10 Ways to Get Her to Want You!

Okay, so there is a woman whom you really like and you would love to sleep with her but you don't want her to know that...at least NOT right off the bat. How can you get her attention and sweet talk her all in a good way without being to blunt or forthcoming? It's not easy you know because us women have what I call "radar" and we know when a man is handing us a line of shit a mile long. You have to be smart, and witty. You need to be considerate and compassionate, yet in a sensual way that catches her eye. The art of seduction is not how quickly you can get her into bed my friend...it is all in the technique and what makes her take notice. Your actions speak volume so think before you do anything that could be remotely stupid! Remember, a true lady loves a classy man that has a way with words. She loves his sense of adventure, his smile and his charm. If you want to get the woman, you need to follow the steps and pace it out. Too much too fast is a disaster!

Check out the tips given below which can help you to seduce her:

1. Do not consider yourself as unattractive.

If you feel that you are not attractive then there is no way in which you can make the woman find you attractive. Be positive! No negative stuff here...pick your chin up and romance her! This type of thinking will influence your body language and the way you think. Take some care over your appearance so that you feel at your best, and start telling yourself that you are attractive. If you can't think of what to say or how to look sexy expressing yourself...2 words; BODY LANGUAGE! Try it, you'll like it. We can read you like a book, so for the love of God, get expressive!

2. Do not bore her.

There are times when men tend to bore women without even realizing that they are doing that. Never talk about your work, sports or weather when you are with a lady, unless you know that she is truly interested in the subject. Oh and NEVER EVER EVER talk about women from your past. That is a BIG NO NO! She may listen for hours and even say she is interested just to be polite, but trust me, this date is about to be your last with her. She'll go home without agreeing to a second date, and you are left wondering why? Ummm hello?  The reason is, you fell for her pretence of interest, and ended up boring her. 

If she is genuinely interested in a subject she will not just ask questions and listen, she will have a lot to say about it. For example: if she asks you which team you think will win the Super Bowl, she is pretending to be interested. If she tells you which team she thinks will win, and why, then okay, she may be interested in football. Listen guys...any man that finds a woman that likes sports or one that can tell you the difference in a 305and a 350 hemi is doing all right! She's a keeper!

3. Do not talk too much.

If you talk constantly, you can make the lady turn her back on you. She will either think that you are babbling because of nervousness, or if not, she will find you boring. Try to get her talking too. Even with the shyest woman you can do this if you help her to feel relaxed and find out what she is really interested in. Someone once told me that in personal life and business, always LISTEN. Nevermind with the talk, talk talk...LISTEN to what she is saying. This can be crucial, plus she is going to respect the fact taht you wanted to know so much about her when you ask questions..

4. Never ask too many questions.

I know it is weird when you are with a woman and have nothing to talk about. However, this does not mean that you have to keep asking her questions after questions. Asking a few questions can make a conversation interesting but asking too many questions will make the lady want to run away from you. Instead of interrogating her, pick up on hints in what she says, that show you when she has some real feeling about something.

A good way to do this is to repeat something she has said back to her in a questioning tone of voice. This will encourage her to say more but it comes across as interest rather than another question.

5. Avoid Yes / No Questions.

Avoid questions that can have Yes or No as the answer, e.g. “Do you like movies?” This can kill the conversation. You want to ask great open ended questions, you know the kind that you ask a customer when you are working the sales floor. You won't get her attention if you ask dull and boring questions with easy yes/no answers.

6. Do not treat a woman as a prize.

A woman is not your pet, or your arm candy. Nothing in this world frustrates me more so than when I hear a man state that he wants a beauty to be his arm candy. First of all, a woman is not arm candy nor are we trophy wives. Start treating a woman with respect and you'll see more in return. No woman likes the idea of being a prize or a possession. She will not be attracted to you if she thinks you are showing off that you are with her, or if she suspects that you will boast about your conquest of her to your friends.

7. Try to interpret her body language.

Many men do not think that it is necessary to read the body language of the women that they are interested in. By reading her body language you will have some idea about whether she is interested in you. If she is then you can carry out your seduction plan and if she isn’t then there are a lot of other fishes in the sea to swim after.

8. Flirting is the answer.

How will a woman know that you are interested in her if you do not give her a sign? When you flirt with her, you indirectly let her know about your intention. 

9. Be confident.

Women simply cannot resist men who are confident. Do not be afraid to approach a woman because of fear of rejection. There are always risks in life and if you do not take the risk then you cannot reap the benefits. 

