in bars – that’s because there are plenty of women who are looking to connect and they’re drinking. This is recognized easily by the man, so ladies...where is your self-esteem?Loneliness plus alcohol multiplied by rehearsed pickup lines makes you vulnerable and a real sucker. Do you want to be their next victim? That’s what the bar scene might become for you. Score sex with the lowest bar tab in the shortest amount of time. No wonder it’s difficult to meet a sincere guy by bar hopping! Now’s the time for you to expand your dating pool and see what’s beyond the lights, music, and drinks being used against you. Smile, be cordial, and say good bye...nothing good ever comes out of meeting men at bars ladies, an dif it does, most often it won't last.

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Tone Up and Have Killer Legs!

Legs are frequently the subject conversation and generally it's because they are your most deadly weapon in seduction. Let's face it, men and women alike are noticed significantly more while biking, jogging, playing sports, etc when they have a great pair of  legs. Not only literally do they carry our weight so to speak, rather they are the best source of confidence one can have. Your legs are a vital part of your body, carrying you around every day and rarely complaining. The  importance of keeping your legs in the best shape possible so that years from now the two of them will still be taking you up stairs and around town. If you aren't used to exercise a lot, this might be tough, but for people that live in larger cities such as NYC like my son, when I visit him the calves on people are huge from all the walking about and exercise they get daily.

The legs are made up of six major muscles and muscle groups. Some of you may know these major muscles, but for those of us who hate to exercise and are trying hard to get into shape, pay close attention! Located in the front of the thigh is a group of muscles known as the quadriceps. Opposite the quadriceps is another group of muscles called the hamstrings. The inside thigh is the location of the adductors. The lower consists of the gastrocnemius and soleus muscles in the back and the tibialis anterior muscle in the front. Connecting the leg and hipbone to the spine are the hip flexors and the illiopsoas. All of these muscles must work together in perfect harmony in order for you to be able to walk, point your foot up, straighten your knee, and much more. When these muscles are strong and well conditioned they become firm and well defined, but let them get weak and the muscles will sag, and lets face it, nobody wants to sag!

Good muscle tone also helps prevent varicose and spider veins in the legs. While neither type of vein is especially dangerous, they are both unattractive and will rarely disappear on their own. Most varicose and spider veins must be treated by a doctor with either a laser or an injected saline solution. Keeping your legs healthy will prevent 95 percent of all varicose and spider veins.

Deciding to make a point of maintaining strong, healthy legs is a wonderful decision and fortunately many of the muscles in the legs are some of the fastest to respond to conditioning. Aerobic exercise is great for some toning but concentrated work is best to shape the individual muscles. Some of them, like the adductors, are used so rarely that they can be challenging to tone but it is possible. To see maximum results for your legs, you should plan to work out at least three times weekly. Four to five sessions during the week are better and will give you faster results, but if you can only do three for now that’s fine to start.

The granddaddy of all  conditioning movements of those killer legs is the lunge. Trainers across the nation are putting their clients through the lunging paces thousands of times every day and there’s a reason for that. The lunge is the one movement that can target most of the major muscles within the leg and shape them up fast. Lunging down requires the use of both lower leg muscles to help stabilize you and then the upper leg muscles to raise your body back up. I love this exercise! It can be painful at the beginning if you are not used to do it, but so worth the reward!

 By performing the same movement over and over you condition the muscle to take on the strongest form possible. If you have bad knees, though, lunging can be difficult and sometimes downright impossible. Rather than trying to force your body through pain, though, try modifying the movement. Instead of dropping your body all the way to the bottom of the movement, go only halfway or as far as you feel comfortable. Don’t step too far forward in the beginning and that will lessen some of the strain on the knee joint. The ultimate solution is simply to not do lunges at all and for some people it may be the only option. There are plenty of other choices that will help strengthen your legs without placing so much demand on your knees.

