Do you feel that the holidays get more and more stressful each year? What to do? Take a bottle of wine (like I do) and go hit the bubbly..and by that I mean the tub! Relax and embrace the warmth penetrating down to your bones. Baths are not just for babies and toddlers anymore. Take a nice long bath in lavender. Studies have shown that not only is lavender calming, but it also reduces feeling of anger. Lavender is not just masking feelings of anger and resentment with a false sense of calm, but it can change our mood. Moreover, baths are relaxing, what can be more happy- inducing than that and a good bottle pino grigio, really?
No one wants Mr. or Ms. Crabby Pants...so please, go visit Mr. Sandman for heaven sakes! You can't possibly keep going, and going, and going...eventually it will catch up to you. Sleep, enough sleep is conducive to being happy. One more hour a week is enough to brighten eyes and pep up moods. Imagine if you can allow yourself one extra hour of sleep a night-why you will be the one singing all the Christmas carols around the office and smiling at everyone. The holidays are upon us once again. For many people, life can get in the way of our plans for a perfect celebration. Illness, death, job loss are all a part of the real world. The holidays come whether we feel like celebrating or not.
What do the holidays do to people...how do they really make us feel? The truth is that not everyone feels joyous at this time of year. It would be great if we all could but we are human. During this time of year, it is normal to think about loved ones we have lost or remember happier times in our lives. Being depressed during the holiday season is not uncommon.
The truth is...the media starts to bombard us before Halloween with the upcoming holiday season. Some people begin to panic and feel the pressure of having to create a perfect holiday atmosphere. The reason for the season is often forgotten and especially for those who suffer from depression, the holiday circus can push you further into darkness.
Remember, no one has a perfect life. Especially in this day with many people being unemployed, the economy has changed how much money people spend on the holidays. This can be an extremely tough time for them, so don't go rubbing in all the fa'la'la'la'la stuff...so NOT COOL! This can be good because it can redirect the focus of the holidays to what it should be. If you have a family, be grateful. Now we all have issues with our family from time to time but ultimately, would you rather be alone?
Being part of a family is not always easy. It definitely is something that most of us take for granted. Life can be short and that difficult person in your life will not always be a part of it. Decide for yourself whether you are going to allow them to bring you down at the holidays or whether your attitude is going to be one of accepting people for who they are.
Why is it that people act so phony at the holidays? Everyone has to put on an act. We show up at a family members home with our kids dressed nice and we look decked to the 9's but what is really going on? I'll tell you...in 5 cases out of 10 they are miserable people. They fight and yell at one another all year long, cheat, beat, drink and steal...then that one day a year they act as one happy family so everyone thinks that they have such a perfect life. Forgive me for saying this but I feel so sorry for all of you that have to do this. Why? Lets just say that I too have been down that road and if you want my opinion? Run like hell, take what you can and leave. Start over even if it means with nothing at all, at least then, you will have your honor, integrity and most especially your pride back where it belongs. Holidays are for love and family. If you can't act truly like one and be good to those around you that are actually happy,..stay the hell home and don't ruin everyone elses day!
What about if you are alone for the holidays? Well, the thought of it makes you sad, you can do something different this year. Look into the idea of volunteering at a shelter or soup kitchen for the holiday. You will not be alone and the gift of your time to help someone less fortunate can be a gift to yourself also. Having a purpose can do a lot for feeling sad during the holidays. It beats sitting home alone in front of the television or computer, or getting your ass kicked by your spouse whose had one to many bourbon and eggnog's. There are so many things to do for Christmas and other holidays that you will enjoy doing. After a while you'll wonder why you waited so long. Go to church if you feel alone. There is nowhere else others would want to be than near people who are blessed and who have the right holiday spirit.
What about for those of you are grieving the loss of a loved one? I am sorry for you loss....please, try to hold on to your memories of happy times you spent together. Feel joy that you have the memories but try to turn your focus away from wishing you would have had more time. Try not to isolate yourself during the holidays but surround yourself with supportive friends and relatives. If you need to cry, then cry. Grief is unique to each individual who go through it. There is no appropriate timetable and especially during the holidays it can be difficult, and all you can do is reach out to them and be their friend, share the love. They may not realize what you are doing at the time, but they will. It's Christmas for heaven sakes, be happy, be grateful for all that you do have, and enjoy for it only comes once a year! Get your Fa'la'la'la'la on~!
