Showing posts with label being sexy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label being sexy. Show all posts

Thursday, August 30, 2012

FOREPLAY...

If you were to ask me what is foreplay? My response would be something like this;
It is said that with human sexual behavior, foreplay is a set of intimate psychological and physical acts between two or more people, meant to build up sexual arousal. Foreplay takes place in preparation for sexual intercourse or another act meant to bring about mutual sexual gratification or orgasm. Isn’t that about how you would sum it up? I pondered that statement for a bit and while thinking about it, I opened an email from someone who shared with me what it is that he desires in a woman.

He said to me today; “Foreplay does not start in the bedroom. It is in the way a woman’s hand is taken to walk down the steps, the pleasure that she gets knowing you will open a door for her, or pull out her chair. It is the joy she sees that you take in finding surprises that simply delicious her. It is the thousand little gestures, a tone of voice, the subtle way you touch her arm or the back of her neck…romance and sensuality run deep in his soul. In my personal opinion, that was…Very well said!
For the longest time, foreplay was considered to be something that a man had to do to get his partner ready for sexual intercourse. It’s no longer just a mans world and we women like to play all the same. Today, foreplay has become an integral part of the whole lovemaking experience. It is true that impromptu sexual encounters without foreplay can sometimes be some of the best sexual experiences ever!
 
So, psychologically, foreplay lowers inhibitions and increases the emotional comfort level between partners. Physically, it helps to produce an erection in men, allowing them to penetrate an orifice, and it helps to promote vaginal lubrication in women, which allows penetration to take place comfortably. Foreplay can take many forms, and can take place, up to a point at least, in public. This kiss has many of the characteristics of foreplay; whether or not kissing is foreplay depends on where the couple goes from here.

If the potential partner accepts the sexual invitation, foreplay has begun. Accepting the invitation is often indicated by reciprocating with similar behavior.At some point, foreplay typically becomes physical. Simple and seemingly innocuous acts, such as straightening someone’s clothing or hair, bumping into someone while walking, stroking someone’s arm, or whispering in someone’s ear can constitute foreplay. Holding hands, other touching (especially of the face), kissing, biting, massaging, or scratching any area of the body can all qualify as foreplay.


There is no such thing as the ultimate foreplay, and it is not about pressing the right buttons in any particular order. There is no order. The direction you take is simply up to you and the mood tone. It is about understanding what makes your partner get hot and delivering the things that make her experience intense pleasure. All women are different. None of us are the same. We all like what we like, and why not, we are women and part of being a woman is not always knowing what we want. What I do know is that when a man does something to make us feel good, we respond. Some women get off on being lightly kissed all over their necks while others enjoy direct oral stimulation.


There are many ways to give your partner extreme sensations, but one thing is for sure: It all begins in her brain. Women, just like men love to have our egos stroked too. So go ahead, tell her how beautiful she is and how much you appreciate her sexy body. By complimenting her appearance, especially if her confidence level is low, you are giving her added security and excitement, as well as giving her good reasons to go all out with the foreplay. There is no right or wrong moves to foreplay. It’s all about eye contact and body language. Use it, and if you don’t know how for God sakes, Learn! How important is foreplay to men you wonder? For some men it means nothing, to many it is something that yet although it seems so easy to find, women have a difficult time surrendering to a man what it is that he seeks and desires most. It is in the touch, the eyes, and in your smile.



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Wednesday, June 6, 2012

How Much Time Do You Have to Seduce a Woman?

This isn't like "How much wood could a woodchuck chuck if a woodchuck could chuck wood..." No...this is quite different. I write almost on a weekly basis that if you have something you want to share, or if you think that I am being too 'one sided' to feel free to step in at anytime and give me your two cents because surely I don't hesitate to give you mine. Since some of you tend to think that I only write things from a girls perspective, and I guess since I am a girl that might only make sense...nevertheless, here you go boys, this one is for you. I asked some men to be responsive and to be honest when I questioned; "How does a man seduce a woman?" I'm looking for tips here on just how they know when to make all the right moves? Read on because this is what I learned. I'll give my perspective on these views and what women do and how they react and I'll share how men pursue the woman and what he does to capture her attention.

Listen, No matter how ‘modern’ we have become in today's day and age, it is still much better for men to approach women instead of the other way round. Call me old fashion but I would never think to approach a man while out and about that I wanted to pursue for myself..I would talk to him if one of my girlfriends showed interest in him, then it's OK...no not double standard, I'd be playing the 'match maker!' For me to pursue a man would be unheard of honestly. I was not even allowed to call boys growing up and if my Mom caught me doing it, oh there was hell to pay! Besides, we ladies appreciate it all the more when a man that we think is a cutie takes charge and makes a first move, which is always our first impression.

Dating techniques and society may have changed but it is what it is and we still like to be chased sometimes. If you want to learn the art of seduction then you should be able to hold romantic conversations, have a good command of language, look quite confident and know the right way to flirt. 

When you talk with a woman, you will get some idea about her personality and it is through this idea that you can find out the speed at which you should move forward with her. Not all women are alike or the same so don't think for a minute that we are. Always focus your attention on the woman that you are with...it doesn't matter what the other women in the room thinks or what your old ex-girlfriend would have thought...it's now about you and this new woman.

 Look at her body language. Is it open, or has she closed herself off from you with folded arms or crossed legs? Is her body turned toward you or away? Is she copying your posture or doing something different? You will know from her body language whether the lady in question is interested in you. 