Squats are another excellent choice for firming and shaping the buttocks and upper thighs. As you squat, you demand a lot of work from the muscles in your buttocks and legs both going down and coming up. That demand intensified by 20 times results in some serious definition after several sessions. To work the inner and outer thighs, lateral raises are wonderful. Begin with your weight on your left foot and your right foot pointed slightly behind you. Hold on to a chair or wall for balance and slowly raise and lower your right leg out to the side. Raising your leg high isn’t so much the issue as just raising it and asking your muscles to make the effort. Do at least 20 repetitions for 3 sets several times per week to tone hips and back of the thigh. The inner thigh is a bit more challenging. Typically only used in climbing stairs or inclines, the inner thigh can get flabby fast without regular exercise.

To condition the muscle, stand again with your weight on your left foot, raise and point your right foot in front of you, and slowly move your right foot and leg across your left leg. You should feel the stress in your inner thigh – if not, turn your leg so that the inner thigh is facing the ceiling and slowly sweep the leg back and forth across the other. Repeat for 3 sets of 20 repetitions. We all want a thigh pair of thighs and a nice ass, so let's get to work and start firming up these muscles.

Strong, healthy legs are worth the effort but the best part is that they respond quickly without putting in weeks of work. Incorporate squats and lunges into random parts of your day – brushing your teeth, doing laundry, washing dishes, cutting the grass ...and you’ll be pleasantly surprised at how fast your legs shape up! I use my good ole' thigh master that has been taking up space for years in the closet. Guess what?  I've noticed a real difference.

 I am also using my 15 lb. weights to do my squats and lunges. My kids surprised me with a vacation in April and myself, like many of you, out of shape a bit and suffering the menopause weight gain and blues, BUT I am not going  there with sags and cottage cheese! I've lost 5 pounds in almost 3 weeks (yes, I started out a bit slow)... I have 15 pounds to go. With effort and will power I can do this, and so can you. I want my legs and torso to look fabulous! Come on...let's get to work! Time to exercise, get in shape and have killer legs!



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Wrap Yourself Up in a Robe from Simply Delicious Lingerie

For so many, the robe is just the simple cover up garment they throw on when walking to the shower or in their pajamas. Many people though find them to be a symbol of one of the sexiest cover ups that tease. Some see it as erotica. Some see it as being the appetizer before the main entree.Certainly, robes can come in all different styles and be just as sexy as what is underneath or lack thereof. Nothing says sex appeal like Carrie Amber Intimates at Simply Delicious Lingerie. What type of robe you decide to get will all depend on what you are using it for. It will also depend if you want more than one style to fit several needs.

There are many on the market that are just functional and cover you up completely when needed, but we take pride in recommending just one. Visit our website and see why so many people love our robes. Not only are the sexy and tasteful, they are quite affordable as well. Robes are meant to serve a duel purpose and combine function with flare and sensuality. Many robes are never meant to be seen outside of the bedroom. They are sheer, see through, and don’t leave much to the imagination. Therefore, you truly want to know what you are looking for in way of versatility. You are better off to buy more than one robe that fits many different niches in your life than to buy one that you think covers all your needs and does not.

Buying a robe can be an easy or hard thing depending on where you go. You will need to go to a lingerie shop to find them. Define what you will be using this garment for. Will you be traveling to and from the bathroom for bathing? Will it be worn for midnight trips to the potty of fridge? Do you want to wear it over your pajamas until you go to bed at night? If this is the case, you really only need a simple style. It should keep you warm and be absorbent. Their role is on the practical side of things. However, rest assured that they will provide you with comfort and warmth, as is their purpose.

You will find robes of this type are available in a variety of colors and prints. All you will have to do is pick one out at Simply Delicious Lingerie or Simply Luscious Lingerie and you are good to go. The one thing to take into consideration is length. If you are looking for warmth as well as covering up then you will want a longer design. If all you care about is just covering up, then a little short and sassy style might suit you better.. You should be able to wear this robe for two purposes. One reason is as a sexy accessory to some lingerie. Second reason is to cover up when needed without worry of showing anyone your business. We hope that you'll shop our site for your next lingerie piece. Stay tuned for an entire new line of merchandise coming soon!

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How Does Mr. Nice Guy Get the Girl?

