I'm often asked so many questions by women on a number of topics that vary from how to dress for a date; what color
lipstick to wear and which stilettos might be more suitable to
nabbing the man of their dreams? OK, so here's the truth: when you are out, look around the room at the women who get the
men. Are they the ones in luminous red lipstick with big hairdos and skirts so short that their hooha's about to fall out? Their outfits are so tight that you
wonder how they'll even walk across the room let alone be able to
go up to a man and get his digits? Ladies, you are over emphasizing what a man whats verse what a man needs. A man wants class. A man can pick up a cheap one night stand anytime, and anywhere. Some men do this religiously and have no morals,...oh but you see, these are the men that fit this above woman's description of what kind of man will seek them out.
So what do the 'real' men want? Simple, fun, and witty. They want a woman who has character, one who can make them smile and laugh. They want a woman who listens to them as well as their needs. They want a woman who can support them in their jobs and decisions. They desire a woman who doesn't take 2 hours to get ready to go out and a woman that he will actually recognize after she takes her make up off at the end of the day. Men have articulated time and time again that it's the woman who can pull off jeans and a T-shirt with flat shoes or sneakers and go from Prada to Nike in seconds strikes a chord. A woman in a little black dress with simple jewelry and very little make up is what generally turns their heads.
We sure don't make it easy on the guys though, do we? There are many things women fail to understand about men. Such as why men like sports. And why they like to watch sport while having sex. I don't get that one, (and I certainly would not tolerate it.) We often wonder why they'll commit to some women and not others. Why they're so obsessed with man food (you know beer and nuts, wings, ribs, etc.) Why do they get moody? Why they don't like to talk about their feelings? Why they don't like it when you talk about your feelings. Oh ladies...The list goes on ... but the theme is always the same: why are men so difficult to figure out?
The truth at hand here is this; understanding men is not so easy. When you finally think that you have them figured out something happens that blows your belief. Regardless of all the jokes and old wives tales men are complicated creatures that require the right balance of emotions and respect.It does not matter whether you are in a dating relationship, marriage or the beginning of a relationship, the following dating tips will work regardless of what stage you are at and, hopefully, this article will give you a good understanding of how men think, what they want and how you can have a successful relationship.
Let's face it; there's no handbook that explains a man's odd behavior, and any attempt at understanding a man's behavior often leads to even more confusion. It's no wonder that men confuse women at all. The fact of the matter is that the male brain actually operates extremely differently from the female brain, creating a perplexing situation for women. First, it is important to understand that men and women do not think exactly alike. Just because you think you understand a comment or behavior it does not mean that you have the correct outlook on the situation.It takes time as well as experience to understand men and the first step is patience. A good way to have a better understanding of the male species is to toss out the old tales that you have heard all of your life. Men have emotions, fragile egos and a fear of failing in your eyes.
What a woman sees as machoness or arrogance from a man may be a BIG defense mechanism. Sometimes this is a mask that men wear to be a hero in your eyes, they want to be the only one that can satisfy you or take care of you. That is the leading goal of most men and they work very hard for it. If they feel that they have failed you will see anger, frustration and them building a wall around themselves and believe me, they're try very hard to not let you in. You need to give them their space just as we like to have ours. Show them that you are in no hurry really, and that you are quite the patient and understanding woman. This is what men want, and need. What they don't need is some "a high maintenance woman" with a big mouth that doesn't know when to quit.
Make sure that you keep a little mystery or spark in your relationship. You do not need to tell everything or give them a complete rundown of your entire day. Men are not detailed creatures like women are so a play by play of your day can provide boring for them. That is not to say that you should not have a conversation, but do not center it around what a coworker wore, the gossip, or other negative occurrences. Leave a little mystery and understand that you are both entitled to a little bit of privacy in your life. Understanding that couples are entitled to a bit of privacy in a relationship is one of the most misunderstood dating tips for women ever, but is one of the most important.
And last, but not least...if your dating partner is in a bad mood, quiet or just not acting themselves do not automatically think that they are upset with you or there is a problem with your relationship. Instead take the focus off of you and try to help him with whatever is stressing him. It may have been an incident at work, with a friend or a financial matter, the point is, do not always think that it has to do with you.
