Men Want The Modern Day Cinderella...Where Does He Look? How About Online Dating?

Sure we all want the magic,...you know, the "Bibbity Bobbity Boo"...Ummm, but guess what? We don't all find it. Why? Some of us don't know where to look. Most people would state that finding that spark is like looking for the needle in the haystack. Haystacks are far over-rated, and they are a dime a dozen. A good mate is within reach for you. In fact, fate has a way of working its own kind of enchantment. You won't find him/her if you are not optimistic! You won't find them by being deceitful, or rude, and you won't find love if you don't allow it to enter. My grandmother used to always tell me; "Michele, if opportunity doesn't knock, build a  door!" Sometimes gals, we need to put on our tool belt and do a little renovation. 

Finding the right person for you isn't as easy as one might think, in fact...these days it is far more difficult than most people would think. Making that connection with someone is something that not all people get to experience, and some never experience it. Life is different than it was years ago. With the hustle and bustle of the traditional dating world in the past decade or two it has made it virtually possible to meet someone without having to leave your home, your couch or your desk...where ever you may be. Unlike the old days of going to bars, or clubs or where ever people went to be sought out, today thank goodness for the modern day internet, we can shop for men and women on line now like we shop for our favorite NFL jersey or sexy lingerie with a few clicks you can download the man or woman of your dreams. No more trying to figure out what to say, or wondering when you'll see them, ...now, with the push of a button, you have the access to virtually find love anywhere, local, out of state or out of the country.

Yes, finding romance or even love just got a whole lot easier. Happiness may be just around the corner for you, so take the time to make sure that you do everything right...that means cross your 't's and dot you i's. You want to come across as a great catch so really think long and hard about what your bio will state, and remember, that most men and women read the first three sentences. If yours sizzle you can bet your ass they'll continue to read on- but if what you write is not eye catchy you may be that fish in the pond surrounded by hundreds of others in competition for that one possible connection. Most men that I speak with regarding dating, they share with me their 'wish list ' if you will of what he wants in his very own "Cinderella!" What does that mean in modern language? It's simple...he wants a woman that has her act together. A woman who is alluring, captivating, enchanting, intriguing, etc. 

Soooo, what do you do and how do you pursue your Prince or your Cinderella? First before you bring someone else into your life or into your world, make sure that you area truly happy with you who YOU are. Start off on the right foot, and be open. Suggestion? Focus your thoughts on the present moment, and make a decision to be happy now, not in the future, after you have attained some goal. Nothing will ever happen in the future. It will happen in the NOW. I try to remind people never to sell themselves short...so many people do that these days and that may come across as being not so confident. Going into the dating pool you certainly want to express confidence,...not lack there of. Men L-O-V-E confident ladies...and ladies adore men with common sense, who are witty, who have a great sense of humor, and who can be himself. 

So many people tend to think that they are missing something because they are single, regardless of their age. Realize you're not lacking anything if you're single. Not everyone wishes to be married, or dating or in a relationship. Although contemporary culture often reinforces the idea that single people are second-class citizens, I say that is hogwash... Moreover, if you go out into the world with a "woe is me" attitude, you'll more than likely drive away potential romantic partners then draw them near. 

My non-professional advice; Accept yourself for who you are, including your flaws because on the contrary to what you all may think, everyone has flaws! Everyone has fears, doubts and insecurities; some people are just better at hiding them than others. Embrace your talents, skills and strengths and use them to make the world a better place. Turn off the voice in your head that tells you you're unworthy of love and happiness and replace it with a sense of purpose and compassion for yourself and others. If you have a bad attitude it will show.

So many people still meet at office parties, neighborhood parties, when they are set up by friends and family on a 'blind date' or at bars and clubs , which in my personal opinion is not the best place to meet the man or woman of your dreams. If you are that percentile that wants to find someone without having to sift through all the bar flies, consider Internet online dating services. It's safe, at least for the most part. Never give out personal information until you are comfy speaking with someone, and be honest for heave sakes. No white lies...they only get more and more difficult to remember, and for goodness sakes, use current photos. Your profile is going to state you to a "T!" Soooo make it something for her/him to remember! Keep in mind what I said; Make the subject line catchy, and the first three sentences captivating! You don't just what to 'whooo' the new sweetheart you want to knock their socks off! 

Live in present: Enjoy each and every moment in the present. You, and only YOU control your life and your destiny so if you have something from the past tugging at you...let go! Leave out the grudges and negatives of the past. It is you who can release the negative energy and bring in the change required to see the happiness of the present. Fresh starts are the only way to go. Starting something new with someone is fun, and special, so start with a solid foundation, great communication and a smile!

Live from your heart: Live every moment of selfless love, happiness and bonding. This will only come in after you shred out the negative moments and learn to express gratitude towards whatever life has given you! You may find that special someone sooner than you thought...so be prepared to enjoy life and laugh for heaven sakes, life is far too short not to. Be yourself, and be honest. 

 Brace fear with love: Love is the secret potion that helps cure any negative barriers and blocks. First love yourself, then love the situations you face, and then love the people around you. When you start giving love will you get love and slowly you will be successful in not only finding your own true happiness in life rather finding your true Cinderella! It may be that you are looking in all the wrong places. In this fast paced world, there are a lot of feet, and a lot of shoes to fill, but only one person to wear the right slipper....REAL LOVE, oh it does exist. 

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