Top 10 Tips That Your Boyfriend/Spouse is Cheating...

There is one word in the English language that no woman wants to hear. CHEATER. No one likes to be played the fool. My grandmother used to always say; "Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me." Lets face it ladies, no woman wants to ever believe that her man is cheating on her. What starts out something as simple as flirting or teasing can turn into a giant ball of lies that just keeps getting bigger and bigger. I generally write about two things...lingerie and love. I love lingerie. I know love. 

Is your man being unfaithful? If you ask him and he is extremely defensive and tries to make you feel like you're crazy for suspecting anything, then that's a key indicator. The cheating man does more than lie, he will then try to turn it around and make the woman feel like she's out of line.  If you notice a decrease in sex over a period of time in your relationship and he cannot make direct eye contact at you then Good Lord, let this be your 'red flag!'

Relationships are Built on 3 things:

Love, Trust and Communication. 
If you are missing one or more of these you need to look at the big picture because you've got problems.

Top 10 tips that your mate is cheating:

1) Your mate easily becomes offended when you make normal and natural inquiries and may demand to know why you are checking up on him. He asks you why you constantly nag at him? He may tell you to stop trying to control him or his life. You're not his mother, remember? He begins to question why, why, why you keep asking him ridiculous questions?

2)Your mate's sleeping pattern changes considerably from the norm and may include unexplainable exhaustion, restlessness, frequent nightmares and sleep-talking. He may fall asleep on the couch and when he ventures to bed act as if he is sleeping immediately. Why? He's all sexed out from being with someone else and can't get it up perhaps. 

3) Your mate is more interested in playing with his cell phone including texting and checking emails than spending time talking with you or making love to you. 

4) Your mate stops complimenting you on your looks...why? Because he found someone else to compliment. 

5)Your mate rarely talks to you. You live together but you don't interact hardly at all anymore. Your communication really sucks. He has become cold and inconsiderate of your feelings and hasn't a clue as to what is going on in your personal life whatsoever, what's worse is that he doesn't even ask. Why? Because he is always too busy talking about himself. If you can't stroke his ego, he finds someone who will to fill the emotional void. 

6) Ok, so here is the flip-side to #5; Your mate is more attentive to your needs than usual. This is due to the guilty feelings experienced by the cheater in the early stages of his or her affair. The attention will diminish as the affair continues.

7)You know your mate's habits, routines and attitudes better than anybody, so be suspicious when these things start to change. You may even begin to catch him in little lies, ...the reality of it all is that these turn to big lies and before long it gets easier and easier to lie more and more.

8)Your mate becomes super moody and down right angry at times. He seems very upbeat and excited when leaving you but acts somber and depressed when he's around you. Most often looking for excuses to get out and run errands but never has an explanation of where he has been for a few hours of 'lost' time that he cannot account for. 

9)Your mate easily becomes offended at the comments or digs you make, however harmless they may be. Why? Because he has something to hide!

10) Your mate would rather spend time with someone than be with you. Is he taking more cash out of the ATM than he used to? Could it be that he wants no paper trail of where the money is going and who he is spending it on, because it certainly isn't you. Does he golf too much, go to the gym more than usual or have business meetings more often than before? Or does he go out to dinner with you and you find him checking his cell phone, or taking calls that he says he 'has to take' and then steps outside for a few minutes leaving you alone? These are signs that your relationship is in trouble and that someone is monopolizing his time, and sister it's not you!

Dating, Relationships and Cheaters

Cheating...None of like to assume it happens, nor do we anticipate it ever happening to us, but it can and sometimes it does. At some point or another, we all have that one bothersome thought or two that crosses out minds...is my partner cheating? My guess is that you're likely to experience trust issues in your relationship. Why? We are all a little insecure at times. The thing is, whether or not we are secure with who we are has absolutely nothing to do with how honest mate is acting. It does make it a bit difficult when statistics say that 85% of women who feel their lover is cheating are correct and 50% of men who feel their lover is cheating are right. If you have suspicious, warnings or signals of infidelity by your spouse or partner, listen to your gut.

Whether it's brought about by infidelity, a decrease in your own self esteem, your partner's newly hired young assistant, someone constantly flirting with them, or a simple change in your partner's behavior, your relationship can weather this storm and rise above feelings of uncertainty. You have to first of all believe that you can get through everything!

Follow these tips as we walk you through the trust issues you may face

This will assist you in experiencing the thriving relationship that you truly deserve:

1. Work on your self-esteem. Many trust issues in relationships that were once thriving stem from personal insecurities. If you've experienced significant changes in your appearance or noticed a drop in your self-esteem, it's important to build up your body image and self worth in order to rebuild the trust in your relationship. You must feel confident in who you are or you sure as heck won't be able to have faith in someone else.

• It's common to become suspicious of the company that your significant other is keeping when your self-esteem plummets.  Many times, we are not given the opportunity to understand much less process what to do or how to react if and when we learn of infidelity in your relationship.Sometimes, you have to have some faith and give your partner the benefit of the doubt. The way you perceive yourself may be the only thing in your relationship that has changed.

2. Reflect on your past. Did something happen in your childhood that has caused you to become wary of trusting your heart to anyone? Did your parents choose to divorce when you were young? Were you sexually abused in the past? Or did you experience cheating in a past relationship/marriage?

