So you say that you have amazing self-confidence and couldn't possibly feel better about yourself. That's great. Good for you....Now it's time to think about what you can do to share the wealth. Spread the love...that's what I'm talking about. By keeping a few simple things in mind, you can help others along the road to self-confidence. It's not only gratifying, rather rewarding as well. Ponder this; everyone likes to and wants to feel good about who they are on the inside and on the outside...but, what if someone doesn't, what do you do? How can you come to the rescue and give them that boost that they need? Are you saying the right things, or the wrong things?
My recommendation....Pay very close attention to how you comment on the appearance of others. Do you regularly tell your sister that she'd look great if he just lost a few pounds? Do you constantly slip your best friend the number of your personal stylist? While there's nothing wrong with encouraging your friends and family to improve themselves, there's a fine line between encouraging and meddling. Constant nagging on the part of even well meaning associates can lead to nagging feelings of doubt. Sure, you were fine with your appearance, but if even your friends think you're fat/ugly/hairy/etc. then maybe there is something horribly wrong with you. My advice, treat others the way you'd want to be treated.
Do you praise the positive attributes and qualities of your friends, family and co-workers? Sometimes we're too quick to point out faults and lay blame while the good aspects are overlooked. No one wants to see "Negative Nancy!" Positive reinforcement can build confidence and lead to success. Have you ever seen a quality in someone else that they didn't seem to realize? Maybe a friend is a great listener or you wife is creative, but they never use these skills to their own benefit. Perhaps they don't have confidence in their own abilities. It only takes a few minutes of your time to tell a friend about the positive things you see in them and to encourage them to try a new activity that suits them. Think about all of the customer service personnel you encounter in your daily life. How do you treat them? It can be so easy to yell at the cashier when your gallon of milk doesn't ring up on sale. Even a simple "hello" and "thank you" can instantly improve any interaction. By showing respect for others, you can help them have respect for themselves and increase their self-confidence.
Are you taking people for granted? Let's face it, at some point, we all do it or we've all done it, and afterwards, if you really take time to think about it, you realize that you could have/should have done things a little bit differently. Ask yourself....Do you appreciate all of the little things your secretary does to keep the office running smoothly? Do you thank your spouse for all the help he or she does around the house? It can certainly lower your self-confidence to feel like you're doing a thankless job day in and day out. You start to think that maybe you're not worthy of recognition. Showing your appreciation for their hard work could be just the boost they need. Tell them Thank YOU! It seems that we tend to complain more than we give thanks...change this and you'll feel much better.
Giving regularly give feedback to others is wonderful, but what if you give them negative feedback in a way that preserves their confidence? You should start with a positive comment, follow up with something negative, and then finish up with a positive thought. By doing this, the good thoughts balance out the areas where the subject needs improvement. Did you know that so much depends on your overall attitude and tone of voice? Have a positive attitude and your results will be in your favor without destroying any self-confidence. Believe in yourself, and others will believe in you too! This is the best self confidence boost for you!
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