Men...They Are Difficult to Figure Out

I'm often asked so many questions by women on a number of topics that vary from  how to dress for a date; what color lipstick to wear and which stilettos might be more suitable to nabbing the man of their dreams? OK, so here's the truth: when you are out, look around the room at the women who get the men. Are they the ones in luminous red lipstick with big hairdos and skirts so short that their hooha's about to fall out? Their outfits are so tight that  you wonder how they'll even walk across the room let alone be able to go up to a man and get his digits? Ladies, you are over emphasizing what a man whats verse what a man needs. A man wants class. A man can pick up a cheap one night stand anytime, and anywhere. Some men do this religiously and have no morals,...oh but you see, these are the men that fit this above woman's description of what kind of man will seek them out.


So what do the 'real' men want? Simple, fun, and witty. They want a woman who has character, one who can make them smile and laugh. They want a woman who listens to them as well as their needs. They want a woman who can support them in their jobs and decisions. They desire a woman who doesn't take 2 hours to get ready to go out and a woman that he will actually recognize after she takes her make up off at the end of the day. Men have articulated time and time again that it's the woman who can pull off jeans and a T-shirt with flat shoes or sneakers and go from Prada to Nike in seconds strikes a chord.  A woman in a little black dress with simple jewelry and very little make up is what generally turns their heads.

 We sure don't make it easy on the guys though, do we? There are many things women fail to understand about men. Such as why men like sports. And why they like to watch sport while having sex. I don't get that one, (and I certainly would not tolerate it.) We often wonder why they'll commit to some women and not others. Why they're so obsessed with man food (you know beer and nuts, wings, ribs, etc.) Why do they get moody? Why they don't like to talk about their feelings? Why they don't like it when you talk about your feelings. Oh ladies...The list goes on ... but the theme is always the same: why are men so difficult to figure out?

The truth at hand here is this; understanding men is not so easy. When you finally think that you have them figured out something happens that blows your belief. Regardless of all the jokes and old wives tales men are complicated creatures that require the right balance of emotions and respect.It does not matter whether you are in a dating relationship, marriage or the beginning of a relationship, the following dating tips will work regardless of what stage you are at and, hopefully, this article will give you a good understanding of how men think, what they want and how you can have a successful relationship.

 Let's face it; there's no handbook that explains a man's odd behavior, and any attempt at understanding a man's behavior often leads to even more confusion. It's no wonder that men confuse women at all. The fact of the matter is that the male brain actually operates extremely differently from the female brain, creating a perplexing situation for women. First, it is important to understand that men and women do not think exactly alike. Just because you think you understand a comment or behavior it does not mean that you have the correct outlook on the situation.It takes time as well as experience to understand men and the first step is patience. A good way to have a better understanding of the male species is to toss out the old tales that you have heard all of your life. Men have emotions, fragile egos and a fear of failing in your eyes.

What a woman sees as machoness or arrogance from a man may be a BIG defense mechanism. Sometimes this is a mask that men wear to be a hero in your eyes, they want to be the only one that can satisfy you or take care of you. That is the leading goal of most men and they work very hard for it. If they feel that they have failed you will see anger, frustration and them building a wall around themselves and believe me, they're try very hard to not let you in. You need to give them their space just as we like to have ours. Show them that you are in no hurry really, and that you are quite the patient and understanding woman. This is what men want, and need. What they don't need is some "a high maintenance woman" with a big mouth that doesn't know when to quit.

Make sure that you keep a little mystery or spark in your relationship. You do not need to tell everything or give them a complete rundown of your entire day. Men are not detailed creatures like women are so a play by play of your day can provide boring for them. That is not to say that you should not have a conversation, but do not center it around what a coworker wore, the gossip, or other negative occurrences. Leave a little mystery and understand that you are both entitled to a little bit of privacy in your life. Understanding that couples are entitled to a bit of privacy in a relationship is one of the most misunderstood dating tips for women ever, but is one of the most important.