No one wants Mr. or Ms. Crabby Pants...so please, go visit Mr. Sandman for heaven sakes! You can't possibly keep going, and going, and going...eventually it will catch up to you. Sleep, enough sleep is conducive to being happy. One more hour a week is enough to brighten eyes and pep up moods. Imagine if you can allow yourself one extra hour of sleep a night-why you will be the one singing all the Christmas carols around the office and smiling at everyone. The holidays are upon us once again. For many people, life can get in the way of our plans for a perfect celebration. Illness, death, job loss are all a part of the real world. The holidays come whether we feel like celebrating or not.
What do the holidays do to people...how do they really make us feel? The truth is that not everyone feels joyous at this time of year. It would be great if we all could but we are human. During this time of year, it is normal to think about loved ones we have lost or remember happier times in our lives. Being depressed during the holiday season is not uncommon.
The truth is...the media starts to bombard us before Halloween with the upcoming holiday season. Some people begin to panic and feel the pressure of having to create a perfect holiday atmosphere. The reason for the season is often forgotten and especially for those who suffer from depression, the holiday circus can push you further into darkness.
Remember, no one has a perfect life. Especially in this day with many people being unemployed, the economy has changed how much money people spend on the holidays. This can be an extremely tough time for them, so don't go rubbing in all the fa'la'la'la'la stuff...so NOT COOL! This can be good because it can redirect the focus of the holidays to what it should be. If you have a family, be grateful. Now we all have issues with our family from time to time but ultimately, would you rather be alone?
Being part of a family is not always easy. It definitely is something that most of us take for granted. Life can be short and that difficult person in your life will not always be a part of it. Decide for yourself whether you are going to allow them to bring you down at the holidays or whether your attitude is going to be one of accepting people for who they are.
Why is it that people act so phony at the holidays? Everyone has to put on an act. We show up at a family members home with our kids dressed nice and we look decked to the 9's but what is really going on? I'll tell you...in 5 cases out of 10 they are miserable people. They fight and yell at one another all year long, cheat, beat, drink and steal...then that one day a year they act as one happy family so everyone thinks that they have such a perfect life. Forgive me for saying this but I feel so sorry for all of you that have to do this. Why? Lets just say that I too have been down that road and if you want my opinion? Run like hell, take what you can and leave. Start over even if it means with nothing at all, at least then, you will have your honor, integrity and most especially your pride back where it belongs. Holidays are for love and family. If you can't act truly like one and be good to those around you that are actually happy,..stay the hell home and don't ruin everyone elses day!
What about if you are alone for the holidays? Well, the thought of it makes you sad, you can do something different this year. Look into the idea of volunteering at a shelter or soup kitchen for the holiday. You will not be alone and the gift of your time to help someone less fortunate can be a gift to yourself also. Having a purpose can do a lot for feeling sad during the holidays. It beats sitting home alone in front of the television or computer, or getting your ass kicked by your spouse whose had one to many bourbon and eggnog's. There are so many things to do for Christmas and other holidays that you will enjoy doing. After a while you'll wonder why you waited so long. Go to church if you feel alone. There is nowhere else others would want to be than near people who are blessed and who have the right holiday spirit.
What about for those of you are grieving the loss of a loved one? I am sorry for you loss....please, try to hold on to your memories of happy times you spent together. Feel joy that you have the memories but try to turn your focus away from wishing you would have had more time. Try not to isolate yourself during the holidays but surround yourself with supportive friends and relatives. If you need to cry, then cry. Grief is unique to each individual who go through it. There is no appropriate timetable and especially during the holidays it can be difficult, and all you can do is reach out to them and be their friend, share the love. They may not realize what you are doing at the time, but they will. It's Christmas for heaven sakes, be happy, be grateful for all that you do have, and enjoy for it only comes once a year! Get your Fa'la'la'la'la on~!
Love the post Shelly! You'd know, you lived it. Merry Christmas to you and the family. Are you off to the Bahamas or Europe for the holiday?
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Hey Shelly Girlie, where are you going to be for the holidays? Thinking of heading to the beach? We all miss ya! Are you still looking for properties here? Got a bunch of foreclosures you might be interested in. Come see your friends!
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