So often people ask me, what is the language of love? Well, there are a variety of ways one might explain it, nonetheless, I came across an article and wanted to share some of it with you. You'll need to test the waters with your new relationship to determine what love is saying to you, just remember....communication is always KEY! As Paul McCartney sang it once..."My Love" does it good...
The Love Languages Explained:
1. Verbal Lovers. Like the example above, some people just like to hear gestures of love such as "I love you" and "I appreciate everything that you do." For this type of person, you'll want to provide constant encouragement, never letting things go unsaid.
- Try verbalizing your appreciations in some way each day.
- Don't assume your partner knows what you're thinking and feeling - speak up!
2. Time Well Spent. One of the love languages has to do with spending quality time with your partner. This doesn't mean just casual conversation; it means the times where your partner is your main focus. If your partner enjoys quality time, here are some things to consider:
- Choose a certain time each day or week where you're completely dedicated to your partner. This means that you need to shut off the TV, put down the paper, and take some away from the kids.
- Think of activities you can do together to really connect.
- Make sure you have a good relationship with yourself; it's the only way you can truly connect with your partner.
3. The Gift Giver. Another love language is one where your partner may enjoy giving and receiving gifts. This isn't because they're greedy; it means they're visual people who enjoy seeing proof of your deepening relationship. If you're with this type of partner, try these tips:
- Even if you're a big saver, make the effort to spend at least a little money or make some homemade or handmade gifts.
- Leave loving cards and notes for them.
- Don't give gifts everyday, but give gifts that are meaningful.
4. The Chores. We can't forget the chores when it comes to a language of communication between partners. Since there are many things that need to get done around the house, it often causes problems when you try to figure out who's doing what. Keep these tips in mind:
- Everyone has different chores that they deem important.
- Figure out which ones your partner doesn't enjoy and do them.
- Chores involve thinking ahead, which your partner will certainly appreciate.
5. Physical Affection. The physical affection love language can get complicated. Expressing your love physically doesn't only mean lovemaking. It involves simple touches too. Each partner will usually have some kind of opinion when it comes to this language:
- Figure out which kinds of touches your partner enjoys, it may be a gentle rub of their shoulders or some cuddling while watching television.
- This is equally important, figure out which touches irritate your partner.
- Get to know your partner's moods so you know when to express physical affection.
The Combination
Your partner will likely speak a certain combination of these love languages. As your relationship deepens, you'll get to know your partner better and better. It may even help to outright discuss the topic of love languages with your partner to better understand each other.
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