So, how does 'Mister Nice Guy' find the woman of his dreams?  You don’t have to be a jerk, a player or a bad boy to get the girl, but generally women tend to turn to the 'bad boy' image type men. If this sounds like you...this is something that you are going to want to read. Ladies, there are great guys out there just waiting for that one opportunity to meet you and get to know you. Chances are, if you would just give the underdog a chance, you might be surprised as to what a wonderful man this might be.  You might need to learn some things along the way though. What you need to know right now is that there are nice, beautiful, fun-loving, sexy, intelligent, exciting women out there that are perfect for you, so guys...don't give up.

These women are looking for a good man. Someone who has a grip on reality and knows how to handle himself - that’s important to a woman. If your love life has been less-than-stellar lately, that doesn’t mean it has to stay that way. If you’re getting the wrong kind of dates or no dates at all, let’s do something about that! You can take action and take control of the situation, and that doesn’t mean that you have to turn into a jerk to do it. Maybe you’re getting back into the dating scene. You’ve recently ended a long-term relationship. Maybe you’re gun-shy. That’s okay. But you can’t stay away from dating forever – not if you want a good, healthy relationship with a great person.

Whatever your situation, you’re going to get back on track. You can learn to incorporate some of those bad boy traits into your own personality without becoming a complete jackass and compromising your beliefs.

You want to do this because women like to be surprised and a taste of the unexpected is fun – as long as you know how to do it...if you don't it could very well back fired on you. Bad boys aren’t afraid to take risks. Maybe it’s because they have no conscience, but for you, it’ll be because you learn how to step outside of your comfort zone and go about dating from a new perspective. Once you meet the women you want, you’ll begin developing great dating relationships. You don’t have to have deep pockets, be a black belt, or a have a PhD. You need to learn to use your own uniquely great qualities, and you need to develop confidence in yourself as a man who knows what he wants and knows how to get it.

Waiting for the perfect woman to appear at your doorstep is an ineffective way to get a date, much less find your life partner. So is going the player route. You can learn the right way to get what you want while preserving your sense of self. Now that’s valuable information fellas! Whether you meet your mate at work, at the mall, at happy hour with friends, or at the grocery store, just be yourself,  remember to smile and don't be afraid to take a chance!

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Are You Sabotaging Your Relationship?

Do you feel sometimes that the relationships you've been in were like sinking ships? Let's talk about why we don't like to admit that we are alone and cannot find love? Let talk about how sometimes we tend to make the same mistakes in relationships over and over and over. I'm sure that you are familiar with that saying; "It's not you, it's me" is all wrong because you know that it is you! Are we sabotaging our hopes of a good strong relationship because we don't want to waste our time getting involved, or because we are being knit-picky and want someone who is without fault? How can we find someone without fault when we have plenty of our own?

When you can dig deep to find these answers, you may then be able to discover why it is that you are not in a solid relationship now. How difficult is it to sit with a group of your friends and hear their stories and experiences that are taking place in their relationships - especially if you’re flying solo? It will make you look at your life and wonder just how it is that you’re still single while all of your friends your age are married or at least in serious relationships. You start to feel down, frustrated and wonder if you’ll ever have what they do?

How do you feel inside when these situations happen? There are actually fears that can keep you single and you may not even know that you have them.You may be afraid that you will be single forever. This is something that many single people fear whether they admit it or not. It usually happens when you’ve had a few, or more than a few, unpleasant or seriously awful relationships, especially in a row. Somewhere in the back of your mind you’re thinking that you may NEVER have that just right relationship. This can really worry you if it’s later in your life. So, you see, holding onto this fear that you’ll never meet the Mr. Right may very well push him away when he DOES show up. I'm not a professional, but try this sometime; "let your guard down!"

Another fear that can keep you single is the fear of losing your man. Most people are on their best behavior when they first meet. However, there are some guys that act creepy right out of the gate by assuming too much about where your relationship is going. They may even start getting possessive and/or controlling. This should big your BIG RED FLAG! Women that exhibit this same type of behavior with men after only a few dates will scare those men away. So when you start worrying about losing the guy before you ever really connect with him, it can make you act in ways that, while totally uncharacteristic of you, can cause the end of this relationship before it even starts. Take it slow and get your feet wet...take baby steps and look for the one that suits you well for all of the right reasons.

