The old lip stick on the collar and how it got there is a story that men have told, and women don't buy, ...and why should they? When it comes to telling the truth...sometimes it can be difficult, when it comes to lying, it is never good, especially when the person lying to you thinks that you were born yesterday or lives under a rock. Most men that I've spoken to regarding this subject would say that they might 'slightly bend' the truth when it comes to dating women.
No matter how you slice it fellas, lying is lying. People do it, and as hurtful and unjustified as it can be, it happens...this isn't just because you're floating in a moat of mucky waters up to your eyeballs in fabricated truth, it must just seem easier to bend the truth and hope for the best rather than to just come out and be honest. Perhaps you think that she won't understand. Here's a though...give her the benefit of the doubt and be up front with her...the outcome just may surprise you!
In the great big world that we call dating...most men think we can't see the forest through the trees but most women have their forest eye goggles on and can see through bull shit a mile deep. So, ladies should we be demanding higher standards from men? You bet we should. Don't you think that you deserve it?
It's all too easy to get tangled in a web of deceit from which it grows harder and harder to extricate as lies compound on more lies. Lying just doesn't work, and it's not the way any man should conduct his affairs...I don't know about you, but I just ask for the truth...Straight up, hard facts, no lies. Just tell the truth. It's really not that difficult. So why do men lie? What makes a man twist things all upside down so that when he breaks a date you'll think it was so heartfelt when all in all, the hard core truth is, he is probably stringing you along and seeing someone else on the side until he makes up his mind as to which woman would be better suited for him. Now, I am not at all saying that we women haven't been charged guilty at times for possibly promoting the same thing, BUT what happened to just being fair and honest with one another?
Some might just say that men... have always lied to women to get what they want, but these days many women are finding that guys will say or do whatever they can especially if they think you'll buy and then it turns into a full-blown epidemic. Internet dating and the ease of casual sex have made men unwilling to play by anyone else’s rules but their own. Yes, they think that they can string you along until something better comes by...if this sounds like you...SHAME ON YOU BOYS!
Generally this means they must deceive to get what they want, and most of the time, they will, and do they genuinely care about you? Probably not so much. They see you as their convenient woman to run to when all else fails. Never let a man have such little respect for you gals that you become their second fiddle. When they take you out, do they introduce you to friends or coworkers they may see or run into out? If the answer is no, you need to take a good hard look at this dating arrangement. My grandmother always used to tell me to listen to you gut. My unprofessional advice? Never second guess yourself. If you think that your partner is up to something, they very well could be. Now..this does not apply to all men, in fact there are a lot of guys who would NEVER treat a woman as such. These are the kind of men that women want...not the lying, cheating fella who can't decide what he wants or doesn't respect you.
If I say it once, I will say it a thousand times. relationships start with friendships and friendships grow into so much more IF you are both honest with one another. Telling lies and bending the truth is just not right, and it is quite disrespectful.
Here are a few tips with WHY guys lie;
Here are a few potential reasons:
No matter how you slice it fellas, lying is lying. People do it, and as hurtful and unjustified as it can be, it happens...this isn't just because you're floating in a moat of mucky waters up to your eyeballs in fabricated truth, it must just seem easier to bend the truth and hope for the best rather than to just come out and be honest. Perhaps you think that she won't understand. Here's a though...give her the benefit of the doubt and be up front with her...the outcome just may surprise you!
In the great big world that we call dating...most men think we can't see the forest through the trees but most women have their forest eye goggles on and can see through bull shit a mile deep. So, ladies should we be demanding higher standards from men? You bet we should. Don't you think that you deserve it?
It's all too easy to get tangled in a web of deceit from which it grows harder and harder to extricate as lies compound on more lies. Lying just doesn't work, and it's not the way any man should conduct his affairs...I don't know about you, but I just ask for the truth...Straight up, hard facts, no lies. Just tell the truth. It's really not that difficult. So why do men lie? What makes a man twist things all upside down so that when he breaks a date you'll think it was so heartfelt when all in all, the hard core truth is, he is probably stringing you along and seeing someone else on the side until he makes up his mind as to which woman would be better suited for him. Now, I am not at all saying that we women haven't been charged guilty at times for possibly promoting the same thing, BUT what happened to just being fair and honest with one another?
Some might just say that men... have always lied to women to get what they want, but these days many women are finding that guys will say or do whatever they can especially if they think you'll buy and then it turns into a full-blown epidemic. Internet dating and the ease of casual sex have made men unwilling to play by anyone else’s rules but their own. Yes, they think that they can string you along until something better comes by...if this sounds like you...SHAME ON YOU BOYS!
Generally this means they must deceive to get what they want, and most of the time, they will, and do they genuinely care about you? Probably not so much. They see you as their convenient woman to run to when all else fails. Never let a man have such little respect for you gals that you become their second fiddle. When they take you out, do they introduce you to friends or coworkers they may see or run into out? If the answer is no, you need to take a good hard look at this dating arrangement. My grandmother always used to tell me to listen to you gut. My unprofessional advice? Never second guess yourself. If you think that your partner is up to something, they very well could be. Now..this does not apply to all men, in fact there are a lot of guys who would NEVER treat a woman as such. These are the kind of men that women want...not the lying, cheating fella who can't decide what he wants or doesn't respect you.
If I say it once, I will say it a thousand times. relationships start with friendships and friendships grow into so much more IF you are both honest with one another. Telling lies and bending the truth is just not right, and it is quite disrespectful.
Here are a few tips with WHY guys lie;
Here are a few potential reasons:
- They don’t want to hurt your feelings. And if you’ve shown yourself to be a girl who gets upset and dramatic when he tells you the truth, you’re essentially training him to say what you want to hear to keep the peace. At best, it’s sugarcoating or avoiding a volatile subject. At worst, it’s a straight up lie to avoid drama and waterworks.Weak? Cowardly? Sure, but men live in the mindset of wins and losses, victories and defeats. What’s the upside to being honest if it simply leads to a more difficult life with no perceived upside. Which brings me to the next point…
- DRAMA! No matter how you slice it, no one wants it! If not telling the truth is harmless enough and being honest will just cause drama, heartache and grief for all parties involved,..and this means the guys and the gals....why would you want to do it? Trying to juggle more than one woman at a time is not fair,...not to you or to any other woman in the picture.
- Playing the Field...Yep, they do it, and you might too. Hey finding that one right person doesn't happen so easily, and often we want to date others to see if there is a connection with someone else...if that is the case, then be up front and just say..."Hey, lets date other people!" ...That way, no feelings will ever be hurt and you both can take this time to get to know others to see if the spark you have is real.If it is, and later down the road you decide that he/or she is the one that you truly want to get to know, then all cards will be on the table so that there are no reasons to question ones intentions.
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