And last, but not least...if your dating partner is in a bad mood, quiet or just not acting themselves do not automatically think that they are upset with you or there is a problem with your relationship. Instead take the focus off of you and try to help him with whatever is stressing him. It may have been an incident at work, with a friend or a financial matter, the point is, do not always think that it has to do with you.

My advise (strictly unprofessional here?) Despite all this, if you can break a man's armor and connect with the soft spot held within, you get to join an elite group of women who actually understand men, despite their confusing ways. As a result, you will enjoy greater success and be able to attract the type of men that you want to attract. Healthy relationships are a key ingredient to happiness, so learning to understand men is definitely worth the effort. Is your man well guarded and over protective? If so, isn't it time for him to warm up to you and drop the barrier just a little bit?

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Relationships...What Women Want and Desire

 Hey we all certainly know that it’s not easy to please a woman...or so that is what many men who have struck out in love may think. Maybe you guys just are not in touch with a woman's basic needs and desires. Maybe you think she is too high maintenance when all she really needs is some fine tuning? Pleasing a woman isn’t just about catering to her whims. In reality, understanding what women want from men is all about realizing what it takes to be a good man and even better company, not just as a lover, but as her friend. If you can understand what it takes to become a better man, you’d surely understand what women want in a perfect man.

Remember the first few weeks of love where you tried everything you could think of to impress your woman? It’s a little thought that’s almost always forgotten by men once they get into a serious relationship. While the first rush of excited love may die down for men, and the flame seems to sizzles... it never does for women. Women like to be treated with love and affection. Look for ways to brighten her day, and always remember those special days that matter. When you look for ways to make your woman smile, you’ll inevitably find yourself smiling a lot too. Life is far too short to miss a great opportunity to meet someone that makes you feel good inside.

Let me ask you this? So let's say you have found her...Do you consider her to be your equal?  You know, having respect for each other is rather important in any relationship. Do you really respect your woman and think she’s just as capable as you? Both of you may not have the same qualities or talents, but as long as you respect your woman and truly understand that she’s just as good as you, and may even be better than you in more ways than one, you’ll learn to admire her and take her seriously.

 I give (non professional) advice all the time, but recently a friend asked me what I wanted in a man and a relationship? First off, I'm in no hurry. My assumption is that if 13 years hasn't given me enough time to figure out what I want and don't want I'm in big trouble, however, I do know what I want. So how do I explain what I want, seek, and most of all desire? First of all, please do not misconstrue what I want from what I need. I would love to find "that man"...but I do not need a man to make my life feel complete. I am confident and independent. I am not clingy or needy. I do understand that finding that one person may be like looking for a needle in a haystack but I'm optimistic that he is out there.

Personally, I admire a man who always sees the glass half full, not half empty. Relationships don't happen over night. They build on time. Like the foundation of a building, they need to be nurtured, fed and on solid ground. It is about communication. Not just talking either...The art of listening is one of the delicate strings that hold a relationship together. When you don’t listen to your partner, both of you may end up straying or confiding to someone else outside the relationship. Be a good listener and pay attention to what she feels and says. There always has to be good communication in any successful relationship, without it, your chances of surviving are slim to none.

Hypothetically speaking, I search for the no nonsense man with heart. A man in which I can be adherent to his needs, and vice versa. A man who is proud to have me at his side because I envision his success and well being, balance his busy lifestyle, take the floor during his absence,and one is playful enough to play footsies with at the dinner table.I would like to hope that our characteristics might compliment one an others well. I pursue the company of a man who not only enjoys but insists on treating me like a lady, where the quality of time spent together supersedes quantity. My philosophy is this; A man is a valuable tool and you must appreciate his worth. Respect him, and he will appreciate you all the more. Integrity is key as is communication.

 Most men that I know  are quite proud, and they very well should be. Some may say that pride is a shallow trait, but it does have its benefits too. Women love a man who is successful in his own path, however, this certainly is not measured by the amount of money he makes, the number of contracts he signs or his social status at the office. Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome. 

 Are you proud of what you do every day? If you’re happy with your own life, your woman will be happy for you too. Be the man who is proud of his achievements, and your woman will definitely be proud of you. And when she’s proud of the person you are, she’ll only love you more. So what else do us gals love? 