10. Make the lady feel good.

If you want to attract and seduce a lady then it is very important to make her feel good in your company. If she feels happy in your company then it will not take a long time to attract her and then seduce her. Women love when men pay us compliments,..so what are you waiting for? 

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How Much Time Do You Have to Seduce a Woman?

This isn't like "How much wood could a woodchuck chuck if a woodchuck could chuck wood..." No...this is quite different. I write almost on a weekly basis that if you have something you want to share, or if you think that I am being too 'one sided' to feel free to step in at anytime and give me your two cents because surely I don't hesitate to give you mine. Since some of you tend to think that I only write things from a girls perspective, and I guess since I am a girl that might only make sense...nevertheless, here you go boys, this one is for you. I asked some men to be responsive and to be honest when I questioned; "How does a man seduce a woman?" I'm looking for tips here on just how they know when to make all the right moves? Read on because this is what I learned. I'll give my perspective on these views and what women do and how they react and I'll share how men pursue the woman and what he does to capture her attention.

Listen, No matter how ‘modern’ we have become in today's day and age, it is still much better for men to approach women instead of the other way round. Call me old fashion but I would never think to approach a man while out and about that I wanted to pursue for myself..I would talk to him if one of my girlfriends showed interest in him, then it's OK...no not double standard, I'd be playing the 'match maker!' For me to pursue a man would be unheard of honestly. I was not even allowed to call boys growing up and if my Mom caught me doing it, oh there was hell to pay! Besides, we ladies appreciate it all the more when a man that we think is a cutie takes charge and makes a first move, which is always our first impression.

Dating techniques and society may have changed but it is what it is and we still like to be chased sometimes. If you want to learn the art of seduction then you should be able to hold romantic conversations, have a good command of language, look quite confident and know the right way to flirt. 

When you talk with a woman, you will get some idea about her personality and it is through this idea that you can find out the speed at which you should move forward with her. Not all women are alike or the same so don't think for a minute that we are. Always focus your attention on the woman that you are with...it doesn't matter what the other women in the room thinks or what your old ex-girlfriend would have thought...it's now about you and this new woman.

 Look at her body language. Is it open, or has she closed herself off from you with folded arms or crossed legs? Is her body turned toward you or away? Is she copying your posture or doing something different? You will know from her body language whether the lady in question is interested in you. 

When you first meet a woman that you are attracted to, think before you speak...these were the answers as to "how" men begin to get acquainted;

3 Situations May Arise;

1) You only have few minutes to attract and seduce her.

Let us assume that you have met this really attractive woman in a corner coffee shop and you want to get her attention...No, don't spill coffee on her. In such a situation, you should say or act in a certain way that will draw her toward you. Maybe, excuse me is that a hazelnut espresso you have? Tell her it smells delicious and then open up the conversation. You don't have a lot of time so make it good! If you are unable to do that then chances are she will be gone from your life forever. The most important thing to do in this situation is to develop a bond with her and make yourself trustworthy so that she can trust you. This is NOT going to happen solely at the coffee shop, but this is your first impression chance to do it right! Women will never go for men whom they don’t trust so it is necessary to make yourself trustworthy. Do this quickly by creating a connection between you – see the section on similarity in a previous article. Since you don’t have much time here, you need to undertake rapid actions such as asking her out for a date at that moment or asking her for her email address or phone number. No stalking! Now, it make be a very short and brief encounter on the elevator...if this is the case boys, think fast on your toes, you're going to need to be slick and quick!

2) You have a few hours to attract and seduce her, so ease up my man!

This might be at a dinner party or a one-day event, or when you meet a woman on a plane. Now, take it from me (a woman) this is the best time to get to know someone because she is sitting next to you and guess what? there is no where else for her to go other than to the ladies room if you drive her too nuts! This situation is better than situation one because here you at least have a few hours which you can use to draw her toward you, so make it good! Still, you need to win her over rapidly. Make real good use of your time. Talk to her and attract her toward you by using your body language and conversation skill. 

3) You have a few days or weeks to attract and seduce her...You've got plenty of time!

If you are in this situation then you can take your time to woo her and then seduce her. Women you work with or neighbors will fall into this category but a lot of guys prefer not to seduce those women because of the complications that can mess up that area of your life afterward. So a better example of this situation is a woman who works in a local store, or someone you meet on vacation or at a 3-day conference. You will meet her on several different occasions and you can move through the different stages over a longer period of time taking the time to get to know her better and later seduce her. Personally, I like this approach. My grandmother used to say "anything worth having is worth waiting for." Rome wasn't built over night and neither will a relationship be. Good things come to those who wait. Soooo Mr. Charming,  your horse can trot down my lane any day now!

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