If you are a 'Rated G' or even a 'Rated PG' kind of person, this article won't suit you...why? It's RATED R! It's going to get naughty and down right dirty. Why? I get comments and personal notes to my direct email account through my websites each and everyday from both men and women asking me to write about specific things and specific topics. Generally I don't offend people, but there are days when topics such as these arise when and where people do often dislike the terminology that I use while explaining certain things. For instance, today the topic is how to enhance ones sexual experiences and sex drive! If this bothers you, it might be a great time to leave the page and read another article. If it sparks interest as I am assuming it will, read on. The media often depicts sexual behaviors as very intense and serious. In addition, many people focus more on performance than on pleasure when it comes to sex. People can forget, therefore, how fun sex is. It is important, however, for couples to remember the fun aspects of sex. What annoys me the most are that many of these people that are doing the complaining about how wrong all this sex talk and expressive submission is...they are the ones that lack it the most and should be doing it.For those of you who have read, or are currently reading the 50 Shades of Grey, you'll understand the importance or role playing, games and toys!
Some couples will tell you that they simply don't have time to have sex any more. Busy lives, over worked, bla,bla bla. You are the ones that are in desperate need to read this article most! It is perfectly acceptable to explore fantasies, relationship-enhancing toys, or anything else for that matter, if everyone in the relationship is comfortable doing so. At the very least, couples should be able to express openly the joy that comes from having a pleasurable sexual experience. Every person in a relationship needs to determine for them what is and is not “fun” when it comes to sex. Never push a partner to try something that they don't want to try. You'll only make them not want to be with you at all.
Would looking for ways to have better sex after years of good sex with your partner be sinfully greedy? NO! From the averted gazes, blushes, and giggles that so many people produce when sex toys are mentioned, you would think increasing sexual joy past some legal limit truly would break a law or two. No way by nature, human beings are game players and tool users. We enjoy inventing recreational activities that enhance our abilities to do required tasks: accurate javelin throwing and bringing down dinner-on-the-hoof have something important in common. So, too, game-like sexual fantasies, whether all in the mind or role-played with costumes and props, "tools" if you will, are natural extensions of a healthy desire to heighten pleasure and enrich sexual relationships.
1) Vibrators have a place among the tools that people use to improve their sexual skills, increase their own and their partners' pleasure, and add joy to their sex lives. They are the leading #1 seller of all sex toys next to the Whip Smart Pleasure Swing (which I carry and offer super low costs in comparison to all other websites.) Most female orgasms depend on clitoral stimulation, and vibrators provide the most intense clitoral stimulation possible. In lovemaking with a partner, vibrators work best as a complement to other sexual stimuli. Using a vibrator does not reduce the sensual pleasure of direct body contact, of skin on skin, of mouths and tongues, of hands or genitals. Know how that saying goes, "When Mamas happy, every ones happy!?" So so true. Throughout the day(s) we carry heavy burdens, have to shuffle kids from one ball field to another, dance class, ballet, track and field, golf, lacrosse, etc. We are mentally and physically exhausted. Does this mean that you have no time for sexual and sensual fun with your spouse, lover, mate, partner, etc? NO. Now is the time that you need to relieve some of that stress and pressure, so get to it!
2) Aim for the G-Spot - G-spot vibrators are now available and designed to stimulate what has been described as the G-spot located on the upper wall of many women's vagina's. The surface of the G-spot tends to feel rough to the touch and, like erectile tissue in the penis; it may become firm and swell when stimulated. Once the G-spot is found any stimulation will help, a vibrator, finger or penis works great.
3) Dildos have been around since the dawn of humanity and probably will be for a while longer. Every woman loves them and most own more than one. Made of pliant silicone these days, they can be used for vaginal or anal penetration and come in every configuration you might think of and many you probably would not. For safety, dildos intended for anal use should have a flared base. Prosthetic penile aides are hollow dildos, usually made of latex, and can be worn by either males or females. They are held on with adjustable elastic straps. A "universal harness" designed for any dildo or penile aide with a flared base, are also made. Dildos can be fun with oral sex. As the man pleasures the woman, he can stimulate her clitoris with his tongue and use the dildo in her vagina to reach the G-spot. For women during oral sex on a man a dildo can be used anally, if so desired.
4) Lubricants add a sensual slickness to sexual stimulation. Many are odorless, tasteless, and non-staining, and some are edible. Buy yours at our store where they are tasy treats in a variety of scents and flavors. www.SimplyDeliciousLingerie.com. I carry massage oils and body lotions that are heat induced by touch. Others warm up when you blow on them. Is that not a tasteful way to create a hot, sizzling sexy environment? this is important though; Use only water-based lubes; oil-based lubricants destroy the latex used in condoms, dams, and diaphragms. Many lubricants are designed for multiple tasks, massage, eatable, vaginal lubrication, and more.
5) Sex toys include products such as positioning pillows, sex kits, guides, books, erotic videos, feathers, games, leather accessories and so much more. There are many toys available for bondage aficionados. We offer blindfolds, satin restraints, slappers and handcuffs. Everyone needs handcuffs and Redi Whip in their supply closet. These are great for creating some fantasy play that will leave a vision in his or her mind for a long time!
6) Dress-up clothes are a great way to add spice to one’s sex life. Our lingerie is forever changing and we will continue to update our line to keep our clientele happy. Check out our fantasy costumes. If that is too much for you we have regular costumes that you can wear in the bedroom or out to a Halloween Party. They come in size from S-4X. These products are fun and sassy and definitely add a thrill to the romance.
Want my suggestions? Set a goal. Whether it's to have more morning sex, extend foreplay, try a minimum
of two new sex positions a month, or simply pleasure yourself more
often, having a goal can rev up your sexual appetite and reignite waning
passion between you and your partner.
Wear something erotic and cute to bed. Falling into a routine of wearing flannel pajamas or a baggy T-shirt
and sweats to bed rather than something sexy can be all too easy. And
let's face it: How sexy can you feel wearing something that's been
through the wash so many times it's literally coming apart at the seams?
Ensure you go to bed feeling sexy by wearing something cute, silky and
sensual. The sexier you feel, the more likely you'll be to actually want to have sex.
As Marvin Gaye once sang "Let's Get It On"...doesn't mean at a particular time...I say get it on in the A.M. :If you haven't been able to stay
awake long enough to get through a 30-minute evening sitcom, let alone
have sex, try getting it on in the morning instead of nighttime -- or
maybe you'd prefer some afternoon delight. The point is that sex is an
anytime affair, rather than an after-dark-only activity.
Try decluttering the bedroom. This is your sex palace, not the garage. Sex just seems less passionate in a messy bedroom that is filled with
dirty clothes and other items that never seem to get put away. Give your
space a sexy makeover by investing in high-quality sheets, getting rid
of clutter (anything you don't use or need) and making an effort to put
things away. A clean, serene space is much more conducive to sex than a
room that looks like a tornado came whipping through.
Hey...Who says sex needs to be relegated to the bedroom? I say live life to the fullest. There is nothing wrong with the kitchen table, the stairs, the patio furniture, the hood of the car or the pool table, bath tub, shower. Elevate your sex
life by charting new territory and seeing what the other rooms in your
house have to offer. Nothing is off limits. Chairs, couches, tables...
test them all. You'll feel a bit naughty, which is great for arousal.
Plus, you may end up finding a new space for sex that puts the boring
old bed to shame. Isn't it time that you turned up the heat?
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