One of the top fears that might keep you single forever is that he will turn out to be just like your ex. Oh how true is this? Yet, on the contrary, I would look for a man that was nothing at all like my ex-husband was in fear of replaying life as it was. Do you fear this? If so, it is pretty easy to understand. If your last relationship ended badly, you need to take enough time to get emotionally under control again. When you give it enough time, and you take it slow and discover your true emotions, your next man will get a fair chance without you comparing him to your ex. Breaking the emotional ties to your past, and the fear associated with it, helps you move away from the past without taking any old problems or patterns into the new relationship you’re trying to get off the ground, otherwise, you'll find yourself as Gilbert O'Sullivan once sang..."Alone Again, Naturally!"

Stop nagging, complaining, and second guessing your partner/mate. Are you tired of getting dumped? If you find yourself in one disastrous relationship after another, it could be a pattern. Here's how to identify and break the loop...Get to the root of the true issues!



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Simply Luscious Lingerie...OuR pRiCeS WiLL kNoCk yOuR SoCkS oFF!

Does the plus size store that you are shopping at for your women's intimate apparel bringing you down with frumpy lingerie and high costs? If so, it's time to change the channel...ladies, you are surfing the wrong websites! Take a look at us and see why so many women are waiting for the launch of our new plus size lingerie store, our sister company of Simply Delicious Lingerie. We are plunging into this project with confidence and support from a wide variety of women who spoke to us when we asked "What do you want in plus size lingerie?" We are aiming to gain ground and become your number one lingerie and accessories boutique! We offer a wholesale lingerie membership where you join for $19.99 and then you start ordering as many times as you like to receive your intimate apparel at 40-70% off the marked retail price on our website. That is a SUPER saving! Check other stores around that sell plus size- I'm sure that you will not find anyone else with wholesale prices like ours. There are a few stipulations with ordering so do read carefully. We you a offer satisfaction guarantee that you will get the best prices in the USA.

It has not been so long ago that full-figured women had to go without all the sexy lingerie pieces that catered to the smaller sizes, but NO MORE is that the statement.  I am pitching a new website for the beautiful curvy woman who has glamour and sex appeal. This is just not the way it is any more today. Plus size women can be sexy too in lingerie fashions that will drive guys nuts.  You will feel and look like a million dollars in a hot number made for you, guaranteed. Plus size women can experience the lift and concealment of all the same styles of lingerie that they want at http://www.simplylusciouslingerie.com/ 

 Your lingerie options are endless at Simply Luscious Lingerie. You no longer have to feel that because you have an extra few pounds there is nothing sexy out there for you. There are plenty of bridal lingerie selections, chemises, babydolls, teddies, sexy matching sets, sexy bedroom costumes, and other intimate apparel that is made for full-figured women today. The curvaceous women no longer have to be forced into cotton briefs that are ugly and unflattering. Time to break out of that shell gals! 

 There are tons of styles of cute silky and lacy panties to choose from. It really doe not matter if you are a 14 or 4X you will be able to find anything from lace to leather, silk to satin, or any other fabric type you desire. Feeling sexy and voluptuous is just as important to you as it is every other woman on the planet. You just need to go grab those few lingerie items that you wardrobe has been missing all this time. A fabulous bra and panty set is a great way to feel vibrant under your clothes. This will help you show off all your seductive curves and conceal any areas that you wish to not show.

Time to say 'good-bye' to those bloomers and say 'hello' to something a little more risky. Go for something sheer and teasing such as a chemise or sensuous slip. There are plenty of sexy things you can dare to wear that will keep that man’s eyes on you for sure. If you want to add a bit of adventure then try that leather or satin corset. Go for the mesh body suit or a sweet see through teddie. It is now your turn to explore the passion and fun of lingerie. Getting that sexy piece of lingerie can make you know you are just as beautiful as any other women. Spice up you and your partner’s life with a little fun and playfulness. It is about time you got to feel the belle of the ball for a change.

