Choosing the right one for you...Umm, yeah, it's certainly not as easy as it's cracked up to be. I repeat myself and I don't mean to keep sounding like a broken record. Nonetheless, dating today is different than it was when I was younger. I thought it was difficult then. Imagine that times 10. I saw not all that long ago a list that men actually have in choosing the right woman. Are you for real? Dating is not supposed to be like this, not at all. There is too much pressure for heaven sakes. It's a date, not a peace treaty. Keep it real and keep it simple. This should be fun, so ease up and enjoy it.
If you are wondering what men find attractive in women, there is a very simple answer. You can easily use this information to make yourself more appealing to the average man. Having confidence in yourself is the first step. With that you might as well forget it. If you are confident, a man often tends to overlook the smaller things that bother you about your looks, etc. When you feel good about YOU, all else will fall into place. For many, it's not all about the looks, but for some, sad as it is to say, it is all about the physical appearance. My thoughts; Unless you look like a million bucks and are perfect in every way...do not expect the women to be a perfect 10. What am I saying here for you slow ones on the bus? If you aren't all that and a bag of chips, do not expect a woman to be as such.
Physically, most men find feminine characteristics attractive in a woman. This means, they like women who are obviously women. The way that this is manifest can vary according to the individual of course and also according to culture, but you do not need me to tell you that physically the average woman is a different shape from the average man.
As well as the obvious fact that women have larger breasts and hips, women also tend to have longer legs in proportion to their torsos than men, smaller feet, longer slimmer fingers, less body hair, more body fat (unfortunately), smoother skin and higher and more arched eyebrows. In most cultures, they also tend to have longer hair on the head.
So to make yourself more attractive to most men, no matter what you look like, you simply have to draw attention to or exaggerate your feminine characteristics. Here are some common ways that women do this:
- wear high heels (makes the legs look longer)
- shave legs and armpits (men don't want to see a real mess, that is the turn off to end all turn offs!)
- do not be too thin. That's right...men like women with a little meat on their bones.
- wear makeup (makes the skin look smoother) A little goes a long way, just don't look like a clown at the circus,...please!
- pluck eyebrows from below if necessary (never from above)
- get a new hair do!
- smile!Men love a woman who smiles!
- Laugh...it's good for the soul and it is contagious!
- grow nails (makes fingers look longer) Guys love long nails
- wear clothes and jewelry that society currently considers feminine
You probably already knew that men tend to like women who do these things! But many people are not aware of the reason why. It is simply because these things emphasize the difference between men and women.
The opposite is generally true as well. Women tend to prefer men who have broad shoulders and narrow hips, some body hair, more muscle and less fat. Thick, straight eyebrows close over the eye are usually considered attractive in a man. If you look at the pictures of models in a magazine you can see all of these factors being stressed, depending whether the model is a man or a woman. It is not all about the looks. If you are a male and only 5'6" there really is nothing you can do to become 5'11" over night. Some women like taller men. If this occurs, you need to find someone who is OK with your size.
Just the same ladies, some men only want arm candy. I hate that term, and I dislike the type of man that thinks he needs a woman to be just that. Don't be any mans arm candy, unless of course your self-esteem is so low that you don't mind him treating you like a trophy wife. Don't you deserve much better?
Hey, some people believe that men are programmed to be hunters and this is why they do not like to be chased after, but prefer to pick out a woman who is not so easy to get. Whether this is true or not, it is always more rewarding and better for the self esteem to be around people who like you and want to be with you. So there is not much point in chasing after a man who really is not interested in you. Don't do it, it's so wrong and so pathetic. The best relationships, like the best friendships, are always between two people who both like each other for who they are, not those forced into a relationship based on all that other crap.
Characteristics of personality are harder to generalize about because fortunately, for every personality type that a woman can have, there are some men who will find that attractive. We could say that women tend to be more motherly and caring than men, therefore most men will like a woman who is caring. But some men do not want kids and will run a mile from a woman who seems motherly. It happens and listen up gals,...if you date a man that you are really into and he doesn't like children and you HAVE children, walk away. He won't change and your family comes first. Others will feel smothered by a very caring attitude - they like a more independent minded woman. This seems to evolve at an early age. Isn't it time to try to break the cycle and make some changes? Looks are great and all, but if she is beautiful on the outside and a roaring bitch on the inside is that what you really want?
Ladies, if he is handsome on the outside with adorable looks, personality and great job yet is selfish and demeaning on the inside is this really what you want? It certainly is not what you deserve. The good news is that the pool of men and woman is abundantly large, so keep looking if you haven't found the right fit for you yet.
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