When you first meet a woman that you are attracted to, think before you speak...these were the answers as to "how" men begin to get acquainted;

3 Situations May Arise;

1) You only have few minutes to attract and seduce her.
Let us assume that you have met this really attractive woman in a corner coffee shop and you want to get her attention...No, don't spill coffee on her. In such a situation, you should say or act in a certain way that will draw her toward you. Maybe, excuse me is that a hazelnut espresso you have? Tell her it smells delicious and then open up the conversation. You don't have a lot of time so make it good! If you are unable to do that then chances are she will be gone from your life forever. The most important thing to do in this situation is to develop a bond with her and make yourself trustworthy so that she can trust you. This is NOT going to happen solely at the coffee shop, but this is your first impression chance to do it right! Women will never go for men whom they don’t trust so it is necessary to make yourself trustworthy. Do this quickly by creating a connection between you – see the section on similarity in a previous article. Since you don’t have much time here, you need to undertake rapid actions such as asking her out for a date at that moment or asking her for her email address or phone number. No stalking! Now, it make be a very short and brief encounter on the elevator...if this is the case boys, think fast on your toes, you're going to need to be slick and quick!

2) You have a few hours to attract and seduce her, so ease up my man!
This might be at a dinner party or a one-day event, or when you meet a woman on a plane. Now, take it from me (a woman) this is the best time to get to know someone because she is sitting next to you and guess what? there is no where else for her to go other than to the ladies room if you drive her too nuts! This situation is better than situation one because here you at least have a few hours which you can use to draw her toward you, so make it good! Still, you need to win her over rapidly. Make real good use of your time. Talk to her and attract her toward you by using your body language and conversation skill. 

3) You have a few days or weeks to attract and seduce her...You've got plenty of time!
If you are in this situation then you can take your time to woo her and then seduce her. Women you work with or neighbors will fall into this category but a lot of guys prefer not to seduce those women because of the complications that can mess up that area of your life afterward. So a better example of this situation is a woman who works in a local store, or someone you meet on vacation or at a 3-day conference. You will meet her on several different occasions and you can move through the different stages over a longer period of time taking the time to get to know her better and later seduce her. Personally, I like this approach. My grandmother used to say "anything worth having is worth waiting for." Rome wasn't built over night and neither will a relationship be. Good things come to those who wait. Soooo Mr. Charming,  your horse can trot down my lane any day now!



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Sunday, July 31, 2011

Things That Make Him Turn His Head

What's sexy without being sleazy? How far does one go to look hot to trot, but not enough to make those around you laugh behind your back with ridicule. Keep it simple, and extraordinary. Keep the "wow" factor alive and keep him coming back for more! Adding a few unexpected touches and glamorous essentials will certainly will help do the trick. It's about dressing in fabrics that feel great against your skin. Sexy looks work for any age or budget. Here's how to add sizzle to your look without sacrificing your modesty. 
 
1. Wear something ordinary in an unexpected way that wull say "WOW!"
It doesn't have to be a huge statement like wearing a jacket backwards; subtle alterations pack the chicest punch. For example, take a basic man's white shirt (slightly over sized), unbutton it, wrap it so that one side overlaps the other and tuck in.) Quite the turn on to men, and it makes your curves whatever they man be look sexy and appealing.

2. Tease him, but just a little....
No need to bare your breasts, even with lace. Nude linings, camisoles and slips all keep you covered while the lace itself stays really suggestive. Tease him with a little...not a lot. Give him something to make his mouth water.

3. Add a head piece
Nothing attracts attention quite like a hat. ...just not one like the princesses wore at the big royal wedding a few months ago that grabbed so much national attention. First, it takes guts to wear one. Second, it takes panache to carry it off. Combine the two qualities and you get major sex appeal. Stay with classic shapes, for example; the fedora, the beret... to make it easier to pull off.

4. Accessorize with soft on the shoulders
Skip every other piece of jewelry, pull your hair back and make sure your makeup stays soft. This look goes great with bare shoulders and updos, too. Definitely an after-dark look,...and quite the sexy eye-catcher! Something light and sensual.

5. Make it shine
Black may be super sexy, but gold, silver, copper and pewter are especially luminous when you're going for vavoom. Look for simple shapes (the story here is the fabric and color, not the line of the outfit) and tones that flatter your skin color. Pass on major jewelry and makeup to let the dress really shine. You'll stand out, but in a sassy way!

6. Adopt a simple look 
The pencil style  is a classic example of a dress with an allure all of it's own, form fitting, but not too tight, shows your curves and turns heads.


7. Wear shades
Perhaps the single sexiest item you can own are a great pair of sunglasses. They add tons of mystery, look cute even on top of your head and actually serve the practical purpose of protecting your eyes. My eyes are important to me and yours should be too. I don't leave home without my Pradas, Diors or Choos!

8. Make a grand ole' exit
 Sexy is all about surprises, so a deceptively simple dress from the front can be a showstopper in the back. Open backs, lace-up backs, great dress trains all make for dramatic effects. Nothing says "see you later" better than that vivid image that will be stuck in is head when you walk away....so make it sexy, stunning and mind jolting!

9. Stay soft with touchable fabrics
Forget everything you've ever heard about hardcore leathers or sparkly sequins being heat-inducing. Yeah they look hot, but cashmere, silky satin, buttery soft suede's are the real scene-stealers. Touchable fabrics not only invite an other's touch, they have the added bonus of feeling great against your skin so you feel pampered and sexy.

10. How about RED?
Pale lips may be trendy, but nothing does the job like red. Use lip liner for a perfect appearance, choose a creamy matte in a red that best suits your skin tone (blue-reds for darker skin tones; oranges for olive; true reds for blondes). Use a light hand for the rest of the face because the lips should take center stage. Pucker up gals! Red is hot and sexy!



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