Before you ever get in a serious relationship, decide what you want. If you never want to get married, then great. Marriage may not be for every couple and that's ok if that is what you both wish for....Many men say that marriage just isn't for them, but I'm far more skeptical when it comes from a female. I ask all the time....What is marriage really? So many times in return men ask, what do women really want? Marriage is far more than just a piece of paper.
At the very least, many women want to have their perfect wedding, to walk down the aisle and be the center of attention. We want to have that ring on our finger. To women, these ceremonies and gestures are important, more important than a piece of paper. We want a man to love us so much that he's willing to give up the illusion of being single to commit to us.
To understand a man's reluctance to get married, you have to think of marriage in terms of a contract. Being in a serious long-term relationship is the equivalent to signing a lease together. Yes, you have made a commitment to each other, but it is relatively easy to break the lease and move on if times get tough. Some one once told me when I asked them what they thought of marriage....they said, and I quote..." Signing a marriage license for a guy is like signing a 30-year-morgage." What? Then he said .....Like the lease, the terms of this mortgage can be altered or the contract can be terminated, but not without a significant amount of strife.
Ok, my thoughts were; with that attitude you won't get very far, but then again, think about it, but in terms not so harsh as those. Marriage really is a legal contract between two people. My theory these days though is that not enough couples want to try to make it work...they give up, say it's too much work and blame it on irreconcilable differences.
20+ yrs ago when I got married you didn't hear of such terms...lets go back even further than that...my parents and grandparents didn't give up. Marriage is harder than a full-time job as a CEO at a company. It takes hard work, dedication and so much determination, all of which these days couples have no desire or so it seems to do. Lets take recently the whole Kim Kardashian wedding. 72 days? Are you serious? I call these marriages a disaster. I haven't heard of anything this ludicrous since Britney Spears married old high school flame and got it annulled 48 hours later.
Is it the hype, a night of liquor and passion,or did they think they loved each other and didn't? Why make the committment to tie the knot and put that much work into it if you aren't sure or if this is where you end up? My suggestion is take it slow and think longggggggggg and hard over this one. It's not as easy as it appears and more often than not, being in the public eye doesn't help. To love is not as easy as one might think, and if you have never been in love, or married, you really have no right to judge what others do or how they live their life. Sure you can form opinions but love truly can cut like a knife.
Personally, I do believe that you don't need a piece of paper to prove that you're happy or compatible with a person. While I think it's important to take the ole' test drive ...(and I am not speaking of taking it just around the block...take it out on the highway to see how that motor really reacts to induced heat) to determine your domestic compatibility with a partner, you shouldn't make this leap until you have had a serious conversation about your future. In my opinion, sincerity is the most essential element of a marriage proposal. Remember, this is your life we're talking about...and marriage isn't just a piece of paper.
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At the very least, many women want to have their perfect wedding, to walk down the aisle and be the center of attention. We want to have that ring on our finger. To women, these ceremonies and gestures are important, more important than a piece of paper. We want a man to love us so much that he's willing to give up the illusion of being single to commit to us.
To understand a man's reluctance to get married, you have to think of marriage in terms of a contract. Being in a serious long-term relationship is the equivalent to signing a lease together. Yes, you have made a commitment to each other, but it is relatively easy to break the lease and move on if times get tough. Some one once told me when I asked them what they thought of marriage....they said, and I quote..." Signing a marriage license for a guy is like signing a 30-year-morgage." What? Then he said .....Like the lease, the terms of this mortgage can be altered or the contract can be terminated, but not without a significant amount of strife.
Ok, my thoughts were; with that attitude you won't get very far, but then again, think about it, but in terms not so harsh as those. Marriage really is a legal contract between two people. My theory these days though is that not enough couples want to try to make it work...they give up, say it's too much work and blame it on irreconcilable differences.
20+ yrs ago when I got married you didn't hear of such terms...lets go back even further than that...my parents and grandparents didn't give up. Marriage is harder than a full-time job as a CEO at a company. It takes hard work, dedication and so much determination, all of which these days couples have no desire or so it seems to do. Lets take recently the whole Kim Kardashian wedding. 72 days? Are you serious? I call these marriages a disaster. I haven't heard of anything this ludicrous since Britney Spears married old high school flame and got it annulled 48 hours later.
Is it the hype, a night of liquor and passion,or did they think they loved each other and didn't? Why make the committment to tie the knot and put that much work into it if you aren't sure or if this is where you end up? My suggestion is take it slow and think longggggggggg and hard over this one. It's not as easy as it appears and more often than not, being in the public eye doesn't help. To love is not as easy as one might think, and if you have never been in love, or married, you really have no right to judge what others do or how they live their life. Sure you can form opinions but love truly can cut like a knife.
Personally, I do believe that you don't need a piece of paper to prove that you're happy or compatible with a person. While I think it's important to take the ole' test drive ...(and I am not speaking of taking it just around the block...take it out on the highway to see how that motor really reacts to induced heat) to determine your domestic compatibility with a partner, you shouldn't make this leap until you have had a serious conversation about your future. In my opinion, sincerity is the most essential element of a marriage proposal. Remember, this is your life we're talking about...and marriage isn't just a piece of paper.
© This article is a copyright of Simply Delicious Lingerie.
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