The best thing about lingerie is the price and the quality! We offer every day intimates as well as bridal lingerie, honeymoon lingerie, and wedding day lingerie. Lingerie boosts our confidence and makes us feel pretty. It is a great way to express your more feminine side and make you feel beautiful and sensual. It does not matter why you want them. It is important to be able to have them if you so desire. There are plenty of places to find good quality plus size lingerie, but only at Simply Luscious Lingerie will you get first class attention, exquisite glamorous lingerie in a variety of plus sizes and truly affordable prices that will keep you coming back time and time again! 

We'll  have a great collection available. If you are not comfortable, not to worry, you don't have to go to the local mall or lingerie store, we're here to service you 365/24/7 in the comfort of your own home or anywhere you choose to shop us via your computer, laptop or iPad. We'll have huge selection of sexy full-figured lingerie. You will be able to look at all the different styles at your leisure without worrying about any one knowing. We respect your privacy, and we are discrete. Your confidentiality is of the most importance to us here at Simply Luscious Lingerie. Don’t ever settle for less because you are full-figured. You deserve to be an amazing, sensual and sexy woman, because you are! Join us in the next few months as we kick off the newest and latest online plus size lingerie boutique that will leave a lasting memory. Not only will the stylish apparel turn heads, so will our fabulous prices...they'll knock your socks off!

We look forward to serving you in the future!

~Michele Savin, Owner

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What is a Diva?

What is a DIVA?

diva	definition:
	a bitchy man/woman that must have his/her way exactly, or no way at all. Often rude and belittles people, believes that everyone is beneath his/her and thinks that he/she is so much more loved than what he/she really is. selfish, spoiled, and overly dramatic.

Divas can be fun to watch but oh so difficult to date, and if you have dated one in the past you know exactly what I'm talking about. Regardless of how hot high maintenance women/men look, dealing with them is not worth the pain they cause. So what is the difference between being very picky about what’s around you and being impossibly high maintenance? This questionable quality looks slightly different in men than in women. High Maintenance Women are perfectly beautiful, stylish and almost too good to be real. The problem is, they’re like cartoon character versions of themselves - bigger than life and very two-dimensional. Does this possibly sound like anyone you might know?

The world of a high maintenance person only has room for himself/herself and people who cater to them. They are rude to servers, demeaning to clerks and superior to most other humans occupying their planet. Let's face it, they're just a bitch in general, and they probably won't change anytime soon...so if you think that it will happen, you are truly only fooling yourself! It's like a game to them....They will act the same way toward her guy until he bristles, then she pulls back just enough to keep him happy enough to spend more money on her. Check to see if you fit this description and if you do, try to rein in your diva-like behaviors.

Ok, so if you are intrigued by this and you think that only women can be divas oh have I got news for you...Did you know that there are High Maintenance Men, too! These guys can be just as picky about their style and looks as any female. They make a big deal about their newest clothes, shoes, and stylish fashions. If they participate in a sport, they have absolutely every type of gear and it comes in designer labels. High Maintenance Men can be obsessive about their cars, which are either hyper-luxurious or fast and sporty.

Don’t even think about drinking a latte inside his car. His home is just as picture perfect, thanks to daily maid service. Whether male or female, high maintenance people share some characteristic in common:

• Impatience with anyone who does not instantly respond to his or her demands
• Insistence on always being right, regardless of the subject
• Never accepts less than what they feel is owed to them
• Overly preoccupied with other’s opinions of them
• Humor that’s poorly disguised sarcasm designed to cut others down
• Constantly talking about themselves and their importance
• Never gives a sincere compliment to others
• Never wrong

If this sounds the guy/gal you’re dating, then get ready to meet his every need because they only meet your needs to the extent that it makes them look good. It's not all about you silly, it's all about them.Great word of advice,... never make someone a priority if they only see you as an option. Think you are a diva? Newsflash...You are no goddess, you are not all that and a bag of chips....come back down to reality, get off your high horse, and just be you!

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