Most women that I know love a guy with a sense of humor. You don’t have to be a comedian to impress your lady friend, but you do need to look at the happy side of everything now and then. Sure a serious boyfriend may be great for family planning in the future but a fun guy is perfect all year around. They aren't like holiday decorations where you take them out one day a year...you want to show them off everyday because you are happy to be a part of their life. 

No one is perfect and we all have our moments, nonetheless, searching for and finding that one unique person that makes you antsy to see her has it's qualities...why? Because she looks for that one special man that has his life together (or at least somewhat...) You see, most women like a man who has found a purpose to his life. If you’re wondering what women want from men in a relationship, you really need to think about your own focus in life. 

For the men; Where do you see a yourself heading and what do you wish to do a few years down the road? Fellas, show them that you are determined and ambitious, and your woman will share your dream and help you climb the mountains in your path. That one woman will move heaven and earth to make your dreams your realities, and not because she has to but because she sees so much more in you than you might. It's not about a woman taking on the role of it being all about me, me me- rather demonstrating her passions for you, you, you,...not just on one particular day, relatively every day! 

Do you want to keep your woman happy? Give her little surprises, pay her compliments and tell her that she's pretty. You see, it's the little things that you all over look that most of us women crave. On the contrary to so many of you think that we are all about material crap,...whereas, quite honestly, I prefer a real man that can share his most inner feelings and just allow me to be a part of his world. 

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Are you a Womanizer?

 For certain men, the challenge of seducing different women is far more interesting than the actual pursuit of a long-term romantic relationship. Such a man is known as a womanizer, or sometimes a Don Juan. A womanizer i;likely to be the oh so serial dater who enjoys the thrill of the chase more than the end game of the dating ritual. Are you serious? Women who have encountered such men may have other names for them, such as players or walk-away Joe's. We ladies are pretty smart and we certainly were not born yesterday.

A womanizer generally considers himself to be both a ladies' man and a man's man., maintaining an atmosphere of mystique and sophistication. He may surround himself with other male players or a support posse, but he clearly exudes a superior level of self-confidence bordering on vanity and self-absorption. A womanizer often wears the most stylish clothing, drives a sporty vehicle and flashes expensive jewelry, all in an effort to impress single women in trendy nightclubs or meat markets.

Womanizers have certain personality traits, which are easy to spot when you know what you're looking for! The sooner you recognize the signs of a womanizer, the better able you are to protect yourself from addictive love and men who use women.

The word “Casanova” evolved from an Italian womanizer who had over a hundred one night stands. Casanova was a lady killer from Venice; he would wine and dine women, charm them, make them feel beautiful and irresistible, take them to bed, and … move on to the next woman the next day.
Casanovas are also known as womanizers, tom cats, lady killers, seducers, predators, players or as I call them low dow and dirty horn dogs. Many womanizers have a “line” for picking up women; they have a whole strategy from start to finish. After you learn how to recognize a womanizer, you'll see through his facade.

Signs of a Womanizer - His Personality Traits

The Personality Traits of a Womanizer

Womanizers are charming. They’re attentive, interested, curious – and they make women feel special. Womanizers have one goal: to get a woman into bed as quickly as possible and then move on to the next one. They’re seducers who are addicted to the "power" they feel when seducing women. This is one way to recognize a womanizer: they're addicted to the chase and challenge of love.

Womanizers are often in touch with women’s feelings, and can adeptly manipulate those feelings to their advantage. For instance, a womanizer will express empathy for a woman’s professional or personal problems, and let the woman vent her feelings. Once she feels comfortable and relaxed with the lady killer, he’ll make his move.

Recognizing a Womanizer Means Resisting a Womanizer

When you think you've met a Casanova or womaizer and you don't want to be another notch in his bed post, don't let yourself be manipulated into bed. A womanizer will give you the cold shoulder just as quickly as he'll wine and dine you. You need to decide what you want out of a healthy love relationship, and stand firm.
Most womanizers aren't good candidates for long-term relationships. If you're looking for a healthy love relationship, you need to not only recognize a womanizer -- you need to look past him.

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