My advise (strictly unprofessional here?) Despite all this, if you can break a man's armor and connect with the soft spot held within, you get to join an elite group of women who actually understand men, despite their confusing ways. As a result, you will enjoy greater success and be able to attract the type of men that you want to attract. Healthy relationships are a key ingredient to happiness, so learning to understand men is definitely worth the effort. Is your man well guarded and over protective? If so, isn't it time for him to warm up to you and drop the barrier just a little bit?
So what do the 'real' men want? Simple, fun, and witty. They want a woman who has character, one who can make them smile and laugh. They want a woman who listens to them as well as their needs. They want a woman who can support them in their jobs and decisions. They desire a woman who doesn't take 2 hours to get ready to go out and a woman that he will actually recognize after she takes her make up off at the end of the day. Men have articulated time and time again that it's the woman who can pull off jeans and a T-shirt with flat shoes or sneakers and go from Prada to Nike in seconds strikes a chord. A woman in a little black dress with simple jewelry and very little make up is what generally turns their heads.
We sure don't make it easy on the guys though, do we? There are many things women fail to understand about men. Such as why men like sports. And why they like to watch sport while having sex. I don't get that one, (and I certainly would not tolerate it.) We often wonder why they'll commit to some women and not others. Why they're so obsessed with man food (you know beer and nuts, wings, ribs, etc.) Why do they get moody? Why they don't like to talk about their feelings? Why they don't like it when you talk about your feelings. Oh ladies...The list goes on ... but the theme is always the same: why are men so difficult to figure out?
The truth at hand here is this; understanding men is not so easy. When you finally think that you have them figured out something happens that blows your belief. Regardless of all the jokes and old wives tales men are complicated creatures that require the right balance of emotions and respect.It does not matter whether you are in a dating relationship, marriage or the beginning of a relationship, the following dating tips will work regardless of what stage you are at and, hopefully, this article will give you a good understanding of how men think, what they want and how you can have a successful relationship.
Let's face it; there's no handbook that explains a man's odd behavior, and any attempt at understanding a man's behavior often leads to even more confusion. It's no wonder that men confuse women at all. The fact of the matter is that the male brain actually operates extremely differently from the female brain, creating a perplexing situation for women. First, it is important to understand that men and women do not think exactly alike. Just because you think you understand a comment or behavior it does not mean that you have the correct outlook on the situation.It takes time as well as experience to understand men and the first step is patience. A good way to have a better understanding of the male species is to toss out the old tales that you have heard all of your life. Men have emotions, fragile egos and a fear of failing in your eyes.
What a woman sees as machoness or arrogance from a man may be a BIG defense mechanism. Sometimes this is a mask that men wear to be a hero in your eyes, they want to be the only one that can satisfy you or take care of you. That is the leading goal of most men and they work very hard for it. If they feel that they have failed you will see anger, frustration and them building a wall around themselves and believe me, they're try very hard to not let you in. You need to give them their space just as we like to have ours. Show them that you are in no hurry really, and that you are quite the patient and understanding woman. This is what men want, and need. What they don't need is some "a high maintenance woman" with a big mouth that doesn't know when to quit.
Make sure that you keep a little mystery or spark in your relationship. You do not need to tell everything or give them a complete rundown of your entire day. Men are not detailed creatures like women are so a play by play of your day can provide boring for them. That is not to say that you should not have a conversation, but do not center it around what a coworker wore, the gossip, or other negative occurrences. Leave a little mystery and understand that you are both entitled to a little bit of privacy in your life. Understanding that couples are entitled to a bit of privacy in a relationship is one of the most misunderstood dating tips for women ever, but is one of the most important.
And last, but not least...if your dating partner is in a bad mood, quiet or just not acting themselves do not automatically think that they are upset with you or there is a problem with your relationship. Instead take the focus off of you and try to help him with whatever is stressing him. It may have been an incident at work, with a friend or a financial matter, the point is, do not always think that it has to do with you.
My advise (strictly unprofessional here?) Despite all this, if you can break a man's armor and connect with the soft spot held within, you get to join an elite group of women who actually understand men, despite their confusing ways. As a result, you will enjoy greater success and be able to attract the type of men that you want to attract. Healthy relationships are a key ingredient to happiness, so learning to understand men is definitely worth the effort. Is your man well guarded and over protective? If so, isn't it time for him to warm up to you and drop the barrier just a little bit?
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