• These things and more can be responsible for your inability to trust others. When you've endured emotional trauma, especially during your youth, its effects can last decades. Speak to a therapist to help you find the root of the issue and learn how to work past the event.

3. Talk about your problems and issues with trust... and WHY you have these issues; 

 If there has been infidelity within your relationship, it's vital to hash out all hurt feelings and future expectations.

• If you've cheated in the past or in an other relationship that you were in with someone else, it's normal for your partner to want to know where you are, what you're doing, and what time you'll be home. They'll ask if you'll be alone with anyone. Answer their questions truthfully and understand that they are hurting. Try to put yourself in their shoes? You might see things a bit differently.

Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater?

That's what most people think, and if you've ever been cheated on, I can guess that is why you would feel as such. When most people get caught cheating, they make promises and vows to never cheat again. Sound familiar? Unfortunately, such promises often get broken. The desire to cheat is complicated and it is not solved by feeling sorry or by making promises to change. If you want to change any behavior, you must first determine why that behavior occurred. So, when it comes to infidelity and cheating, what factors led the person to cheat? Was it too much opportunity, was it due to problems in their relationships, was it due to a need for excitement? Did your appearance change? Did you gain weight? Are you a workaholic, or an alcoholic? What caused this? This is the million dollar question.

 Dating and Relationships are good. Not everyone cheats, or lies. Talk to your partner if there is tension, or distrust. If you feel like something is going on, speak up. Trust is about more than believing that your partner will remain faithful. It's about trusting that your partner will always be there for you in times of need, while also being a prominent part of the most important events in your life. Work on your trust as romantic partners - and as best friends - to truly guarantee a long healthy future and a happy ever after.You can get past this.

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Is My Partner/Spouse Cheating?

It is a sad truth but there are times in our relationships and even during our marriages where we begin to wonder "if" something is going on because his/her life and whereabouts just aren't adding up and something is beginning to smell real fishy! Some of these signs of a cheating spouse are "tongue in cheek" while others are tell tale signs that commonly appear with a cheating husband or cheating wife. Please note that this is only a list and it is not accusing anyone of being the deceiver in a relationship...nonetheless, it does make it a bit questionable when a lot of these topics listed below start adding up and making more and more sense.

Signs of a Cheating Spouse:

1) You find birth-control pills in her medicine cabinet, and you've had a vasectomy.

2) Mutual friends start acting strangely toward you. (They either know about the cheating or have been told stories about what a horrible wife or girlfriend you are.)

3) Your cheating husband or wife stops confiding in you and seeking advice from you.

4) Sets up a new e-mail account and doesn't tell you about it.

5) He leaves the house in the morning smelling like Irish Spring and returns in the evening smelling like Safeguard.

6) She joins the gym and begins a rigorous workout program.

7) She buys a cell phone and doesn't let you know.

8) He sets up a separate cell phone account that is billed to his office.

9) The cheating husband carries condoms, and you are on the pill.

10) Begins to delete all incoming phone calls from the caller ID.

11) Deletes all incoming e-mails when they used to accumulate.

12) He becomes "accusatory," asking if you are being true to him, usually out of guilt.

13) Raises hypothetical questions such as, "Do you think it's possible to love more than one person at a time?"

14) He buys himself new underwear.

15) He insists the child seat, toys, etc., are kept out of his car.

16) The cheating wife stops wearing her wedding ring.

17) Has a sudden desire to be helpful with the laundry.

18) Has unexplained scratches or bruises on his or her neck or back.

19) Suddenly wants to try new love techniques.

20) He/she fairly suddenly stops having sex with you.

21) He/she suddenly wants more sex, more often.

22) Supposedly works a lot of overtime, but it never shows up on the pay stub.

23) Picks fights in order to stomp out of the house.

24) You find out by accident he or she took vacation day or personal time off from work - but supposedly worked on those days, went to an all day spa, or got need to drive around and just 'think.'

25) Shows a sudden interest in a different type of music.

26) Spouse's co-workers are uncomfortable in your presence.

27) Has a sudden preoccupation with his or her appearance.

28) Spends an excessive amount of time on the computer, especially after you have gone to bed.

29) He throws up a lot because he just ate at his mistress's house and had to eat the dinner again with you.

30) Your spouse is away from home, either nights or on trips, more than previously.

31) His/her clothes smell of an unfamiliar perfume or after-shave. You see lipstick on your husband's shirt.

32) The amount of money being deposited into your checking account drops off.

33) You find items of intimate apparel or other small gift-type items that you did not give your spouse.

34) Your spouse seems less comfortable around you and is "touchy" and easily moved to anger.

35) You get calls where the caller hangs up when he or she hears your voice.

36) He/she loses attention in the activities in the home.

37) Your intuition (gut feeling) tells you that something is not right.

38) He/she has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the home.

39) She uses a low voice or whisper on the phone or hangs up quickly.

40) She has a "glow" about her.

41) Atypical erratic behavior.

42) He sneaks out of the house.

43) She goes to the store for groceries and comes home 5 hours later.

44) He tells you that you can get hold of him at a different telephone number.

45) The telltale sign of a cheating spouse? Having to ask that question in the first place.

Cheating on your partner is like injecting a drug with a dirty needle, yeah, really, it is.... even if the drug is a good medicine for you, the delivery mechanism is a problem onto itself.
It exasperates me that these discussions rarely consider any alternative to cheating. What's even more sad is that they (the cheater) get so good at it that often it happens right under your nose.

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